Found Bigger Condoms in Girlfriend's Room, Help

[elina]

Thanks for the update,

Your girlfriend obviously enjoyed being blindfolded,
So one suggestion would be for you to bring it out and tell Her how hot this was for you, and that you truly enjoyed feeling how She loved this, and ask Her if there is something the two of you can do to make it even better for Her......

To me that is the right way to push Her buttons; most Ladies enjoy that their boyfriends are focused on making Her enjoy Herself.

Also, from most other stories on this site, I think one major obstacle for many Ladies experiencing that their husbands or botfriends wants to be cuckolded is to feel completely confident that the BF is pushing this because he truly wants the Lady to be happy. Working towards ensuring that She knows that yes you are crazy about Her and two the most important of all to you is to feel that you are able to make Her feel good and have wonderful sex is a good thing to do I think.

Sincerely
elina

[HenryB12]

Don’t wait too long to bring it up again though, Henry. It’s a fine balance but she will probably need to be encouraged some to share and open. She’ll need to see how supportive and into it you are.

Henry, you could say to her that what she did was unbelievably hot and really turned you on. Then ask her what was it that made her so turned on and suggest or ask if it was what you had asked her to think about… that you want her to be open about her past experiences with other guys with you. See what she says or how she reacts.

Thanks for the advice Funpa. Many different replies and personal messages back up what I originally thought about how being super supportive and clearly turned on by her past would encourage her to keep sharing.

[HenryB12]

My wife was obviously a size queen from our start. When we 1st had sex many years ago, she was under the bed sheet sucking me. After a few minutes, pokes her head out and asks "Doesnt it get any bigger"? Mind you, I was 19, hard as wood, but appearently my slim almost 7" was less than she was use to.
Other comments she made as the weeks passed. "Are you in all the way"? " Maybe if I get on top I can feel you better".
By the 2nd month she asked. " Do you mind if I use my vibrator during sex? It helps me cum".
One day while watching the old show Newly Wed Game, question was.. If you could change something about your partner what would it be? She quickly said "Id make his penis bigger".
Since we were having regular sex and falling in love, I blew off the comments, but finally asked her about previous bf.
Without hesitation she said "His was alot bigger". I asked
for details. With her hands, " He was like this with a big head" 2 hands + head. And like this thick.. her thumb/ forefinger had about 2" gap.
Crazy thing too, shes 5' 2" and was about 110 lbs then.

She continued using her vib toys into marriage. One day she asked me "Do you those penis pumps work"?
Long story short, after trying different ones and alot of practice, no gain in length but, YES, makes my girth much thicker. She loves the results and its been a regular part of our foreplay.
Sorry if I got a little of topic, but as another poster put it, onece a woman gets use to the stretching and deep filling of a large penis, she doesn't forget.

Wow she must really like big ones. It is crazy that she said that during your first time sleeping together. I feel like a lot of dudes would be super pissed off and insulted. I'm surprised she was so out-there with that. I don't think I would like the comments if we hadn't talked about it before. I probably be turned on, but more hurt. About your stretching and deep filling comment, I wonder if she compares me to the guy whose condoms I found or any other guys she's been with. It'd be really hot if she does.

Additionally, your reply made me realize something. I don't think I've ever heard my girlfriend mention size at all, nothing positive or negative. Just never said anything, even in dirty talk. She dirty talks about how my dick makes her feel, but no actual "you're so big" or "you fill me up", stuff like that. I'd never really thought about it until now, kinda interesting.

[leggysman]

You posted in the cuckold forum of a hotwife site, but asked for "help" about finding bigger condoms, as if you're a vanilla guy - not sure whether you're a wannabe cuck - with the implication that this is something that's somewhat worrying to you. Surely if you think you might a cuck, this is hot and exciting to think about, no?

Undoubtedly your girlfriend will be fucking other dudes soon though, and rubbing their uniformly elephantine cocks in your face, so to speak. Strap in for an unbelievable ride!

[HenryB12]

You posted in the cuckold forum of a hotwife site, but asked for "help" about finding bigger condoms, as if you're a vanilla guy - not sure whether you're a wannabe cuck - with the implication that this is something that's somewhat worrying to you. Surely if you think you might a cuck, this is hot and exciting to think about, no?

