Women that don't show their pussy to their husband or primary partner

[coastalkid]

I find eventually they dont try to look anymore.
Same way girls at in the changerooms and dorm dont try to look at their friends vaginas.

There are a lot of advantages both from being her man (sexual) or being her gal (sister/bff).
For a feminine woman- being with her man is a lot about pleasing him. You need to give him pussy. The pussy was designed to give pleasure.. not so much to receive pleasure.

The bff shares without taking.
The dynamic is beautiful.

The bf is mostly there only to get pussy. He's there to take. While she wants to be taken deep down.. she still needs someone who is truly her own. Bff/cuck/sister.. thats you.

I really do want to understand this subject much better than I do. It is very confusing to me.

Like a few others have said, this would not be a kink I could enjoy. I understand that there are all types of people out there with all kinds of kinks. I respect their choice to find their joy however they wish to.

What I do wonder about these different denial and control kinks is where does it lead to? If your spouse simply gives in, accepts their fate, and no longer even tries to do anything about it, is it still as fun as it once was? If it's no longer a torture or becomes so impossible like wanting to be an astronaut then there's no longer a hurt/loss associated with it. Isn't the thrill of denial about withholding something someone wants/desires? How does that fit in with a conditioned, beaten down man with no fight or desire left in him? How can you deny something that has become unwanted?

I know my own wants and desires color my view. As I have observed, I disconnect with this primarily because 1) I don't want to be denied ( but then, those guys being denied didn't want it either, that's part of the kink), 2) It looks like it leads to conditioning a partner to become asexual or to become bisexual/gay as an amusement to their wives, and 3) It is too often that the wife/gf is portrayed as taking joy in being mean spirited (ie bitches).

No disrespect to any of you that are into this kink, sincerely!

[sana9889]

When she comes home emotional because she felt used or mistreated, she will want a nice warm hug from her bdd/sister and a shoulder to cry on. Does it sound right if her sister has an erection?

I like your perspective. I don't have that with my girlfriend, but the idea of her having sex with other guys and just coming to me to share her experiences, as if I were just her friend (or sister ), is hot.

I think its nice dynamic. Not everyone agrees with it. And it will not work for all couples. It only really works if she truly loves you.

Do you feel better connected to her this way without lust getting involved?

[sana9889]

I find eventually they dont try to look anymore.
Same way girls at in the changerooms and dorm dont try to look at their friends vaginas.

There are a lot of advantages both from being her man (sexual) or being her gal (sister/bff).
For a feminine woman- being with her man is a lot about pleasing him. You need to give him pussy. The pussy was designed to give pleasure.. not so much to receive pleasure.

The bff shares without taking.
The dynamic is beautiful.

The bf is mostly there only to get pussy. He's there to take. While she wants to be taken deep down.. she still needs someone who is truly her own. Bff/cuck/sister.. thats you.

I really do want to understand this subject much better than I do. It is very confusing to me.

Like a few others have said, this would not be a kink I could enjoy. I understand that there are all types of people out there with all kinds of kinks. I respect their choice to find their joy however they wish to.

What I do wonder about these different denial and control kinks is where does it lead to? If your spouse simply gives in, accepts their fate, and no longer even tries to do anything about it, is it still as fun as it once was? If it's no longer a torture or becomes so impossible like wanting to be an astronaut then there's no longer a hurt/loss associated with it. Isn't the thrill of denial about withholding something someone wants/desires? How does that fit in with a conditioned, beaten down man with no fight or desire left in him? How can you deny something that has become unwanted?

I know my own wants and desires color my view. As I have observed, I disconnect with this primarily because 1) I don't want to be denied ( but then, those guys being denied didn't want it either, that's part of the kink), 2) It looks like it leads to conditioning a partner to become asexual or to become bisexual/gay as an amusement to their wives, and 3) It is too often that the wife/gf is portrayed as taking joy in being mean spirited (ie bitches).

No disrespect to any of you that are into this kink, sincerely!

For me its more a lifestyle than a kink. A change in dynamics based on our attractions. Women tend to be more inclined to reveal more of their bodies to men they are attracted to. We don't really appreciate it much when men we are not attracted to look at us as much. May be an extension of that thing.

I do understand why most men wouldn't like it long term unless they are naturally submissive.

[Mark605]

When she comes home emotional because she felt used or mistreated, she will want a nice warm hug from her bdd/sister and a shoulder to cry on. Does it sound right if her sister has an erection?

I like your perspective. I don't have that with my girlfriend, but the idea of her having sex with other guys and just coming to me to share her experiences, as if I were just her friend (or sister ), is hot.

I think its nice dynamic. Not everyone agrees with it. And it will not work for all couples. It only really works if she truly loves you.

Do you feel better connected to her this way without lust getting involved?

Yes, I believe that my connection with her would reach a completely different, deeper and more interesting level. But I'm being cautious because I don't want to ruin my relationship with her. I already have a strong feminine side, but this doesn't show in the way I behave, but mainly in my interests (I don't know much about cars and football, but a lot about astrology ).
I'm just letting things flow slowly. At the moment she just opened a Tinder account and is chatting with some guys. She called me to tell me about some of those interactions, but she hasn't met any of them in person yet. I like listening to her, I'm a good listener.

[Marksmall5]

Think of it this way.. you shouldn't be looking at your sisters vagina. Even if she needs to change in your room. She trusts you. Men see her differently. They lust her. And want to take pleasure from her. You are different in that you truly love her and her happiness.

Perfect, you’ve captured it.