First time for this: Question about Caging

[Carrienlarry]

Actually. It was his idea and I went with it! No humiliation. Just a tool so he can be hard to reclaim my pussy

[funfortwo]

I’m caged regularly. My wife wears the key on a necklace.

I don’t think we will ever get there but we may go back to using it occasionally

As you say, if the wife isn't all that excited or interested then what's the point, right? When you first considered the idea of chastity what did you hope would come from it? For me, my "tag line" says it all for me. I'm not seeking any denial. I've had plenty of natural, organic denial from being in a monogamous relationship for 46 years.

I still want to fuck. I still want mind blowing sexual experiences. In no way do way do I feel like I've "over fucked" my quota for sex. All that said, if chastity lead to having mind blowing sexual experiences then that's something I'd consider.

However, if that meant I had to go months at a time and my release from chastity resulted in a quick orgasm and a session that only lasted for minutes I'd have serious doubts about how fulfilling it would be. Knowing me I'd begin to get resentful. I tend to get grumpy from being ignored sexually.

It's my opinion that a lot of the kinky sexual desires a person has comes from desiring a distinct departure from what you've had a lot of experience with. In my case that means I've had PLENTY of experience with not having as much sex (in any form) as I've wanted. So, denial has no appeal from someone that fears being "pussy free" MORE than anything. While I'm not "pussy free" by any standard, I have had decades of being frustratingly "pussy-lite".

I get the feeling (and I may be way off here) that you considered the idea of chastity and short term denial if it resulted in being something new that created a spark that enhanced your already fun sex life. That would be the only way I'd consider it.

I also believe that on the surface it appears that the husband has the greater pressure here to mentally, emotionally and physically adjust to the control and the parsed out sexual attention. I really believe that the wife has a much greater pressure on her. She, as a key holder is also the holder of her beloved husband's sexual satisfaction. She has the power to totally fuck it up and bear the responsibility for it. Too much "stick" and not enough "carrot" always fails whether we're talking about sex or anything in regular life. I'm sure there are some women that really love their husband that don't want that kind of responsibility.

Another hot wife here said, "In the heart of every man is the joy of a child, and it's easy to bring out, and also easy to crush." That's a lot of weight to carry when you are undeniably responsible for either outcome.

Everything you are saying is correct. It was just something interesting and fun to do, short term. And enhancement.

Good AM Rob,
I'm with you....My wife and I introduced the idea of chastity about a year ago. For us, it's just an enhancement leading up to her dates. Initially L was not really intrigued, but over time she has started to embrace the idea. We love having sex together so it would never be a long term type of thing. At first she would kinda be into it but now she admits she enjoys the power aspect of it and it increases my angst and desire which is a positive. L usually meets her BF about every 3-5 weeks and once the date has been established, she tells me that it's time to "lock me up." She has started to tease (not humilate) me and enjoys the buildup. Prep for the date usually includes new outfits, lingerie, eyelashes, teeth whitening, hair, makeup, mani/pedi and shaving. Once me meet up afterwards, she enjoys unlocking me and we have amazing sex. It's just an enhancement to an already great dynamic. It works for us and now, we both enjoy it. I don't want permanent chastity and she doesn't either, but for those who do...more power to them...everyone is different.

[CoupleFun555]

My wife has slowly started to embrace the idea of locking me up more regularly. I’ve gone a few nights at a time. She’s such a kind soul that she wants to release me so I can orgasm.

The device is a symbol that I am too small to give her the type of orgasms she most enjoys. We have not had PIV sex for close to a year. I go do own on her a lot. We use different toys. She gives me handjobs and will go down on me sometimes. She pegs me and I use a large dildo strap on on her.

We’ve enjoyed the last year but wonder if there is a bit of intimacy missing.

[coastalkid]

I don’t think we will ever get there but we may go back to using it occasionally

As you say, if the wife isn't all that excited or interested then what's the point, right? When you first considered the idea of chastity what did you hope would come from it? For me, my "tag line" says it all for me. I'm not seeking any denial. I've had plenty of natural, organic denial from being in a monogamous relationship for 46 years.

I still want to fuck. I still want mind blowing sexual experiences. In no way do way do I feel like I've "over fucked" my quota for sex. All that said, if chastity lead to having mind blowing sexual experiences then that's something I'd consider.

However, if that meant I had to go months at a time and my release from chastity resulted in a quick orgasm and a session that only lasted for minutes I'd have serious doubts about how fulfilling it would be. Knowing me I'd begin to get resentful. I tend to get grumpy from being ignored sexually.

It's my opinion that a lot of the kinky sexual desires a person has comes from desiring a distinct departure from what you've had a lot of experience with. In my case that means I've had PLENTY of experience with not having as much sex (in any form) as I've wanted. So, denial has no appeal from someone that fears being "pussy free" MORE than anything. While I'm not "pussy free" by any standard, I have had decades of being frustratingly "pussy-lite".

I get the feeling (and I may be way off here) that you considered the idea of chastity and short term denial if it resulted in being something new that created a spark that enhanced your already fun sex life. That would be the only way I'd consider it.

I also believe that on the surface it appears that the husband has the greater pressure here to mentally, emotionally and physically adjust to the control and the parsed out sexual attention. I really believe that the wife has a much greater pressure on her. She, as a key holder is also the holder of her beloved husband's sexual satisfaction. She has the power to totally fuck it up and bear the responsibility for it. Too much "stick" and not enough "carrot" always fails whether we're talking about sex or anything in regular life. I'm sure there are some women that really love their husband that don't want that kind of responsibility.

