So close!!

[Victor Skyhawk]

Figure I post an update on this thread. Since I think we are potentially on the verge. I’ve posted our story in intros. This is a first hotwife experience for the both of us.
Update: My wife is currently lurcking on bbc forums for the area. While embarrassed, she is showing me potential candidates, that she finds attractive and intriguing. I’m finding this part of the process a turn on. Seeing her get turned on by some of their media is sexy to watch. I can see the excitement in hers eyes…. Literally:). After numerous of time of my wife asking if this is ok, and I would always say yes. She asked, when I would be ready? A lot of excited nerves are flowing at the moment. We have a normal date night in the city in three weeks and she asked. “Hypothetically… if I reached out to him to meet us for drinks after the concert, and things go good for both of us. Would you be ready for this to go down?” “Are you ready to watch him fuck me?” ,with a nervous smile. I gave her a confident “F yea”. Then she smiles as she went back to “window shopping”.
So that where we are at. Nothing concrete, but Nervous, excited as hell.

[Pufferfish]

Sounds like the only real hang up is her fear/belief of you changing your mind after the fact, or not being 100% serious about wanting it. She's trying to believe that you're sincere but doesn't really understand why you feel this way. My advice would be to have another conversation about it, when not in the bedroom or foreplay. Just for reassurance that you are sincere, why you enjoy this idea, any ground rules you might want, etc. The more she pushes that belief to 100% that this might be legitimately possible, the closer to 100% certainty this fantasy becomes reality.

[Victor Skyhawk]

Sounds like the only real hang up is her fear/belief of you changing your mind after the fact, or not being 100% serious about wanting it. She's trying to believe that you're sincere but doesn't really understand why you feel this way. My advice would be to have another conversation about it, when not in the bedroom or foreplay. Just for reassurance that you are sincere, why you enjoy this idea, any ground rules you might want, etc. The more she pushes that belief to 100% that this might be legitimately possible, the closer to 100% certainty this fantasy becomes reality.

Thank you for the advice. This is pretty much where we are at. Over the past few weeks. Not during pillow talk or foreplay. We have been texting/talking about it throughout the day. I think it turns her on talking about it. From hypocritical situations to where can he cum on her. We have brought up all the talking points we can think of and playing devils advocate, ect… Yes, I think her big concerns are my feelings being hurt afterwards. She will ask with a smile. “Are you sure babe?” Im expecting some emotions. Some initial jealousy and nerves. But expect to be turned on beyond belief. We have discussed safe words, boundaries ext….The foundation of our fantasies are solid I believe. Early in our 10 yr marriage. She wanted to know my fantasies. I brought up my fantasy to her about wanting to see her in a hotwife situation. It wasn’t dismissed at the time. She didn’t say yes, but didn’t say never. Years have gone by with a stronger relationship than ever before. We are in great place. About a year and some change ago. She told me fantasies of hers. To be in mfm threesome. It’s always been a thing for her she says. I reluctantly asked. That’s awesome, what if I ended up watching? She was hesitant but very intrigued. She says there is something hot knowing I’m watching and getting off on it. I keep reassuring her to be herself and enjoy the moment. So that’s where we are at. Somewhere between wannabe and hotwife.

[trecital]

Hi.
I read that you live in rural Missouri. But your writing style suggests that you aren't a native English speaker. Just curious as to your background, as I think that might have some influence on where best to search.

[Victor Skyhawk]

Hi.
I read that you live in rural Missouri. But your writing style suggests that you aren't a native English speaker. Just curious as to your background, as I think that might have some influence on where best to search.

Spanish/English speaking from SoCal. My wife is from out here.my wife has been lurking on local forums as of now.