Undoubtedly your girlfriend will be fucking other dudes soon though, and rubbing their uniformly elephantine cocks in your face, so to speak. Strap in for an unbelievable ride!

I see how my initial (and maybe some of my other early) posts could make you confused as I was really confused about this myself. I'll try to explain my relationship with these fantasies so you can see where I'm coming from. Sorry if this is a little all over the place.

I'm sure that I'm not the only one who has thought "god why do I think about this?" or "why do I get turned on by these fantasies?" regarding cuckolding. I used to be a lurker on this site and had stumbled upon cuckold porn even before that. I'm not sure exactly when, a year or two ago, I completely cut off any cuckold porn or forums or anything related to it as I felt an enormous amount of shame about myself. I just wanted to forget about these thoughts, move on, and try to be "normal". And it actually worked. It was hard for the first couple months but eventually, I didn't really think about it at all. Even while having sex, I had other things that turned me on then and turned me on with my current girlfriend so I would just think about those fantasies/turn ons. However, the thoughts came flooding back once I found the condom box in her childhood bedroom. From when I found them on that Sunday, to probably Tuesday, it was basically all I could think about. I had a lot of weird feelings come back, the insecurities, the shame, the arousal, and if she cheated on me. I needed to get my thoughts out and I don't really have anyone to talk to about this. No one in my real life knows about this, except the little I've told my girl, only after I posted on here. I remembered this website and decided to put my situation out there to get some advice.

I still am relatively vanilla compared to others on this site. But, I did and have been doing some self-reflection and have I guess embraced that this turns me on (and have accepted it). And to be honest, the idea of her sleeping with other guys does a lot, but it also makes me feel anxious. I'm probably 95% sure that if she told me that she wanted to sleep around and cuck me, I'd be down. But there is still a small part of me that does feel the shame, the worry, and the nervousness that something could go wrong. That I might not enjoy the reality. That is part of the cuckold fantasy, but it could also be my gut telling me that it isn't a good idea. Your post confirmed the feeling that I'm also not completely comfortable with this yet, initiating these talks with my girl and imagining going through with the real life cuckolding. Right now, I do want her to sleep with other guys with "uniformly elephantine cocks" as you said. But, maybe later I'll discover that no, it's better just left in fantasy-land.

Sorry for this ramble. And if it bounces around weird.

[HenryB12]

Just a little more to add to my last post. I do still want to try this stuff with my girl. I'm incredibly turned on by it. I'm just nervous about ruining what could be a good thing by crossing a serious line. One of hers or mine. I'd like to think it could be worked through but you never know for sure. That is something that worries me. Again, I hope I'm not alone in my feelings in the last post. Something about your reply really made me look inward. And writing all of this out has re-affirmed my belief that I would really enjoy it. This vent session has been like a weight off my back. I plan to move forward with it (update below).

Thanks for the update,

Your girlfriend obviously enjoyed being blindfolded,
So one suggestion would be for you to bring it out and tell Her how hot this was for you, and that you truly enjoyed feeling how She loved this, and ask Her if there is something the two of you can do to make it even better for Her......

To me that is the right way to push Her buttons; most Ladies enjoy that their boyfriends are focused on making Her enjoy Herself.

Also, from most other stories on this site, I think one major obstacle for many Ladies experiencing that their husbands or botfriends wants to be cuckolded is to feel completely confident that the BF is pushing this because he truly wants the Lady to be happy. Working towards ensuring that She knows that yes you are crazy about Her and two the most important of all to you is to feel that you are able to make Her feel good and have wonderful sex is a good thing to do I think.

Sincerely
elina

Thanks once more for the advice elina.
Update: We are watching the super bowl at my buddy's house. Afterward, the two of us are heading to her place where I'll bring out the blindfold and show her how much I enjoy her experiencing pleasure. I'll think of the rest of my plan before I leave for the party. Should be a decent size step we are taking.

[HenryB12]

Alright, about to head out for our super bowl party. Loose plan goes :
1. Watch super bowl.
2. Leave with girlfriend back to her place.
3. Eat her out, blindfold, dirty talk. Give her all the turn ons.
4. Bring up past fantasies convo again and ask if she thought about a story she wants to share.
5. Show her how much I like it and probe for more if she seems comfortable. Back off if necessary.
6. Try to get her to see how much I like it so she does it again.

