Once cuckolding begins is there any going back?

[kellycuckoldsmark]

Our cuckolding life has been a journey of over 20 years and we have found different elements to the journey over that time. Our communication is regular and for the past 12 years we have been very deliberate in agreeing what we want and don't want to be doing for short blocks at a time. At this stage of life anything more than a 3 month view is impractical for us! In another thread someone wrote that 'we are the movie stars at the other men at just bit players' and that is a pretty way to sum up our view and why we know we can stop and why when we are in dry spells it isn't a problem. Kelly seeing other men enhances our own experiences so are built on a strong sexual foundation and marriage.

We did stop for a few years after we married. That was 10+ years into some pretty heavy playing starting off swinging then involvement to finally cuckolding. Kelly wanted to take a break or stop indefinitely after we married apart from my best friend who she saw 1-2 a year max. After about 6 years and our son being born we started to talk about whether we wanted to play again. We did.

This time though it was totally different. Pre marriage and children it was a central theme of our relationship. We would plan weekends/date nights around her being with other people. Now with very different flexibility we started to move to more irregular meetings. She also wanted a little more relational (she doesn't believe emotional) attachment and put rules in like no sex on the first date. She wanted some 'wooing' back and enjoyed a date with a guy and then if both were interested a second date. She prefers married men and as we live near a major airport, we found the best path for us were business travellers. They were horny and had a hotel room! We could quickly shrink the pool to those who would go for drinks/dinner/movie with Kelly with no sex (surprisingly high # just wanted company while out of town); and that allowed her to decide if she wanted to have sex with them. Most come to town 1x a month or 1x a quarter. That fits out schedule much better. She could see someone every night if she wanted but that's not practical so maybe 2x a month now. That's pseudo stopping in Kelly's opinion! She slowed down when pregnant with our daughter but fulfilled my fantasy of seeing one of her 'regular' guys when 7 months pregnant.

Then another break for a year or so before slowly going back to meeting people.

All the way through the 20 years through the good and bad experiences, we have always promised to be able to stop if either one wanted to. We have taken extended breaks for this reason or for life events. The infrequency of now gives us comfort that we could stop because she only sees someone when we both want that high.

Everyone is different!

[sana9889]

No.. the sexual bonding is gone for good. Her needs are different from that point.

[subguy80]

She slowed down when pregnant with our daughter but fulfilled my fantasy of seeing one of her 'regular' guys when 7 months pregnant.

This post is a couple of months old, but just saw it. This comment is very erotic. Would love to hear you provide some more details. Did you get to watch? Did her "regular" enjoy sex with a 7-month pregnant woman? Details? Thanks.

[cuckling]

I do agree with another poster that said most of what you read on here (not just this thread) is fantasy. Frustrated cuckolds are imaginative cuckolds. Real life is far less hot most of the time and that makes the hot moments that much sweeter.

After cuckolding starts, is it possible for the hotwife to go back to having normal attraction for her man, or will she always see him as submissive and perhaps less attractive (than she would to bulls and other guys who are dominant/not into submission)?

I guess as a cuckold, if you behave in ways that turn her off, she's going to be turned off. Since everyone prefers different things I'm not sure how it's possible to answer that question without knowing her and asking her. Just remember that feelings wax and wane based on time. She may love you sometimes, she may hate you sometimes. But overall perception of you really shouldn't change all that much. Don't introduce too much too fast and explore and grow together. I think any respect lost for you in the sex department will tend to increase in the affection and closeness department due to all of the great communication you two should be having (relationships are like equations, they tend to balance each other out).

Being a cuckold is just something that you're into, it's a facet of your life, not 100% your identity, just like what you do for work isn't 100% your identity or what hobbies you're into, etc. Who you are is a combination of all of those things despite what our fantasies would have us say. Revealing an aspect of your personality to her that she didn't know about before will likely bring you two closer together, not farther apart. The back-and-forth communication that ensues after the cuckold door is open is the magic and glue that will keep you together. Whether she enjoys another guy's cock in her pussy is just a physical act. If the guy attached to that cock spends as much time with her and as a result knows her and makes her feel loved on a deeper level than you, it doesn't really matter if you're submissive or not at that point, you two may start to have problems. In a cuckold situation, bulls work well when treated as appointments. If they become more than that, it may be flirting more with polyamory at that point.

