Found Bigger Condoms in Girlfriend's Room, Help

[nutjob]

I'm not sure I fully believe her about having zero fantasies (is that even possible).

Yes, it’s entirely possible. Some people just don’t think like that. Also, some people don’t fantasize, but they have interests. You might not be imagining doing it, but hearing about it turns you on.

Which isn’t to say she’s telling you the truth. Maybe she doesn’t have any fantasies, but maybe she has them and is embarrassed to admit what they are, or she’s afraid you’ll judge her for them, or that it will somehow negatively affect your relationship.

[joel68]

Thxs for the description. She sounds hot.

I hope things progress.

[HenryB12]

Thxs for the description. She sounds hot.

I hope things progress.

You're welcome and she is. I hope things progress as well. Tomorrow (Wednesday) is the big day. I'm getting exciting/nervous thinking about it now. I just need to stay calm to keep her comfortable so she opens up, without pushing too hard.

[HenryB12]

T-minus 3 hours until I go to her place and I can't sit still. I can't stop pacing back and forth. I'm so incredibly nervous I feel like I might throw up. I can't talk to anyone about this in real life so I'm typing this out on here. The nerves/anticipation are killing me.

[johntigger1469]

Breathe easy, bud. A good, honest conversation will do your heart a world of good.

[HenryB12]

Update: I got to her place at 9:45 and I'm trying my best to read her. She seems completely normal, so I plan to bring up the conversation later tonight. We're chilling on her bed for awhile, watching our show when she picks up the touching. I take this as my sign to start making out and eventually start taking our clothes off. I start eating her out and don't stop until she says she's cumming. She tells me she needs it in her so I stick my dick in and we start fucking. I'm still fantasizing about her with other dudes, but I'm to last longer than last time. After about 5 minutes, I can't hold on any longer and say I'm cumming. She wraps her legs around me and keeps me inside. I cum and keep kissing her.

After, I go throw the condom away, wash off, and get us some water. I lay down next to her and I know it's go time. I start by telling her that our sex now was amazing, and she said it was really good. I ask "Is there anything else you'd like to try, anything interesting you've been thinking about?" "No, not really. I really enjoy our sex life." "Still no. That's perfectly fine, I'm having a great time with you," I respond. It looks like she's is gonna say something, so I wait until she says, "I've actually thought about it after you asked last time. There's a couple things I might like to try." "Ok, let's hear them." She tells me she wants to try to have sex in a hot tub because she's never done that and she wants to try a blindfold and see what that's like. I tell her that her ideas sound pretty hot and we should definitely do them. She then says she likes our dirty talk, but wants me to do it more, and softer in her ears while in missionary. "Ok got it, I'll make those happen."

There is a short silence and she breaks it by asking "what about you, do you have anything you've been wanting to do?" I take a few deep breaths and tell yes I have a few. She lets me continue so I tell her that one of my fantasies is for her to randomly initiate and give me a blowjob while I'm watching football or just chilling on the couch. She responds smiling "Oh ok, I can definitely do that, but it'll have to wait in order to be a surprise." I take another deep breath and say "There is another one but it's a little out there." She waits so I say "I also would like to hear about your past sex, like with the other guys before me." She almost looks at me like I'm crazy. But I elaborate and say, "It kinda turns me on to think about your past sex life and hearing the stories would be hot as hell." I didn't want to freak her out so I said past guys, to ease her into this and eventually tell her about her sleeping with new guys. She asks if this is why I asked about her first time and her number and I admit to it. She says "I'm not a good storyteller, so they probably wouldn't be very good." I tell her it's fine and to try her best as it turns me on. She says "Let me think about it... I thought men didn't want to hear about that stuff." I say "yeah but for some reason, I get turned on by thinking about it." "Ok, I'll think about it." Not much else of note took place as we just got ready for bed and fell asleep.

I slept over at her place and we didn't say anything about it this morning. I think it went well. She thought it was pretty weird, but didn't say no, so the door isn't closed. She also thought about our talk on Sunday and opened up about things that she'd like to try. Overall, I'm estatic with the progress. Please let me know what you think and how to proceed. Your guys' advice on this forum and in the private messages has been great. Thanks for the help so far.

[TinyBoyDick]

Update: I got to her place at 9:45 and I'm trying my best to read her. She seems completely normal, so I plan to bring up the conversation later tonight. We're chilling on her bed for awhile, watching our show when she picks up the touching. I take this as my sign to start making out and eventually start taking our clothes off. I start eating her out and don't stop until she says she's cumming. She tells me she needs it in her so I stick my dick in and we start fucking. I'm still fantasizing about her with other dudes, but I'm to last longer than last time. After about 5 minutes, I can't hold on any longer and say I'm cumming. She wraps her legs around me and keeps me inside. I cum and keep kissing her.

