New to this, shamed for limits, WTF?

[DCaftermath]

Is there anyone here that sees this as a wannabe hot wife/cuckold husband just reversed? It's the wife asking for this not the husband. Shouldn't she have to jump through all the hoops to make it happen just like a wannabe husband would have to? Men accept all kinds of outrageous restrictions and make all kinds of concessions to make it happen. Why should it be different when a woman promotes the idea?

You often read about how a reluctant wife/gf readily admits that what she initially thought was way off after having a successful experience. If she wants the same results from her husband she's going to have to do the work.

I read both of your posts, the first one resonated so much that as soon as I saw your avatar on the second, I rushed to read it. I can’t say I’m a wannabe because she’s given me the privilege on a few occasions over our marriage. But I’m a wannabe”more”. I started with limits and rules, right about now she gets a LOT of rope from me, and she mostly leaves that rope scattered about. Sometimes I ask myself what I wouldn’t be willing to agree to.

What’s good for the gander is good for the goose (reversal intended).

[Watchinu69]

This is my wife's idea, and I'm trying to make it happen, but I do have to say that some people already in the lifestyle are quick to judge someone based on their limits.

I'm not ok with my wife kissing another man, I'm not ok with another man giving my wife oral, I didn't think this was such an unreasonable limit, but aparently it is.

The fact that I am open to my wife dating/sleeping with other men is probably more than most husbands would be comfortable with, but guess not?

And its not that my wife is going to go without oral, not at all, I'm just not ok with another man doing it.

My other limits is that I'm not ok with my wife meeting or communicating with another man without me.

Any updates ? Have you two gone to the prom yet?

[trecital]

Last active: Tue Oct 08, 2024 6:22 pm

So, looks like you won't find out.

[Dutchpride7]

This is my wife's idea, and I'm trying to make it happen, but I do have to say that some people already in the lifestyle are quick to judge someone based on their limits.

I'm not ok with my wife kissing another man, I'm not ok with another man giving my wife oral, I didn't think this was such an unreasonable limit, but aparently it is.

The fact that I am open to my wife dating/sleeping with other men is probably more than most husbands would be comfortable with, but guess not?

And its not that my wife is going to go without oral, not at all, I'm just not ok with another man doing it.

My other limits is that I'm not ok with my wife meeting or communicating with another man without me.

From a bulls perpective:
I feel & sense this gentleman is quite worked up right now,understood.
I have to say the way I have always gone about meeting hotwifes & hubbies or Stahs & Vixens or Cuck & wife. Is I myself have ALWAYS taken it on giving ALL respect & honor to the hubbie,Stag,Cuck for giving me the opportunity to indulge with their wife. And I myself do not take lightly and when meeting couples Im always in communication finduing out what and how things are wanted to be transpired & that is the call of tbe couple fpr the mostpart,and as far as Im concerned thee only & most important thing to me is much respect & honor to the hubbie is a given & in line with that goes however they(couplle) would likc things to transpire.
Its just lot more tense & not as comfortable the 1st couple times but the more times and experiences it becomes a great & awesome relationship & friendship. Its just so much relieve knowing you've built up a strong & solid relationship wiith your new found friends in a most awesome pleasurable way for all.
Ive enjoyed the couples Ive been with as family, and we all have a strong bond amongst each other,enjoying our sexual desires and pleasures to the fullest.
If there is ANYTHING that is not agreed upon then you must find what you have as your guidelines and stick to them,and DO NOT listen to what a lot of others might tell you,make sure you get it the way you want done no matter what,it takes time & patience.
I can attest to thete is nothing much better than when the 3 of us are together in harmony & enjoyment,its team work at its BEST,and I totally enjoy tbe fruit of the labor immensely.

[Tank Turner]

Couples involved in this exciting sport must do what's right for them. There are no universal rules.

My advice is to know beforehand what the sport entails.

My wife was sexually experienced before I met her. I was immediately enamored of her sexual confidence, and enjoyed her exquisite sexual skills and talents.

We have no rules except neither of us will tolerate disrespectful behavior nor will be tolerate denigrating sex acts (Dirty Sanchez). Sex must be mutually enjoyable.

[CaliLondon]

Shame on those for shaming you. This is your journey, not theirs.

When my wife and I started this journey, we had numerous rules such as no kissing, I always had to be in the same room, never spending the night and no romantic dinners.

No kissing went out the window fairly quickly. With her long term partner, we always play together – it's just what we're used to and the one time the two of them played alone at N's house, it didn't seem right to any of us. With the other two, we're pretty flexible and open to negotiation.

Now, our only rule that's carved in stone is: When one of us no longer enjoys this, it ends.

What I suggest is, my wife and I often have a postmortem afterwards and discuss what works or doesn't. The crazy thing is, we can discuss our sex lives anywhere, anytime, but home finances, that's a different story.