This lifestyle just intensifies the direction you two are already heading. If you were already close and best friends and very compatible, it's likely to bring you even closer together. If you were having problems or one of you was already thinking about heading towards the exit, things are likely to end in a much more abbreviated fashion. That's what makes this scary sometimes, because there's always a lingering doubt as to how the other might feel. Even scarier, you honestly won't know for sure until you try it.

So no, there is no going back, but once you're there, neither of you will probably want to. Similar to having a significant fight, nobody wants to fight with each other, but after a good fight and resolution, neither of you can probably deny that you're both a stronger couple having gone through it. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Same thinking applies here.

I know with my ex that she couldn't see me the same way once she'd seen me submit to her. She told me once that she always felt that she would want other guys and questioned whether that was good for a relationship.

I mean the fear of liking another person too much is a valid fear and one we all have at one point or another. I don't know you and her, but since she's an ex, I suspect she already felt the way she did before "she'd seen you submit to her". A hotwife / cuckold lifestyle is more about temporary scenes or appointments rather than 24/7. Scenes have a beginning and an end and real life ensues between those times. What you're into during those scenes doesn't change the person you are and the one she married, no more than kayaking or rock climbing changes who you are as a person when you're doing those activities. She may hate both of those things and may choose to do them with you anyway or not, but it wouldn't likely be something that would drive her away. Mostly, if your cuckold thing IS enough to change her mind about you, her mind was probably changed already and this just clarified things for her.

Cuckolds realize at some point that we're into this lifestyle (or hotwives talk us into it), if one or both of you want to stop it, it depends on the state of the relationship and the reason why you want it stopped as to whether it can stop. If one of you feels the other slipping away and think by stopping it you can save the marriage, I would argue the marriage was probably already doomed and exploring this lifestyle just accelerated the inevitable. If you're stopping it because you've become insecure about something, that's closer to cuckold angst and you learn to manage it and communicate it with her (without making her feel bad or wrong somehow) and you probably both grow closer to each other as a result of it. Vice versa if it's her feeling insecure but the same closeness results.

If the root of your question is should you give up cuckolding since you tried it with someone who became an ex, I guess it depends on whether cuckolding is just a temporary kink or something you desire deeply. If it's the latter I wouldn't entertain leaving it but rather find ways of more deeply connecting with the next person you find and see if there's a way you both can share and benefit from it together.

One of the best posts i've ever read on here! Spot on and very bright insights!

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

I do agree with another poster that said most of what you read on here (not just this thread) is fantasy. Frustrated cuckolds are imaginative cuckolds. Real life is far less hot most of the time and that makes the hot moments that much sweeter.

After cuckolding starts, is it possible for the hotwife to go back to having normal attraction for her man, or will she always see him as submissive and perhaps less attractive (than she would to bulls and other guys who are dominant/not into submission)?

I guess as a cuckold, if you behave in ways that turn her off, she's going to be turned off. Since everyone prefers different things I'm not sure how it's possible to answer that question without knowing her and asking her. Just remember that feelings wax and wane based on time. She may love you sometimes, she may hate you sometimes. But overall perception of you really shouldn't change all that much. Don't introduce too much too fast and explore and grow together. I think any respect lost for you in the sex department will tend to increase in the affection and closeness department due to all of the great communication you two should be having (relationships are like equations, they tend to balance each other out).

Being a cuckold is just something that you're into, it's a facet of your life, not 100% your identity, just like what you do for work isn't 100% your identity or what hobbies you're into, etc. Who you are is a combination of all of those things despite what our fantasies would have us say. Revealing an aspect of your personality to her that she didn't know about before will likely bring you two closer together, not farther apart. The back-and-forth communication that ensues after the cuckold door is open is the magic and glue that will keep you together. Whether she enjoys another guy's cock in her pussy is just a physical act. If the guy attached to that cock spends as much time with her and as a result knows her and makes her feel loved on a deeper level than you, it doesn't really matter if you're submissive or not at that point, you two may start to have problems. In a cuckold situation, bulls work well when treated as appointments. If they become more than that, it may be flirting more with polyamory at that point.

