Dinner

[namitha157]

Kind of wish I never told him about my bf.. It would have been simpler.

[leggysman]

I don't really want to hurt either of them.

When you aren't honest and open, that can happen. I think you should have that conversation with your boyfriend, feeling out the idea of seeing other guys for a bit of harmless fun, and how he would feel about that. I know that's not the easy way, but the really great things in life are rarely easy.

[namitha157]

I don't really want to hurt either of them.

When you aren't honest and open, that can happen. I think you should have that conversation with your boyfriend, feeling out the idea of seeing other guys for a bit of harmless fun, and how he would feel about that. I know that's not the easy way, but the really great things in life are rarely easy.

He has said things before about cheaters and sharing. He really doesn't sound like he would be open for it. And I don't want to risk loosing him. I sound really selfish done I?

[namitha157]

And I dont know if this is a just a curiosity that I'm taking too far. But its really exciting!

[leggysman]

It sounds like you're young and you want to explore something. I think that's admirable. If he also doesn't want to risk losing you, he ought to be willing to hear you out. But communication and honesty is always the way in this lifestyle.

I think that a woman being confident and unashamed in stating what she wants, without worrying too much about how traditionally-minded people will perceive it, is sexy. If your current boyfriend doesn't see it that way, that tells you something about your compatibility. Don't get too hung up on one guy - you're young. Ask an oldster. Having the life you want, with the right, compatible guy, is way more important, and totally worth holding out for.

[namitha157]

Best not to lie. Why not use the word 'date'? As in, "I'm looking forward to our next date". The word sends a strong message about how you view it, and what your expectations might be. How your boyfriend fits into things will me a mystery for your friend to unravel.

I tried this.
He asked me if I wanted to hang out tonight!

[namitha157]

It sounds like you're young and you want to explore something. I think that's admirable. If he also doesn't want to risk losing you, he ought to be willing to hear you out. But communication and honesty is always the way in this lifestyle.

I think that a woman being confident and unashamed in stating what she wants, without worrying too much about how traditionally-minded people will perceive it, is sexy. If your current boyfriend doesn't see it that way, that tells you something about your compatibility. Don't get too hung up on one guy - you're young. Ask an oldster. Having the life you want, with the right, compatible guy, is way more important, and totally worth holding out for.

I really do want to explore this. I never would have till I experienced that kiss from a stranger.
I want to experience it again, but with a bit more connection involved. Being around this guy under this circumstance feels really intense. Especially if I go see my boyfriend after talking to him or seeing him. I couldn't talk to my boyfriend after our last date. It felt like I was cheating on this guy- It should be the other way around right?
Its a different rush from just being controlling when it comes to intimacy.
The other thing I'm worried about with this beyond my boyfriend leaving me is the reputation. I don't want to break up with him. I do love him.

[namitha157]

I just got back from my date.
He was a lot more aggressive this time. Held my hand during dinner.

He pulled me in for a deep kiss when dropping me back to my car. I pushed up hard onto him and kissed him back. We ended up making out in the back of his car for about half an hour. I had to stop and leave though. He kept trying to get my panties off and touch me down there, and more forcefully when I stopped him the first few times. I didn't mind him playing with my nipples and tits though. Bit worried about my neck, hope he didn't leave any marks.

I can tell he was expecting sex on this date by how aggressive and energetic he was.

Wow! I feel so sexy right now.

Seeing him again tomorrow; and then meeting my boyfriend after. This is so exciting!

[veub]

This is so exciting!

Of course it is. Cheating is always exciting - the thrill of outwitting your boyfriend and possibly being caught.

You've clearly moved on to the new guy. Why don't you just let your boyfriend go?

[namitha157]

This is so exciting!

Of course it is. Cheating is always exciting - the thrill of outwitting your boyfriend and possibly being caught.

You've clearly moved on to the new guy. Why don't you just let your boyfriend go?

I still love my boyfriend. But I really like this guy too...

[namitha157]

Seeing him again tonight- and then seeing my boyfriend.
Had both of the messaging me all day!

[namitha157]

Was an amazing night with each of the guys.
Felt like royalty.

[namitha157]

Felt so dirty having my bf kiss my mouth and neck and tits after the other guys had done so moments before.
Still can't get rid of the dirty feeling now. I am in a constant state of arousal since last night.

[namitha157]

The other bf really likes kissy and biting my chest.
My nipples are a sore today... Im going to be thinking of him...

[leggysman]

Now imagine if boyfriend number 1 knew about what you'd been doing with the new guy, and was ok with it, or motivated by competitiveness to please you more, or was even aroused by it?

But for that, you have to start having the conversations now. Otherwise, chances are he'll eventually catch on, and you won't have much of an excuse for doing it behind his back - a.k.a cheating on him.

[namitha157]

Now imagine if boyfriend number 1 knew about what you'd been doing with the new guy, and was ok with it, or motivated by competitiveness to please you more, or was even aroused by it?

But for that, you have to start having the conversations now. Otherwise, chances are he'll eventually catch on, and you won't have much of an excuse for doing it behind his back - a.k.a cheating on him.