Another hot wife here said, "In the heart of every man is the joy of a child, and it's easy to bring out, and also easy to crush." That's a lot of weight to carry when you are undeniably responsible for either outcome.

Everything you are saying is correct. It was just something interesting and fun to do, short term. And enhancement.

Good AM Rob,
I'm with you....My wife and I introduced the idea of chastity about a year ago. For us, it's just an enhancement leading up to her dates. Initially L was not really intrigued, but over time she has started to embrace the idea. We love having sex together so it would never be a long term type of thing. At first she would kinda be into it but now she admits she enjoys the power aspect of it and it increases my angst and desire which is a positive. L usually meets her BF about every 3-5 weeks and once the date has been established, she tells me that it's time to "lock me up." She has started to tease (not humilate) me and enjoys the buildup. Prep for the date usually includes new outfits, lingerie, eyelashes, teeth whitening, hair, makeup, mani/pedi and shaving. Once me meet up afterwards, she enjoys unlocking me and we have amazing sex. It's just an enhancement to an already great dynamic. It works for us and now, we both enjoy it. I don't want permanent chastity and she doesn't either, but for those who do...more power to them...everyone is different.

Again, like carrienlarry, I can see this use of chastity and denial as something I could do. I can easily see how the way you are implementing chastity and denial IS an enhancement. It heightens the senses and the anticipation. It doesn't impose an unknown and unpredictable release time that inevitably produces an expected and anticipated denial that squelches desire. If you don't expect to be released then why get your hopes up?

Whether you do your chastity/denial either way, long term or permanent with little or no chance of release, or short term planned release, or with extreme, mild or no humiliation there is a conditioning aspect to each. There will always be some sort of consequence as a result. It could be fantastic or it could be devastating.

You mentioned your wife now admits she enjoys the power aspect. She now has to choose how she will use it to enhance the experience for you both. She has realized that she can somewhat or completely unilaterally choose how she wants to use that power while weighing what the results may bring. She knows what will truly enhance things and what will feel punitive.

This whole chastity/denial thing makes me think back to my middle school teaching days. I'm reminded of the dreaded "Science Fair Projects" time of year. Some kids would chose some project that had been done for decades. Their results were always easily predicted and routine. There are countless threads here with typical patterns and progressions and predictable results, just like those simple "Science Fair Projects".

Whenever I read about long term chastity or denial it invariably comes with a need to "add on/step it up" to maintain the thrill. In predictable fashion it "adds on" until the final result is being "pussy free", no sexual expectations, docile, compliant. It is a conditioned response. Once complete control is established is the thrill still there? Is it as potent as it once was? How can we "step it up" if everything has been taken away? Unless the goal is to transform your husband into someone you now love differently and relieve yourself of providing any sexual satisfaction to your husband, it just doesn't make sense!

I would imagine that there are men that have low self esteem, or severe ED sufferers, or men that have small penises that actually do enjoy long term chastity/denial. Those men already have insecurities they've had all their lives. They probably prefer the "nothing" they get from a wife as opposed to the "nothing" they get as a single person. Is it a real challenge or an accomplishment in controlling a man that has a pre-diagnosed condition?

I like the way you do it! It sounds like a whole hell of a lot of fun to me!

[isinlarsa]

Ive never been into the idea of being caged. Indeed I've rejected it. But I had to reconsider in light of the Anonymous's experiences. I wouldn't want to be caged for any long period of time, but the way it was described, to be caged during the time my wife was with another man sounds really hot. It adds to the mystic of being cuckolded in a way that is not humiliating or demeaning. It adds to the thrill I get from my wife being sexually free while I remain faithful to her. I especially liked to detail of her wearing the key on a chain around her ankle. I would even enjoy her telling her paramour about the key and him knowing that I was locked up, and enjoying the exquisite torture of knowing he was fucking my wife.

[swe_cuckold_wannabe]

Hi all,
Would need some help.
I have a cage that at first glance fits perfectly,
But when I get excited, all the blood rushes to the scrotum. It gets big, hard and hurts. Are there others with the same problem and if so how did you solve it?

[ninto]

It depends on the sizing etc, but over time your body adapts and you'll stop getting such strong erections. They'll come back after removing the cage...not permanent, but don't expect to be a "real man" right away.

[trecital]

Hi all,
Would need some help.
I have a cage that at first glance fits perfectly,
But when I get excited, all the blood rushes to the scrotum. It gets big, hard and hurts. Are there others with the same problem and if so how did you solve it?

Sounds like the ring is very slightly too small.

Look up about sizing of the ring. There are various websites that explain ways of doing this.
Do a search for them. Then check the actual size of the ring, and compare it to the size you arrive out by measuring for the recommended size.

[swe_cuckold_wannabe]

It depends on the sizing etc, but over time your body adapts and you'll stop getting such strong erections. They'll come back after removing the cage...not permanent, but don't expect to be a "real man" right away.

Thank you ,
The "real man" got me hot

[swe_cuckold_wannabe]

Hi all,
Would need some help.
I have a cage that at first glance fits perfectly,
But when I get excited, all the blood rushes to the scrotum. It gets big, hard and hurts. Are there others with the same problem and if so how did you solve it?

Sounds like the ring is very slightly too small.

Look up about sizing of the ring. There are various websites that explain ways of doing this.
Do a search for them. Then check the actual size of the ring, and compare it to the size you arrive out by measuring for the recommended size.

Thank you ,
Will try to get the measurement right.
/D