Done with this

[darkcrow]

Hello all,

Sorry for the cryptic title but didn't know how else to start this. So, long story short, I first hinted at my wife about my dreams and fantasies. Then, I casually mentioned that I would like a threesome. I made it clear that it wouldn't be with another woman. She never expressed being fully onboard or against the idea.

Last week, after a couple of glasses of wine we got intimate. I love 69 and suggested we do it. I was using a vibrating toy to stimulate her clitoris, then used another gently pushing but not penetrating. She shifted her position and I interpreted that as a sign that she didn't want to continue with it, so I stopped. She then told me that she doesn't like them because they are too large, and sat of me. She was trying to make me come and told me "I'm going to get me a big dick, film it having sex with it, and send it to you since that's what you like." We stopped. During a conversation later she mentioned that maybe I'll be interested in using the toys on myself, and that maybe she's too vanilla for me.

I have mentioned to her that I'm no into getting penetrated. I also feel like, in her upset state, she said something that I had confessed with the intent to hurt me. We are in better terms now. Had ("normal") sex yesterday and it went well. I still feel the sting of what she said.

I'm not feeling sure of our relationship.

[MartasBoy]

Hello all,

Sorry for the cryptic title but didn't know how else to start this. So, long story short, I first hinted at my wife about my dreams and fantasies. Then, I casually mentioned that I would like a threesome. I made it clear that it wouldn't be with another woman. She never expressed being fully onboard or against the idea.

Last week, after a couple of glasses of wine we got intimate. I love 69 and suggested we do it. I was using a vibrating toy to stimulate her clitoris, then used another gently pushing but not penetrating. She shifted her position and I interpreted that as a sign that she didn't want to continue with it, so I stopped. She then told me that she doesn't like them because they are too large, and sat of me. She was trying to make me come and told me "I'm going to get me a big dick, film it having sex with it, and send it to you since that's what you like." We stopped. During a conversation later she mentioned that maybe I'll be interested in using the toys on myself, and that maybe she's too vanilla for me.

I have mentioned to her that I'm no into getting penetrated. I also feel like, in her upset state, she said something that I had confessed with the intent to hurt me. We are in better terms now. Had ("normal") sex yesterday and it went well. I still feel the sting of what she said.

I'm not feeling sure of our relationship.

When you mentioned that you would like to do a threesome, bringing another man into the bedroom, a lot of women worry that you might be gay or bisexual, and then they start to worry that you're not into them anymore, that maybe you're going to end up breaking up with them and running off with a man. A woman's mind kind of goes a lot of different directions when you talk about this stuff.

I think you may have moved to quickly for her, into things that were too kinky.

Sometimes you have to start off really basic and easy. Like confessing to her that you have always been puzzled by the fact that you don't get jealous when you see other men admiring her, it actually excites you, knowing that other men find her as incredibly sexy as you do. Tell her you find it validating of her beauty, and how attracted you are to her.

Does she ever act cute and charming when other men flirt with her? Does she return smiles when she passes an attractive man? Do you ever get to see her interacting with other men at a party or a barbecue? Do men flirt with her? And does she do any flirting back, even if it's really basic and simple and subtle?

You can start with some gentle teasing about that, if she does. I started by teasing my wife after a party, about some guy that was listening to her for the longest time talk about her work. I would point out that he was clearly attracted to her, to spend a half an hour nodding and smiling and asking her questions about her work, and telling her how fascinating he thought it was.

Then I would tease her a little bit, telling her that I thought she sort of like the attention from a good looking man, and she was acting Charming in return, a little, very light and subtle flirting.

Finally she admitted to it, and we talked about how fun it is to have somebody flirt with us, and remind us that we still have the ability to attract people, even though we don't want to act on it, it is just fun to get a little attention. It took a lot of these kind of discussions for her to finally confess that she flirted a little, and enjoyed it. You got to start out small and simple.

[MartasBoy]

Hello all,

Sorry for the cryptic title but didn't know how else to start this. So, long story short, I first hinted at my wife about my dreams and fantasies. Then, I casually mentioned that I would like a threesome. I made it clear that it wouldn't be with another woman. She never expressed being fully onboard or against the idea.

Last week, after a couple of glasses of wine we got intimate. I love 69 and suggested we do it. I was using a vibrating toy to stimulate her clitoris, then used another gently pushing but not penetrating. She shifted her position and I interpreted that as a sign that she didn't want to continue with it, so I stopped. She then told me that she doesn't like them because they are too large, and sat of me. She was trying to make me come and told me "I'm going to get me a big dick, film it having sex with it, and send it to you since that's what you like." We stopped. During a conversation later she mentioned that maybe I'll be interested in using the toys on myself, and that maybe she's too vanilla for me.

I have mentioned to her that I'm no into getting penetrated. I also feel like, in her upset state, she said something that I had confessed with the intent to hurt me. We are in better terms now. Had ("normal") sex yesterday and it went well. I still feel the sting of what she said.

I'm not feeling sure of our relationship.

When you mentioned that you would like to do a threesome, bringing another man into the bedroom, a lot of women worry that you might be gay or bisexual, and then they start to worry that you're not into them anymore, that maybe you're going to end up breaking up with them and running off with a man. A woman's mind kind of goes a lot of different directions when you talk about this stuff.

I think you may have moved to quickly for her, into things that were too kinky.

Sometimes you have to start off really basic and easy. Like confessing to her that you have always been puzzled by the fact that you don't get jealous when you see other men admiring her, it actually excites you, knowing that other men find her as incredibly sexy as you do. Tell her you find it validating of her beauty, and how attracted you are to her.

Does she ever act cute and charming when other men flirt with her? Does she return smiles when she passes an attractive man? Do you ever get to see her interacting with other men at a party or a barbecue? Do men flirt with her? And does she do any flirting back, even if it's really basic and simple and subtle?

You can start with some gentle teasing about that, if she does. I started by teasing my wife after a party, about some guy that was listening to her for the longest time talk about her work. I would point out that he was clearly attracted to her, to spend a half an hour nodding and smiling and asking her questions about her work, and telling her how fascinating he thought it was.

Then I would tease her a little bit, telling her that I thought she sort of like the attention from a good looking man, and she was acting Charming in return, a little, very light and subtle flirting.

Finally she admitted to it, and we talked about how fun it is to have somebody flirt with us, and remind us that we still have the ability to attract people, even though we don't want to act on it, it is just fun to get a little attention. It took a lot of these kind of discussions for her to finally confess that she flirted a little, and enjoyed it. You got to start out small and simple.