Hello

[namitha157]

Hi. Im Nami.
I am 22 F from Melbourne.
I'm kinda new to all this. Heard some guy friends talking about this stuff so I thought I'd find out more.
A lot of people seem to be into this.
Not sure if I belong here.

[trecital]

Hi Nami, and welcome to the forum.

You say "Not sure if I belong here". If you are interested, then you belong.

So, what has got you curious to find out more?

You mention female aged 22. Are you in a relationship? What things did your guy friends talk about?
But, more importantly, what do you want to know about?

[T-asianwife]

Hi Nami, welcome to the forum from another aussie. You will find plenty of information here on the forums and genuine people who are willing to help you discover more about the OHW lifestyle. Cheers T...

[namitha157]

The guys were talking about how one of the guys suspected his gf had sucked another guy while she was out, because of the the taste when she got back and kissed him. It seemed like he was more turned on by the idea than mad. (i noticed he had a tent)
They started talking about cheating girlfriends and how ppl build a lifestyle around it, with.the bf knowing and encouraging it sometimes. Got me feeling pretty hot.

I have a bf. We have been together for 3 years now.
We have never done anything sexual. Kissing, and I let him play with my tits sometimes.

I kissed another guy once. I felt guilty going back to my bf, but something felt really good about it. Its hard to explain. It was really exciting though. Especially going back to him.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Namitha157. A lot of young guys are pretty jealous and develop the desire for their wives and girlfriends to be shared later on. Some young guys are good with it. Some don't know until they experience what you described and are turned on instead of being mad. I was jealous when I was younger but my wife came home from Bunko with a really hot pussy and when I entered it I realized I was getting sloppy seconds. It turned me on and a little confused when I first realized she had been fucked but it was game on after that. A man only gets pissed over what he knows and he usually only knows what you tell him. I know some women who have fucked 3 and 4 men in a day without any of them knowing. They just thought she was really hot and turned on by then to have such a hot wet pussy when they were really getting sloppy seconds and thirds. Approach the subject with caution if you are unsure and when you find the right guy who loves it, encourages it and wants more you have found a keeper. Hope you enjoy our forum and do ask questions. Let me ask if you have not fucked because of you or him? If this talk turned you on you are definitely needing it. Many of the people here started very young. I was married by 22 and we had been fucking feverishly for 4 years and still are. I had had some other girls before that. In fact one was 18 and I was 16. She taught me a lot and she was really good and really experienced.

[namitha157]

Wow! That's amazing. I've always seen cheating as a big no no..
Its really interesting how guys actually enjoy it being done to them.
I was feeling really guilty about the kiss. But felt more dirty about how much it excited me.

My bf and I have both never done anything before. But its mostly me holding him back.

[namitha157]

Its weird how most of the couples I know break up when one of them cheats. Its the opposite here.

[armyguyot1]

You only get one shot at this life and every fuck you pass up you will never get back. When you are on your death bed you won't remember the fucks you gave up for some reason but you might remeber some really good ones that you have had. Like the 18 year old, I remember fucking Elaine like it was yesterday. In fact I think that was sloppy seconds cuz she was dating Charlie at the same time. He was much older than me but we did talk about what a great piece of ass Elaine was. In fact I made a comment of how maybe she wasn't the kind of girl you would marry but a great fuck. He straightened me out and said, "Oh No." She is the kind of girl you want to marry. One who loves to fuck and would fuck you to death. Some guys want to marry virgins only to realize after marriage that they want a slut in the bedroom and should have married one rather than a virgin and take the chance on her. She could be frigid or not enjoy sex. She might be like a lot of wives and not give blowjobs after marriage or never swallow. There are a lot of guys out there who would give a lot for a woman who is good at blowjobs and swallows. Mine loves it. I am a very lucky man. I can fantasize about sex we have had both in the back seat of a 58 chev and many other countries. I remember all the sexy slutty stuff she has done for me and can get hard just thinking about her. She is definitely a keeper. Want to make your boyfriend happy? Do what my wife has done many times and set up a sexy slutty weekend in a sexy place. Wear really sexy slutty lingerie and fuck his brains out in every room and on the lawn. You will love it, never forget it and he will do the same. Probably want to marry you if he is smart but make damn sure you two are sexually compatable and love to fuck one another. Life is too short and sex too good to do anything else.

[namitha157]

Hey thanks.
I definitely have a desire to have another guy kiss me again. Its a bit hard because last time a guy I met at a party were just hanging out and got closer and touchy then it happened. I don't even know how, or why I let him get so close.
Kind of random thing that happened.

[leggysman]

Welcome!

If your boyfriend doesn't know, though, it's not the same as what we talk about here It's just cheating!

Cheating can feel exciting, sure! And kissing another guy and then your boyfriend, I imagine that's exciting too.

But we're all about ethical non-monogamy around here (well, most of us). Your job now is to get your boyfriend on board the sexy train!

You could try asking your boyfriend - hypothetically - how he'd feel about it if you kissed or fooled around with another guy, and then told him straight away. What if you enjoyed it, and weren't sorry you did it? Even if his initial reaction was jealousy, would he think that's kind of hot? What if he knows that you want to be his girlfriend, but also want to have a bit of harmless fun with other guys, and tell him about it?

