Young married guy here

[trecital]

My opinion - Use Adam for a bit while it’s still hot, then go and find her a real bull with a bigger, thicker cock that will make her forget about Adam and means the dynamics will be a lot less messy.

A bigger, thicker cock? Doesn't Adam have one the size of a slim can of coke? That was already at the limits of thickness reported in surveys of cock size. Poor Lauren will have difficulty accomodating something thicker!
But, yes, maybe someone a bit more experienced in being a 'bull' for a couple, perhaps.

[Luigical1931]

My opinion - Use Adam for a bit while it’s still hot, then go and find her a real bull with a bigger, thicker cock that will make her forget about Adam and means the dynamics will be a lot less messy.

A bigger, thicker cock? Doesn't Adam have one the size of a slim can of coke? That was already at the limits of thickness reported in surveys of cock size. Poor Lauren will have difficulty accomodating something thicker!
But, yes, maybe someone a bit more experienced in being a 'bull' for a couple, perhaps.

Haha true. Maybe longer then

[jenisonherway6]

i imagine you a day into your break. you two have had a night of reconnecting and sleep. Lauren is awakened by a text. she sees that you are also awake.
L— can i?
D— yeh, go ahead.

has chastity ever crossed your mind? knowing that she has you locked while she plays may be another way to bring you into her awareness while she is doing the deed?

[joel68]

Yeah, the dynamics are really different here. Adam is a half-brother to Dan and to top it off is living rent free in their guest room.

He is not a normal fuck buddy that cones over to fuck Lauren. He is at their house even when they are not fucking. He eats dinner with them most nights.

This could get awkward, especially if he figures out Dan’s kink. I know Dan has said he would like to watch while Lauren gets fucked. He came close on Saturday, btw. In the event that Adam figures it out, then what? I do hope that during this pause that they address this as well.

Hot times ahead if they decide to get back to it.

[jenisonherway6]

RDR,
it could be that the solution is to sit Adam down and tell him that you know what is going on, that it was your idea all along, and that it is time that you, he, and Lauren talk openly about what it is that each of you want. of course, you would have had this conversation with Lauren beforehand so that you both would be on the same page.
have you discussed with Lauren the possibility of bringing the whole thing into the light?
does a lightly dom/sub situation regarding you and Adam appeal to you? from your previous inclinations toward cleaning up after him, this is hinted at.

imagine sitting down for a chill evening in front of the tv. instead of you and Adam on the couch and Lauren on the chair, she and Adam are on the couch. she absentmindedly plays with his hair. they speak softly together. Lauren comes to you to kiss you good night and then she takes Adam’s hand and leads him into his bedroom.

[Midnight Joker]

Lauren just needs to reassure RDR that this is just sex to her, as was the plan going back to the beginning. Lauren needs Adam to know that this is just scratching an itch for her as well. He'll get over whatever puppy love he's feeling right now. The naughtiness of the affair...the quickies or sneaking in at night...will keep the sex hot and that's all that is needed.

RDR doesn't want (he said) humiliation or feeling like less of a man. This was a kink for him and to get her some good sex that his current meds and anxiety made difficult for him to give her. Just keep it to sex, without any outings like the one that spooked RDR, and everything will be fine. Reclaim time is important, too.

[jenisonherway6]

it’s interesting to me, all the different personality types drawn to cuckoldry. my favorites are the searchers, those who are trying to find out something about themselves and their partner, who have an intention towards growth and discovery and aren’t cowed by difficult terrain. these are few and far between.
the most common type, the absolute bores, are the wannabe alphas who are always trying to top from the bottom. these you can spot by their tone. they see themselves as the sole authorities, the mansplainers. they’re here to tell everyone what’s what and to police the behavior of others.
Danny, be the former. ignore the latter. the more we try to control other people, the less we can grasp of them. like grabbing a fistful of water: the firmer we squeeze, the more it slips out of our fingers.
no one, least of all the women we love, can completely disentangle their emotions from the intimacy we encourage. fighting to control this, to impose rules, is a fool’s game, like fighting the waves to hold onto the sand. better to ride the waves.
this is all to say, take all of this advice for what it is: lonely men trying to play director of someone else’s movie.

[wannabecUKold]

the most common type, the absolute bores, are the wannabe alphas who are always trying to top from the bottom. these you can spot by their tone. they see themselves as the sole authorities, the mansplainers. they’re here to tell everyone what’s what and to police the behavior of others.
...
lonely men trying to play director of someone else’s movie.