I'm feeling really confident about 1-4 right now. 5-6 I'm hopeful, but will need to judge in real time. Tonight is about to be a good night, I can feel it. Everyone have fun watching the super bowl if you do.

[fraktastic]

Hope you had a great night last night!

[Hima]

Yes, my wife's size queen comments when we 1st got together were very forward. Shes a bit older than me so I just figured it came with her experience. I was happy with the regular weekly sex so I didnt complain.
Were much older now, but she still has multiple orgasms with her toys as I kiss, lick and suck her head to toe. I stuggle with getting erections, so my mouth and hands have to work much more.
At this point, Id love to have a well hung, high stamina wing man do the heavy work these days. When I hear her very loud moans and screams from her toy orgasms, I close my eyes and fantasize a stud bull is giveing her a proper fucking.

Had an affair years back which turned into a cucking relation. The xgf, not wife, loved and got BIG cock even BBC. It was a crazy trip. Angst, jealousy, yet a turn on.

Your gf probably isnt a size queen as she never comments relating to it, but maybe willing to play on the side if you prove to be dedicated only to her. If you really want to pursue cucking maybe start with mfm porn where one guy is the bf/ hubby then ease into cuck vids where bf/ hubby sit back and watch.

Keep the updates coming.

[HenryB12]

Hope you had a great night last night!

I had an amazing night last night. I don't have time to write the whole update down now but lets just say, we made great progress. I should have time later today to post the update. Just wanted to let you guys know. Thanks for the good luck wishes everyone.

[elina]

Hope you had a great night last night!

I had an amazing night last night. I don't have time to write the whole update down now but lets just say, we made great progress. I should have time later today to post the update. Just wanted to let you guys know. Thanks for the good luck wishes everyone.

Glad to hear that,
looking forward to your next update

[HenryB12]

Update: So the plan started off right as we went and watched the super bowl at my friends house. I watched the whole game with my friends while my girlfriend was mostly socializing. After the game, I tell her that I want to leave and hang at her place but she decides she wants to bring a friend back. So the three of us go to her house and she left after what was probably the longest 45 min of my life.

We head to the bedroom shortly after and start kissing. We get completely undressed and continue making out. I take out the blindfold and she gets really excited. She puts it on and spread her legs for me. I alternate between eating her out and whispering dirty talk in her ear. She is moaning and I keep telling her how seeing her turned on is super hot. Eventually, she cums and I go up and start kissing her again. I tell her to taste herself on my lips and that really turns her on. I put on a condom and slide into her. We are making out while I'm thrusting in and out. After probably 7 minutes, we switch from missionary to cowgirl and she starts riding me. I don't last much longer and I cum inside her. I say "It is so hot seeing you turned on like that." She replies, "I don't know I guess I really like the blindfold." "And me." "No, just the blindfold." She says laughing. I go get us some water and I know the vibes are good right now so it's a perfect time to start.

I lay next to her on her bed and say "You should've told me about this blindfold fantasy earlier, it drives you crazy." "Yeah, it really makes your touch feel more intense." I ask "You got anymore fantasies that turn you on like that? It's really really hot." "The hot tub one I told you about before, that seems pretty hot. Kate said she tried it and it was kind of a letdown." "Well, I still want to try it, seeing how much how you enjoyed this," I reply. "No new ones since our sexy talk," she adds.

I take a deep breath and ask "Have you thought about the fantasies I told you about?" "Yeah, did you want me to start sucking your dick at the super bowl party?" she jokes. "Maybe at next years party. I meant the other one." "You mean hearing about my past partners." I nod. She tells me she did think about it since I brought it up. "I would be fine with it but I'm not a good storyteller. I wouldn't make it sexy." "You're good at dirty talk," I respond. "This is way different from dirty talk. I don't want to make you jealous or uncomfortable," she says. "I'm gonna be fine, it really turns me on." I move her hand onto my boner over my pajamas. "I don't know, it would be really awkward, I can't right now, I'll think about it for later." I notice the vibes are shifting so I say "Ok you don't need to share right now. Whatever you tell me will probably turn me on. I have a different idea. Can we try something new? You don't have to share anything." She looks at me skeptically but agrees to go along with it.

