Guys that have been both bull and cuckold: Which is more enjoyable?

[hubudig2]

I've heard a lot from cucks that used to be bulls that being cucked is much more thrilling and enjoyable.
I'm interested how many people have a counter-opinion to that.

Cucks that were bulls in the past:
- Did you find the idea of being cucked to be a turn on back then?
- How did the transition happen?

Bulls that were cucks in the past:
- Do you still find the idea of being cucked to be a turn on?

Guys that do both:
- How does that work? Do you feel the enjoyment from the other guy regardless of which role you're in?

[Tommy]

I have been in mmf threesomes with my wife and her lovers, and also with other couples. So I guess I was a cuck in the former, and a bull in the latter situations. To me, the cuck/bull dynamics were not the most important or enjoyable factor. It's the male-female ratio that makes it work for me.

I've also participated in foursomes, couple swaps, and mff threesomes. But of all these configurations, the mmf works best, simply because a woman can accommodate more partners than a man can, and can appreciate the attention from them all simultaneously. Put another way in simple terms, two or three guys can fuck a woman at the same time; but one guy cannot fuck two women at once. To me, it's as if nature created women to have multiple men simultaneously; but not the other way around. The same works for consecutive partners: a woman can accommodate one man after another after another, satisfy them all, and perhaps orgasm with them all. A mere mortal man cannot do this.

To return to the original question: Having to choose between cuck or bull, I would choose cuck. Probably because the created memories and hot reminiscences could be shared with my wife long afterward.

[ucaneffher]

Ironically most of the women that I have turned into my girlfriends, all had boyfriends or were being courted by other men upon my entry into their life. I always came out on top and indirectly stole them from these other men. I cannot think of any long term ex gf who was single or not dating another man.

Despite being the preferred choice by these girls over their boyfriends or other candidates, in the end I always wound up wanting another man to return the favor and steal my girlfriend for a bit. I enjoy being dominant outside of the bedroom but a side of me prefers having to adjust to my partner's infidelity while she is off to be with other men.

[stonemtncouple]

Cucks that were bulls in the past:
- Did you find the idea of being cucked to be a turn on back then?
Kinda but I had a prudish wife that wasn’t into sex at all so that led me to cheat on her with Hotwives, single women really any woman who wanted to fuck I was eager to.
- How did the transition happen?
Non committed sex thats purely recreational is fun but left a hollow feeling inside. I longed for a emotional connection with and to a kinky woman who shared my love for all things erotic.
Divorced the prude and after 5 long years of searching found the love of my life my Dream Hotwife come true!
She loves being my Hotwife and getting fucked for her and my pleasure. We have so much fun!

[luvwives999]

Over our many years of being together, I have had my share of women, both married and single. I have had 2 relationships, one with a married woman, one a single woman for over 10 years each. Obviously, the sex was great. My wife has had 5 guys over the same period, all much shorter timewise. I knew about all my wife's sexual liaisons,and fully supported them. At the age of 49, and my wife being 47, we went to a couples club for the first time. We ended up going every saturday night for 5 years and really enjoyed it. While I enjoyed both being a bull and a cuck, I can say without reservation that being a cuck was a more enjoyable experience. Here are highlights for me from over the years. We had our first MFM 3 months after we were married, and the next morning my wife telling me how much she enjoyed having his cock in her. Her first real "boyfriend" was from out of town, and she would spend weekends with him. The first weekend when he was in town, she didn't stay over with him, that came after. But what a total turn-on when she called me at work Monday morning to tell me she wasn't coming in, she obviously worked with me, because he was leaving that day, and she needed to go sit on his cock before he left. Or another weekend when he came to town and she spent the entire weekend with him at his motel,and came home got naked and as soon as I touched her pussy, she said to me, you love touching my pussy after another man's big cock was inside me. Ok back to the couple's clubs, and here is when I knew that I'd rather be a cuck than a bull. At 49, it was a great ego boast to have very attractive younger women wanting me. A 28 year old came up to me and said, you're the oldest guy I ever wanted to fuck. Another time, one of the hottest women I ever saw laid down next to me naked, and said, I am here naked for you. In case you are interested, I did not fuck either one of them, my priority was watching my wife. My favorite memories of the club years was watching my wife dancing in just a thong, and seeing men running their hands all over her body. However, no1 on my hit parade was watching younger men, passionately kissing her, her melting into their bodies and giving herself to them completely. Watching them undress her fondle her, go down on her, it didn't get any better than that.