I presume I fall into this category (hint: see username).
But in my experience on OHW there is always a wide range of advice and opinion, much of it well informed by life and marriage experience. These posts are valuable, even the ones I don't agree with. The OP can thus see what fits his situation.
For my part I hope people carry on posting.
Sorry to be a bore.

[jenisonherway6]

“ I presume I fall into this category (hint: see username).” —- wannabecUKold

that’s a presumption, but being a wannabe cuck is kind of the opposite of being a wannabe alpha.

i try not to make presumptions about folks here. i ask questions, prodding questions. i present my evidence for why i feel to ask, making my questions less presumptive, more assumptive, but still, these are questions, not declarations. i don’t assume to know what the OP thinks or knows. i offer my perspective.
you haven’t been a bore from my observation.

[trecital]

... the more we try to control other people, the less we can grasp of them. like grabbing a fistful of water: the firmer we squeeze, the more it slips out of our fingers.
..... like fighting the waves to hold onto the sand. better to ride the waves.
this is all to say, take all of this advice for what it is: lonely men trying to play director of someone else’s movie.

So profound......

Did you find these in Xmas crackers or fortune cookies....

And this, from the same person who sent me a pm saying "go fuck yourself".
You couldn't make it up

[Gearup]

i imagine you a day into your break. you two have had a night of reconnecting and sleep. Lauren is awakened by a text. she sees that you are also awake.
L— can i?
D— yeh, go ahead.

wouldn't that be fun

[playwifeplease]

So, Lauren has now essentially been ‘banned’ from ‘eating the forbidden apple’, for a 'few days', but the big questions is:

How long before Lauren needs to again taste the forbidden fruit, will temptation lure her away, and will Danny awaken in the middle of the night to find Lauren missing from their marital bed?

If all she needs is Adam’s massive cock and the sensation of being properly fucked in a way that Danny could never do, then, “Mission Accomplished”.

But, the cheating, and mis-trust would surely creep in? I don't think the "I've been a bad girl" would suffice?

Very, very interesting times ahead..

[Gearup]

really looking forward to Danny's next update as yes, these are interesting times.

Adam will have texted Lauren, perhaps multiple times, calling her to come to his bed. According to Danny, she rarely responds. Her drive to fuck is high as is Adam's. Remember he has likely received the results of his test by now so he wants to fuck her without a condom and we all know, should it get to that point, she will likely open up and take him bare.

and what about Danny. He got his wish but may now be having buyers remorse - i really feel for him and hope he is ok.

The tension and angst is amazing as is Danny and Lauren's journey. I love following this thread.

[RunDannyRun]

Hi!

First off, Lauren and I are good. I might have over reacted to their closeness.

After I asked Lauren to spend the next few days with me, I started to make some dinner. Adam came a bit later and I asked him if he wants some. He told me that he already ate but he won’t say no to my pasta. No wonder he is 245 lbs now. Adam was looking at Lauren but she didn’t meet his gaze.

After the dinner, I moved onto the couch to watch some TV along with Adam, then Lauren told me that she will continue with her book. Adam and I decided to watch a movie instead and it was around 11:00 pm by the time we finished.

I went into our room only to find Lauren deep asleep. I was also feeling tired and decided to just go to bed.

Yesterday was a workday for all of us and I made some coffee for Adam and myself before he left for work. I had a very good day at work. My skip manager called me out of blue and asked if I had a few moments to chat. I was a bit worried but I said yes. He was smiling and I was relived. He told me that my work is not going unnoticed and I was one of the best performers in the team. I cringed when I reflexively asked, “are you sure?”. He laughed and told me to expect a good bonus and a pay bump. I was ecstatic. I told Lauren and she was super happy for me.

I decided to make a very nice meal in the evening. Adam asked me what were we celebrating and I told him about my review. He congratulated me. We had the dinner and watched TV for some time. I announced that I am going to bed and hinted at Lauren to follow me.

We both took turns in the bathroom and cleaned up for bed. Lauren joined me in the bed and I kissed her. She was also enthusiastic in kissing me back. I stripped her off her clothes and kissed her boobs. I still like how perky her nipples get when they are shown slightest attention. I soon started eating her out. I did not notice anything different in her pussy. After 15-20 minutes, I got her to cum. I like that she tried to push me into her pussy to encourage me to eat her. I don’t remember her being this enthusiastic. I took a break and tried to get her to cum again by eating her out and it in another 15 minutes she came again. I took some Cialis 45 minutes before and I was ready to go. I tried to be rough. I tried to fuck her hard but it was all in vain as I came within 3 minutes. I felt super disappointed. I thought I would last more. I thought Lauren wanted to ask me a question immediately after I came but she was silent. I could see the disappointment in her face. She didn’t say anything. She just pulled me to kiss me and we cuddled before she left to the bathroom to clean up. She came back and turned to my side

L: Is everything okay?

