Partner wants me to be a Hotwife

[YorkFriends]

I originally posted this in the intro forum but was advised to post it here, so here goes.

I'm in a relationship with an amazing man who is also my Dominant. One of his fantasies is to be in charge whilst another man has sex with me. Has anyone else experienced this?

It's not something I've explored before, I am curious about it.

Thank you in Advance

P

[armyguyot1]

If you have fantasized about it you are going to get encouragement to go for it. Most of the men on the site either share their wives for wish they could and are trying to figure out how to get their wives to fuck other men. You may think it weird and unique but you will find it is quite common here.

[54321]

Welcome to OHW!

I suggest you read around this site. The pinned thread 'Why would a man want his wife to sleep with other men' will be interesting, I'm sure.

You can also become a 'Verified Hotwife' (Don't worry. You will not have to compromise your anonymity)
Then, you will have access to the Ladies Only section of the site. There are many experienced ladies who can give you the benefit of their advice.

Best wishes,

54321

[slenderfish]

If you are curious about it, then this is one place where you will find various thoughts and perspectives. Of course, the whole site is themed as "hotwife" so that's really the basic driver.

Given that you said you are "curious" (and it seems in a positive way) and if you are already comfortable with alternative lifestyles (e.g. dom/sub etc.) then this is really a matter of desire and decisions.

I've given a lot of thought to the concept of hotwife and cuckold and have concluded for myself (but I'm not the only one) that the basic driver here is a power change/exchange and that's also the basic driver behind dom/sub concepts. So really not much of a stretch for you, except for the expression of the power exchange being different.

Anyone else see it like this?

[leggysman]

Anyone else see it like this?

Not for me, but that's not to say you're wrong or anything. I think that's a big part of it for a lot of people. But I think it just illustrates that a lot of us come at this from different angles, and also express it differently. I do think power exchange probably explains some of the desire for humiliation that some guys have?

For me, I just like it intellectually - the idea that my wife has sexual freedom that she might not have in a different relationship - and the subversiveness and naughtiness of it is what turns me on sexually. And the occasional twinges of (sweet) jealousy, and sense of (mild) danger give it an extra edge. I think my wife likes it for similar reasons, but also because she just likes to fuck, and to explore certain things with other men guilt-free

Sounds like, for the OP and her partner, it might be more on the power exchange side of the ledger. YorkFriends, what attracts you to the idea? Wanting to play with some other fellas? Not wanting to, but being told to do it?

[Parsifal]

Anyone else see it like this?

The power dynamic is certainly one aspect of it for Gala and me, but several other drivers, to borrow your nomenclature, are always in play as well. I'm in a goddess-hero relationship with my wife. She wields divine power, mine is merely mortal. But because I've won the goddess's favor, she arranges our universe so as to create for me an illusion of power of my own. She delights in allowing me male pride and prowess, for she finds that dashing and worthy of her love. But deep down I know she could ruin me, just as Elizabeth I could have delivered Francis Drake to the chopping block.

[bradisalpha]

Wow, YorkFriends, you are asking a simple question to a very complex audience !! While the basis of your Dom’s interest in seeing you, as a sub, participating sexually with another man.. and the basis of a cuckold (submissive) supporting his wife (Dominant) in participating sexually with another man actually run in parallel paths. At the end of the day, both lifestyles are based on power and sex !!!

I have experience in, and enjoy, both lifestyles. In most of my relationships with couples, ie, a husband being submissive to his wife, while at the same time, both, the husband and wife, being submissive to me, an Alpha Dominant, these two lifestyles merge into one.

With this being said, your relationship will ultimately depend on you and your Dom’s sexual excitement blending into your relationship. It doesn’t seem that you are in a hard core Dom/sub relationship or you would not question your Dom’s reasoning.. instead, you would do what he desires and be satisfied with the pleasure derived by being an obedient, loyal, sub to your Dom.

It seems to me that you are looking for validation to having sex with someone besides your Dom. That you are looking for others that have experienced what you are about to experience, and looking for encouragement in doing this for your Dom.

You will certainly get plenty of encouragement here.. you came to the right place for that !!!! Lol !! But what about you ?? Will you feel pleasure having sex with someone besides your Dom by his direction ?? Will you feel pleasure in doing it for your Dom ?? Is this something you WANT to do ?? You will have to answer these questions truthfully before you consider living his fantasies. If your answers are not yes, you are on a path of destruction.