[theothercuck]

I've heard a lot from cucks that used to be bulls that being cucked is much more thrilling and enjoyable.
I'm interested how many people have a counter-opinion to that.

Bulls that were cucks in the past:
- Do you still find the idea of being cucked to be a turn on?

Guys that do both:
- How does that work? Do you feel the enjoyment from the other guy regardless of which role you're in?

I was a cuck, I'm a bull now. Yes, I love what my ex-wife did. I don't like to admit it publicly, due to the stigma, but the idea of being totally devoted to that woman's sexual pleasure why she receives as much as she can handle is thrilling, taboo and jealousy-inducing. I like other men to wish they were me in having as much sex with her as I do. I like other men to please her more than I do. I am totally in love with her sex and love to be the guy that has it with her the most.

I'm not sure what you mean by how it works. I enjoy the taboo aspect of cuckolding, I enjoy getting to taste the forbidden fruit. When I was a cuck, I seldom thought about his pleasure, only my wife's. I mostly thought of his jealousy, wishing he were me. As a bull, as long as he isn't acting weird like a submissive loser in front of me, I really don't care. I'm intellectually curious how he feels while I do it. But sexually, I just get off to his beautiful wife or girlfriend. It's not unlike seeing a boob, to be honest. Here's something you're not supposed to see, but here it is anyway. Here's something you're not supposed to have, but have it anyway. It's the taboo nature of it that's a turn on.

[bltn1966]

I wanted Marie to be a HW before I knew what a HW was. First we got into swinging. The first couple we were with gave us a great introduction to the swinger lifestyle. The husband gave me a great view of his cock pounding my wife. He also made sure I got a great view of her sucking his cock. In the beginning couples were interested in us because of my sexy little wife. Then couples started asking for me because I had a real BBC. The crazy thing was Marie loved it when couples would solely ask for me to fulfill their BBC fantasy. There were a few times Marie would set me up with a couple.

I like fulfilling couples BBC fantasy. I’ve had sex with beautiful ladies, of different races, in front of their husband. Whenever I was the bull I did the same thing to their wives that the first husband did to Marie. I made sure to gave the husband a great view of my Black dick pumping I and out of their wives. I also made sure their wives had plenty of orgasms. As much as I liked it, I preferred watching someone fucking Marie to one of her over the top body shaking orgasms.

I truly don’t consider myself to be a cuck. We’re not into a guy trying to humiliate me or anything like that. She’s only been with one guy that had a longer cock than mine. I’m just a guy that loves watching someone fuck my multi orgasmic wife. Her orgasms are a thing of beauty.

[isinlarsa]

I've been cucked by four different women. I've fucked five married women. Three of their husbands knew. I've found it hotter to be cucked.

[hubudig2]

I'm not sure what you mean by how it works. I enjoy the taboo aspect of cuckolding, I enjoy getting to taste the forbidden fruit. When I was a cuck, I seldom thought about his pleasure, only my wife's. I mostly thought of his jealousy, wishing he were me. As a bull, as long as he isn't acting weird like a submissive loser in front of me, I really don't care. I'm intellectually curious how he feels while I do it. But sexually, I just get off to his beautiful wife or girlfriend. It's not unlike seeing a boob, to be honest. Here's something you're not supposed to see, but here it is anyway. Here's something you're not supposed to have, but have it anyway. It's the taboo nature of it that's a turn on.

Yeah, that's what I was asking and curious about.
So for me, I get off on the couple's submission, being watched and a bunch of other psychological things that would be difficult to explain.
I couldn't picture how someone could get off on that but also get off on it being the other way around.
You said, as a bull, you don't really care about the other guy so it makes more sense how you could enjoy both.

It's interesting that you like to consider the bull is jealous of you as the cuck, I can't say I've ever felt that way.
I am jealous of the cuckolding journey that couples share though.
Being a bull for other couples isn't something I can share with my own wife in the same way.