I just shrugged and didn’t really want to answer that

L: are you trying to be like Adam?

She can be very perceptive. She looked into me and said,

L: I love you. I have always loved you and I will forever love you. Don’t be like Adam. You are still the same person that I first fell in love with. I always want you to be that person. I can never have the kind of conversations that I have with you with Adam. He is better than you at sex but sex is just a small part of my life. It doesn’t define me. I am not addicted to it. One look at an art museum and his brain instantly switches off. I am not calling him dumb. He is smart and has encyclopedic knowledge about trucks, guns and some gym stuff - none of which I care about. I still so many fond memories of our museum visits. He would never travel to Europe. He will never read a book. He thinks Tucker Carlson’s YouTube rants are highbrow commentary. I can go on and on about how you are different than him and that is why I like you.

I was not sure what to say at this point of time. I then confessed about my jealous feelings over the photo.

L: It was just a photo. I sent it as I thought I looked nice in my hiking boots. I like him better than before but I love you and will always love you. You are stuck with me till the end.

She knew I still had something in my mind and asked me to spill.

A: Do you think you can sleep with him only twice a week?

L: I made myself clear in the beginning, before I got into this whole thing, that I want to be free and I want to take things at my own pace, and I do not want you to control anything. But I can see how this is affecting you and I am okay with these boundaries.

I was actually surprised that she agreed. I didn’t want to push my luck further. We kissed and went to bed.

Adam sent her a dick pic today and asked her “Miss my big cock?” She showed the text to me and I am fairly certain he took that photo sometime ago as it was in my house.

She didn’t say anything back. But I think we are at a good place now. I think Lauren has a soft spot for him but she loves me and that is very clear to me

[Gearup]

great news. Happy for both of you.

also, no shame with your bedroom performance. making her cum twice and fucking her is a pretty good effort for most. stop comparing your self to Adam. You too could have got it up again after refreshing. You are doing great.

[RunDannyRun]

We have also finalized our holiday plans.

We are visiting Lauren’s parents for Christmas. We will be there from 24th evening to 28th. Lauren’s sister is also visiting her and some of her friends. So she will be busy. I am also going to use this break to recharge with some trail running here and there.

On 29th, we are having a boys day. My stepdad, Adam and his three sons, Jason and his son and I will be going for a small hike, lunch and spend the evening at our home.

I also learnt that my stepdad and Jason are no longer single and they have girlfriends. I knew this when I invited them to spend the new years eve with us and they asked me if they can bring their girlfriends too. So not a lot of action is expected between Adam and Lauren towards the end of the year.

[Luigical1931]

Glad you two seem to be in a good place.

What’s the reason for twice a week? Is that to get a bit of control back in the situation?

When are we looking at next then? Is it going to be a schedule or just when they want to?

What did she make of the dick pic? Have you seen it?

Any news on his test results yet? Or will that not matter anyway.

I’m yet to even think of Christmas properly! So props to you. Leave it to the other half, but still need to get all presents and even decide what to get. Always becomes a mess with me running round just before Christmas!

[RunDannyRun]

Glad you two seem to be in a good place.

What’s the reason for twice a week? Is that to get a bit of control back in the situation?

I actually thought she would negotiate and maybe we end up at 3 -4 times a week but she accepted my first offer

When are we looking at next then? Is it going to be a schedule or just when they want to?

Not yet decided but i think it won't be tonight.

What did she make of the dick pic? Have you seen it?

She asked me who sends dick pics to women these days? Yes I had seen it. I regretted immediately.

Any news on his test results yet? Or will that not matter anyway.

He sent them to her a few days ago. He is clean. but she will insist on condoms.

I’m yet to even think of Christmas properly! So props to you. Leave it to the other half, but still need to get all presents and even decide what to get. Always becomes a mess with me running round just before Christmas!

I absolutely love planning and coordinating. Calendar is my most used app . I already ordered all the gifts too.

[joel68]

Glad you guys are in a good place. So Lauren is going to continue to have Adam fuck her. But only twice a week. I guess that will be ok.