His reaction to that conversation will tell you whether he'll get on board, and/or how long it might take him to be willing to let you try it. Of course, you're not married, so he knows that if he wants to keep you, he has to keep you happy A large minority of guys seem to have at least a bit of a sharing kink. Not all of us act on it, of course, but if our partner gives us a little push ... ?

[leggysman]

The pot of gold at the end of this rainbow is:

You have a loving relationship with your boyfriend/husband, but you get to have hot sex with anyone you want, any time you want. Your man loves and encourages this.

When you're having sex with someone else, your man might be watching or joining in, or he might be waiting eagerly at home for you. When you come back to him, you'll tell him all about the illicit sex you just enjoyed, and then the two of you have more hot sex.

If that sounds like a lot of fun, then you might be just the right sort of lady to be a Hotwife

[namitha157]

Scary topic to bring up. A lot could go wrong if he reacts badly.
And I'm still not sure if I would go through with it again, even with him not knowing. It is really exciting to think about though...

I haven't actually done anything more than what I've done with my bf. And he got a slap last time he tried to put his hand in my pants.

[namitha157]

The pot of gold at the end of this rainbow is:

You have a loving relationship with your boyfriend/husband, but you get to have hot sex with anyone you want, any time you want. Your man loves and encourages this.

When you're having sex with someone else, your man might be watching or joining in, or he might be waiting eagerly at home for you. When you come back to him, you'll tell him all about the illicit sex you just enjoyed, and then the two of you have more hot sex.

If that sounds like a lot of fun, then you might be just the right sort of lady to be a Hotwife

That does sound like a lot of fun.
Pulling it off is another matter.

But then going the other way.. there's no way I would be cool with him fooling around with another girl.

[namitha157]

Welcome!

If your boyfriend doesn't know, though, it's not the same as what we talk about here It's just cheating!

Cheating can feel exciting, sure! And kissing another guy and then your boyfriend, I imagine that's exciting too.

But we're all about ethical non-monogamy around here (well, most of us). Your job now is to get your boyfriend on board the sexy train!

You could try asking your boyfriend - hypothetically - how he'd feel about it if you kissed or fooled around with another guy, and then told him straight away. What if you enjoyed it, and weren't sorry you did it? Even if his initial reaction was jealousy, would he think that's kind of hot? What if he knows that you want to be his girlfriend, but also want to have a bit of harmless fun with other guys, and tell him about it?

His reaction to that conversation will tell you whether he'll get on board, and/or how long it might take him to be willing to let you try it. Of course, you're not married, so he knows that if he wants to keep you, he has to keep you happy A large minority of guys seem to have at least a bit of a sharing kink. Not all of us act on it, of course, but if our partner gives us a little push ... ?

It was really exciting. I was flushed for days after that. I couldn't sleep or get that dirty sexy feeling out of me.

[leggysman]

But then going the other way.. there's no way I would be cool with him fooling around with another girl.

If you read up on the guys here who wish they had a hotwife (e.g. in the Wannabe forum), that's one of the first and most common concerns/suspicions that wives have, when we have "the talk" with them. They often initially suspect that their husbands are just angling to play with other women.

Not so! Or not very often, I think.

Many (or most) like myself, have no particular desire to sleep with other women. Our kink revolves around our partner, her pleasure, and her experiences. My wife has sex with other men, and I am monogamous. And I'm very happy that way! I just love her being naughty and telling me about it, and our sex life gets a big charge from it.

The trick is finding a guy like us - or molding your guy into one of us, if he has a bit of a sharing kink lurking deep down. Realistically, a lot of guys wouldn't be able to deal with it. But others love it.

[namitha157]

I think my bf wants some more physical activity. Im not letting him have any more than what we have had. I like maintaining this, but also worried he might leave because I'm holding him back.
Is this a danger? I don't want him to leave me. But I don't want to have sex yet, or go any further with him either.

[leggysman]

I think my bf wants some more physical activity. Im not letting him have any more than what we have had. I like maintaining this, but also worried he might leave because I'm holding him back.
Is this a danger? I don't want him to leave me. But I don't want to have sex yet, or go any further with him either.

It's a danger, sure. But don't pressure yourself. If you don't want to have sex or go further, don't. Discover the joys of sex on your own schedule, with whomever is "Mr Right" at the time you're ready.

But I can't help but add: sex is awesome. Don't wait toooo long to find out!

[namitha157]

I think my bf wants some more physical activity. Im not letting him have any more than what we have had. I like maintaining this, but also worried he might leave because I'm holding him back.
Is this a danger? I don't want him to leave me. But I don't want to have sex yet, or go any further with him either.

It's a danger, sure. But don't pressure yourself. If you don't want to have sex or go further, don't. Discover the joys of sex on your own schedule, with whomever is "Mr Right" at the time you're ready.

But I can't help but add: sex is awesome. Don't wait toooo long to find out!

I've heard so from some of my girlfriends. Even the other stuff sounds exciting. But I just don't feel ready yet.

I have let him jerk off a few times in front of me. Ive never touched it before though. Not bare. Ive had a grab when he has his clothes on and we are grinding.
I do enjoy watching him. Especially when the sperm comes out and his expression. Its amazing how much sperm comes out of him.