Virtual Hotwife + Research

[Firesuite]

Hi All... I'm mostly a lurker here though I have posted before and share my experience with my current partner (essentially I'm a wannabe though decades ago we came very close... she was ready to fuck her masseur but alas he had left the massage studio when she went to rebook with him). In recent months I have got my partner to share fantasies with me (her fantasy was being a prostitute and having men line up to fuck her) this worked for my Hotwife fantasies... however, I'm under no illusion that my partner can be somehow pressured or convinced to become a Hotwife... she is just not wired that way. Something I feel I have to respect.
There is news though.. I have met someone else online and we have been communicating steadily for about 4 months now. Initially emails but then snapchat messages and almost daily phone calls. I shall refer to this lady as T... T is younger than me, early 30s, blonde and very attractive. She also attracts lots of male attention. As we have gotten closer we have begun to share in her sexual experiences together. Having studied social science many moons ago, I also decided (for fun) to conduct research on T (with her permission). T has quite an active and varied sex life.
In the last 3 weeks T has had sex with 8 different men, 3 of whom were totally new for the month of December (some are longer term regulars and one is her regular boyfriend). She has had sex a total of 41 times in the last 21 days.
T was completely unaware of the whole Hotwife/cuckold thing until I explained my kinks to her... because we have feelings for each other I really do feel hugely turned on when she has a new prospect in sight. She has been very generous in sharing details of her adventures with me before and afterwards... I certainly get the 'stag flutters'.... Friday she fucked someone new and Saturday too...
T and I have discussed 3 'challenges' she has set herself for this year... well, for each month really but over the course of 2025...
1/ To have sex with someone who has hit on her
2/ To initiate sex with someone new
3/ To fuck a married man

I pointed out that if she completed all monthly challenges... (3 new people per month) that would be her fucking 36 new men in 2025. Though for fun we set our target at 40!
To my surprise, despite the fact we only decided on these challenges in mid December... as of Saturday, she has now completed all of her three challenges for December (I took December really as being our warm up month, to iron out any problems with research methods etc).

We have not met in person and live in different countries... though we have discussed meeting in the summer months.

It's been a real delight getting to know T... she is a wonderful, admirable woman who has opened my eyes to the world of ethical non-monogamy. She has a supportive and tolerant boyfriend (though to my understanding he does not have Hotwife or cuckold kinks).
As I have developed real feelings for T... I also experience the same feelings that other stags/cuckolds report on OHW when their partners go and have sex with other men (excitement, anxiety, huge turn on, feeling increasingly bonded etc). It's fair to say that I have fallen in love with T.

So it's been a delightful surprise and she's a lovely adventurous lady. I am also recording how many times she is hit on (made a pass at) each day...its often 2-3 times per day... though if she goes out in the evening it can be 10 or so. She has also taken up dance lessons where before the first class I asked her to number how many men showed interest in her (6) and how many men she was interested in (2).
She is going to another city next month and has already contacted a married man she knows... (she has a thing about married men) and is also considering completing another challenge in this city if she gets the opportunity.
She has had female lovers (and these count for our research purposes) but so far none in December.

I shall keep things anonymous but any comments or questions I'd be happy to answer.

[BrunetteLover]

I am you online friend, too. Send me money.

[Firesuite]

I don't know if you're that gullible? I'm not!... Things are going well thanks.

[leggysman]

Sorry man - don't want to be a hater - but this is just kind of sad.

You're having an emotional affair behind the back of your current partner because she never became a hotwife.

You say you're in love with a person (who claims to be a woman) whom you've never met.

You say you're doing research, but there doesn't seem to be any (social-)scientific purpose to it. Your sample size is 1.

You are simply trying to have a virtual hotwife who self-reports that she's done things you'd want her to do, for your sexual gratification.

You think that you experience the same feelings as a man whose actual, real-life wife or girlfriend has sex with other men.

I don't know if you're that gullible? I'm not!... Things are going well thanks.

What he means is, you sound that gullible. I'm inclined to agree.

Even if she's legit, I don't think this (or the way you justify it to yourself) is a healthy activity, my friend.

[Firesuite]

Perhaps it was a mistake on my part to post here. My bad..

[leggysman]

Perhaps it was a mistake on my part to post here. My bad..

I hesitated to reply; waited a whole day, thinking someone else would say it. Because I kind of knew you'd react this way.

If the only thing you got from it -- if the only mistake you think you're making is to post in this forum, then my taking time to reply was time wasted.

My bad. You're clearly just going to do what you want. Your (unstated) desire to escalate this from an emotional affair, to a physical one in the summer seems obvious to me, at least.

But in parting, I leave you with a question to consider: What's she getting out of all this? Spending hours and hours telling some old(er) guy she's never met, all about her sex life? Do you imagine she's in love with you too? That she'll leave her boyfriend, and you'll leave your partner, and she'll move to your country, and you'll be together, and she'll be your hotwife? If you don't flatter yourself into thinking that's what she wants, then: what does she want?

They say there's no fool like an old fool. But I wish you the best of luck in any case.