My girlfriend and her interest in other men

[ucaneffher]

Yes I realized it was a turn on after she started going to his place and sleeping with him. Even though It's not always wonderful for me when she goes, it's always worse when he comes here and they fool around in front of me.

Perhaps you can tell her just that. Let her know that it's starting to turn you on but that it's too much too fast and you want to get used to it slowly to see what you're comfortable with. Perhaps you can find something to do when she's about to do something with him in front of you, maybe run out to the car or take a phone call in another room?

For some men, it's better when the woman plays solo, for some men it's better to be included and to be able to watch their lady getting it on with others, and then there's the ones who like both. While I have never witnessed a girlfriend of mine having sex with another man, I have actually seen a couple of my girlfriends sitting on other mens laps and hugging them in front of me and witnessed one of them getting touched intimately over her clothes in front of me as she let the guy feel her up. Based on those interactions, I feel that I would be capable to also watch and witness.

I'm back to being a wannabe but find your situation desirable as it is convenient to have her lover within walking distance. I would like to eventually see my girlfriend or wife develop a more serious and long term connection with a lover and this would allow her to go next door for extended stays or him coming to stay with us multiple days at a time. This would help determine if my ultimate fantasy is feasible and it would allow us to test waters to see if eventually my girlfriend can have her lover permanently move in with us so that he can take over in our bedroom. Like several other cucks on this board, I would like to see another man move into our master bedroom and become her primary while sleep in another bedroom.

My take is to enjoy the ride and see where it goes. If you try to control it too much (like me) it will backfire. You enjoy it or you wouldn't be on this site.

That is my take on it as well but then again I feel that I am wired for this, desire this, and want it as my lifestyle and not just a one weekend experiment so it's difficult to tell the OP to just go with it if he's not into it. On the other hand, he says it is now a turn on so maybe he just has to warm up to it first. His lady is the ideal girl for this lifestyle though, that's for sure. Many of us cucks here wished our girlfriends or wives were taking such initiative to get started.

[canberraguy4fun]

Have you had the pleasure of licking her used pussy when he has finished with her? How does her creampie taste? Do you enjoy it?

[Tolliver]

Yes I think it would be better for me to go slower with this. I actually floated the idea of me going in the bedroom when they play in our apt, or even taking a walk downstairs to get the mail. She said that's fine but it would be less fun. Then reassured me that I was doing great so far and she was happy with how things were going. That she loves having a younger boyfriend (her exact words) on the side who is ready to go any time, and We had sex a short while after that and I felt like a bit of a wet blanket on her fun since then. Especially since I regularly masturbate to pics of her and him that were previously sent to me. I've decided to try my best to be a good cuck bf, which is clearly what she really wants.

She must of picked up on that because last night she asked if it would be okay for him to come over to our place, rather than her go there which she usually does on Saturdays. We got about 10 minutes into a movie and they start kissing and fooling around. They were very hot and heavy and he has the straps to her red dress pushed down off her shoulders a few minutes later. He started fondling then sucking her breasts then to my complete surprise she puts her hand into my lap, as I was sitting on the other side of her. He sees it and pulls her arm away and tells her "no, you're my girl, and I don't share." She gave him a nod of understanding, they kiss a bit more and then he gets up and takes her into our bedroom, telling her he should have done this a long time ago. She went with him with her dress around her waist.

I could hear them have sex, after which the door closed and then nothing. At that point I knew she was his. She came out a few hours later and told me he was going to stay the night. I could hear them having sex again later in the night. I slept on the pull out sofa and didn't see either one of them until morning. More to come a bit later about our morning interactions.

[Tolliver]

It's been a busy week so far and I came down with a cold Monday. Sunday morning Mark left around 9 and Rie and I talked about what happened. She made light of it, saying we were all drinking and he got a little assertive with her. She couldn't hide a glowing smile however. She cleaned the bedding, telling me there was cum everywhere and she even squirted which has never happened before. I reminded her that he claimed her as "his girl", and she said she thought it was just talk in the heat of the moment. Nevertheless it felt and still feels like he made her his girl Sat night.