This lifestyle just intensifies the direction you two are already heading. If you were already close and best friends and very compatible, it's likely to bring you even closer together. If you were having problems or one of you was already thinking about heading towards the exit, things are likely to end in a much more abbreviated fashion. That's what makes this scary sometimes, because there's always a lingering doubt as to how the other might feel. Even scarier, you honestly won't know for sure until you try it.

So no, there is no going back, but once you're there, neither of you will probably want to. Similar to having a significant fight, nobody wants to fight with each other, but after a good fight and resolution, neither of you can probably deny that you're both a stronger couple having gone through it. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Same thinking applies here.

I know with my ex that she couldn't see me the same way once she'd seen me submit to her. She told me once that she always felt that she would want other guys and questioned whether that was good for a relationship.

I mean the fear of liking another person too much is a valid fear and one we all have at one point or another. I don't know you and her, but since she's an ex, I suspect she already felt the way she did before "she'd seen you submit to her". A hotwife / cuckold lifestyle is more about temporary scenes or appointments rather than 24/7. Scenes have a beginning and an end and real life ensues between those times. What you're into during those scenes doesn't change the person you are and the one she married, no more than kayaking or rock climbing changes who you are as a person when you're doing those activities. She may hate both of those things and may choose to do them with you anyway or not, but it wouldn't likely be something that would drive her away. Mostly, if your cuckold thing IS enough to change her mind about you, her mind was probably changed already and this just clarified things for her.

Cuckolds realize at some point that we're into this lifestyle (or hotwives talk us into it), if one or both of you want to stop it, it depends on the state of the relationship and the reason why you want it stopped as to whether it can stop. If one of you feels the other slipping away and think by stopping it you can save the marriage, I would argue the marriage was probably already doomed and exploring this lifestyle just accelerated the inevitable. If you're stopping it because you've become insecure about something, that's closer to cuckold angst and you learn to manage it and communicate it with her (without making her feel bad or wrong somehow) and you probably both grow closer to each other as a result of it. Vice versa if it's her feeling insecure but the same closeness results.

If the root of your question is should you give up cuckolding since you tried it with someone who became an ex, I guess it depends on whether cuckolding is just a temporary kink or something you desire deeply. If it's the latter I wouldn't entertain leaving it but rather find ways of more deeply connecting with the next person you find and see if there's a way you both can share and benefit from it together.

Rarely do I come across posts that are articulated as well as this one. Accuracy and precision make it all the more moving. I am reposting your entire post so that it is ever-preserved in my own post history.

My wife is not particularly big on OHW threads, as it’s just not her thing, talking about the finer points of hotwifing and cuckoldry. She knows I spend a good deal of time on OHW, and she has watched me peruse and add to threads for hours each week. For me, OHW has been invaluable for learning how to cope with some of my most private feelings, talking to other cuckolds and wannabes and hotwives about these finer points, even if it is sometimes frustratingly slow to see threads progress.

Occasionally, there’s a gem like this post that I will share with her. I feel like this is one of the more profound and well-written posts I’ve read on OHW. For us, thread sharing usually happens in the minutes or hour (or so) before we go to bed. Sometimes, the conversation will happen in the car, when we know we’ll be on the road for at least an hour or two so we can have the time we need to fully process the topic or issue. We’ll talk about it, contextualize it for our personal circumstances, and draw conclusions where we can about the issue at hand. There have never been any ground-shaking departures from our current hotwifing/cuckoldry trajectory. That’s why we’re communicating, after all, to make sure we’re still in our respective lanes and in tune with each others’ needs and desires.

I was bewildered when she told me she wanted to take a second boyfriend, but given the flirty conversations she told me about daily with him, I could plainly see how attracted she was to him. She was more or less prepping us for the next step we’d be taking together. In our minds, it was inevitable that he would be invited into our lives, mostly hers, of course.

I was bummed when, after 16 years, she decided to “shelve” her first boyfriend. He was completely comfortable with me watching and cleaning her up afterwards, a personal thrill for me and a trove of memories I shall never forget. (Her new boyfriend is less comfortable with my presence when they’re intimate, and she’s letting him “drive” the relationship for now. She promises me that they will eventually invite me in to watch and be cucked by her lover, that “big, personal thrill” for me. “He’s just not ready.”)

