Another get-together for New Years

[nostringsorworries]

After our post-Christmas party ice breaker, I think everybody is ready to try another meeting. This time he's suggesting we come to his place for dinner on New Years Eve. Just the 3 of us. He says he's a good cook and will make dinner and we can hang out and see what develops. I'm pretty sure I know what would develop. He said we should plan to stay the night and not try to drive home with all the drunks on the road. He's got a guest bedroom and will make breakfast the next day as well and we can hang out some more if we all feel like it. He doesn't get much time off and this is a rare opportunity to just chill for all 3 of us.

I'm pretty sure we'll accept the invitation. My wife seems to have no hesitations after their Christmas party date and post-party activities in our bedroom. I didn't get to watch that night, just listen a bit from the door. I'm not sure how this next event would go, if they can allow me at least some distant viewing so I don't wind up spending the entire evening feel like a dope in a strangers house. My wife has softened on the notion of me at least witnessing it in some fashion as long as it doesn't detract from the mood. And for him, he says his big turn on is really having another guy watch him cum in the guy's wife, so I think there's a good chance this will be closer to what I had in mind when this began. That is, if I have the courage to observe or will I find myself avoiding things and pretend like it's not really happening.

[FNQLivin]

Looking forward to the update

[FNQLivin]

Can I ask, is this man the first man you’ve brought into the relationship? I read somewhere else about the gym person?

[nostringsorworries]

Can I ask, is this man the first man you’ve brought into the relationship? I read somewhere else about the gym person?

Yes, this is the first. The other was an poorly conceived plan that I came to my senses about.

[subguy80]

And for him, he says his big turn on is really having another guy watch him cum in the guy's wife. . .

When you say "cum" in your wife, do you mean with a condom? Or do you literally mean he will cum in your wife bare?

[zorro]

Fucking others is a wonderful way to greet the new year.

I suspect (but don't know 100%) that your wife will have you present, especially if your extra guy wants you there to see him fill your wife and you want to see him fill her. That would be a triple win. Perhaps she is still testing out your ability to accept her having sex with another man before she lets you witness it.

Keep loving your wife. That is the best path.

[nostringsorworries]

And for him, he says his big turn on is really having another guy watch him cum in the guy's wife. . .

When you say "cum" in your wife, do you mean with a condom? Or do you literally mean he will cum in your wife bare?

Bare. That was the agreement. We are to stay exclusive and took tests. He thinks it's the most important aspect of playing like this. I tend to agree.

[nostringsorworries]

Fucking others is a wonderful way to greet the new year.

I suspect (but don't know 100%) that your wife will have you present, especially if your extra guy wants you there to see him fill your wife and you want to see him fill her. That would be a triple win. Perhaps she is still testing out your ability to accept her having sex with another man before she lets you witness it.

Keep loving your wife. That is the best path.

I think she will let me this time. The first was just a trial run and pretty vanilla to get over the hurdle a bit and see how everybody reacted to it (mainly me of course). I want to feel part of what's going on, but he's got the kind of personality that likes to orchestrate things, so we'll see.

[zorro]

Fucking others is a wonderful way to greet the new year.

I suspect (but don't know 100%) that your wife will have you present, especially if your extra guy wants you there to see him fill your wife and you want to see him fill her. That would be a triple win. Perhaps she is still testing out your ability to accept her having sex with another man before she lets you witness it.

Keep loving your wife. That is the best path.

I think she will let me this time. The first was just a trial run and pretty vanilla to get over the hurdle a bit and see how everybody reacted to it (mainly me of course). I want to feel part of what's going on, but he's got the kind of personality that likes to orchestrate things, so we'll see.

Enjoy yourself. A good MFM is hard to beat.

[venus-can99]

Sounds like you both have found a nice third…

[ddriver86]

Sounds like it is going to be a HOT night! Please share when you have the time.

[ddriver86]

Sounds like it is going to be a HOT night! Please share when you have the time.

[nostringsorworries]

Another sleepless night as I think about this happening again tonight. I thought it would get easier. The guy is so good at seduction, of both of us really, the more I think about it. He does seem to really want me present. He says it makes him more turned on and he can go multiple times if the husband is witnessing things. But she's not so sure about that. And I don't want to get cut out.