Monday and Tuesday night she stayed at his apartment saying she didn't want to get sick. He sent me a bunch of pics of them together last night. Most of them she was sucking him, 1 he was behind her with her naked, hand on her breast, taken in the mirror. But the one that really got my attention was one with her sucking both of his balls. I couldn't help but jack off to that one, several times. I was so worked up I texted her that he had sent some pics and I was glad she was having fun with him. I regret it now but in the heat of the moment I was totally fine with it. She responded that she was glad.

I'm still very anxious about the whole thing but things have taken a life of their own over the last 4 or 5 days. In a way it kind of is a relief that things are sorting themselves out. It's hard to explain.

[elina]

...... It's hard to explain.

Yes, these emotions going back and forth like they do for you now is hard to explain...

I think you are making solid efforts to allow the experiences to resonate without jumping to conclusions one way or the other. It is for you to decide if this is the way you want to live your life. Reading other stories at this site, you will see some come to enjoy this kind of life, others do not.

The real challenge will come if you really have developed feelings for your girl, but then decides that you don't want to allow Her to go on like She is doing.... Because if my interpretation of your story is correct, I tend to believe that She will not accept to become a faithfull little wife....

Hopefully your writing here and the comments you receive will help you develop a perspective on this better than if you just kept it all to yourself. Just remember, you are the only one entitled to decide how you want to live your life...

Sincerely
elina

[FNQLivin]

Is she even yours now?

[Rogueuser1]

Oh man, things are getting intense. Hopefully you feel better soon and are able to reclaim her.

[Freemans892]

At age 28, Mark could you see yourself marrying Rie? Things to consider are:
- For Rei, sex seems more important than getting to know your sister/family.
- Rei has already raised question marks with your sister, who would have passed that information on to your parents.
- For Rei, sex seems more important than your health.
- If you do marry Rei, can she be fully trusted not to have a full-on affair with someone and leave you to be with the other person?
- Rei's time with Big Mark has gone from one night a week to spending at least 3 nights this week.
- Big Mark is only 20 years old, of course, he wants Rei 100% exclusively to himself. Big Mark is too immature to consider Rei and yours relationship.
- After 2.5 years in a relationship with Rei, you are not even sure who Rei’s primary boyfriend is.

As Rei moved into your luxury apartment and she needed Big Mark to drive her around when her car was being fixed, I assume that you are better off financially. Could you see your marry Rei where the relationship is equal except maybe in the bedroom? If not, don’t get too invested in your relationship Rei because the relationship will probably burn out over the next 12 months. Yes, Rei wants you to be her cuckold but both of you are not investing time in the communication required, especially Rei who has been the driver of the events to date.

By the way, what Big Mark hasn’t worked out is that Rei could never be exclusive to one boyfriend but she expects the boyfriend be exclusive to her, so that relationship won’t last because Rei will cheat on Big Mark at some point.

[user322]

wow, this is really intense for you the way this is going!

You seem to have natural cuckold behaviors, and it seems to turn you on.

I don't get the impression that your girlfriend wants to cheat on you, otherwise she would have already done it. I get the impression that she really likes the cuckold dynamic since she prefers that you are present when her bull comes to your place. If she was looking for another partner she would not want to involve you when she has extramarital relations.
In addition, she is the one who takes the lead, it is not you who pushes her, so it is because she really likes the dynamic, and to have a hotwife experience, you need a cuckold who agrees, so little chance that she wants to dump you it seems to me ..... on the other hand you are going to be a good cuckold I think

Either you mark your territory and set your limits, or you are naturally a cuckold, and in this case let yourself go and enjoy yourself to the fullest!

And don't hesitate to keep us informed as often as possible because your discussion thread is very interesting!

