Beginnings

[Deeperlove1369]

Martasboy, everything you describe here is a cuckold situation, there is no chance I would ever derive pleasure from being humiliated or god forbid my wife denies me sex while she gets fucked by other men, that is one of our very few hard rules. I will always reclaim my wife after her rendezvous. Also, we don't view sex as competition nor comparisons, all of us guys are different and we celebrate that, not who is better than who. I will 100% agree that Hotwife husbands are completely devoted to their goddess wives and trust them implicitly with all their being or this just doesn't work.

Hey Deeperlove, I never ever said that all guys into the hot wife lifestyle or any certain way.

I clearly stated with the qualifier "SOME". I did not say "ALL". I was offering her a wide range of descriptions of how some guys are, to help her understanding.

I literally wrote:

"Besides the excitement of seeing other men desire our woman, SOME men have fantasies about having their wife deny them sex, showing preference to their boyfriend. SOME like humiliation fantasies as well, like having the wife tell them that her outside lover is better than he is."

Everything I said is true. There are some men within this lifestyle, who have those fantasies and interests.

Hello back to ya Marta'sBoy, agree with you I do, there are no shortages of cuckolds in the LS. It just looked your reply was heavily loaded in that "shred-out" and they're not into that. I do however see that you were focused on her Frenchman part of the story, so it is fitting...for the Frenchman only. That experience really rattled them and very much not cool. No offense intended my friend, thank you for the reply.

[MartasBoy]

....Yes, you certainly did, I was able to understand what you were trying to say and I appreciate the feedback, I have certainly been able to realize that YES, one of the motivations is the one that you commented (and I would dare to say that it is the most common: desire to feel humiliated, or at least that is what I have been able to appreciate)...

No, no, no. I do not believe that the most common motivation for men wanting to see their wife sleep with other men is humiliation.
I believe that the most common motivation, is that ego validation I mentioned first. The very basic feeling of satisfaction we have, when we see other men desiring our woman.
Like I said in my very first comment of my first post, I believe it is related to those times when we are in public with our wife or girlfriend, and we catch other men checking her out.

I had a girlfriend once who was so beautiful, that every time I went to the bathroom, some man tried to hit on her. Then, when I returned from the bathroom, I could see the men sitting across the bar, looking at her, and at me, and I could tell they were wondering, "Dang! How did a guy as plain looking as him, get a girl as beautiful as her?"
And when we walked out of the bar, holding hands, or with my arm around her, I would smile at them as I walked by, as if to say to them, "Yeah, she's my girl. She's going home with me tonight. And I'll be making love to her in just a little while. Are you jealous?"

It is a real ego trip, and that is the motivation I think is most common for men who want to see their woman have sex with another man.

I do not believe that humiliation is the most common motivation. But there are plenty of men who have fantasies about humiliation. There are some men who are motivated by fantasies of being denied. That fantasy of being horny for beautiful women who we cannot have. But that is only some of us on here. And some have both of those fantasies. But I must stress only SOME have these fantasies.

Have you figured out which of these different motivations are of Interest to your husband? Will you play with these fantasies of his?

My wife plays with those fantasies with me. She has pretended to have an imaginary lover. She tells me that she must continue with him because he is bigger, stronger, more muscular, more manly, has a longer and larger cock, can reach her cervix, and gives her endless orgasms.

[Mikay19]

Hi Hotwife Latam,

Contact me any time. I would love to hear what you thought of the book. Maybe listening to it together with your husband?!

I am on the same spectrum as the Deeperlove1369 above. Hot-wifing should bring you closer together and not tear you apart. If it begins too, please stop, reassess, and or change the rules. There is no reason we can't experience other people while remaining wholly devoted to each other. There are nearly unlimited facets to cuckolding, hotwife, Threesomes, etc. You might say this way of doing sex has as nearly unlimited variations, as many as people have fingerprints. I am not into humiliation at. However, I do not condemn it at all, it's just not me. I can totally see the appeal of it in certain areas, and there are certain words or things she could say and do that would make the experience even hotter but again, not for me at this time.

I think the best advice I could give you is that when looking for that "other man", make sure they are very respectful. Not just to you but to your husband. This of course is based off of what I think you two may be looking for. I would give different advice to a different couple based on their wants and needs. For us though, a 3rd party (man or woman) has to be respectful.

On a separate note, Insatiable Wives actually do a plug for this website. That is how I found it. I am also very new to this website.

Cheers,

[Mikay19]

Sorry for the dropped words above. I hate going back reading what I wrote, not matter how many times I reread my post before posting, I screw something up.

[Bogdan]

It is a delicate game played for the pleasure of you both. Guarding each others pleasure and respect is key. If someone is breaking down borders that is part of your marriage/happiness/respect/fun that is and should be regarded as a big red flag. Keep talking, that will ensure a game that can be played without sad faces...