Hookup sites?

[LilyValley]

Hi! I’m new here and still trying to figure things out. My husband and I want to get into the Hotwife lifestyle. We’d appreciate any pointers. Also, has anyone had any luck using lifestyle or hookup sites?

[BT2]

Try dating sites. They usually have a section for people looking for casual hookups. Or, look at some tantric massage sites. The site may describe what he offers to women, or you can phone and ask if he provides "special services". Avoid legit' massage sites. They won't risk their license. Larger metro areas also have male escorts. The latter two you'll have to pay though, but it may be worth it for a first-time experience. We have tried both from time to time, usually if we wanted something in the next day or two, and have had good results.

Pointers? Most contributors on here will have them - and many of the pointers differ. My wife and I try to keep the "rules" down to a minimum, such as condoms on first date, anal, etc. You don't want to need a computer to keep track of multiple rules. And, if you find a non paid person, remember that the guy is a volunteer which enables you and your husband to experience a fantasy. It you approach him with the idea that you wear space panties (your pussy is out of this world, and he sure is lucky) you may find in turn that he doesn't treat you nor your limits with respect, and you are not likely to have a second date.

You will read on this forum from time to time that good friends seldom make a good hotwife date, but a good hotwife date can become good friends. Some people, mostly women, may disagree - we, from experience, don't.

You will also read on here from time to time that hotwife activities are open, honest and shared. They are not private for either party. They are not a license to commit adultery.

You may also read on here that hotwife activities are NOT a cure for a shaky marriage.

AND, you will find that some people, such as myself, love giving free advice to newbies, and just about anybody else.

[BT2]

One more thing.

Fantasizing about becoming a hotwife can be fun. But, when fantasizing about becoming a hotwife you pretty well control the activities of all involved, and also the end result. In real life, there are also two other people involved, your husband and the male who is going to have intercourse with you, and they are not likely to act as you imagine. Also, the majority of people who contribute on this forum have positive hotwife experiences. Those with bad experiences, and there are some, no longer frequent this forum.

[Her number1]

Hi! I’m new here and still trying to figure things out. My husband and I want to get into the Hotwife lifestyle. We’d appreciate any pointers. Also, has anyone had any luck using lifestyle or hookup sites?

Lily, There are many wives here that use online/dating sites to good effect. Different ones work better for some locations than others, so it's best to try different ones to see for your area.
My wife, Farmgirl, doesn't go the route of 'online', instead she "hunts in the wild" using her normal flirting with men. Having or developing a mindset of looking at things from a sexual viewpoint goes a long way.

[leggysman]

If you want to find a man who will understand the role of a 3rd easily, then the swinger-type sites are where you should start. As Her number1 said, which ones are better for you will probably depend on where you live.

SDC, SLS, AFF, Kasidie, and FetLife are examples of these. PM me if you'd like to hear more about what's worked for us.

Ashley Madison, Feeld, and Tinder are possibilities too, though maybe you'll have to do a bit more explaining about what you want on those ones?

On the swinger sites, saying you're a hotwife ought to be understood by most of the guys there.