I start eating her out until I notice she is getting close. Now I have to shout out George for this idea in the private messages. I come up and kiss her and ask if she is ready. She says "sure I guess." I grab the blindfold and put it back on her. I start rubbing my dick around the outside of her pussy. While teasing her, I tell her how sexy she is, how much her being turned on turns me on, right in her ears. She moans a little and then I drop the bomb. I say "You don't have to say anything, can you just imagine something for me?" She moans again and nods so I continue, "Think about a guy from your past, who was really good in bed. I want you to imagine him teasing you with his dick. Imagine that you are back with him." I'm still teasing her pussy lips with my dick. She moans and like shudders in pleasure. I keep teasing her with my dick, while kissing around her face. "You look so sexy," I tell her. After another minute, I start sliding my dick in her. In her ear, I whisper "Imagine I'm him sliding into your pussy. Can you do that for me?" She gulps/moans and says yeah. I slide all the way in and she is super wet. Me eating her out first, the blindfold, the teasing, her imagination, turned her arousal level up high. "Imagine him feeling how wet you are, thrusting in and out." I go back to kissing her neck and can feel she just has her mouth wide open with no sound coming out. I'm rock hard right now and I know I not gonna last much longer. I say "I know this is the best pussy he's ever had. He remembers doing this with you." She moans again so I say "He loved when you came on his dick. Come on his dick again." "Oh my god," she gasps. "Come on this dick baby, I know you like it." And she pulls me in tight, hugging me hard as she cums on my dick. As she's cumming I only last like 5 more seconds and I bust hard. She doesn't cum all that often from normal sex so I know the combination of turn ons I used worked.

We kinda just lay there for a minute with me on top of her. I take the blindfold off and exclaim "Holy shit, that was so awesome, you are so hot." She doesn't say anything so I ask if she wants to talk about it. She doesn't respond so I ask "you ok?" She kinda nods so I say, "We can talk about it tomorrow if you just wanna think on it". She nods again so I kiss her and say ok. I throw away the condom and get cleaned up and slide in bed behind her. We didn't say anything and just cuddled until we fall asleep.

I just committed to the idea 100% and totally went for it. I was surprisingly not nervous. I almost feel like I got possessed lmao. I woke up late the next morning and saw her getting ready for the day. I asked if she wanted to talk about last night, and she kinda mumbled "No we can talk about it later." I get the feeling she is shocked by me and herself last night. We weren't completely vanilla before this but that was definitely way kinkier than we normally go. We texted a little today (Monday) but she said she wanted to be by herself today. We are hanging out tomorrow so I can only assume we are gonna talk about it then. But holy shit, it was so hot. George, thanks again for that idea. I'm not sure how comfortable she is gonna be talking about it tomorrow so having her not talk at all during it was a great call. Thanks everyone for the help. This was so crazy I don't really know how to put it into words. Any advice on how to proceed is always appreciated and I need it fast cause we are chilling at her place tomorrow (Tuesday). Thanks again.

[johntigger1469]

Sounds like things went super well...congrats on the progress!

[KevDi69]

While you’re hanging out and you’re getting comfortable, you should probably say “I’m sorry if I made you feel awkward or uncomfortable yesterday with my fantasy talk”. That would give her an opening to talk more freely about it. Her reluctance to talk about it may have been because she was uncomfortable and didn’t want to upset you by saying that. An apology would give her permission to freely express how she felt.
Good luck. Clearly, she enjoyed what she was experiencing while blindfolded and you getting her to relive past experiences. Don’t push too hard.

[FNQLivin]

I’d back right off. She’s clearly concerned.

[Tryn]

I sense she has some misgivings about the experience. Not saying she didn’t enjoy it, but likely uncomfortable with it. She may only understand sex as a strictly monogamous thing, meaning bringing in a past lover might feel like it’s not just you and her. When you discuss it with her, LISTEN. Truly try to understand what she is saying and what she feels. Until you understand both thoroughly, she isn’t going to be very receptive to your thoughts and feelings about it.

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

It may have brought up some old memories, maybe sad memories or bad memories. Could be it brought up fond memories and she's feeling sad it ended?

