Advice- please

[Willd321]

Hello there.

I’m Will - new to the forum but happy to be here. I’m 35 married to my wife. I’ve had a secret cuckold fantasy / even hotwife for the last 5 years.

I would love to see her fucked by a bigger cock. I recently bought an extender that we’ve yet to try properly

My wife has periods of low sex drive and has throughout our relationship so the extender has taken the back seat. We were having sex the other week and she said she does not enjoy penetration and could hardly feel me.

I played along and thought this might be an opening…how I should use the sleeve and it might be my penis size. She likes her bigger toys so I think she would be receptive

What I suppose I’m asking is advice on how to bring this up (someone we know was in a cuckold / hot wife scenario that we accidentally found out about and she said it wasn’t ‘for her’…in hindsight I wish I had said I found it hot

Thanks

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Wild321.

[Pufferfish]

Take some time and read a great many of these threads and you will find a great many similarities between your relationship, and everyone else's. And you'll find that the advice given to them can be applied to you as well. The advice is simple, women keep things to themselves when they're sure you aren't going to like it or feel the same way. The hotwife/cuckold life "not being for her" is what's called a knee-jerk reaction. She's obviously not going to say to you "Wow, I wish I could get fucked by a bunch of guys and have you be ok with it..." At least until you have some conversations with her and explain how that's exactly what you want for her as well. That is a terrifying thing for a woman to admit to her husband as in 98% of cases the guy is going to be mad.

It may well be that your wife really doesn't like the idea, but you won't know for certain until you first lay all your cards on the table first. So the advice is simple, talk to your wife about your fantasy. It's scary sure, but it's actually super easy and you'll feel like an idiot for not doing it sooner. Don't even bring this up in the bedroom, although you could, just have a normal conversation about your relationship and what you can do to improve it. She'll likely ask what you want to improve it as well and then you can bring up sex and start going into the specifics of your fantasy and how you think she would enjoy it and how you'd enjoy to see/hear about it. The more you begin to share and open up, the more she'll start to believe you're serious and begin talking to you about it.