[wannabecUKold]

Well, she is certainly treating you in an offhand manner now she has worked out that her infidelity turns you on. I think she is treating you too disrespectfully. She needs to consider your enjoyment much more. The neighbour needs taking down a peg or two. He is trying to get her exclusive to him. She needs to stop him doing that (otherwise you are on a losing wicket).

So she is not offering you what you want, which would be like your personal porn show. You should tell her what you want, eg to see them get naked in front of you and see them fuck; to be involved in the fucking - ideally to put his cock in her; to get creampies and even to suck his cock; to strip her naked for him, even to strip him too; to get naked yourself and obviously to DP her and get sloppy seconds.

Probably wise to get her away for a while to break the routine. Maybe take her to swingers cruise where you would have the chance to get some of he above activities on your own terms.

You're young and virile, you shouldn't be having to pussyfoot around her and him. If she won't take your needs into account, then you need to look elsewhere. You can't be tagging along after a woman who doesn't respect you. You should make that clear - to her and to yourself.

[pawpaw2020]

I agree with Wannabe. You need to take her out and get her some strange cock so that she will not get to attached to one dick.

[Tolliver]

Rie and I chatted last Thursday about her and "big Mark". She said she was very happy about the text I sent approving of her staying at his place for a few days while I was under the weather. She told me the two of them got on great with one another and she now considers both of us boyfriends, not just me boyfriend and him "guy on the side". She has more feelings for me but he is her stud in bed. She asked if I was okay with this and I said yes, with the logic being if I said no she'd either leave me for him or just start cheating on me with him instead.

Something about the text I sent her makes me feel a little more at ease now that my permission has been given for her to have fun with him. Anyway he came over Thursday night for dinner to celebrate the new arrangement and afterwards the two of them had sex in our room with the door open. I could hear them going at it and wanted so bad to go over and take a peek through the open door. It took me about 15 minutes to get up the nerve when by the sounds they were clearly in the act of full on sex. I walked to the bathroom, which is straight ahead down the short hall, and looked to the left as I went and peeked into the bedroom. I didn't dare stop and dally but I did see them on the bed, both naked, him giving it to her doggystyle. My heart did in fact skip a beat.

We talked later and she asked if I caught a glimpse of them, and I said yes. She then asked if I touched myself while watching and I said no, it was just a quick glimpse. She smiled and said she thought that was very hot. Then asked me if I would like to watch him have his way with her sometime. I could feel my face turn red and my heartbeat quicken. I told her I thought the whole thing was arousing but I was a little embarrassed by being in the room while they were getting it on. She said she understood and that she was pleased with the way things were going.

[Tolliver]

Then this past weekend he came over Saturday, and after dinner we watched a movie. Again, it didn't take them long into the movie to start fooling around. She told me to turn off the TV and all the lights and I did so as they continued foreplay. The blinds were all shut and there was a little light coming in from the parking lot down below but mostly it was pretty dark. She ended up mounting him on the sofa while I listened from the recliner, which is where I sat down after turning off lights. I could make out her riding him but not much else due to the dark. They both talked dirty to each other, at one point her telling him she needed him in her pussy. He came in her bareback at the end, and I felt ashamed at that point, needing to leave the room but too embarrassed to do so. It was very obvious she has much better sex with him than me. Not too long after, he thanked her for having him over, kissed her and smacked her ass, then left. She told me the sex was amazing and that we'd have to do that again soon. I did my best to hide my humiliation, and I don't think she caught it.

[Rogueuser1]

i mean - you want her to have better sex with him right? What would be the point if he was worse in bed then you are?

[OldChap]

Did you do anything with her after he left?

[elina]

Dear Toliver

Rice is training you to accept that you are a cuckold at heart.
She is patient, making small but significant steps.

The fact that She bothers with this indicates that there is something in you that makes Her want you as a permanent cuckolded boyfriend and possibly husband.