[hornedhubby]

I've tried to stay on the sidelines for this story. I'm more than old enough to be the OP's dad. A generation and a half behind his times.

But young single guys who have this kink may not realize the pressure they put on young girlfriends when they suggest playing around with nonmonogamy for kicks, especially before a first marriage. The two of you sound to be on the verge or in a love relationship. You've met her mom, etc. You're having fun and frequent sex. It's all good.

Now you're bringing up her sexual past and making discovery a priority before she knows that you are all in on her. In other words, married.

Until you marry her, she has no safe, comfortable and honest response available. Indeed, she may not know herself. If she goes along with it, she empowers you to change your mind and dump her as too slutty. If she declines, she may fear losing you over that. It's like a test and not a fair test at all.

So if you love her, focus on loving her and learning how to give her pleasure. Show your generosity and capacity for both. And let your relationship happen. Assume she fucked a guy with a bigger cock. You saw the rubbers. Yeah, probably more than once, eh?

It would be more honest to tell her you happened upon the box of XL's, than to proceed as you are right now.

YMMV.

[FNQLivin]

What a careful and thoughtful response. Perfect.

[HenryB12]

While you’re hanging out and you’re getting comfortable, you should probably say “I’m sorry if I made you feel awkward or uncomfortable yesterday with my fantasy talk”. That would give her an opening to talk more freely about it. Her reluctance to talk about it may have been because she was uncomfortable and didn’t want to upset you by saying that. An apology would give her permission to freely express how she felt.
Good luck. Clearly, she enjoyed what she was experiencing while blindfolded and you getting her to relive past experiences. Don’t push too hard.

I sense she has some misgivings about the experience. Not saying she didn’t enjoy it, but likely uncomfortable with it. She may only understand sex as a strictly monogamous thing, meaning bringing in a past lover might feel like it’s not just you and her. When you discuss it with her, LISTEN. Truly try to understand what she is saying and what she feels. Until you understand both thoroughly, she isn’t going to be very receptive to your thoughts and feelings about it.

It could be either one of these. She could be uncomfortable with upsetting me, saying she didn't like it while I was clearly turned on or uncomfortable with the idea that it wasn't just me and her, but the ghost of someone else as well. I believe she did enjoy it but maybe she feels guilty/weird about enjoying it, which is also making her wary about talking about it. You guys are right about the most important thing. I need to listen to what she is thinking, and truly try to understand her feelings toward the situation. I'll let her know that she can be completely honest and open about her feelings. And I'll apologize for making her feel that way.

I mean, I can understand why she might be uncomfortable. Hopefully talking about it reveals her feelings and we can get more comfortable talking about sex, not only about what happened Sunday night, but in general.

[HenryB12]

I've tried to stay on the sidelines for this story. I'm more than old enough to be the OP's dad. A generation and a half behind his times.

But young single guys who have this kink may not realize the pressure they put on young girlfriends when they suggest playing around with nonmonogamy for kicks, especially before a first marriage. The two of you sound to be on the verge or in a love relationship. You've met her mom, etc. You're having fun and frequent sex. It's all good.

Now you're bringing up her sexual past and making discovery a priority before she knows that you are all in on her. In other words, married.

Until you marry her, she has no safe, comfortable and honest response available. Indeed, she may not know herself. If she goes along with it, she empowers you to change your mind and dump her as too slutty. If she declines, she may fear losing you over that. It's like a test and not a fair test at all.

So if you love her, focus on loving her and learning how to give her pleasure. Show your generosity and capacity for both. And let your relationship happen. Assume she fucked a guy with a bigger cock. You saw the rubbers. Yeah, probably more than once, eh?

It would be more honest to tell her you happened upon the box of XL's, than to proceed as you are right now.

YMMV.

Feel free to jump in and give advice as you see fit. I don't really care how old you are. Older people have been through more, lived more, experienced more. You could have insights on things I don't.

I agree with your stance on letting her know I'm all in. We have said "I love you" to each other and are in a great relationship. I try to show her how much I care about her and am committed. We've met each others' families. However, it is to soon for marriage. We have only been together for less than a year. For some people that is fine, but for me, I'm not gonna get married until at least a few years pass together. And also, I'm still in college. In my opinion, it's way to early and I'm still to young. And yes, because we aren't married, either one of us could pick up and leave in an instant if we wanted to. I feel my words and actions show I'm all in and wouldn't do that. Is there another way besides what I'm currently doing to show her I'm all in?