After, I go throw the condom away, wash off, and get us some water. I lay down next to her and I know it's go time. I start by telling her that our sex now was amazing, and she said it was really good. I ask "Is there anything else you'd like to try, anything interesting you've been thinking about?" "No, not really. I really enjoy our sex life." "Still no. That's perfectly fine, I'm having a great time with you," I respond. It looks like she's is gonna say something, so I wait until she says, "I've actually thought about it after you asked last time. There's a couple things I might like to try." "Ok, let's hear them." She tells me she wants to try to have sex in a hot tub because she's never done that and she wants to try a blindfold and see what that's like. I tell her that her ideas sound pretty hot and we should definitely do them. She then says she likes our dirty talk, but wants me to do it more, and softer in her ears while in missionary. "Ok got it, I'll make those happen."

There is a short silence and she breaks it by asking "what about you, do you have anything you've been wanting to do?" I take a few deep breaths and tell yes I have a few. She lets me continue so I tell her that one of my fantasies is for her to randomly initiate and give me a blowjob while I'm watching football or just chilling on the couch. She responds smiling "Oh ok, I can definitely do that, but it'll have to wait in order to be a surprise." I take another deep breath and say "There is another one but it's a little out there." She waits so I say "I also would like to hear about your past sex, like with the other guys before me." She almost looks at me like I'm crazy. But I elaborate and say, "It kinda turns me on to think about your past sex life and hearing the stories would be hot as hell." I didn't want to freak her out so I said past guys, to ease her into this and eventually tell her about her sleeping with new guys. She asks if this is why I asked about her first time and her number and I admit to it. She says "I'm not a good storyteller, so they probably wouldn't be very good." I tell her it's fine and to try her best as it turns me on. She says "Let me think about it... I thought men didn't want to hear about that stuff." I say "yeah but for some reason, I get turned on by thinking about it." "Ok, I'll think about it." Not much else of note took place as we just got ready for bed and fell asleep.

I slept over at her place and we didn't say anything about it this morning. I think it went well. She thought it was pretty weird, but didn't say no, so the door isn't closed. She also thought about our talk on Sunday and opened up about things that she'd like to try. Overall, I'm estatic with the progress. Please let me know what you think and how to proceed. Your guys' advice on this forum and in the private messages has been great. Thanks for the help so far.

It sounds like it went off super well. She didn't get mad. She didn't say she wouldn't talk about her past, and she expressed to you that she thought men didn't want to hear about that stuff. You told her it was a turn on for you. It's all good brother! Let her think about it and you should BRING IT UP AGAIN when the moment is right. This will let her know that this was not just a fluke... you really do want to hear about those men.... once she's comfortable with that - give it a little time, don't rush it- you can ease her into the idea that you want her to have NEW MEN. Good luck!

[elina]

Thanks Henry,

Now that you have raised the topic of Her being with other males, even if it is only Her past boyfriends,
it may be a good idea to leave that topic for Her to reflect upon.

Don't push it now untill She does. Meanwhile do everything you can to please Her and demonstrate how much you enjoy being with Her, She will get back to you when She feels like it.

Sincerely
elina

[proudcuck40]

Hi HenryB12,

Thank you for sharing the progress. I am really happy for you! It’s a very exciting time.

I agree with elina, try not to push things too much. The last thing she will want is any pressure, or to feel overwhelmed.

I know how exciting and exhilarating it feels to be in your position, and it’s hard not to get carried away. Doing so will do more harm than good though.

Take you time, be considerate, and enjoy things as they unfold. Offer her your full support and reassurance at every step.

[HenryB12]

Thanks Henry,

Now that you have raised the topic of Her being with other males, even if it is only Her past boyfriends,
it may be a good idea to leave that topic for Her to reflect upon.

Don't push it now untill She does. Meanwhile do everything you can to please Her and demonstrate how much you enjoy being with Her, She will get back to you when She feels like it.

Sincerely
elina

Hi HenryB12,

Thank you for sharing the progress. I am really happy for you! It’s a very exciting time.

I agree with elina, try not to push things too much. The last thing she will want is any pressure, or to feel overwhelmed.

I know how exciting and exhilarating it feels to be in your position, and it’s hard not to get carried away. Doing so will do more harm than good though.

