Retired Hotwife

[Treat yourself girl]

The last time Amy fucked a buck was almost a year ago. One of her rules has been never allowing me to fuck her from behind... only her bucks can do that. But the other night she was naked apart from her black stilettos... she leaned onto the window sill and told me to fuck her from behind and don't stop till I exploded inside her. I obeyed her instructions with much vigour and enthusiasm, it was fantastic.

I later asked why she had allowed me this pleasure. She said from now on she only wanted my cock, she's done with fucking bucks, so I can now access all areas.

Don't know what's brought on this change of heart, but it's always been her choice.

I feel honoured at the exclusive access, but I'm going to miss having her as a Hotwife after all this time.

[LouiseQ]

Like your wife, I am also 'retired'. In my case it was a bad experience in a MFM situation. I had engaged with with the primary M and things were going reasonably well. I had split up with my first FB (Mike) when he told me he had a gf. I said I would only continue if he told her and she was ok with it (I don't condone cheating). Needless to say, this ended what had been a very very rewarding relationship. I felt very down at this point, and my husband suggested I look for someone new. Jason more or less miraculously appeared (he came to fix our plumbing!). He was very dominant, and having caught me at a low moment, He fixed MY plumbing!

He wasn't as skilled as Mike, but he scratched an itch. When he suggested a threesome with his friend I was intrigued. Having sought my husband's permission, I went away for a weekend with the two of them. What I anticipated as 'first one then the other repeat until exhaustion' encounter deteriorated quickly into semi-continuous anal sex, which left me very sore and angry. The last iteration was very much against my will, and the two of them were very abusive.

I have since had an occasional liaison with a colleague of Alex (consensual), who is rather older, a widower, and quite lonely. He can deliver and that keeps me more or less sane! I should just add that I love my husband deeply and he gives me 95% - in bed and out of it - of what I need, so I am content being an ex-hotwife.

[coastalkid]

Like your wife, I am also 'retired'. In my case it was a bad experience in a MFM situation. I had engaged with with the primary M and things were going reasonably well. I had split up with my first FB (Mike) when he told me he had a gf. I said I would only continue if he told her and she was ok with it (I don't condone cheating). Needless to say, this ended what had been a very very rewarding relationship. I felt very down at this point, and my husband suggested I look for someone new. Jason more or less miraculously appeared (he came to fix our plumbing!). He was very dominant, and having caught me at a low moment, He fixed MY plumbing!

He wasn't as skilled as Mike, but he scratched an itch. When he suggested a threesome with his friend I was intrigued. Having sought my husband's permission, I went away for a weekend with the two of them. What I anticipated as 'first one then the other repeat until exhaustion' encounter deteriorated quickly into semi-continuous anal sex, which left me very sore and angry. The last iteration was very much against my will, and the two of them were very abusive.

I have since had an occasional liaison with a colleague of Alex (consensual), who is rather older, a widower, and quite lonely. He can deliver and that keeps me more or less sane! I should just add that I love my husband deeply and he gives me 95% - in bed and out of it - of what I need, so I am content being an ex-hotwife.

Sorry about your bad experience with your threesome. How much did that factor in with your decision to become an "ex-hotwife"? Do you ever get urges or desires even though you've quit? Did your sex life with your husband suffer afterwards? If it were me I'd be worried that my sex life lost out too if you became indifferent to sex. Did you feel indifferent?

[Tank Turner]

I had no clue that hotwives had retirement plans ;-)

[coastalkid]

I had no clue that hotwives had retirement plans ;-)

Apparently it also includes benefits, or rather "friends with benefits", unless you're fully retired as a hotwife too!

[zorro]

In following stories over the years, I have read a few women do enter retirement. But more seem to just take a leave and later return.

For both sexes, sexual energy seems to wax and wane. Time off can be sensible when it wanes. But once it's up again, it's time to wax in preparation!

[Tank Turner]

Hi costalkid,

Do retired hotwives have IRAs or defined benefit retirement plans?