[ddriver86]

Ask her specifically what her concerns are about you watching (in a loving way of course). Maybe you will decide not to watch or maybe you can do something to put her more at ease or will turn her on more.

Thank you for keeping us updated.

[nostringsorworries]

I think we both feel like it would be kind of lame to just have me sitting there staring at them. But I don't really know what he has in mind either, and she said he's the type of guy that could talk her into just about anything. She wants to be lost in the moment and enjoying all the thrills of a new lover, not putting on a porno show or something. For me it started just fantasizing about her cheating and grew from there. This is above and beyond something like that. But you're right. I can opt out of anything and we both like the idea of just having him call the shots.

[Tank Turner]

You guys are enjoying New Year's Eve. My sister-in-law is very pregnant. She told the wife and I that we could go to a party. My wife would have none of it.

My wife's at her sister's now. I'll head over later. Rowdy kids would be too much for me to bear. I'll wait until they fall asleep.

Brad invited us to his home. The wife turned him down, so he bailed to a party.

[Tank Turner]

Fucking others is a wonderful way to greet the new year.


Keep loving your wife. That is the best path.

Happy New Year, zorro,

You and I think alike.

Take care,

TT

[zorro]

Fucking others is a wonderful way to greet the new year.


Keep loving your wife. That is the best path.

Happy New Year, zorro,

You and I think alike.

Take care,

TT

Happy New Year, Tank!

[Tank Turner]

Happy New Year to you, zorro.

[nostringsorworries]

We got home this late this morning after breakfast. Completely exhausted and feeling a little bit of regret, wondering if we could/should get the genie back in the bottle (or pandora's box) or whatever metaphor works best. But after a nap I think we're both feeling more normal and content. Is this emotional rollercoaster part of it for everybody?

A lot happened, but I'm too wiped to write about it now. I will though.

[FNQLivin]

We will wait for your update.

[fraktastic]

Emotional roller coaster is totally normal. Give yourself some time and have some open honest conversations, just the two of you.

[nostringsorworries]

I'll post more details as they come to me. This was definitely up a notch from the Christmas party evening. I'm wondering, though, from those of you with more experience, do you have to keep ramping it up to keep the same thrill? At the moment I feel like we could stop now and just have some great memories to talk about to get turned on. But he was so good at seduction and knowing what buttons to push - in both of us - that it was a little overwhelming, although I'm feeling pretty good about it today. I can't imagine I could ever keep up with a guy like that, so it's scary. He's definitely not looking for a mate, so it's not that threatening directly, but as I think about it, he really was good at seducing both of us, not just her. He's classy and knows how to get us to do what he's after, and that was a big part of the thrill. But losing control is a little intimidating and if it means continuing further down a dark hole to keep getting that kind of a rush, I don't know how wise that is.

[Tryn]

Can you share with us what all happened on NYE? Without knowing what happened and why, it’s impossible for outsiders to provide you with any meaningful insights.

[nostringsorworries]

Can you share with us what all happened on NYE? Without knowing what happened and why, it’s impossible for outsiders to provide you with any meaningful insights.

It was an amazing evening/night. We stayed over and didn't leave until the following day. We were just tired and mild hangovers. So the next day there is that sort of questioning whether this was a wise thing to do, once real life started to come back in focus. It felt amazing and I was worried that reality wouldn't live up to the fantasy. But it worked well.

My concern is more do you keep having to go deeper into the "lifestyle" to reach that same level of thrill? There seems to be a bit of addictivness to this if it starts feeling more routine.

Realistically, it shouldn't. He was very clear that we all must be monogamous so we feel comfortable without any health risks. And he doesn't have much time to play either, which is why he really likes this type of thing. He doesn't want to have to keep a wife/girlfriend happy all the time. He's a professional and doesn't want to risk his reputation, so it will stay very discreet and I believe that will be the case. I have no turn ons about being "found out" or humiliated.

But I assume that at some point the thrill starts to fade, and then where are you if you've gotten hooked on the thrills?