Take you time, be considerate, and enjoy things as they unfold. Offer her your full support and reassurance at every step.

Yep, I agree with the both of you. I planted the seed and I don't want to overwhelm her. Hopefully the seed grows into something amazing, but if not, I still have a great girlfriend so I can't complain.

Small update: We had sex yesterday night and it was completely normal. I ate her out for a while and then we had good sex. No new kinks, fantasies, or anything like that shared. I don't want to push it and I want to maintain times where it's just us two enjoying each other.

[Funpa99469]

I think that makes sense, Henry. Let her come around to it all naturally so she will become more open to sharing.

[HenryB12]

Update: We decided to hang out today (Saturday) as she is leaving for the weekend with her bestfriend tonight on a little road trip. We went to lunch and went back to her place to chill. After a while, things starting heating up and we went to her bedroom. As we are kissing while taking our clothes off, I tell her I have a surprise for her. I quickly go grab the blindfold I bought after I heard she wanted to try it. I tell her she's gonna have to wear it while we have sex and she seems interested. She puts it on and I start making out with her body, starting from her face all the way to her pussy. Right before though, I come back up and start seriously dirty talking to her, almost like whispering in her ears while using my hands down there. I'm ok at dirty talking but she was moaning like crazy. I go down and she cums very quickly after because the foreplay and new stuff I guess really turned her on. I start dirty talking in her ear again and go back down and make her cum again. Then, as I'm about to slide in her, she takes the blindfold off and puts it on me. She takes the condom off, tells me to leave it on, and starts blowing me. I don't last very long, probably like 2 minutes because of the foreplay and eating her out for awhile. And she swallows, which she knows I like. Overall, it was a super, super hot experience.

She left several hours ago and I can't stop thinking about it. Easily a top 10 sexual experience for me. I wanted a few things to come out of this. 1. To have a great time with her. 2. To explore her newly revealed interests. 3. Show her that I'm still thinking about the things we talked about on Wednesday.

I'm hoping that she will think about it and try the stuff I shared during the earlier conversation as well. I'm not pushing anything myself, just trying to encourage her to think about it without me directly mentioning it. As elina said earlier, give her lots of pleasure and she will give it back.

I'm not sure if she will bring up stories of her past guys anytime soon. But if she does, should I ask questions or just let her talk the whole time? I really don't want to make her uncomfortable, as she was a little bit weirded out when I told her about my fantasy. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

[elina]

Thanks Henry,

I loved that update, seems like both of you are enjoying each other and becoming more open towards each other

I'm not sure if she will bring up stories of her past guys anytime soon. But if she does, should I ask questions or just let her talk the whole time? I really don't want to make her uncomfortable, as she was a little bit weirded out when I told her about my fantasy. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

I would suggest that you try to act like a good and interested listener. Show Her that you enjoy hearing Her tell, make sure She realizes that She can divulge anything She wants to divulge without offending you. By all means ask nice questions, but don't try to push if there is something She is reluctant to go into.

Then make passionate love to Her to ensure that She gets the message that the more open She is, the more you love Her.

Sincerely

[HenryB12]

Thanks Henry,

I loved that update, seems like both of you are enjoying each other and becoming more open towards each other

I'm not sure if she will bring up stories of her past guys anytime soon. But if she does, should I ask questions or just let her talk the whole time? I really don't want to make her uncomfortable, as she was a little bit weirded out when I told her about my fantasy. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

I would suggest that you try to act like a good and interested listener. Show Her that you enjoy hearing Her tell, make sure She realizes that She can divulge anything She wants to divulge without offending you. By all means ask nice questions, but don't try to push if there is something She is reluctant to go into.

Then make passionate love to Her to ensure that She gets the message that the more open She is, the more you love Her.

Sincerely

Ok thanks Elina. I am concerned about crossing any boundaries or making her feel uncomfortable as I've mentioned. But being an active listener would only show that I am interested in hearing more. I am probably overthinking it.

Small update: She got back on Monday and we only had time to hang out for an hour. We had normal sex and no mention of anything about the fantasy conversation from her. As of now, I'm still gonna wait for her to bring it up (unless you guys think I should initiate it again), as I agreed with the replies that said to wait for her.

[Funpa99469]

Don’t wait too long to bring it up again though, Henry. It’s a fine balance but she will probably need to be encouraged some to share and open. She’ll need to see how supportive and into it you are.

