Exclusive HW relationships

[zorro]

Over the past 5 years, we've moved from swinging and sex parties to an exclusive sexual relationship with one extra guy. He is a solid, regular (weekly) FWB. As I've written elsewhere, it is now bareback only and at this time only threesomes. Building a LTR with someone where everyone can learn what works sexually for all has been the best.

Does anyone else do this?

[HotwifeBabs]

That sounds like an idea situation. I hope it works out for all of you.

[zorro]

That sounds like an idea situation. I hope it works out for all of you.

Thank you for your good wishes. It has worked out for 5 years. After years of fucking many random guys, Ruth has discovered she prefers being a demisexual. He makes her laugh with pleasure, especially when he penetrates her pussy. We have found ways to make the arrangement work out. Curiously, we have found that threesomes makes us hotter than a 1-1.

[Florgasm]

Does that arrangement require that he exclusively participates in your mfm relationship, or is he entitled to have other relationships as well?

[isinlarsa]

I had similar experiences in my first marriage and with my long-term girlfriend. Both started with swinging, and moved to them being a hotwife and hotgirlfriend.

What about you? In your journey, did you ever served as the third man with another couple? Or is that something that Ruth would not like?

[zorro]

Somehow I missed your kind posts.

With due appreciation, I want to address your questions, however belatedly.

@florgasm: No, the relationship is not at all exclusive on his part. He has a long-term GF who I don't think knows about us, and they have been on-and-off for years. I think she wants him to marry her, but he prefers having "3 girlfriends at the same time," so that is not going to happen. He also has a couple he does MFMs with regularly. He introduced us to them, but she opted out of a much-desired fivesome due to low chemistry (her loss but her perogative). And probably there are others from time to time. He tells me about blowjobs he gets at the local clothing-optional hot tub.

We don't regard a person's sexual life as something we would want to limit, much as we would not want anyone to limits ours. We focus on his sexual relationship with us, not with others.

[zorro]

@ isinlarsa: Before Ruth and I reunited, I had served as an extra guy for several couples, including about 5 who I initiated into hotwifing/MFM, including a few from this Forum. All but one couple continued in HW and MFMs after me, so I guess it went pretty well.

Ruth has been good with sharing me, although she is no cuckqueen. We both had a lot of partners when we were swinging, especially at parties. Since then, we have replaced quantity with quality, as I mentioned above. She is much more comfortable when the other women are married; single women have been accepted but not as easily, for obvious reasons. She tells me she wants me to enjoy our life and wants me to be happy. So, we are very much alike. As I have told her, "You like to fuck other men, and I like you to fuck other men. We have a lot in common!" We also have found that we are happiest when we are both present during a sex scene, so 1-1s have been left to the side.

[dsmith3717]

We moved into this setup. First swinging, then hotwifing with multiple men. She got more comfortable with a steady boyfriend. She's had two. They last around a year. But they stay over at our house often and we all have an amazing time.

[Her number1]

As much as Farmgirl likes to continue flirting, and occasionally tinkers with the idea of others, she is seemingly content with her boyfriend.

[noreaster]

When my wife used to play we always hoped for a longer term, one guy relationship. While we never stated that whomever the guy was couldn’t have relationships with others, she didn’t like the idea of being one of many that he played with. The ideal scenario was to find someone who would be friends with us both socially in front of whomever was around but also have the extra benefits of a sexual relationship with her behind closed doors and hopefully she’d be all he desired or needed. Not an easy find.

[Wooster]

My wife used to date different men until she settled down with her current boyfriend. They've been exclusive for several years now. I miss the variety, but she definitely doesn't. On the whole, it works for us.

[isinlarsa]

@ isinlarsa: Before Ruth and I reunited, I had served as an extra guy for several couples, including about 5 who I initiated into hotwifing/MFM, including a few from this Forum. All but one couple continued in HW and MFMs after me, so I guess it went pretty well.

Ruth has been good with sharing me, although she is no cuckqueen. We both had a lot of partners when we were swinging, especially at parties. Since then, we have replaced quantity with quality, as I mentioned above. She is much more comfortable when the other women are married; single women have been accepted but not as easily, for obvious reasons. She tells me she wants me to enjoy our life and wants me to be happy. So, we are very much alike. As I have told her, "You like to fuck other men, and I like you to fuck other men. We have a lot in common!" We also have found that we are happiest when we are both present during a sex scene, so 1-1s have been left to the side.

I got a laugh out of you saying that you and your wife are very much alike: "You like to fuck other men, and I like you to fuck other men. "

[zorro]

I got a laugh out of you saying that you and your wife are very much alike: "You like to fuck other men, and I like you to fuck other men. "

Ha! That's great. And true. We have found that sex in the lifestyle can bring lots of good-hearted laughs. And I bet you have reached the same conclusions, since your and my experiences converge a lot.

[MistressVixenMrStag]

Vixen has one guy that is allowed to go bare.

He is a long term friend that lives a few hours away and is divorced (long story) he doesn’t have sex with anyone else so they usually have a intense session when he visits (every couple of months)

[BT2]

My wife used to meet up with new guys several times per year, and never used condoms. About a decade or so ago we thought that was a bit dangerous health wise. So, for the past decade plus she has had only two fbs who see sees each several times per year. She insisted on a condom at first until she knew the guy would be a regular, and she has since gone bareback with both of them. There is, we acknowledge, a bit of a risk one or the other of them may catch something from somebody else, but we believe the risk is minimal, and we guess worth it.