And you think I should tell her about the condoms? I was told to keep that to myself.

[hornedhubby]

An honest response. And I'm impressed that you are celebrating the relationship. And that it a young relationship. As described, as good as it can be after only this much time.

See, if it's early for you, then it's also really early for her to reveal all her sexual history, experience details and fantasies. It takes time to share stuff like that; I'd say most wives never do so.

I don't know if you've yet felt that moment of certainty - She's the One. Plenty of love relationships never reach that point. But, as you say, even if you've passed that "all in" moment, your relationship is years away from marriage.

The only change in approach that I'd suggest is for you not to take her to bed with your own agenda foremost. Leave all of that alone for a while, unless she brings it up. Try to find out more about what might be on her sexual agenda. Don't be trying to advance your agenda. She seems open to exploring. Let her go the easy way for her. It might take you exactly where you want to go in the end.

No need to tell her about the condoms, IMO, unless you can conceivably explain stumbling upon them, rather than snooping.

But get away from obsessing about the condom discovery. Let it go.

Concerning the cuck kink, dude, I get it entirely. Ideally that would be a long game, too.

[HenryB12]

An honest response. And I'm impressed that you are celebrating the relationship. And that it a young relationship. As described, as good as it can be after only this much time.

See, if it's early for you, then it's also really early for her to reveal all her sexual history, experience details and fantasies. It takes time to share stuff like that; I'd say most wives never do so.

I don't know if you've yet felt that moment of certainty - She's the One. Plenty of love relationships never reach that point. But, as you say, even if you've passed that "all in" moment, your relationship is years away from marriage.

The only change in approach that I'd suggest is for you not to take her to bed with your own agenda foremost. Leave all of that alone for a while, unless she brings it up. Try to find out more about what might be on her sexual agenda. Don't be trying to advance your agenda. She seems open to exploring. Let her go the easy way for her. It might take you exactly where you want to go in the end.

No need to tell her about the condoms, IMO, unless you can conceivably explain stumbling upon them, rather than snooping.

But get away from obsessing about the condom discovery. Let it go.

Concerning the cuck kink, dude, I get it entirely. Ideally that would be a long game, too.

When I find somewhere I click with in a relationship, I just pour my energy into that. I've never been the sleeping around with everyone type.

I've been asking her about some fantasies she has and she has shared them. And she has been really into them. I thought I was doing something that would be more comfortable on her side regarding my fantasy, with her imagining without talking instead of sharing details. Maybe to initiate sharing after. I might've made the wrong call but who knows for certain. I'm just gonna keep up the stuff she really enjoys and let her explore/find her way.

And regarding the condoms, I only mentioned them because you brought them up. It's hot to think about but I had decided to not ask her about them as people on here advised against it early on.

Quick update: I'm about to pick up some pizza and bring it to her place. We're going to talk about Sunday night but I won't push my agenda at all. We can't not at least discuss what happened. Not planning on having sex tonight. I think watching a movie and cuddling is the way to go after the talk tonight. Prioritize connecting outside of sex right now. Hopefully all goes well.

[joel68]

Never mention that you discovered the condoms. Take that to your grave, as well as bring on this board.

In a serious relationship, it’s good to be open and honest but not completely. If what you have to say has only negative or hurtful consequences, then keep it to yourself.

The old example was when she asks if the dress she is wearing makes her look fat. There is nothing to be gained by admitting you looked through her drawers.

Good luck with your relationship going forward. There is plenty of time to explore your cuck kink. And even if you guys just talk dirty about it and that’s as far as it goes, just accept it. She will need to be on board with whatever you together decide to do sexually.

There have been threads here that had the guy push the girl into the LS when she really was not all in. Most of them didn’t work out all that well.

[hwlurker88]

Maybe after her orgasm she had some Post Nut Clarity and just felt a bit weird and worried a out what you think about her having an orgasm from it?

I always find intimate and embarrassing conversations to best be discussed while laying in bed and cuddling. The lights off offers a feeling of safety for her. We have our best conversations in that setting.