[theothercuck]

I'm not sure what you mean by how it works. I enjoy the taboo aspect of cuckolding, I enjoy getting to taste the forbidden fruit. When I was a cuck, I seldom thought about his pleasure, only my wife's. I mostly thought of his jealousy, wishing he were me. As a bull, as long as he isn't acting weird like a submissive loser in front of me, I really don't care. I'm intellectually curious how he feels while I do it. But sexually, I just get off to his beautiful wife or girlfriend. It's not unlike seeing a boob, to be honest. Here's something you're not supposed to see, but here it is anyway. Here's something you're not supposed to have, but have it anyway. It's the taboo nature of it that's a turn on.

Yeah, that's what I was asking and curious about.
So for me, I get off on the couple's submission, being watched and a bunch of other psychological things that would be difficult to explain.
I couldn't picture how someone could get off on that but also get off on it being the other way around.
You said, as a bull, you don't really care about the other guy so it makes more sense how you could enjoy both.

It's interesting that you like to consider the bull is jealous of you as the cuck, I can't say I've ever felt that way.
I am jealous of the cuckolding journey that couples share though.
Being a bull for other couples isn't something I can share with my own wife in the same way.

It's more that I can't think about the cuck during because then I'd become jealous of him. Certainly not jealous in the moment, but jealous because this incredible experience I'm having is something he does all the time.

[Rogueuser1]

I've heard a lot from cucks that used to be bulls that being cucked is much more thrilling and enjoyable.
I'm interested how many people have a counter-opinion to that.

Bulls that were cucks in the past:
- Do you still find the idea of being cucked to be a turn on?

Guys that do both:
- How does that work? Do you feel the enjoyment from the other guy regardless of which role you're in?

I was a cuck, I'm a bull now. Yes, I love what my ex-wife did. I don't like to admit it publicly, due to the stigma, but the idea of being totally devoted to that woman's sexual pleasure why she receives as much as she can handle is thrilling, taboo and jealousy-inducing. I like other men to wish they were me in having as much sex with her as I do. I like other men to please her more than I do. I am totally in love with her sex and love to be the guy that has it with her the most.

I'm not sure what you mean by how it works. I enjoy the taboo aspect of cuckolding, I enjoy getting to taste the forbidden fruit. When I was a cuck, I seldom thought about his pleasure, only my wife's. I mostly thought of his jealousy, wishing he were me. As a bull, as long as he isn't acting weird like a submissive loser in front of me, I really don't care. I'm intellectually curious how he feels while I do it. But sexually, I just get off to his beautiful wife or girlfriend. It's not unlike seeing a boob, to be honest. Here's something you're not supposed to see, but here it is anyway. Here's something you're not supposed to have, but have it anyway. It's the taboo nature of it that's a turn on.

I know when you were a cuck several of your friends fucked your wife- for those you are now cuckimg are any of them from your friend group? Does anyone you are currently a bull for know you were a cuck?

How about your own love life - are you just bulling now? Any serious relationships for you? Would you be a cuck again?

[njcpl2005]

Hi from NJ. My wife does cuck me and on occasion I have played bull to a couple we know. I enjoy both but being cucked is more erotic for me. Any others in a similar exp?

[theothercuck]

I know when you were a cuck several of your friends fucked your wife- for those you are now cuckimg are any of them from your friend group? Does anyone you are currently a bull for know you were a cuck?

How about your own love life - are you just bulling now? Any serious relationships for you? Would you be a cuck again?

I am returning the favour! Not all of my friends who cucked me what it returned, but a few did. For the most part I just tell people my wife and I had an open relationship, neither one of us wanted the humiliation that I wasn't allowed to see other woman.

I had a serious relationship, I mentioned it to her after a year, and she really liked the idea of me staying monogamous while she sees other people. Nothing ever came of it before we broke up.

[allways]

From the age of 19 until 30 when I met my wife I played with about 30 other couples where the husbands liked to watch and wank. This was back in the 70's before aids so was all bareback. The first was a 50+ couple who seduced me. Over the next ten years using swinging contact magazines via snail mail I had two seperate lives. Swinging and Vanilla dating so had plenty of sex but I was looking for a long term relationship with a partner who also was ameniable to swaping partners.

With the couples I was discreet could write a coherent polite erotic letter, never sent cock photos unless asked.It was much easier then as a single male, with snail mail... slower to hook up but I think also easier for couples to sort through the genuine and the idiots.

