Hotwifeing In Retirement

[Matureplayful]

Hey there, fellow explorers of passion,

My wife Nikki and I have recently stepped into retirement, and I'm looking to reignite that spark of excitement that once defined our early relationship. Back in '95-'96, when we were just dating, we stumbled upon a dynamic that, although we didn't have a name for it then, closely resembles what's now known as hotwifing today.

We were young, in our 20s, and after a year together living together, Nikki decided to move out to her own place within the same apartment complex. It was a time of separation, but it also sparked something new between us. We reconnected a short time after with an understanding that she could date other guys while we continued seeing each other.

One night, after a date, I casually asked her how many other guys she was seeing. She was initially shy, admitting to seeing two. I'll never forget the look on her face when I asked if she was having sex with either of them. It was a mix of shock and curiosity, especially when I confessed that the thought of her with others was a turn-on for me - something we'd just call "freaky" back then.

A couple of days later, she called me late at night, sharing that she had just been with Cole, and it was "pretty good." My response was immediate - "Can I come over?" And that night, we had some of the best sex I can remember, fueled by the honesty and the new dynamic we were exploring.

Now, years later, we're looking to dive back into this world, to see if it can bring the same thrill, the same connection, but with the maturity and understanding that comes with time. We're here to share our journey, to learn from others, and to explore this lifestyle once again.

If you're curious, if you've lived this life, or if you're just supportive of those who do, we invite you to join us in this adventure. Let's talk about boundaries, experiences, and how this lifestyle can enrich our relationships. We're excited to be part of this community, to share our stories, and to hear yours.

Here's to new adventures, old flames, and the love that grows with every shared experience.

Robert

[Cdncuck]

As another retired couple love to hear your stories

[Her number1]

We started in 1993 and were in our late 30's. So we qualify as "mature" .
Share away.

[D+D]

We started after we became empty nesters. She was 60. Eleven years later she’s still getting it on.

[trecital]

Just a technical question. You say you are stepping into retirement, but you also write about being in your twenties in '95 - '96. So that puts you into your 50's. That seems a bit early for retirement. Lucky you if that's correct.

[54321]

Welcome to ourhotwives!

54321

[Mrshappyfam74]

“…fueled by honesty…” well said. Cheers to new experiences!

[isinlarsa]

My wife and I are now both retired. Our story has some parallels to you. When we met, she continued to have sex with another boyfriend for the first period of time we were dating. Because of my history that turned me. After we married she wanted to be monogamous. However after 16 yeas of marriage, she came to me and said she wanted to date. She needed to feel desired, and she didn't want to go through the rest of her life without getting fucked by other men. With my hearty approval, she dated for several years.

[IndyGreg]

My Becky hasn't stopped yet, she's 63.

[Matureplayful]

Yes that is correct trecital we are in our mid 50's. I'm 55 and my wife Nikki is 57... luck probably a lot..

Looks like we will be in this weekend due to the weather here in Texas. Had planned on going out for drinks tonight but we're going to keep everything low key. It's nice to see the snow but it sure makes the roads a mess.

[hornedhubby]

Thanks for the introduction to your story. I hope you'll share more about your backstory and future fun.

Best wishes!

[Matureplayful]

We decided to revisit one of our old stomping grounds, a country bar we used to hang out at in our 20s when we were dating. It brought back some great memories. The bar hasn't changed much, and we had a good time.

Nikki's feet were killing her the next day; she's not used to wearing boots anymore, but she looked stunning in them, paired with tight jeans and a not-too-low-cut blouse under her leather jacket. She was turning heads all night - the MILF vibe is definitely real! She got quite a few dance invites, and she seemed to have a type - tall, in-shape guys.

I loved watching her dance with other men; it was so erotic seeing her out there, looking beautiful. If you've watched "Land Man," Nikki has a similar vibe to Billy Bob's wife on the show, just without the craziness. We got there around 10 and left around midnight to head home.

The dancing, the attention, and maybe the alcohol really got her juices flowing. Some pillow talk about our fantasies and her talking about her favorite dance partner that night, "Luke," well, I had a quick finish. We pulled out the toys, and she enjoyed a couple of orgasms. The arousal carried over to Sunday morning around 8 when we woke up for round two; this time, I was much better.

We're planning to go out again on Thursday for ladies' night... being retired means we can sleep in, so much better than when we were younger and had to work the next day. Anyway, I'll try to keep up with these posts.

Robert

[BT2]

She is in her very early 70s and has two regular lovers, and she sees each a couple of times a year.