The bottom line is that these are the communicative moments that experienced cucks seek in order to maintain the integrity of our relationships with our wives/girlfriends.

This post, again, one of the best I’ve read, will be good fodder for bedtime conversation.

[slowsteady]

No.. the sexual bonding is gone for good. Her needs are different from that point.

Very wise advice...

Unfortunately, it falls on the deaf ears of those most in need of heeding it far too often!

[PANTIES]

No, there no chance it will stop. Once she finds out there’s better out there you are done.

sissy pauline

[sandy691196]

Many are using the term "cuckold" loosely and liberally. Hotwife, cuck, stag-vixen are all different things and impacts the primary relationship differently.
The non cuck LS allows the husbands to retain their masculinity and dignity. A pure cuck equation (not the make-believe, fantasy cuck talks in the bedroom) by definition, destroys hubby's masculinity and status as the "male partner" in the relationship.

In a pure cuck LS, the wife sees the Bull(s) as the "man" in the relationship. The husband is the convenient prop that keeps her normal life going smoothly. Kids et al.. Mortgages, social identity et al..
And as the ever present, dependable person (consciously not using the word "man") to wipe her nose when the Bull(s) find greener, hotter pastures..

So no.. There is no going back from cuckdom. From swingers, hotwives, Stag-Vixen yes.. But from cuck- no.

[sana9889]

The bonding effect is deeper if she has anal with him. She will almost become exclusive with him. If its just vaginal and oral, she wont bond with you, but will just fuck around. With anal, she will.crave the same guy again.
Just so you understand

[luvymayfly2]

I think that creampie eating after the bull comes in the wife is the thing that breaks the sexual bond between a wife and husband more than anything. I think as far as penis in vagina she'll want something else exclusively not the husband at some point. Not to say she won't have vaginal intercourse with the husband. It'll just never be the same. If she wants "fucked" it'll be elsewhere. Is there any going back? I do not know. Both of my cuckolding relationships ended without cycling back to me being exclusive with my ex wife or ex fiancee. My ex fiancee used to comment that her pussy no longer wanted me inside her but she allowed it as she thought we needed the intimacy. And she was right about that. I do think that is important to maintain if you go down this road.

[Bluetoed]

My ex fiancee used to comment that her pussy no longer wanted me inside her but she allowed it as she thought we needed the intimacy. And she was right about that. I do think that is important to maintain if you go down this road.

I agree with this somewhat, but not specifically. A husband and wife need to "make love" to maintain their bond. Whether "making love" must include PIV is up for debate, but no one can convince me a husband and wife will stay together without any form of "making love" between them. When there isn't, it is just a matter of time before she's no longer bonded to him, but to someone else instead. And most of the time she didn't think it would happen. But eventually it did. Other people shape who we are as people. It doesn't happen overnight, but it happens. And "making love" is definitely a relationship shaping action. So don't even think of getting into this lifestyle unless you know how you two are going to continue making love in some form.

[wantingfun]

This thread has some of the best analyses of hotwifing/cuckolding that I have seen anywhere!

Can you go back? I would say that any extreme experience changes you in some way, so there will never be going back completely because you have changed. But if your relationship is strong, you might return to something resembling "normalcy", whatever that is.

My hot GF is taking a pause right now due to her year-long BF getting into trouble with the law. She will find someone else at the beginning of the year. But we are actually enjoying this quiet period together. We're doing more activities focused on us as a couple. While cuckolding can be extremely fun and erotic, I believe our brains need time to reset so that we can appreciate our future adventures more.

[coastalkid]

Like SheLikesWhenIWatch, I spend a good deal of time reading the threads here. I'm not a cuckold husband and my wife is not a hot wife. I've told my wife that the idea interests me but we haven't had any sort of "deep" discussions about it. So, I've resorted to this and other forums to help me analyze my own thoughts and decide if this is something I truly want.

The ubiquitous advise here is to have excellent communication and have no question in the loving bond between husband and wife. On its own, this is good advise for any marriage/partnership whether monogamous or non-monogamous. The trouble with this is the certainty and confidence in those foundations when they are tested with the reality put into practice.