It seems to me that your desire to keep Rice in your love is so strong that you are willing to go along with this, maybe time for you to tell Rice that you understand why She needs Mark to fuck Her and ask Her if you can be Her pussylicker and to train you for that, This way you can be intimate with Her in a way which will be pleasing to both of you. Just a suggestion for you to consider.

Sincerely
elina

[Nyxx022]

It's quite hot to know that she was having sex with him while you were sick at home. It gives an added sense of vulnerability to the situation.

Do you see a future where your gf slowly starts going public with Big Mark? Like going to concerts together, maybe posting pics to socials...

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Muxx022.

[Tolliver]

I have definitely felt for some time she's been training me to be a cuck. I'm trying to embrace it but it's been hard. Attractive younger guy next store starts having sex with your girlfriend, it brings up some emotions that are not pleasant. I have thought again about asking her to dump him and we can go out looking for someone else that's not living next door, but I don't think she'd go for it at this point. I'm trying to go all in with being her cuck and that way stay with her, and continue a relationship and get whatever leftovers there are after big Mark takes what he wants.

Speaking of, he went out of town yesterday and came over Friday night and he and Rie did their thing on the sofa again, this time with lights off but TV on so I could see them better (her wishes). When they were done we finished our movie then he announced he was taking her into the bedroom and they had sex again with the door closed. She is definitely an exhibitionist but he apparently wants her alone at least some of the time, something she is happy to give him. She came out to tell me he was spending the night, and again I slept on the foldout sofa bed in the living room.

In the morning we had breakfast and before he left to pack for his trip, she asked him with a sweet smile if she could get on her knees and suck him off, and he accepted. When that was over he left, but went down to the parking lot with him about an hour later to see him off. I watched upstairs from the window as they kissed passionately for what seemed like 5 minutes. He also smacked her ass several times before heading out.

Then later in the afternoon Rie and I went to the office to get a package from the pickup room and Debra, the office manager, told Rie she saw her with Mark and to my horror asked if they were an item. She said yes, kind of, and Debra told her they made a cute couple. I wanted to protest but there was nothing to say. Things are moving forward and I am really not in control of any of it.

[elina]

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Then later in the afternoon Rie and I went to the office to get a package from the pickup room and Debra, the office manager, told Rie she saw her with Mark and to my horror asked if they were an item. She said yes, kind of, and Debra told her they made a cute couple. I wanted to protest but there was nothing to say. Things are moving forward and I am really not in control of any of it.

Thanks Tolliver,

Well, you always have a choice. You, can end the relationship with Rie.

But from your story, I think you would then probably have very serious regrets quite soon.
From what you are writing, it seems to me that you do actually enjoy being Her cuck, or at least some aspects of it.

What you can do is opening up to Rie; tell Her what you feel, tell Her how much you love Her and don't wan't to leave Her, tell Her that while you like some aspects of it, some of the emotions are very hard for you to deal with.

Ask Her to be more open with you, ask Her if She is training you to be Her cuck and what She wants longer term.

You will still not be in control, but you may get a better appreciation of Rie and open the path to deepen your relationship with a stronger commitment from both of you.

Sincerely
elina

[Tolliver]

You're right about one thing, I am not looking to end the relationship right now. I am kind of getting used to playing second fiddle to an extent and it's almost tolerable when they start doing things in front of me. There's no longer any deep seated desire to leave the room. Just a little awkward and later turns into a hot fantasy.

[elina]

Thank You Tolliver.

It is interesting to see how your emotions is evolving,

Do you have the courage to tell Rie that this is happening, I am sure She will appreciate the feedback and may encourage Her to be more open to your about Her true emotions towards you?

Sincerely
elina

[Tolliver]

Yes. I have told her although a little awkward for me when they fool around in front of me, I do like that she is having fun and enjoying herself, and even confessed a time or two that it makes me hot.

[elina]

Did She respond to that in any way?
Did She give you a hug and tell you She liked that?

[Tolliver]

She sure did respond positively. Smiled and clearly was happy to hear the news. She has been bringing him over more too.