Does my pain turn her on?

[Matthias321]

Hi everyone.
We’re a couple from Germany. Married for 10 years now. She has a regular boyfriend since summer 2023. We have two Kids(10 and 8years old)
We didn’t had penetration sex the last 5-6 years. When we were intimate before she started with her boyfriend it was me licking her or fingering her.
After a few months of being with her boyfriend she told me she felt uncomfortable when she is still intimate with me. We still kiss and hug each other. But thats it. No Pussy no Tits. She didn’t change in front of me. I didn’t saw her naked or in underwear since she told me she doesn’t want to cheat on him with me.
A few weeks later she suggested that I could try online chats or something like that for my sexual needs. I had read a lot of threads here and was jerking to them. Try to chat with some guys on a another forum about cuckolding and so on.
My wife sometimes asked me about what im texting about and she was happy when I told her about it. November 2024 i met online a guy who was interested in my submission and wanted to push it a little more. He gave me tasks which i had to fulfill. After some easy tasks he convinced me that he loves it when I would have pain and endure the pain for him. He gave me painful tasks. When I first told my wife about the painful tasks she was more interested and asked me about in detail. She also asked me if there were new tasks or if the guy was happy with me. Then he wanted me to put 30 pencils in my ass. He knew from a task before that I was struggling with 10 pencils already. But he told me he want me to be in great pain. So I tried but didn’t managed more than 14 pencils. In the evening when we were in bed my wife asked me about new tasks and I reported to her.
To my surprise she told me that she wanted me to help me. I had to bring her the pencils and than I had to put the pencils in my ass. It was painful but I managed to put 15 inside me. It was strange to do it when my wife watch. And than when I wanted to stop because of the pain she insisted. She started to put the pencils in my ass. At the end the task was completed. I was in such a great pain i never was before.

But the most surprising thing happened afterwards. When we were back in bed. She started to mastrubate right next to me. I didn’t saw her climax since her boyfriend and she never masterbate before when I was present. I still don’t know if it turns her on when I was in such a pain.

[thepen]

This is hot. Has she ever expressed an interest in doling out pain to you before? Do you think she'd like to communicate directly with the guy online so they could collaborate on your next assignment?

[NSEW1]

Mutually agreeable pain is fine. But doing things that can cause real and lasting physical harm is dangerous and unwise. What happens if you rupture your anus and it causes lifelong problems? Then it won’t be erotic at all.

My advice is to communicate limits and be sensible, and do this when you are in a sober post-orgasmic state, not when aroused.

[NSEW1]

That said, pain can be a turn on for both sadist and masochist. My wife loves to paddle me for misbehavior. She tells me in advance to build up the tension. She makes me stand in the corner before and after the punishment. She ties me down and paddles me hard, teasing me not to cry. It leaves me sore and bruised but only for a day or two, sometimes three days. We both love it.

[Matthias321]

Thanks for your replies.
She helped me before. But not in doing something to me. He wanted me to wear her underwear. When I told her about she allowed meto wear. But she set up the rules that I didn’t cum in her undies. And I wasn’t allowed to wear her sexy thongs or bras. They were for her and her boyfriend. She even found her old nursing bras which she gave to me.
The guy didn’t respond to me anymore. Didn’t know why. So it stopped at that end. When I told her she said that it was too bad. She said that it seems like I enjoy fulfilling his tasks. I told her that it seems that she likes it more, and she smiled but didn’t answered.
Now one week without any contact ti the guy im afraid that he is gone.

[NSEW1]

Thanks for your replies.
She helped me before. But not in doing something to me. He wanted me to wear her underwear. When I told her about she allowed meto wear. But she set up the rules that I didn’t cum in her undies. And I wasn’t allowed to wear her sexy thongs or bras. They were for her and her boyfriend. She even found her old nursing bras which she gave to me.
The guy didn’t respond to me anymore. Didn’t know why. So it stopped at that end. When I told her she said that it was too bad. She said that it seems like I enjoy fulfilling his tasks. I told her that it seems that she likes it more, and she smiled but didn’t answered.
Now one week without any contact ti the guy im afraid that he is gone.