I am just wondering if you discussed for the next time she has him fuck her if she could leave the door slightly ajar when she goes into his room. That way if you go downstairs with her you will be able to hear them clearer. And, MAYBE, when things are really heating up you could push it open a little more and sneak a peek. You did say you early on you wanted to watch Lauren get fucked. Just a thought of something you could consider.

I do realize that the last two sessions with Lauren and Adam were not really planned. But if you know that they are going to fuck later on early in the evening, maybe you could come here and give us a heads up that she is going to get it that night. Just another thought.

Good luck this week. Congrats on your work news. And also that you and Lauren are on the best of terms.

[Luigical1931]

From a work point of view I’m all over planning Danny, most organised person ever. Probably similar to you with the apps on my phone to plan. Get home and I just go with the flow. Like to just stop taking any responsibility for anything once I get home!

Would you have been open to 3-4 days a week? At least it gives her the opportunity to up it at times. I thought once in the week, then Friday and Saturday with the Sunday being a chance for you to reconnect (while he has family time) seemed like a good idea.

Why did you regret seeing the dick pic?

Interesting he’s got the results. Reckon they will continue to use condoms? What are your thoughts if they don’t? At least he’s clean so it removes some of the worry.

Where’s your head at now? Feel a bit better now that you’ve spoke and had the chance to reconnect and reclaim? I agree, good work on your oral skills Danny. Getting her to cum twice within 30 minutes isn’t an easy feet.

[Midnight Joker]

RDR...awesome update! I'm happy that you reconnected and Lauren reassured you that you're the only man for her. Good to see she is respecting your feelings, another sign of her love for you, but hinting (not so subtlety) that she wants to meet her sexual needs at her pace and choosing. Also, glad to see you want her to keep going to him for sex! You had me worried for a bit, LOL.

In the meantime, your fellow cuckolds and wannabees will be cheering you on and anxiously awaiting the next time she sneaks off to get cock. Any chance that she might allow Adam to cum in her without a condom, even if just once? Would you be OK with that, too?

You're living the dream!

[Luigical1931]

Also yeah, congratulations on your work!

Shows those sleeping tablets really helped, eh?

I’ve got a big day coming up myself this week with regards to work/promotion, so hopefully a sign of things to come… just don’t distract me too much Danny!!!!!

[Midnight Joker]

I was not sure what to say at this point of time. I then confessed about my jealous feelings over the photo.

L: It was just a photo. I sent it as I thought I looked nice in my hiking boots. I like him better than before but I love you and will always love you. You are stuck with me till the end.

That was funny in its own way. We're all reading into that photo and she's thinking, "honey, do I look good in these hiking boots?'. Something to really laugh about when you look back on it.

[RunDannyRun]

From a work point of view I’m all over planning Danny, most organised person ever. Probably similar to you with the apps on my phone to plan. Get home and I just go with the flow. Like to just stop taking any responsibility for anything once I get home!

Would you have been open to 3-4 days a week? At least it gives her the opportunity to up it at times. I thought once in the week, then Friday and Saturday with the Sunday being a chance for you to reconnect (while he has family time) seemed like a good idea.

Why did you regret seeing the dick pic?

Interesting he’s got the results. Reckon they will continue to use condoms? What are your thoughts if they don’t? At least he’s clean so it removes some of the worry.

Where’s your head at now? Feel a bit better now that you’ve spoke and had the chance to reconnect and reclaim? I agree, good work on your oral skills Danny. Getting her to cum twice within 30 minutes isn’t an easy feet.

I think 2 days a week is good balance for me. I won't get too anxious and Lauren also kind of hinted that her sleep is getting affected. So I think she is also okay with 2 days a week too.

I regret seeing it because it makes me feel inadequate. I am surprised that there are men that do not trim/shave their pubes. It looked like a forest down there.

I am totally okay with them not using condoms. I know how irritating they are. I think Lauren is the one with the mental block here.

Honestly I feel much better. I am glad I had the chat and we had sex. I think I was just over-thinking a lot of things but I probably would be over it by now even if I had not talked to Lauren about my feelings. Time heals all anxiety yada yada..

[Luigical1931]

Maybe get Lauren to get him to trim that forest. Suppose be weary that it will look even bigger if he does!

Can you see why she’s intrigued by it though?

Glad you’re feeling better with the whole situation.

Any thoughts of what you will do next time they get together? Sleep it off and wait to hear the details, go outside the room again, or something else? Maybe give them an opportunity while you’re away again?