[LouiseQ]

Hi coastalkid,

My bad MFM experience showed me how naive I'd been. My time with Mike had been perfect, and I assumed his replacement would be similar, stupid I know. It taught me what a lottery hotwifing can be.

I wasn't in any way unhappy with Alex, my husband, and when he set me up with Don, an ex-colleague of his, I was content to see how things went. Don is no Mike, but he gives me the extra oomph I need, when I need it. It's possible I may come out of retirement, but it would take something - and someone - pretty special to tempt me!

[coastalkid]

Hi coastalkid,

My bad MFM experience showed me how naive I'd been. My time with Mike had been perfect, and I assumed his replacement would be similar, stupid I know. It taught me what a lottery hotwifing can be.

I wasn't in any way unhappy with Alex, my husband, and when he set me up with Don, an ex-colleague of his, I was content to see how things went. Don is no Mike, but he gives me the extra oomph I need, when I need it. It's possible I may come out of retirement, but it would take something - and someone - pretty special to tempt me!

Thanks for your reply! There's a lot about the hotwife/cuckold lifestyle that gets "glossed" over. Most of the attention and writing is about actual event because everyone seems to think that the other details are not sexy and uninspiring. The problem with that is if those other details aren't worked out the potential for a less than satisfying or even bad event could/will happen.

Your experience with Mike set a standard that your inexperience didn't account for when searching for a replacement. I understand your stance on being with cheating husbands/bfs. There seems to be a split on how couples feel about it. I personally see both sides of the issue and each have their pros and cons. All that really matters is you've made your choice until you change your mind or relax your standard.

In regard to your "coming out of retirement" you said it would take something special to entice you. I have to ask if your age has anything to do with your reluctance. I know the bad experience was a factor. Your experience with Mike showed you how much fun it could be so you have that as a draw for wanting more. You know a lot more now than you did when you started especially in regard to how you would do things differently.

The reason I ask about the age is my wife and I are older. I've shared my interest in the hotwife lifestyle and we are in a "role playing/dirty talk in bed" phase. Neither of us are in the same shape as we were in our youth. My wife is super sensitive about her appearance. I always tell her she's beautiful and skilled and how lucky I am to have her. If we were where we are at now and in our youth I think things would be vastly different. I've come to realize that it's not as easy or simple for older people than it is for younger people. Sometimes I think we've "aged out" of the game and then other days I feel hopeful that the right opportunity will come along.

What kind of special person or arrangement would it take to make consider re-entering the hotwife lifestyle?

[coastalkid]

Hi costalkid,

Do retired hotwives have IRAs or defined benefit retirement plans?

Oh my, too funny!

[LouiseQ]

I think there would definitely have to be an emotional connection. Hotwives, and in particular, hot wife husbands, worry too much about such a connection developing. I can only speak for myself, but the idea of a humourless shag (sorry, I'm British!) with a guy with a very large appendage, who can go on for hours and/or can recover in minutes, does not appeal to me. I would feel like a toy. Good sex, really good sex, happens when you and your partner like and care for each other. I appreciate that this can present a risk to the marriage, but only couples with a rock steady marriage should ever consider the practice.

I have counselled a number of husbands and wives about the practice and I have come across situations where the marriage has foundered, but only where the marriage was already in serious trouble. The hotwife experience can be joyful and pay wonderful dividends to all partners, but it has to be based on the husband's desire to liberate his wife and give her the experiences she craves. Where it is just the husband cajoling or pressurising his wife, it is likely to encourage her mindset that he doesn't actually care about her feelings and just wants his own gratification.

I was immensely lucky in that my husband recognised my inhibitions caused by being abused at an early age. He wanted me, as he said, not to end my life thinking of all the things I could have done but didn't, but to experiment and find out about ME.