Probably he’s not the right guy. Many guys may want to interact only with the wife, and may get spooked by man to man action of any kind. Best would be to find a bull who understands both your and your wife’s hot buttons. He can dominate you in front of you her. The alpha show of subjugation over you may get her excited and in turn receptive to fucking him. You can get aroused from the shame of denial and submission. It can evolve to the point where both of them dominate you. For example, if he ties you down and then she spanks you, and then he spanks you even harder to make you cry. Or maybe he fucks your mouth while your wife teases you and whips your ass yo do it right.

So many possibilities but it has to begin with communication and finding the right guy who can respect you’ll what you both need.

[Cdncuck]

It's very possible your pain turns her on. In our social circle which includes other cuckold couples and people involved in bdsm, several of the wives seem to be drawn to bdsm the longer they are in the lifestyle.

It happened to us. Way back in the beginning, we were just into mfm 3 somes and her picking up guys on her own. We thought the people who liked whips and chains were crazy. 20 years later we found ourselves deeply involved in bdsm. I'm the sub,my wife is the dominant.

Over time,we came to realize sadism was enormously arousing for her. At the same time, m being submissive became arousing for me. My pain turns us both on.

It doesn't happen to everyone in the lifestyle. It probably doesn't happen in the majority of relationships. Still, it happens to some of us.

[Matthias321]

Thanks for your replies.
She helped me before. But not in doing something to me. He wanted me to wear her underwear. When I told her about she allowed meto wear. But she set up the rules that I didn’t cum in her undies. And I wasn’t allowed to wear her sexy thongs or bras. They were for her and her boyfriend. She even found her old nursing bras which she gave to me.
The guy didn’t respond to me anymore. Didn’t know why. So it stopped at that end. When I told her she said that it was too bad. She said that it seems like I enjoy fulfilling his tasks. I told her that it seems that she likes it more, and she smiled but didn’t answered.
Now one week without any contact ti the guy im afraid that he is gone.

Probably he’s not the right guy. Many guys may want to interact only with the wife, and may get spooked by man to man action of any kind. Best would be to find a bull who understands both your and your wife’s hot buttons. He can dominate you in front of you her. The alpha show of subjugation over you may get her excited and in turn receptive to fucking him. You can get aroused from the shame of denial and submission. It can evolve to the point where both of them dominate you. For example, if he ties you down and then she spanks you, and then he spanks you even harder to make you cry. Or maybe he fucks your mouth while your wife teases you and whips your ass yo do it right.

So many possibilities but it has to begin with communication and finding the right guy who can respect you’ll what you both need.

Think you misunderstood me. Probably because of my English. My wife has a boyfriend. They meet 1-2 times a week. I know him and we talk to each other when we met. He wasn’t the guy who gave me tasks.
The guy woh gave me tasks was just a random men who I met in another forum. He wasn’t her bull.

[Matthias321]

So, I talked to my wife. She confirmed to me that it was a turn on for her to fill my ass with the pens. And that she enjoyed it somehow that I endured what she was doing to me.
She want me to find another guy who gives me tasks and she will help me again.

[Long Lurker 34]

So, I talked to my wife. She confirmed to me that it was a turn on for her to fill my ass with the pens. And that she enjoyed it somehow that I endured what she was doing to me.
She want me to find another guy who gives me tasks and she will help me again.

M321
- Have either of you thought of or considered her pegging you?

[Matthias321]

So, I talked to my wife. She confirmed to me that it was a turn on for her to fill my ass with the pens. And that she enjoyed it somehow that I endured what she was doing to me.
She want me to find another guy who gives me tasks and she will help me again.

M321
- Have either of you thought of or considered her pegging you?

No, her pegging me wasn’t a topic yet. It would be very hot if she would like it.
We have a strapon. Back in the days I was using it sometimes on her. My dick was to small and to soft for her so she wanted sometimes that I used the strapon on her. But we never discussed to used it on me.

I have bought a new set pens which I want to give her today. Like if she is in the mood to put pens in my ass she has her pens. I think I will take a look how she react on this. If she is happy, I will bring up the topic of her pegging me.