I've noticed that even when there is great communication and a sworn allegiance to the marriage, the unknown represents an unpredictable set of circumstances and reactions. The change in the sexual dynamic is the catalyst that leads to a multitude of behaviors and attitudes that were previously never encountered before.

So often it is posted here how a wife will act out of character when she embraces the lifestyle. Just as often wives are shocked by a husband admitting that he would want something like this. In both cases that shakes those foundations of communication and faith in the bond between them. In both cases there is a sense that they never really knew their partner's desire. The change in the dynamic is uncharted and the results are not easily predicted.

You read stuff about a wife saying, "Are you sure you want this, because if I do it there's no turning back! You will have no say in it!" If she has shown previously to have this sort of behavior regarding decision making then it is expected and anticipated. If she hasn't, then it represents a departure from what a husband has witnessed and observed. He has no context to analyze the situation. He's working from a brand new set of input unfamiliar to him.

One thread I read had a wife telling her husband, "Last chance to say no. Do you really want me to do it?" She said further that she secretly expected him to say no. She said she was disappointed when he didn't say no. She wanted him to fight for her. Even more damning was her stating that she would NEVER again look at her husband in the same way. He was not the same man she fell in love with and she no longer had respect for him. She thought she knew her husband better. She's still active here and she operates with complete impunity.

Some responses here have been, "Why would you ever want stop?" In those cases those people have developed some sort of "shared" experience that meets the needs of BOTH partners. So, of course, why not continue everybody gets something fulfilling out of the deal. In the other cases where that "shared experience" is not clearly established it leads to individual experiences with varying levels of satisfaction/excitement/enhancement.

From my observation the couples with a "shared" emphasis on gratification endure, the others blowup or fade away. That "rock solid" partnership notion is proven when the compassion and love of one partner recognizes their partner is struggling. This is where the "change" in behavior and attitude brought on by the lifestyle hits the hardest. All the previous knowledge gained in the monogamous part of the relationship is moot. All you have is the "new dynamic" to go by along with a new set of emotions and responses. That's not a very solid foundation from which to make life altering choices.

Ultimately, I've come to thinking that if there is real, undeniable, true love and that love is protected jealously then neither the husband or the wife will EVER intentionally hurt one another. When they do recognize the hurt from an experience they do something. They know when they hurt their partner they understand that it hurts them too. I've come to believe that smart couples recognize what brings pleasure to both in gratifying and satisfying ways. They are also well aware and concerned when things are too one-sided or experience unequal satisfaction.

It's just my opinion from observation but, yes, I believe you can stop if you have to, if you love each other enough to know what you need to do to protect that love. You can't change what the change brought on but you can choose to continue with not wanting to see your spouse hurt or being the reason for the hurting. It's another change but you've changed before.

[dsmith3717]

Unfortunately, in my mind, there is no going back.

As far as things between my wife and I, no problem. She doesn't see me any different. We all have our kinks and we've been married 19 years now. We love each other just as we are.

However, she's had to give things a rest because of some recent health issues. While she's getting better, there has been zero play. We're going on two years now of going cold turkey. From super hotwife bringing back video and creampies multiple times a week to nothing. The sex is non-existent and the thought of her with another man doesn't leave my head. I don't bother her with it as she's still dealing with her health stuff and no need to make her feel bad. But for me, I can't get away from that type of lifestyle. I'll always crave it.

[sandy691196]

I think that creampie eating after the bull comes in the wife is the thing that breaks the sexual bond between a wife and husband more than anything. I think as far as penis in vagina she'll want something else exclusively not the husband at some point. Not to say she won't have vaginal intercourse with the husband. It'll just never be the same. If she wants "fucked" it'll be elsewhere. Is there any going back? I do not know. Both of my cuckolding relationships ended without cycling back to me being exclusive with my ex wife or ex fiancée. My ex fiancée used to comment that her pussy no longer wanted me inside her but she allowed it as she thought we needed the intimacy. And she was right about that. I do think that is important to maintain if you go down this road.

