Hotwives, where are you on the Love Spectrum 1-10 ?

[54321]

For us (and perhaps for others here), the rise of polyamory in popular culture was a big factor. Having ready access to information about people who are making poly work for them showed us what was possible beyond “just sex.” Now there are books, podcasts, and tv shows featuring women (and men, but that’s not relevant here) loving more than one person. Seeing that many people are able to make that work is reassuring.

Mm. Interesting. Is that a thing? Is there a trend of non monogamous couples generally becoming more comfortable with polyamory?
Perhaps other posters might like to comment.

So you and your wife have a polyamorous relationship. Do you have a thread on OHW?

I'm currently listening to a few videos of Molly Roden Winter on Youtube where she shares her experiences. She is currently in love with three people, her husband and two lovers who she has been seeing for three years and two years respectively.

54321

[Wooster]

So you and your wife have a polyamorous relationship. Do you have a thread on OHW?

There's a thread somewhere, I think.

I wouldn't call us polyamorous exactly, just that the idea of polyamory made us more open to what works for us. Polyamory to me implies some kind of egalitarian relationship, which is definitely not us. Rather, it was that if other people can make that type of relationship work for them, that was proof of concept for us that she could be in love with another man and still stay married to me. In our case, our needs converged on her having a real relationship with someone else. Now she has what makes her happy (a boyfriend for passion and a husband for comfort) and I have what makes me happy (a wife who has sex with another man). Works for us.

[UkCuckHubby]

When my wife has had regular lovers in the past it would be naive of me to expect no feelings or connection for him, after all they have shared many occasions of been locked in intimate passion together, explored together, orgasmed together and cuddled deeply together afterwards.
I fully expect that my wife finds him more attractive than me and ultimately wants him more than me, she has explored things with them that she would never do with me. Does that mean she has been in love? Quite possibly she has, but it's a different love.
My wife has often said to me that she loves me unconditionally and I am her rock, her lovers can't give her what I can as a husband.
However she counters that by saying that I can't give her what they do, which is the exciting wild passion that she experiences and there ability to both create and satisfy that rush.

[Angela Plays]

I selected #6, but my relationships the past couple of years have ranged from a 5-7.

If you’ve read my thread then you know I had a 10 relationship a few years ago, and it was a learning experience.

Since then all my relationships could be classified as very good FWB’s. I enjoy close relationships that fall into a place where you share intimate life details like a close friend would, but definitely fall short of the “in love with” level. I’ve need more than surface level connection to be fully engaged in a sexual way and get the most out of the sexual act. I believe it’s a trust thing. If I don’t really trust then I can completely give my body to a lover. But “Love”….that’s reserved for my husband.

[54321]

Thank you, Angela.

Your response is what I expected to hear from most hotwives but interestingly, it's now beginning to look like only about 50% of hotwives fit
the expected binomial distribution (most near the average and fewer near the fringes) but about 50% have chosen the polarised positions
of 'sex only' and 'unrestricted love'.

I wonder if some of the husbands are answering and telling us what they would prefer.
One way to find out would be to run this poll in the Ladies Lounge.
As a guy, I cannot post there. Would one of the Verified Hotwives like to do this and then show us the results?
I think it would be informative and beneficial for everyone.

Volunteers?

Best wishes,

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[Sexilexi]

Love is wild.

Love can mean so many things. It can be displayed in so many ways.

I love two men… but my love for them is different towards each.

That being said…. I do have the potential to have love for many many many men…. But I don’t want that.

So the men I fuck…. It’s sex only. Doesn’t mean it’s one night stands or anything. I would much rather put a wall up to keep it strictly sex only. We meet up we catch up we fuck then we say bye then do it again when time allows. It’s most fun that way… and I also would rather keep it that way because I don’t want men to love me in that way.


Love is wild…. And beautiful but can be messy…. So I stick to loving my two men and that’s it. lol

So not sure what number to vote.. what would you say I should vote ? A one?

-Lexi