Best wishes (regardless of your decision) !!

Brad

[little sissy Benita]

I have no experience to be in charge in cuckold relationship, but i know that give also some dom cuckolds

little Benita

[YorkFriends]

Welcome to OHW!

I suggest you read around this site. The pinned thread 'Why would a man want his wife to sleep with other men' will be interesting, I'm sure.

You can also become a 'Verified Hotwife' (Don't worry. You will not have to compromise your anonymity)
Then, you will have access to the Ladies Only section of the site. There are many experienced ladies who can give you the benefit of their advice.

Best wishes,

54321

Thanks for the advice, I will try to join the VHW forum

[YorkFriends]

Wow, YorkFriends, you are asking a simple question to a very complex audience !! While the basis of your Dom’s interest in seeing you, as a sub, participating sexually with another man.. and the basis of a cuckold (submissive) supporting his wife (Dominant) in participating sexually with another man actually run in parallel paths. At the end of the day, both lifestyles are based on power and sex !!!

I have experience in, and enjoy, both lifestyles. In most of my relationships with couples, ie, a husband being submissive to his wife, while at the same time, both, the husband and wife, being submissive to me, an Alpha Dominant, these two lifestyles merge into one.

With this being said, your relationship will ultimately depend on you and your Dom’s sexual excitement blending into your relationship. It doesn’t seem that you are in a hard core Dom/sub relationship or you would not question your Dom’s reasoning.. instead, you would do what he desires and be satisfied with the pleasure derived by being an obedient, loyal, sub to your Dom.

It seems to me that you are looking for validation to having sex with someone besides your Dom. That you are looking for others that have experienced what you are about to experience, and looking for encouragement in doing this for your Dom.

You will certainly get plenty of encouragement here.. you came to the right place for that !!!! Lol !! But what about you ?? Will you feel pleasure having sex with someone besides your Dom by his direction ?? Will you feel pleasure in doing it for your Dom ?? Is this something you WANT to do ?? You will have to answer these questions truthfully before you consider living his fantasies. If your answers are not yes, you are on a path of destruction.

Best wishes (regardless of your decision) !!

Brad

Thank you, it is something I am interested in. I'm looking for some advice from a female who has been through the same/similar to get a better understanding of what to expect.
Best Wishes

[wifelver]

I originally posted this in the intro forum but was advised to post it here, so here goes.

I'm in a relationship with an amazing man who is also my Dominant. One of his fantasies is to be in charge whilst another man has sex with me. Has anyone else experienced this?

It's not something I've explored before, I am curious about it.

Thank you in Advance

P

I would imagine it all depends on the nature of the Dom/sub relationship you have with your man and that's something only the two of you can answer. But if you both give the green light to his fantasy, and since you have said you are curious, you might want to start out by dipping your toes in the waters at a swingers club where you can watch others and decide, right then and there, to what degree you might want to participate, or not.

My wife has experienced what you're talking about in, albeit, a different way. Allow me to explain.

For a period of time, my wife served as a sex slave for her dominant Master. When he told her he would be taking her to a swingers club she knew she would have to do whatever was required of her. She knew that if her Master wanted another woman that evening then she would be required to be given to the woman's male partner as a full swap, in trade so to speak. And while that never happened, it prepared her mentally for the possibility of her being given to another at some future point in time. Perhaps a visit to a swingers club might do the same for you?

And that's what happened on another occasion. My wife was told that on a given day at a given time he would take her to a hotel room where she would be blindfolded and required to serve another man at his (her Master's) direction. Since she was there to please, serve and fully obey her Master, she did exactly as directed when the unknown man appeared in the room. She was blindfolded before he arrived and after a glass of wine and some small chit chat, her Master ordered her to slowly strip, in a sexy kind of strip tease manner, until she had removed all her clothing. She was then led to her knees and told to crawl forward across the room until she reached the other man. As the man removed his pants she was directed to suck his cock until he was hard enough to enter her. At that point she was led to the bed where he proceeded to fuck her. Then he left. The entire scene lasted no more than an hour, but her Master's fantasy, somewhat similar to your Dom's fantasy, was fulfilled much to his delight. By the way, my wife never saw the man she had just had sex with, nor was his identity ever known to her, but she fondly remembers this exciting experience.