[coastalkid]

My wife and I are retired too. She's not a hot wife but she knows the idea excites me. As you stated, I think there's a lot to be said for, "maturity and understanding that comes with time". I think I could much better handle all the anxieties and emotions now than when I was younger. The downside is the "older" part. We aren't the tight bodied people we once were. I think we'd have to find perfectly imperfect people like us. My wife is very self conscious of her figure.

Since you're jumping back in the game where will you look for people to join you? It seems as I've gotten older I have less friends, well, I have a handful of close friends. I know being retired you have lots of time on your hands (I love it) but you still need to find a source. I guess you could join a gym or a bowling league or something like that, or bars and clubs (like what you did). There's the online dating sites always too like AFF or SLS. Have you talked any about finding people?

[WatchinginNJ]

Not retired, but I was in my early 20's about the same time.

I also stumbled upon it in a pretty similar way. My high school girlfriend and I broke up. I desperately wanted her back, and she thought we were too serious so she only agreed if we kept it casual. I wanted to seem modern and hip, so I agreed. It went back and forth and one night I was over her place trying to get laid and she was hesitant. Turns out she'd gotten laid right before I arrived and didn't want to gross me out. Well something was sparked in me.

I've been in and out of it ever since.

We didn't know what it was. I thought it was just "swinging". The term hotwife wasn't a thing yet. She wasn't a wife, so I wasn't wife sharing. We just called it "Dating other people".

[Matureplayful]

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My wife and I are retired too. She's not a hot wife but she knows the idea excites me. As you stated, I think there's a lot to be said for, "maturity and understanding that comes with time". I think I could much better handle all the anxieties and emotions now than when I was younger. The downside is the "older" part. We aren't the tight bodied people we once were. I think we'd have to find perfectly imperfect people like us. My wife is very self conscious of her figure.

Since you're jumping back in the game where will you look for people to join you? It seems as I've gotten older I have less friends, well, I have a handful of close friends. I know being retired you have lots of time on your hands (I love it) but you still need to find a source. I guess you could join a gym or a bowling league or something like that, or bars and clubs (like what you did). There's the online dating sites always too like AFF or SLS. Have you talked any about finding people?
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Nikki and I have started going out again, but this time around, we're keeping it sober. We've realized that a clear head makes for a much better night out than the heavy drinking we used to indulge in back in the day.

So far, we've had one Saturday night out and a ladies' night. On our first night, the dance floor was all Nikki's - she's an incredible two-stepper and can follow any good lead. I'm not much of a dancer, so I enjoy watching her. Ladies' night was quieter, though we did bump into Luke, whom we met the Saturday before and they took a few turns around the dance floor.

Right now, we're not actively seeking anyone but we are open to "things that may happen" but not trying to "make it happen". We're taking it slow to ensure we're both comfortable with whatever comes next. It's about enjoying the moment, learning, and making sure we're on the same page before taking any steps forward. I do know that she is not interested in doing random guys so she's trying to sort out how to have a relationship with another man along with me. It will be a process.

[NewtonBlade]

So glad I stumbled across this thread. Great topic!

I'm in my early 60's and my wife R is six years my senior. Second marriage for her, third for me. Six kids between the two of us, only the youngest is "ours".

R was single for more than a decade between marriages, racked up dozens of lovers and even had a baby as a single girl. During that time she obtained her Nursing degree and got a job with a worldwide Healthcare organization based near us.

At one point word got out amongst her colleagues that R was sleeping with a male nurse that was often on her shift. Rather than deny or hide, they leaned into it and became known as "work husband & wife". Their non-exclusive relationship ended on good terms within a year, and they remained friends even after R left for a better job close to home.

Skipping over the early years of my marriage to R, I was deep in the doghouse for good reason when we unexpectedly ran into R's "work ex", Robert, and his wife at a mutual friend's daughters wedding. He was, unsurprisingly, in an open marriage (always was a pussy hound, according to R), and took the opportunity to dance with and ultimately hit on my wife. On the way home R informed me that she intended to take him up on his offer, a bit of payback she felt she owed me. Long story made very short, after many years of twists and turns R and Robert remain lovers to this day.

Where retirement factors in is this; Robert and his wife, as well as my wife have been comfortably retired for several years now. I have at least three years before I can. R absolutely hates winters up here in Ohio. Having grown quite comfortable with our somewhat poly situation with Robert we've settled on R and he spending a big part of deep winter on the Gulf. Robert's wife seems to appreciate the break and spends the time with her family in NJ and I'm busy with work and caring for a very old family member.

When R and I married nearly 25 years ago we both knew that it'd be awkward when she could retire years before me. We certainly didn't expect to solve the problem the way we have, but we're very happy everything's fallen into place like it has.