It does sound nice. But I rather they want me for themselves. Feels more valued.

[namitha157]

I've been talking to each of them and meeting them separately for the last two days. Feeling aroused all the time but confused too.
I feel less interested in my boyfriend than before.

[usuallylost]

I'm no psychologist, but it sounds like you are falling in love with the new boyfriend which is wonderful. Bu I agree with leggysman in that if you really want to keep them both you might want to begin a conversation with the first boyfriend. In fact, since he is obviously submissive to you, you may end up with an amazing arrangement of tormenting number 1 while number 2 pleases you sexually. The traditional cuckold/denial thing. I can certainly understand wanting them both to want you all to their own, but I agree that if he finds out behind your back you may lose number 1 altogether and that does not sound like what you want. If he leaves because of your desires, he will leave anyway much more upset and dramatic if he finds out you've been cheating behind his back. That never goes over well. Many of us have been there at one time or another. Just my humble opinion. Good luck and I wish I could be either one of your boyfriends.

[leggysman]

I feel less interested in my boyfriend than before.

The new guy is always going to seem more exciting - at least for a while - that's just how it works. Around here we call it NRE (New Relationship Energy). It's fun, and I'm not surprised it takes the shine off your boyfriend a little bit. But it's probably just because of the novelty, which will eventually wear off.

The ideal is to have a solid relationship with one guy who you love, and play (with his blessing) with a selection of exciting new guys on the side. That's what the hotwives here do. You gotta think that's a lot of fun for them, and it certainly is for their partners as well. That's why we're here.

[namitha157]

I'm not sure about wearing off. I haven't answered any of my bfs calls today. But msging the other bf non stop. Hes going to know something up if I dont see him tonight. But Im not really interested..

[Ready2StartAgain]

I'm not sure about wearing off. I haven't answered any of my bfs calls today. But msging the other bf non stop. Hes going to know something up if I dont see him tonight. But Im not really interested..

If you don't want to cuckold him and no longer interested, you should end it so you can both move on.

[namitha157]

Not sure yet. Im still seeing both of them while I work it out.

[54321]

No one knows my boyfriend and I are together. Its been pretty hush hush. My friends know I'm dating someone.

Are you ashamed of him?

He has said things before about cheaters and sharing. He really doesn't sound like he would be open for it. And I don't want to risk loosing him. I sound really selfish done I?

Erm... yes. Sounds like you are hanging on to Mr Make Do while fishing for Mr Right

The other thing I'm worried about with this beyond my boyfriend leaving me is the reputation. I don't want to break up with him. I do love him.

Are you sure? Or is he just handy to have around?

54321

[sandy691196]

Not sure yet. Im still seeing both of them while I work it out.

My take is - Don't rush into breaking off with your real BF..
This new guy is NEW and hence the NRE and blood rush.
Cheating gets you off. If you break up with your real BF and make the new guy your steady relationship.. then there will be no "cheating" involved.. You may get bored and then look for another diversion.
The "side deal" with its adventure thing appears to turn you on.
You need to give this thing a lot more time to figure things out.
Be careful of not getting "caught" in the meantime.
Don't let the situation force your hand.
And you may wanna consider graduating into pussy play soon. A proper orgasm with a guy helps clarify the chemistry.
You need to work on your sexual values too. Sex is fun. Over thinking stuff makes it complicated and dirty.
If it feels good - do it. Just work out the other things around it so that you don't lose control of your life.
And good sex and love are not necessarily the same thing.

[namitha157]

Not sure yet. Im still seeing both of them while I work it out.

My take is - Don't rush into breaking off with your real BF..
This new guy is NEW and hence the NRE and blood rush.
Cheating gets you off. If you break up with your real BF and make the new guy your steady relationship.. then there will be no "cheating" involved.. You may get bored and then look for another diversion.
The "side deal" with its adventure thing appears to turn you on.
You need to give this thing a lot more time to figure things out.
Be careful of not getting "caught" in the meantime.
Don't let the situation force your hand.
And you may wanna consider graduating into pussy play soon. A proper orgasm with a guy helps clarify the chemistry.
You need to work on your sexual values too. Sex is fun. Over thinking stuff makes it complicated and dirty.
If it feels good - do it. Just work out the other things around it so that you don't lose control of your life.
And good sex and love are not necessarily the same thing.

Ya, I took the weekend off from both of them. Except for some occasional txts.
Too emotionally intense.

You are right about the side deal. Its really exciting. Makes me feel really sexy.

I do play with myself to orgasm when I'm with them. Its just I don't let them touch our see my vagina. Same goes with them, I don't touch them. The new guy gets to jerk off in a condom- he had one with him one day when he asked for sex that night, so its become a normal thing for him to wear one now. My boyfriend gets to jerk off normally, but I stop him from finishing sometimes. But I get off myself when I want to.

At this stage, I'm not really interested in braking up with my boyfriend. Its just I feel more attracted to my new boyfriend at the moment. Like you said, it may change in time. I'm not sure I can handle any more guys at this stage. This already feels very exhausting keeping it all a secret.