Whe I met my wife I was besotted with her from the first date and early on I realised if she knew about my past she wouldn't marry me. I can remember being at the alter saying my vows and thinking well one door is closing and another is opening I knew my days of playing with other husbands wives was over. What I never dreamed would occur is I would love being cuckolded but thats another story. Sometimes reality is stranger than fiction

[luvymayfly2]

I think a lot of cuckolding is another version of good pain masking bad pain. I've enjoyed being cuckolded in the past but mostly been a Dom. They both work. Cuckolding is more about chasing a high all the time though.

[isinlarsa]

From the age of 19 until 30 when I met my wife I played with about 30 other couples where the husbands liked to watch and wank. This was back in the 70's before aids so was all bareback. The first was a 50+ couple who seduced me. Over the next ten years using swinging contact magazines via snail mail I had two seperate lives. Swinging and Vanilla dating so had plenty of sex but I was looking for a long term relationship with a partner who also was ameniable to swaping partners.

With the couples I was discreet could write a coherent polite erotic letter, never sent cock photos unless asked.It was much easier then as a single male, with snail mail... slower to hook up but I think also easier for couples to sort through the genuine and the idiots.

Whe I met my wife I was besotted with her from the first date and early on I realised if she knew about my past she wouldn't marry me. I can remember being at the alter saying my vows and thinking well one door is closing and another is opening I knew my days of playing with other husbands wives was over. What I never dreamed would occur is I would love being cuckolded but thats another story. Sometimes reality is stranger than fiction

When you married your wife did you have any idea that she would later cuckold you?

[hubudig2]

What I never dreamed would occur is I would love being cuckolded but thats another story. Sometimes reality is stranger than fiction

Would love to hear that story if you're willing to tell it.

[MartasBoy]

I've heard a lot from cucks that used to be bulls that being cucked is much more thrilling and enjoyable......

...Guys that do both:
- How does that work? Do you feel the enjoyment from the other guy regardless of which role you're in?

I have tried to act like a bull for my wife but have failed at it anytime I've tried.
My wife has always said that she married me because she knew I would be a good father, and a dependable husband. She didn't think the sex would be that important to her.

I have always felt intimidated by women, particularly at the moment of intercourse. I have what I call Shy Penis Syndrome. I can get very aroused by making out, and I get hard and erect, but the minute I try to insert, my shyness about the whole thing kicks in, and I immediately lose my erection. I need help to get erect again and try to insert again. Even on the times when I am ultimately successful at coming inside of her, it usually happens several times that I lose my erection, and need her to help me get hard again.

My wife told me that what excites her the most with the very Alpha men she has been with, is to be taken rather forcefully. She likes for her Bull to toss her over her his shoulder, toss her on the bed, pin her arms above her head, spread her legs with his knees, and enter her. She likes to struggle a little and play hard to get.

I have tried doing it for her that way. I can pin her arms above her head, but I struggle to force your legs open. And by the time I do, I lose my erection. And then I have to let go of her arms so she can help me get erect again. Then we go back into the role play with, me trying to take her forcefully. Each time, I lose my erection, and need her help, to help me get hard again. She usually just gets frustrated and gives me a handjob, and then finishes herself with her vibrator.

So I have never been able to perform as a Bull.

Sometimes, when she has had a Bull ask her why she likes to have sex with somebody other than her husband, and they have agreed that I will be allowed to watch, she will demonstrate. She will masturbate me to get me hard, and tell me that she's going to let me come inside of her. Then she tells me to come and get it. When I try to role play taking her forcefully, I lose my erection. She will get me hard again and, again I lose my erection. She will tell me to get off of her and then say to the Bull, "Does that give you an idea of why I bring men home?" Usually they are rock hard at this point, from watching my feeble attempt to try. She will send me away, and ask him to take her.

I've tried, and I am just not cut out to be a Bull.

[allways]

From the age of 19 until 30 when I met my wife I played with about 30 other couples where the husbands liked to watch and wank. This was back in the 70's before aids so was all bareback. The first was a 50+ couple who seduced me. Over the next ten years using swinging contact magazines via snail mail I had two seperate lives. Swinging and Vanilla dating so had plenty of sex but I was looking for a long term relationship with a partner who also was ameniable to swaping partners.

With the couples I was discreet could write a coherent polite erotic letter, never sent cock photos unless asked.It was much easier then as a single male, with snail mail... slower to hook up but I think also easier for couples to sort through the genuine and the idiots.

