To Tell or Not to Tell

[Tryagain]

My wife has a friend (yes…really a friend) who confided with her that the sex between her and her current boyfriend is not that great, Specifically, he has good oral skills and kisses really well but the fucking is not that great.

She has been divorced for many years and is looking for a guy who might be a potential marriage partner – not just a fling. Along the way, she met a guy about a year ago whom she would never marry but who is great in bed. He has stamina to fuck a long time and whose cock is 8 inches and very thick. (he measured it and is somewhat obsessed with his physical attribute,).

Since then, she met her boyfriend about 2 months ago and stopped seeing the other guy. Her new boyfriend’s cock is about 5 inches and rather thin. She says it just does not reach the deep portion of her vagina that is particularly sensitive and drives her wild. She also likes the stretched feeling from a thick cock too.

She does not want to discard her boyfriend who a great guy in all other ways just because of sex but just does not know what to do. She wants to tell him but she fears he will be hurt. FYI they are both in their 50s.

My wife told her about this site and how many couples opt to include another guy in their sex life and she could check it out. At first was appalled at the idea but she is an open person and gradually warmed to the whole idea; however, she is not interested in posting on a website with such sensitive issues.

I would like to get feedback on what others here think she should do.

[hornedhubby]

Nice for your wife to offer help. Her friend can and should also do her own independent research on hotwifing and cuckolding. And go from there.

Sounds like with this love interest guy and a known fuckbuddy, it would likely lean toward the latter dynamic. If she decides to go forward and bring it up with him, she will have learned a hundred ways to hint and gauge his interest.

Seems clear that the sex matters a lot to your wife's friend. If this new relationship would never work for her, due to that factor, then she really has little to lose by exploring her options. Whether or not that's fair for the new boyfriend is iffy, depending on his proclivities. Eventually, he'll need to be part of the solution. If he loves to give oral, that won't hurt anything.

[Natatude]

She could always join the site and join the ladies lounge which is private for us women only to read and post. Your wife and her can always do research on hotwifing and cuckolding. In our relationship I am a hot wife and he is a stag. You can read about it and decide what she thinks she fits in. Good luck to her!

[Parsifal]

A friend of my wife's who's in a bland marriage hears of all my wife's adventures and taps into her energy for nourishment. My wife and I together develop the stories my wife later tells her. We call them anthropology lessons because this friend of hers was an anthropology major at UC Berkley and she's remarked about how the topic is one within her field.

You should promote your wife's dialogues with her friend and enjoy having indirect input through your wife. From beind the scenes you can help set her free to be sexually happy.

[MartasBoy]

My wife has a friend (yes…really a friend) who confided ...

I would like to get feedback on what others here think she should do.

I could imagine a test-the-waters kind of conversation that she could have her boyfriend. She could tell him, "Wow, I just found out something wild talking to Jessica the other day. She told me that she had run across a website for women who call themselves Hotwives. These women are encouraged by their boyfriend or husband to have one or more sexual partners on the side because they get turned on by the thought of their woman being with another, or other men.

There are all different levels to the lifestyle apparently. There are some guys who just fantasize about it, and they do it as a role play with their wife or girlfriend. There are other couples where the woman actually has an outside lover or outside lovers. In some cases, the husband or boyfriend enjoys watching their wife or girlfriend having sex with the other guy, sometimes they just enjoy hearing her tell about the experience when she gets home. It really amazed me to hear that this is a "thing" that some couples enjoy doing."

Then she can just see how he responds. If he asks, "Is that something you could ever do or would want to do?"

He could answer by saying something like, "Wow, it is something that I didn't even know, or never could have imagined. goes on, so it never would have occurred to me. I have always been a committed one-guy kind of woman. I have always pictured myself getting married and settling down with one guy, in a committed relationship. The whole concept is so new to me, that don't even know what I think about it. It's fine for people who are into that kind of thing, but I never imagined myself doing anything like that. I guess there are women who would find that kind of thing exciting, the adventure in variety of different guys, while still being able to keep their marriage together. But I'm surprised to hear that there are guys who find that kind of thing turn on. I have always been led to believe that guys are kind of possessive, that they want only their woman, and expect that commitment. I've always heard that guys are naturally jealous and possessive of their wife or girlfriend. And now, to find out that there is this whole lifestyle and websites, for guys who actually get turned on by their wife or girlfriend being with other guys. It's a lot for me to wrap my head around."

Then he is likely to weigh in on one side of the other and say either, "I would never want anything like that, and I can't imagine that anybody would find that interesting, or a turn on." Or, he might say, "I can understand why some guys might find that a turn on. It is the ultimate validation that you are with a beautiful and desirable woman, that other men want. I actually found it a little arousing, to hear you talk about it."

This way, she can get an idea of which way he leans. And she can take it from there.