I loved that older post of yours in this thread where you said that everything has a season- a season for sex, a season for cuckolding etc.. This encapsulates the LS succinctly.

In my case, my wife, after that one episode (MFM with the hubby first and then same room swapping with that couple, where my wife pretended she was on her periods, kept her panties on and gave him a BJ), had a meltdown! She freaked out in the end when I dozed off with the other wife after an excellent, mutual orgasm. We were in the same room. There was hell to pay for me and end of LS!
Ever since that shindig (it took place decades back), she has held it against me and that has been included in her armoury of weapons to be used in marital quarrels!

In my next long term relationship (extra marital).. my GF agreed to play right at the beginning.. within a month and a half of starting. After 9 odd months, one guy (in a swapping situation) fucked her rough and that put her off the whole thing for a year. But being a cuck queen, she enthusiastically encouraged me to play. Funnily that was ONE relationship where I was thoroughly faithful to my partner and had a helluva guilt trip when on a date with anyone else (while she had NO problems at all!)..
In that one year, we had a memorable, epoch making FMF 3 some with a girl from work.. That girl had a fiancé working out of town. It started with me seducing her one on one, in my office. Next day, my GF planned a session in the office after work (after folks left). I drove that girl- R- from another work site to our office. Brought her off in the car, while driving, strumming her clit with my left hand! Mother of all DUIs!
In the office, there was a binge to beat all binges! R came and came and came while I ate her and my GF sucked her nips. She was tutored by my GF (like a mentor) how to enjoy sex to the utmost.
But we became too greedy, offered to take her to a sea side resort for a weekend and the thing blew up at her home! Different story.

I and my GF resumed our playing in the LS after a year of her staying away from the stuff. It went on for 3 and 1/2 years of gala oo lala.. in every possible combination. Till that one night at a sex party. She was playing in a different room with a rough MoFO. I was with that guy's FWB in another room. In the middle of the night there was the king of all flaps! The bugger had bitten into her clit! She was bleeding like there was no tomorrow!
I, she and my friend (the host of the (party) rushed to the ER and got her clit treated! They said its nothing much, just an "indent" due to the biting. But I looked a right MoFo in front of all the nurses, when I had to claim responsibility for biting her clit (particularly galling, since I am supposed to be an Olympic grade pussy eater.. with medals to show for it)..

The upshot was that she quit the LS. For the 2 and 1/2 years that our relationship survived after that, we did one 4 some where the other guy couldn't touch her (the guy's wife and we 2 played.. yes my GF loved a bit of bi play as you know).. and a swap with an old couple friend.

Everything in life can be stopped.. including the LS..

Amen.

[coastalkid]

I think that creampie eating after the bull comes in the wife is the thing that breaks the sexual bond between a wife and husband more than anything. I think as far as penis in vagina she'll want something else exclusively not the husband at some point. Not to say she won't have vaginal intercourse with the husband. It'll just never be the same. If she wants "fucked" it'll be elsewhere. Is there any going back? I do not know. Both of my cuckolding relationships ended without cycling back to me being exclusive with my ex wife or ex fiancée. My ex fiancée used to comment that her pussy no longer wanted me inside her but she allowed it as she thought we needed the intimacy. And she was right about that. I do think that is important to maintain if you go down this road.

I loved that older post of yours in this thread where you said that everything has a season- a season for sex, a season for cuckolding etc.. This encapsulates the LS succinctly.

In my case, my wife, after that one episode (MFM with the hubby first and then same room swapping with that couple, where my wife pretended she was on her periods, kept her panties on and gave him a BJ), had a meltdown! She freaked out in the end when I dozed off with the other wife after an excellent, mutual orgasm. We were in the same room. There was hell to pay for me and end of LS!
Ever since that shindig (it took place decades back), she has held it against me and that has been included in her armoury of weapons to be used in marital quarrels!