About you and your wife. It's really not about age and physical perfection. Most women, whatever their age, can make themselves attractive, by which I mean able to attract potential partners. Many younger men are attracted to older women, as are older men. My advice, if your wife is prepared to dip her toe in the water, is the well proven strategy of her spending an evening in the bar of a popular hotel, with you present but unobserved. It will be easy for the two of you to tell if their is interest (she may not see it, as it isn't just about guys coming up and propositioning her, but what YOU would see - the odd appreciative glance from others). Your wife doesn't have to take up any of the offers that come her way, and it's probably best if she doesn't, but almost certainly she will attract some attention!

[tailchasers]

Mrs Tail has gone in and out of retirement a couple times. All due to medical problems. She's nearing the end of menopause now and I truly feel when she's ready that she'll be on the prowl. Hopefully with a vengeance. Things just work differently now and believe a new FB would help bring out her sexual beast. Someone to scratch her different than me. She is extremely sexy and prior to this all she was highly sexualized to the point of weekly sometimes more. She has expressed her desire to return to that woman.

[Tank Turner]

AARHW: American Association of Retired Hot Wives, a subsidiary of AARP.

[Her number1]

I think there would definitely have to be an emotional connection. Hotwives, and in particular, hot wife husbands, worry too much about such a connection developing. I can only speak for myself, but the idea of a humourless shag (sorry, I'm British!) with a guy with a very large appendage, who can go on for hours and/or can recover in minutes, does not appeal to me. I would feel like a toy. Good sex, really good sex, happens when you and your partner like and care for each other. I appreciate that this can present a risk to the marriage, but only couples with a rock steady marriage should ever consider the practice.

I have counselled a number of husbands and wives about the practice and I have come across situations where the marriage has foundered, but only where the marriage was already in serious trouble. The hotwife experience can be joyful and pay wonderful dividends to all partners, but it has to be based on the husband's desire to liberate his wife and give her the experiences she craves. Where it is just the husband cajoling or pressurising his wife, it is likely to encourage her mindset that he doesn't actually care about her feelings and just wants his own gratification.

I was immensely lucky in that my husband recognised my inhibitions caused by being abused at an early age. He wanted me, as he said, not to end my life thinking of all the things I could have done but didn't, but to experiment and find out about ME.

About you and your wife. It's really not about age and physical perfection. Most women, whatever their age, can make themselves attractive, by which I mean able to attract potential partners. Many younger men are attracted to older women, as are older men. My advice, if your wife is prepared to dip her toe in the water, is the well proven strategy of her spending an evening in the bar of a popular hotel, with you present but unobserved. It will be easy for the two of you to tell if their is interest (she may not see it, as it isn't just about guys coming up and propositioning her, but what YOU would see - the odd appreciative glance from others). Your wife doesn't have to take up any of the offers that come her way, and it's probably best if she doesn't, but almost certainly she will attract some attention!

Louise,
So very well said. I've enjoyed your comments and words of wisdom over my time here.

[LouiseQ]

My knowledge and experience - such as it is - has only partly come from m hotwife days, but also from individuals and couples who have contacted me and sought my advice. I try to remain in contact with them whatever they decided to do. In practice, I have counselled more people close to or on the cusp of taking the plunge than those who have already done so but are experiencing PTSD, as it were. In all the time I have been corresponding with those seeking my advice, I have only encountered one hotwife who decided to dump her husband and take up a full-time relationship with her bull.

There is, even in this day and age, a repressed belief that women are somehow less sexual than men and it is therefore exciting to experience or hear about a woman who is truly sexually liberated. The reality is that married women are held back by a variety of influences, and that if these (reputation, fear of loss of family, security etc etc) could somehow be removed, most women would relish and enjoy 'strange cock' (or cocks!), and to be sexually available to men outside the confines of their marriage. I have known wives who did it only once, decided that it was all she needed, to those whose sexual journey encompassed just about every variety of encounter. I can share SOME of the details, but would always insist on maintaining anonymity, including correspondence with a woman who shared her tips about reeling in the man she desired.