I’m dating a girl who I’ve been out with on just a few dates. Everything is still new. We have really hit it off, the kind where we stay up really late and stay in bed all the next day talking and playing. We’re always touching anytime we can, we text often. It sounds like a great situation, and it is, but the issue is; shes only separated. The divorce will take a few more months, we don’t see each other too, too, often because of children, hers form her current husband and mine from previous relationship. . Shes a very pretty girl, solid 8, and a 9 when dolled up, petite spinner. She’s a strawberry blonde with smooth light skin, blue eyes, great legs, small little cute ass, feet, B cups tits with the eraser nipples that fit her tiny frame, very into taking care of her appearance, and very feminine. Even found out she likes anal sex
Im an 8, too, on a good day, successful, ex fitness bodybuilder (not the huge muscle kind) tall with lean muscular body and with a good 7.5’’ ect. She’s 9 years younger than me, I’m 49.As we were getting to get to know each other taking in bed into the late am hours, even as the sun came up, and moved in to the afternoon, at some point she also told me more about her relationship w her husband, soon to be ex, has been over sexually and emotionally for her for a good year and a half to 2 years. Also, she told me she wanted me to know that, and …………she could not believe she did it, but she had an affair with another man, he’s in a relationship, too, and she still cares for him. She’s told him about me and hes not happy. I wondered, and asked, did she tell him that to get him jealous, she said, “no.”, but sometimes one wonders if one is always honest to oneself.
I don’t know too much about the man she’s had the affair, but I know she was hesitating to have sex with me on our first time to sleep together and still says she feels guilty if she has sex with me. She says its partly she’s nervous to do it as she’s limited in exp(two men in the last 14 years), and partly she does not want to get even more feelings for me and make it all even more complicated. She said she’s not seen the other man in about 2 months as he does not live in the same town as us but, yet, they do regularly communicate.
I am starting to get more feelings for her, after each date. Right now, I told her I’m ok with him in the picture but I reserve the right to not be and she needed to know that it maybe an issue that I could not deal with which may result in the end of our dating. She said she understood. I’ve been in a kinda hotwife/stag relationship before. It was one that we moved into together after we had been dating a good bit of time so I can kind of navigate some of the emotions. She asked me if I were dating anyone else, I told her I’m not. I don’t know that Ill be able to start off this relationship knowing she has this other man in her background, who she does seems to have strong emotions for, at least to the point she’s hesitant on our most recent date (3rd) for me to be inside her. She also said she’s scared shell get even more feelings for me than she already has. That statement seems odd to me, but I’m not a girl so I can separate sex from emotions, but I know having sex with her would be more meaningful to me, too, than just sex.
Right now, I feel fine and able to control my emotions to the point right now its not bothering me about this other man. I would really like to be in a relationship with this girl, but I see what would be “redflags “if I had not been, before, in a hotwife type relationship (though I do think redflags are depending on the persons point of view, and can turn yellow or green…just as I know they need to stay red and walk away. Id like to be able to control my emotions and allow her to keep her affair with him, but I also don’t know I could. Ideally, Id be open to some kind of situation where she has him as a sexual lover (emotions part I don’t like, but I know those are there already built in) Any advice on how I should play this, or even should I? BTW, she knows nothing of me be being a stag or whatever relationship before. With it being she and I are this early in the relationship I have no interest in telling her about that, for now.
I’d appreciate any thoughtful advice/ viewpoint you guys/ladies my have.
Thanks for reading and in advance for ones who reply with thoughtful comments
