How do you feel about your family members knowing about your lifestyle?
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Fernanda5610
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How do you feel about your family members knowing about your lifestyle?
I'm the mother of four children: Lucas, 18, Davi, 17, Vitor, 15 and Gabriela, 12. The eldest knows that we have a different relationship to other couples; my lover always comes home to pick me up for dinner. Do you also have an open family like mine? I have friends who are part of this milieu, but whose children have broken off their relationships because of the swing lifestyle. What do you think about that?
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Johnann2227
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Re: How do you feel about your family members knowing about your lifestyle?
We have 2 kids, our daughter who is 22 and our son who is 19. They found out last year that we are swingers (we have been for over 25 years) and that my wife Ann is a hotwife. They have accepted it (after countless hours of discussion and truthfully answering their questions) and we have even moved moved my wife's boyfriend in with us.
Our household has always been different. We are nudists and brought our kids up thay way. At home we never wear clothes unless we have visitors. The other 5 couples in our swinger group are the same. We regularly had family bbqs and pool parties wear all of the families were nude. All of the kids grew up naked together. So last year when they found out that we played weekly with their "aunts" and "uncles" as they call them, they were shocked but later not.
We have never been sexual in front of our kids or the group's kids and never will. We did find out this year though that most of the kids are FWBs or dating and enjoy their own parties.
None of our extended families know that we are swingers or that Ann dates other men. They do know we are nudists and that is scandalous enough for them.
Our household has always been different. We are nudists and brought our kids up thay way. At home we never wear clothes unless we have visitors. The other 5 couples in our swinger group are the same. We regularly had family bbqs and pool parties wear all of the families were nude. All of the kids grew up naked together. So last year when they found out that we played weekly with their "aunts" and "uncles" as they call them, they were shocked but later not.
We have never been sexual in front of our kids or the group's kids and never will. We did find out this year though that most of the kids are FWBs or dating and enjoy their own parties.
None of our extended families know that we are swingers or that Ann dates other men. They do know we are nudists and that is scandalous enough for them.
Re: How do you feel about your family members knowing about your lifestyle?
Cest la vie would be my.answer if they ever did find out .
But I'd love if just 2 members were to know because of they way they look at her it could be fun for all
But I'd love if just 2 members were to know because of they way they look at her it could be fun for all
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MarknSusan
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Re: How do you feel about your family members knowing about your lifestyle?
We have three adult boys, they are all married with our grandkids.
For many years they made snide remarks from time to time about us being swingers.Although we have interacted with the swinger community (swinger friends, Trapeze, Hedo etc) for decades don’t consider ourselves swingers because we both need chemistry and don’t just swap partners. We keep it simple and consider ourselves consensual non monogamous and Susan is a Hotwife.
We never really had any significant public display of affection with our “third” however the boys sensed things. For instance, my wife visiting her first love for overnights (they were friends with his children too), or the three of us traveling together and one time my girlfriend and I were dancing at a party when my nosey, drama queen, sister picked up the vibe and told my sons that she had the hots for me. That unfortunately created some tension that lasted for years.
In hindsight I should have told my sister (who is no Saint ) we were non monogamous and just leave it alone. I’m sure she would have spread to word like wildfire but that to me is better than a cheating situation.
At one point Susan got tired of the snide remarks from our sons and just told them to stop…”we are not swingers, we are non monogamous and I am a hotwife”. Two of the three boys accepted it well but the youngest took a while to adapt and accept it.
A funny thing. They asked who we hooked up with and we would not disclose anything other than maybe a smile when they threw out names. Guess what..they got every one right!
We have also disclosed our NM lifestyle to many other good friends and to the extent we know, we have not had any negative reactions. I’m sure people talk behind our backs, but at this point in our lives we don’t care. We have the most loving and exciting relationship together, while many of our friends live together as roomates in sexless marriages.
We have no guilt or shame.We shared love with select others since we got married and have nothing but wonderful memories.
Having said that, I am not suggesting that everyone make the announcement. Studies I read still show the majority of people are monogamous and look poorly upon us NM folks. And lastly, our boys will still make snide remarks in jest, from time to time.
For many years they made snide remarks from time to time about us being swingers.Although we have interacted with the swinger community (swinger friends, Trapeze, Hedo etc) for decades don’t consider ourselves swingers because we both need chemistry and don’t just swap partners. We keep it simple and consider ourselves consensual non monogamous and Susan is a Hotwife.
We never really had any significant public display of affection with our “third” however the boys sensed things. For instance, my wife visiting her first love for overnights (they were friends with his children too), or the three of us traveling together and one time my girlfriend and I were dancing at a party when my nosey, drama queen, sister picked up the vibe and told my sons that she had the hots for me. That unfortunately created some tension that lasted for years.
In hindsight I should have told my sister (who is no Saint ) we were non monogamous and just leave it alone. I’m sure she would have spread to word like wildfire but that to me is better than a cheating situation.
At one point Susan got tired of the snide remarks from our sons and just told them to stop…”we are not swingers, we are non monogamous and I am a hotwife”. Two of the three boys accepted it well but the youngest took a while to adapt and accept it.
A funny thing. They asked who we hooked up with and we would not disclose anything other than maybe a smile when they threw out names. Guess what..they got every one right!
We have also disclosed our NM lifestyle to many other good friends and to the extent we know, we have not had any negative reactions. I’m sure people talk behind our backs, but at this point in our lives we don’t care. We have the most loving and exciting relationship together, while many of our friends live together as roomates in sexless marriages.
We have no guilt or shame.We shared love with select others since we got married and have nothing but wonderful memories.
Having said that, I am not suggesting that everyone make the announcement. Studies I read still show the majority of people are monogamous and look poorly upon us NM folks. And lastly, our boys will still make snide remarks in jest, from time to time.
Re: How do you feel about your family members knowing about your lifestyle?
We wouldn't want them to know, butttt they wouldn't be shocked if they found out lol
Married to HotfreaksHotwife.