Whe I met my wife I was besotted with her from the first date and early on I realised if she knew about my past she wouldn't marry me. I can remember being at the alter saying my vows and thinking well one door is closing and another is opening I knew my days of playing with other husbands wives was over. What I never dreamed would occur is I would love being cuckolded but thats another story. Sometimes reality is stranger than fiction

When you married your wife did you have any idea that she would later cuckold you?

That is a very penetrating question. I didn't but the lead up I should have. My future wife was dating another guy. Her mum really liked me and did not approve of her current boyfriend. Her family were Catholics and her then boyfriend was divorced. I had met her mum at a party at my future wife's family home and I was besotted with her and her mum could see that and really liked me.

I was so besotted with her that when she two timed her boyfriend and went on a date with me i proposed to her over dinner our first date . Of course she knocked me back but immediately ended her relationship with him and dated me exclusively. What she didn't tell me is prior to meeting me her ex and her had booked a one week campervan holiday to Tasmania for later in the year and she had paid her share many months before.

When she told me a few weeks out of the pre arranged holiday with him I wasn't happy and her mum was outraged but she refused to back down.
It wasn't a deal breaker as at that stage she knew nothing about my sordid past and I was being petulant not letting her sow her wild oats one last time. Up to the time she met me she had only had sex with three guys me included.

Years later she admitted that her ex was packing a bazooka and she loved the sex with him but wasn't marriage material so she went on the hoiiday and he had her every night.I was the bird in the hand and she gave him her bush multiple times

When she got back from the week away I fronted up to her mums house to greet her with a dozen roses. From that day on her mum was on my side.
What I did know even then was she loved sex with me and couldn't get enough of me. To this day ages M71 and F67 she rarely knocks me back.

Fast forward a couple of years we married and a year later went to Canada to visit my parents in Toronto. While in Western Canada I took a photo of her with a Royal mounted Canadian Police man (RCMP). I teased her incessantly about how she creamed her jeans standing next to him. It was another year before she discovered about my sexual kinky past.

[isinlarsa]

From the age of 19 until 30 when I met my wife I played with about 30 other couples where the husbands liked to watch and wank. This was back in the 70's before aids so was all bareback. The first was a 50+ couple who seduced me. Over the next ten years using swinging contact magazines via snail mail I had two seperate lives. Swinging and Vanilla dating so had plenty of sex but I was looking for a long term relationship with a partner who also was ameniable to swaping partners.

With the couples I was discreet could write a coherent polite erotic letter, never sent cock photos unless asked.It was much easier then as a single male, with snail mail... slower to hook up but I think also easier for couples to sort through the genuine and the idiots.

Whe I met my wife I was besotted with her from the first date and early on I realised if she knew about my past she wouldn't marry me. I can remember being at the alter saying my vows and thinking well one door is closing and another is opening I knew my days of playing with other husbands wives was over. What I never dreamed would occur is I would love being cuckolded but thats another story. Sometimes reality is stranger than fiction

When you married your wife did you have any idea that she would later cuckold you?

That is a very penetrating question. I didn't but the lead up I should have. My future wife was dating another guy. Her mum really liked me and did not approve of her current boyfriend. Her family were Catholics and her then boyfriend was divorced. I had met her mum at a party at my future wife's family home and I was besotted with her and her mum could see that and really liked me.

I was so besotted with her that when she two timed her boyfriend and went on a date with me i proposed to her over dinner our first date . Of course she knocked me back but immediately ended her relationship with him and dated me exclusively. What she didn't tell me is prior to meeting me her ex and her had booked a one week campervan holiday to Tasmania for later in the year and she had paid her share many months before.

When she told me a few weeks out of the pre arranged holiday with him I wasn't happy and her mum was outraged but she refused to back down.
It wasn't a deal breaker as at that stage she knew nothing about my sordid past and I was being petulant not letting her sow her wild oats one last time. Up to the time she met me she had only had sex with three guys me included.

Years later she admitted that her ex was packing a bazooka and she loved the sex with him but wasn't marriage material so she went on the hoiiday and he had her every night.I was the bird in the hand and she gave him her bush multiple times

When she got back from the week away I fronted up to her mums house to greet her with a dozen roses. From that day on her mum was on my side.
What I did know even then was she loved sex with me and couldn't get enough of me. To this day ages M71 and F67 she rarely knocks me back.