[HenryB12]

Small Update: We made plans to hang out at her place later tonight. I don't know why, but I have this strong feeling in my gut that she is gonna bring something up. She was being extra flirty on the phone today and I just have this feeling. Hopefully I get some new info/stories. Wish me luck.

[phelly]

Good luck. hope it goes well. we are waiting for an update.

[johntigger1469]

Good luck!

[oldhat877]

Sounds good man, good luck. Hope you get some hot stories.

[wildrollercoaster]

Reminds me of a condom-discovery story that a woman I know once shared with me: While she was having sex with her boyfriend, he discovered a loose condom lodged deep inside her vagina. Earlier that day she'd secretly fucked someone else, who evidently assumed she knew their condom had detached inside of her.

[HenryB12]

Sorry this update took so long to be posted, got unexpectedly busy with work.

Update: I got to her place and she was immediately all over me. I don't know what got into her but she was super horny. She pulls me down onto her couch and starts pulling my pants off and starts to blow me. After a few minutes of foreplay, she opens a condom that she must've grabbed before I arrived, puts in on me and starts riding me. We fuck for probably 10 minutes before I cum. Again, I don't know what got into her. I'm not sure if she came, but she told me that she needed that. Super hot. Fell asleep soon after while watching a show.

Unfortunately, no mention of her past. Sorry to get anyone's hopes up, my gut feeling was off. I'm thinking of waiting a couple more days before bringing it up again. She probably wants to know 100% that I'm comfortable with it, so she might be waiting for me to initiate it. However, I do think waiting for her to reflect/stew on the talk was the right call. Any opinions on my plan are welcome.

[Funpa99469]

Henry, you could say to her that what she did was unbelievably hot and really turned you on. Then ask her what was it that made her so turned on and suggest or ask if it was what you had asked her to think about… that you want her to be open about her past experiences with other guys with you. See what she says or how she reacts.

[elina]

Dear Henry

Go with the Flow.
You are crazy about this girl, and now She appears to be going completely crazy with you.
Lucky you!!
Enjoy it!!

Don't push for anything now, just build a close relationship to the girl and you will have plenty of time, and a much better foundation to explore the more kinky sides and Her past lovers later.

Just my thoughts
elina

[Hima]

My wife was obviously a size queen from our start. When we 1st had sex many years ago, she was under the bed sheet sucking me. After a few minutes, pokes her head out and asks "Doesnt it get any bigger"? Mind you, I was 19, hard as wood, but appearently my slim almost 7" was less than she was use to.
Other comments she made as the weeks passed. "Are you in all the way"? " Maybe if I get on top I can feel you better".
By the 2nd month she asked. " Do you mind if I use my vibrator during sex? It helps me cum".
One day while watching the old show Newly Wed Game, question was.. If you could change something about your partner what would it be? She quickly said "Id make his penis bigger".
Since we were having regular sex and falling in love, I blew off the comments, but finally asked her about previous bf.
Without hesitation she said "His was alot bigger". I asked
for details. With her hands, " He was like this with a big head" 2 hands + head. And like this thick.. her thumb/ forefinger had about 2" gap.
Crazy thing too, shes 5' 2" and was about 110 lbs then.

She continued using her vib toys into marriage. One day she asked me "Do you those penis pumps work"?
Long story short, after trying different ones and alot of practice, no gain in length but, YES, makes my girth much thicker. She loves the results and its been a regular part of our foreplay.
Sorry if I got a little of topic, but as another poster put it, onece a woman gets use to the stretching and deep filling of a large penis, she doesnt forget.

[HenryB12]

Good luck. hope it goes well. we are waiting for an update.

Good luck!

Sounds good man, good luck. Hope you get some hot stories.

Thanks for the good luck wishes. Hopefully it happens in the near future.

Dear Henry

Go with the Flow.
You are crazy about this girl, and now She appears to be going completely crazy with you.
Lucky you!!
Enjoy it!!

Don't push for anything now, just build a close relationship to the girl and you will have plenty of time, and a much better foundation to explore the more kinky sides and Her past lovers later.

Just my thoughts
elina

Yeah, I'm crazy about her and I'm pretty certain she is as well, which is great. I do agree, we got plenty of time and your advice has helped me so far so thanks for that. I do hope that later ends up being sooner rather than later though. What do you guys think about me bringing out the blindfold again, which was a part of the fantasy conversation, to bring it up again? I think it could be a smooth transition back into my fantasies. Then, I could her know that I'm still interested in her past, maybe removing any doubts she might have that I would be against it. Also, I don't think this approach wouldn't come off as pushy.