If you do decide to move forward with your Dom's fantasy, you might want to consider who this third party you'd be having sex with might be. It could be, as in my wife's case, someone your Dom knows but perhaps you don't, or someone he introduces you to and over time you get to know, someone you both know and like, or some complete stranger. This would all depend upon your comfort level and the extent of his fantasy. Who knows? Maybe it will become your fantasy too.

[SandSweetP]

I originally posted this in the intro forum but was advised to post it here, so here goes.

I'm in a relationship with an amazing man who is also my Dominant. One of his fantasies is to be in charge whilst another man has sex with me. Has anyone else experienced this?

It's not something I've explored before, I am curious about it.

Thank you in Advance

P

I would imagine it all depends on the nature of the Dom/sub relationship you have with your man and that's something only the two of you can answer. But if you both give the green light to his fantasy, and since you have said you are curious, you might want to start out by dipping your toes in the waters at a swingers club where you can watch others and decide, right then and there, to what degree you might want to participate, or not.

My wife has experienced what you're talking about in, albeit, a different way. Allow me to explain.

For a period of time, my wife served as a sex slave for her dominant Master. When he told her he would be taking her to a swingers club she knew she would have to do whatever was required of her. She knew that if her Master wanted another woman that evening then she would be required to be given to the woman's male partner as a full swap, in trade so to speak. And while that never happened, it prepared her mentally for the possibility of her being given to another at some future point in time. Perhaps a visit to a swingers club might do the same for you?

And that's what happened on another occasion. My wife was told that on a given day at a given time he would take her to a hotel room where she would be blindfolded and required to serve another man at his (her Master's) direction. Since she was there to please, serve and fully obey her Master, she did exactly as directed when the unknown man appeared in the room. She was blindfolded before he arrived and after a glass of wine and some small chit chat, her Master ordered her to slowly strip, in a sexy kind of strip tease manner, until she had removed all her clothing. She was then led to her knees and told to crawl forward across the room until she reached the other man. As the man removed his pants she was directed to suck his cock until he was hard enough to enter her. At that point she was led to the bed where he proceeded to fuck her. Then he left. The entire scene lasted no more than an hour, but her Master's fantasy, somewhat similar to your Dom's fantasy, was fulfilled much to his delight. By the way, my wife never saw the man she had just had sex with, nor was his identity ever known to her, but she fondly remembers this exciting experience.

If you do decide to move forward with your Dom's fantasy, you might want to consider who this third party you'd be having sex with might be. It could be, as in my wife's case, someone your Dom knows but perhaps you don't, or someone he introduces you to and over time you get to know, someone you both know and like, or some complete stranger. This would all depend upon your comfort level and the extent of his fantasy. Who knows? Maybe it will become your fantasy too.

Thank you

We have been to a swinger club but it was dead so hopefully going again sometime.
the idea of being blindfolded while someone else joins is interesting

P

[SammySigns]

We've done something like that. I would pick out guys for her to suck and fuck. It didn't work out great, mostly because I could never quite figure out who she would be attracted to or not. But we have another one in the works where she will just be blindfolded and take what comes. Maybe a glory hole situation.

[wifelver]

We've done something like that. I would pick out guys for her to suck and fuck. It didn't work out great, mostly because I could never quite figure out who she would be attracted to or not. But we have another one in the works where she will just be blindfolded and take what comes. Maybe a glory hole situation.

My wife’s situation was more carefully orchestrated. Her Master knew the other guy very well so he was vetted and wore a condom at all times.

If the hot wife is blindfolded then the attraction factor is moot.

[jenisonherway6]

this kind of play brings to mind THE STORY OF O by Pauline Reage.

[wifelver]

this kind of play brings to mind THE STORY OF O by Pauline Reage.

That’s interesting. I know that book well. It’s a classic. The film served as an entry point into the world of BDSM for my wife. She loved it.

[YorkFriends]

Been talking to a guy online with encouragement from my Partner. We have swapped a few nude pics when he asked me if I like what I see. It was weird telling another guy I like his body, probably because in the past I have had very jealous partners. S liked that I did that and he loves the small steps we are taking as we are no no rush to find the right guy

[UKDan]

Take it as slow and steady as you guys want, always the best way to go. Love that you’re giving this a try, I hope my wife follows your lead one day Have fun

[trecital]

"Slow and steady wins the race", is an old saying.

Of course, that doesn't apply to Formula 1 motor racing. Or horse racing. Nor athletics like 100 metres etc.
Ok, it's a bad analogy, but you get the idea, and the principal still stands.

Good luck!