Fast forward a couple of years we married and a year later went to Canada to visit my parents in Toronto. While in Western Canada I took a photo of her with a Royal mounted Canadian Police man (RCMP). I teased her incessantly about how she creamed her jeans standing next to him. It was another year before she discovered about my sexual kinky past.

How did she react to your previous life as a bull? Did she ever do another man during your marriage?

[allways]

From the age of 19 until 30 when I met my wife I played with about 30 other couples where the husbands liked to watch and wank. This was back in the 70's before aids so was all bareback. The first was a 50+ couple who seduced me. Over the next ten years using swinging contact magazines via snail mail I had two seperate lives. Swinging and Vanilla dating so had plenty of sex but I was looking for a long term relationship with a partner who also was ameniable to swaping partners.

With the couples I was discreet could write a coherent polite erotic letter, never sent cock photos unless asked.It was much easier then as a single male, with snail mail... slower to hook up but I think also easier for couples to sort through the genuine and the idiots.

Whe I met my wife I was besotted with her from the first date and early on I realised if she knew about my past she wouldn't marry me. I can remember being at the alter saying my vows and thinking well one door is closing and another is opening I knew my days of playing with other husbands wives was over. What I never dreamed would occur is I would love being cuckolded but thats another story. Sometimes reality is stranger than fiction

When you married your wife did you have any idea that she would later cuckold you?

That is a very penetrating question. I didn't but the lead up I should have. My future wife was dating another guy. Her mum really liked me and did not approve of her current boyfriend. Her family were Catholics and her then boyfriend was divorced. I had met her mum at a party at my future wife's family home and I was besotted with her and her mum could see that and really liked me.

I was so besotted with her that when she two timed her boyfriend and went on a date with me i proposed to her over dinner our first date . Of course she knocked me back but immediately ended her relationship with him and dated me exclusively. What she didn't tell me is prior to meeting me her ex and her had booked a one week campervan holiday to Tasmania for later in the year and she had paid her share many months before.

When she told me a few weeks out of the pre arranged holiday with him I wasn't happy and her mum was outraged but she refused to back down.
It wasn't a deal breaker as at that stage she knew nothing about my sordid past and I was being petulant not letting her sow her wild oats one last time. Up to the time she met me she had only had sex with three guys me included.

Years later she admitted that her ex was packing a bazooka and she loved the sex with him but wasn't marriage material so she went on the hoiiday and he had her every night.I was the bird in the hand and she gave him her bush multiple times

When she got back from the week away I fronted up to her mums house to greet her with a dozen roses. From that day on her mum was on my side.
What I did know even then was she loved sex with me and couldn't get enough of me. To this day ages M71 and F67 she rarely knocks me back.

Fast forward a couple of years we married and a year later went to Canada to visit my parents in Toronto. While in Western Canada I took a photo of her with a Royal mounted Canadian Police man (RCMP). I teased her incessantly about how she creamed her jeans standing next to him. It was another year before she discovered about my sexual kinky past.

How did she react to your previous life as a bull? Did she ever do another man during your marriage?

Initially she was devastated that I had been such a slut. But over time her curiosity led to pillow talk. That gave me the false impression I could get her to swing and for ten years I pushed. Too long to retell but it almost cost us our marriage. That is when I changed tact. I realised she could not handle seeing me in another womans arms so I compromised. Never appreciated as a bull how much better it was being the husband. Just one guy and has lasted 25 years. She still melts whenever he is over.

[isinlarsa]

When you married your wife did you have any idea that she would later cuckold you?

That is a very penetrating question. I didn't but the lead up I should have. My future wife was dating another guy. Her mum really liked me and did not approve of her current boyfriend. Her family were Catholics and her then boyfriend was divorced. I had met her mum at a party at my future wife's family home and I was besotted with her and her mum could see that and really liked me.

I was so besotted with her that when she two timed her boyfriend and went on a date with me i proposed to her over dinner our first date . Of course she knocked me back but immediately ended her relationship with him and dated me exclusively. What she didn't tell me is prior to meeting me her ex and her had booked a one week campervan holiday to Tasmania for later in the year and she had paid her share many months before.

When she told me a few weeks out of the pre arranged holiday with him I wasn't happy and her mum was outraged but she refused to back down.
It wasn't a deal breaker as at that stage she knew nothing about my sordid past and I was being petulant not letting her sow her wild oats one last time. Up to the time she met me she had only had sex with three guys me included.