In my next long term relationship (extra marital).. my GF agreed to play right at the beginning.. within a month and a half of starting. After 9 odd months, one guy (in a swapping situation) fucked her rough and that put her off the whole thing for a year. But being a cuck queen, she enthusiastically encouraged me to play. Funnily that was ONE relationship where I was thoroughly faithful to my partner and had a helluva guilt trip when on a date with anyone else (while she had NO problems at all!)..
In that one year, we had a memorable, epoch making FMF 3 some with a girl from work.. That girl had a fiancé working out of town. It started with me seducing her one on one, in my office. Next day, my GF planned a session in the office after work (after folks left). I drove that girl- R- from another work site to our office. Brought her off in the car, while driving, strumming her clit with my left hand! Mother of all DUIs!
In the office, there was a binge to beat all binges! R came and came and came while I ate her and my GF sucked her nips. She was tutored by my GF (like a mentor) how to enjoy sex to the utmost.
But we became too greedy, offered to take her to a sea side resort for a weekend and the thing blew up at her home! Different story.

I and my GF resumed our playing in the LS after a year of her staying away from the stuff. It went on for 3 and 1/2 years of gala oo lala.. in every possible combination. Till that one night at a sex party. She was playing in a different room with a rough MoFO. I was with that guy's FWB in another room. In the middle of the night there was the king of all flaps! The bugger had bitten into her clit! She was bleeding like there was no tomorrow!
I, she and my friend (the host of the (party) rushed to the ER and got her clit treated! They said its nothing much, just an "indent" due to the biting. But I looked a right MoFo in front of all the nurses, when I had to claim responsibility for biting her clit (particularly galling, since I am supposed to be an Olympic grade pussy eater.. with medals to show for it)..

The upshot was that she quit the LS. For the 2 and 1/2 years that our relationship survived after that, we did one 4 some where the other guy couldn't touch her (the guy's wife and we 2 played.. yes my GF loved a bit of bi play as you know).. and a swap with an old couple friend.

Everything in life can be stopped.. including the LS..

Amen.

Exactly on point! If the negative experiences have a bigger and more lasting impression then it becomes anticipated and undesired. No one is motivated to re-experience a bad experience. That'd be like hearing someone say, "I sure look forward to waiting in line at the DMV (Department of Motor Vehicles) today!"

I agree with you about being able to quit anything. For me the hardest thing to quit is craving something that I dwell on the positive and choose to ignore the negative aspects of. If you make a statement about anything you do that says, "Well, it really wasn't that bad.", then logically it wasn't that good either. There's just not enough motivation for things that aren't "that good".

[MarshaA]

No going back for the husband.

[sandy691196]

Depends on how you look at things.. and what meaning you attach to events in life..

[bradisalpha]

Short answer is NO for the cuckold.

His hot wife might move on from the lifestyle for a number of reasons as have been mentioned here.. but unless an earth shattering event changed the lifestyle in his mind, a cuckold that has experienced the multifaceted affects of being cuckolded, will crave those feelings forever. Intense sexual feelings can never be replaced with lesser… psychologically or physically. In fact these desires might increase and need to be satisfied in other ways, as so often referred to in this forum !!!

Of course, this is only my opinion based on what I have seen in my experience with hot wife/cuckold couples…

[trecital]

"Once cuckolding begins is there any going back?"

Of course. Why not?
Having said that, as Brad said above, why would you want to 'downgrade' your emotional feelings?

[p_jimi]

I don't think there is a way back. If you really wanted your wife to fuck other people, and then she started fucking other people, it was a big mental struggle for you. If you went beyond that and said, if you've already fucked someone else, fuck more than once and with more people. This means at least as much joy and excitement for you as when your wife slept with someone else for the first time. At that point, you feel more pleasure, not pain, and you want your wife to fuck with other people as much as possible. However, your wife also begins to enjoy fucking with others more and more and will fuck more and more with others. In addition, she finds more and more sex partners who fuck much better than you. This knowledge can be very pleasant for you, but it also means that your wife will fuck you less and less often. This culminates in your wife announcing that she is no longer going to fuck you. I was 30 years old when my wife permanently denied me her pussy. After that, I never had my dick in a pussy again, while my wife regularly fucked other people.

[luvymayfly2]

I loved that older post of yours in this thread where you said that everything has a season- a season for sex, a season for cuckolding etc.. This encapsulates the LS succinctly.

Thank you. I'm very much in a dominant season at the moment. My ex-fiancee found out. And, guess what? She is sort of nudging herself into my life.

[sandy691196]

Great..so you are currently single?