Hello from South Florida, European wife's brought it up.

[RickSouthFlorida]

When you think that after 20+ years of marriage, that you know your wife, but she still has a few surprises for me.

My wife is a shy, and submisive, so to hear my wife say that she wants to sleep with other men was very surprising, not in a bad way, but I was completely unprepared to hear it, but she did, and here I am now.

Wife (43F) is originally from Europe, I'm a latin guy (44M) from the US.

I wish that I could say that this happened recently, it didn't, she said it once at least 2 years ago, but she kind of backed off with an "I was jocking", so I was left confused because she didn't sound like she was jocking.

She never brought it up again herself, but instead I have been the one to ask, and it wasn't easy, but have had to go the extra mile to make sure she knew there was nothing wrong with that she asked, she was the one acting as if what she said was wrong, I'm the one who had to show her that there was nothing wrong with it.

I don't know exacly where she got this idea, but I do know one of her best friends sleeps with other men whith her husbands aproval while her husband is monogamous to her, I don't know the specifics, but this much I know.

We are now at the point where she is very comfortable talking about it, we are also at a point where we have mutual underatanding of what she wants, and where I stand with that, and we have been ready to make it happen, and that has so far turned out to be harder than I expected, not impossible, but difficult.

So what has she said so far?
She wants to be with more than one man at the same time.
She wants to be submisive, she has mentioned multiple times about me sharing her.
She does not want a one night stand.
She does not want me to be with another woman, she doesn't want another woman to be part of this at all, she is not bi.
She wants me to find "him".
She is ok with him being married as long as he has his wife's aproval (And we can confirm it).

What have I said so far?
I'm not ok with her meeting or communicating with other men without my knowledge.
I'm not ok with her kissing other men
I'm not ok with other men giving her oral.


Its not like we have not tried, we actually have, but so far it has not happened, so here I am trying something else to see if we can make it happen.

If it doesn't happen, then it doesn't happen, but I'm trying.

[snoogaloo82]

I'm just curious. What seems to be the things/things that are preventing you from making it happen?

[RickSouthFlorida]

I'm just curious. What seems to be the things/things that are preventing you from making it happen?

We have made a few posts, but the responses seem to come mostly from guys who a very unrealistic view of how this should work.

We just started talking, but they want to meet right away.

We want to meet, but they want keep trying to make excuses when it comes to getting tested for STD's.

We want to meet, he says his wife is ok with it, but we can't ask, or the "She just doesn't want to know".

I guess its much easier to find a quick hookup, but that isn't going to work for us, we would rather build a trusting friendship with someone and go from there, but that isn't happening.

[snoogaloo82]

I'm just curious. What seems to be the things/things that are preventing you from making it happen?

We have made a few posts, but the responses seem to come mostly from guys who a very unrealistic view of how this should work.

We just started talking, but they want to meet right away.

We want to meet, but they want keep trying to make excuses when it comes to getting tested for STD's.

We want to meet, he says his wife is ok with it, but we can't ask, or the "She just doesn't want to know".

I guess its much easier to find a quick hookup, but that isn't going to work for us, we would rather build a trusting friendship with someone and go from there, but that isn't happening.

Maybe you should just look for friends first and then hope that they are sexually driven. At least that way you'll have good friends.

[mattyg_2671]

We’ve had some success with Ashley Madison, but you have to do a lot of filtering out the crap and be patient. You’ll get a lot of messages from guys who are not suitable, but you can also find some good ones.

[bowlerlb]

You said above "I do know one of her best friends sleeps with other men whith her husbands aproval while her husband is monogamous to her, I don't know the specifics, but this much I know."
My suggestion is that you get together with her best friend and husband and have a chat about it. You will get a much better idea if what your wife is looking for and why she is looking. I guess both your wife and her best friend are both seeking better more satisfying sex and likely the feel of a larger cock. They need to be free to enjoy their sexual wants and needs. Her best friend and husband may also tell you more about their way of living the lifestyle. Does he watch like you want to. Does he join in. What is his attitude towards her lover. Do the fuck bareback. Does he clean up after, to reclaim her and assure her that he is Ok with her enjoying a good satisfying fuck.
Her best friend may be the best contact to find her a suitable lover by sharing one of her Bull's.