Years later she admitted that her ex was packing a bazooka and she loved the sex with him but wasn't marriage material so she went on the hoiiday and he had her every night.I was the bird in the hand and she gave him her bush multiple times

When she got back from the week away I fronted up to her mums house to greet her with a dozen roses. From that day on her mum was on my side.
What I did know even then was she loved sex with me and couldn't get enough of me. To this day ages M71 and F67 she rarely knocks me back.

Fast forward a couple of years we married and a year later went to Canada to visit my parents in Toronto. While in Western Canada I took a photo of her with a Royal mounted Canadian Police man (RCMP). I teased her incessantly about how she creamed her jeans standing next to him. It was another year before she discovered about my sexual kinky past.

How did she react to your previous life as a bull? Did she ever do another man during your marriage?

Initially she was devastated that I had been such a slut. But over time her curiosity led to pillow talk. That gave me the false impression I could get her to swing and for ten years I pushed. Too long to retell but it almost cost us our marriage. That is when I changed tact. I realised she could not handle seeing me in another womans arms so I compromised. Never appreciated as a bull how much better it was being the husband. Just one guy and has lasted 25 years. She still melts whenever he is over.

It doesn't seem unusual for the wife to have issues with her husband being with other women, even though she enjoys multiple sexual relationship. When you say you comprised, do you mean you told her she could take a lover, even as you remained monogamous? It is correct to assume she did become a hotwife?

[safado]

Don't know if that's being a "bull," but I have fucked a few cheating wives, in both one-night stands and in a relationship lasting years.

It was enjoyable and the fact of the women being married was an enhancement. But my wife becoming a hotwife and fucking other men was definitely hotter.

Oddly enough, the men who fucked my wife never knew that I knew and approved, so I wonder if some of those wives I fucked were also hotwives.

[hubudig2]

The results of this poll are kind of incredible.
With the guys who like both equally removed, over 93% of guys that have been both roles enjoy being cucked more.
Even the group that now consider themselves to be bulls say that being cucked was more enjoyable.
I know it's somewhat skewed by the nature of this forum but it does add weight to the view that bulls just think they're getting the most pleasure when actually the couple are.
I often consider that I'm the one putting in most of the work and imagination for their enjoyment but I enjoy it more than anything else.
People elsewhere on this forum have said that they consider the bull to be a human sex toy; someone they bring in to provide them with sexual pleasure and stimulation, something that enhances their relationship.
I guess we're all slaves to our sexual urges in our own way.

I still struggle to see how someone can transition from a mindset similar to mine to one of someone willing to be cucked.
I think these quotes possibly allude to how:

Non committed sex thats purely recreational is fun but left a hollow feeling inside. I longed for a emotional connection [...]

I can remember being at the alter saying my vows and thinking well one door is closing and another is opening I knew my days of playing with other husbands wives was over.

Most single guys will reach a point sooner or later where no matter how many beautiful women they are fucking, they will choose to commit to just one. However, if you put that choice to most 18 year old guys, they'd find it crazy to think that someone would choose one woman over the freedom of many. Maybe I'm just in the position of that 18 year old guy, unable to fathom how anyone could choose that path. Like "allways" (above), I chose to give it all up to be with 1 woman but, for me, that closed door gradually reopened.

Maybe someone else can explain it better?

[bewareoflizzy]

I was an 18 year old high school graduate working at the local supermarket during the summer preparing to go off to college. This young, red-headed, petite, married woman with a baby in tow always came through my check-out aisle and flirted with me while I tried to concentrate on ringing up and bagging her order. She lived just around the corner where my friends and I hung out at night playing basketball or just chewing the fat. She would drive by in her big car and I would wave and smile. Once she rolled down the window while stopping at the corner and I approached the car. We flirted and she asked me if I wanted to take a ride. I jumped in and we were off. I was so excited, I started to shake. We went to an all night diner and talked about just anything. She told me she was married to a much older man and he wasn't home much as he was running a restaurant and had to put in long hours. The table was set and a few weeks later while hanging near her house, she popped out her door and invited me in. We went upstairs to her bedroom with the baby sleeping in the next room and she gleefully disrobed me and defrocked me of my virginity.