A Question for The Husbands

[Mike_B]

My wife and I have been married for 10 years and the other evening out of the blue asked me a question. Just so you know I have never cheated on Shirley and she has never cheated on me.
She told me that she had a work colleague that has hit on her and she is definitely sexually attracted to him. She wanted to my feelings about her spending the night with him. We had what amounted to a very calm and mature conversation where I explained that I would have a hard time with her having sex with another guy and she explained that she thought she would enjoy having a boyfriend for just sex and that I could do the same with another woman. To make a long story short after a few discussions we decided to leave the status quo in place .
Has your wife ever suggested this? Your reaction? Any comments?

[jrobb]

Mike_B,

Ummmmm, she didn't just "ask you a question". She asked you if she could fuck another man if she allowed you to fuck another woman.

Your "status quo" is probably about to change. She may even be asking in retrospect, just to see if she should've checked before she fucked him just a few weeks ago.

I don't know about your ages, kid status, etc., but... In a few days, tell her you've thought more about it and that you'd be ok with her spending the night with him, provided you drop her off and meet him, they take pics and video, and she/they tell you all about it after the fact. See how she responds.

JR

[NNKHOTWIFE]

"Has your wife ever suggested this?"

Unusual question, given the nature of this group.

Mike B's suggestions are good ones. You wouldn't be here if you were not thinking about it. Perhaps start with a couple of 2-3 hour visits, rather than all night. Your emotions are going to be pretty wild at first.

Keep in mind that you married her knowing she may have / probably did fuck other guys. As long as she comes back to you and shares the excitement, why not let her enjoy being a woman men find attractive?

She's hot. She's your wife.

Don't discuss it over the dinner table like a business meeting. Bring it up in the bedroom. Tell her you're trying to be fair to her and gauge your feelings. Ask how she feels about the things Mike B suggested. If her softly-spoken bedroom replies get your dick hard, there's a big clue for you.

[NikkiMySunshine]

Mike B. Wait. What am I missing here? Do you visit here often? How did you find OHW? Did you know what a hotwife is?

If you're not comfortable with her taking a lover , but knew right where to go to ask the question to the group, sounds fishy to me. Maybe some background about why you're here would help?

[foxylcfc]

My wife Vicky had a large body count before we met and even when we first got together she was still very active having sex with many men. Over time this slowed right down and in the last 10 years she has only fucked 5 different men. After marriage and kids about 3 years ago we discussed her having sex with other men again and she was really up for it but from here on in is only interested in black guys. This has nothing to do with taboo or kink she just finds black men more attractive.
She now has 2 regular guys and more would be difficult as any couple who both work full time and have kids realise time is not often available.

In summary I guess Vicky has always loved sex with different men and is always in a great mood for weeks after any fuck date. It was inevitable that she would become a hotwife and is all the happier for it. In every way it makes us a stronger couple as I love to see her happy and liberated. For the record since we first met I have never been with another woman and Vicky would hate it if I did, We are both very happy with this situation.

[leggysman]

They had no idea how to please a woman. They were only interested in getting off themselves so Shirley did provide instructions and had them slow down a bit. Yes they all came in her. Yes I had sloppy seconds. Her Pussy felt so silky on my. cockz. One of my favorite sexual activities. She also expected me to clean her which I did!

[MarknSusan]

Mike_B, if you have a hard time with her sleeping with someone else don’t do it.

I do however think you should respect her honesty and she must feel very comfortable with you to even admit this desire. The alternative is cheating which can destroy your marriage.

Susan and I have been consensual non monogamous since before we got married more than 30 years ago. We both have compersion for each other and have enjoyed this lifestyle with many amazing relationships with others. But we have learned that we are probably about 5% of the population and monogamous people are wired very different.

I think you need to keep talking with your wife about her attraction and let her know you appreciate her being honest but it’s something you don’t want in your relationship.

Wishing you both the best in your journey together.

[Thebestdays1]

When I proposed to my now ex wife she told me she would only agree if she had the freedom to see other men and women as she had a girlfriend at the time, as well as me. She told me about losing her virginity to a much older couple who explained how their open marriage bought them closer. She also admitted to swapping with others whilst she was with her previous boyfriend and that she'd also cheated on him as she enjoyed variety in her sex life. She admitted she loved me and said that she wanted to see other people just for sex and that, if I trusted her, she'd feel even more loving towards me. Then she added that I could also go with other women and seeing as I was still a virgin at that point, I'd eventually wonder what sex with another person would be like anyway. She suggested that I could go with her elder sister. There was one rule though, we had to be completely honest or it wouldn't work.

I, perhaps naively agreed, partly because she was the first woman I had ever loved and I have to admit, finding out she had a girlfriend turned me on too. I didn't think I'd ever go with her sister, however. Little did I know.

Her sister and I did have a couple of minor encounters soon after we got engaged and when I told my wife she seemed disappointed that we hadn't done more and encouraged me to go further in future.

To cut a very long story short, she had several lovers in the 20 years we were married, male and female and I went with her elder sister many times during our marriage and I have to admit, she gave me some of the best sex I've ever had. My wife loved me I know, but sex with her husband was too boring for her and over time, mostly happened during the periods she had a lover. At other times we rarely did anything except giving me a handjob when we talked about her previous lovers.

In the end, she didn't tell me how much hassle one of her ex's was giving her at work and another colleague stepped up and defended her and they ended up falling in love. I only found out about them when I'd noticed we'd grown far apart and suggested a trial separation.

In short, I'd had a lot of great sex with both of her sisters and one of her colleagues. She'd had a lot of fun with all her lovers, male and female and we both got off on hearing about each other's exploits. However, it did all lead to us eventually splitting up. I've had two more failed relationships and she's on her second also but she's cheated on her current partner with three other women and cheats on him once a month with me as she misses the thrill of the old days.

This sort of relationship can be extremely exciting and can even become addictive but it can definitely have it's drawbacks too. Honest communication, as others have already stated is absolutely 100% necessary at all times.

[Tank Turner]

Hi Mike_B,

She's gonna fuck that dude assuming she hasn't already.

[bewareoflizzy]

We were also married 10 years with 2 children when the topic slowly came to the surface. Liz likes to say she did it for me but I knew instinctively that this gorgeous, sexually dynamic woman was restless and wanted more. I encouraged her to dress and show off her body more and she agreed to, attracting more and more attention from the young guys at the restaurant. She would flirt and party with her work group after work late at night. She would get all dolled-up for me on date nights and recount her flirtations and after getting stoned we would talk about who she found most attractive. She would tell me about this one guy (10 years younger) who was really coming on to her while stroking my hardening cock and stare into my eyes. My heart would start to pound and my throat would get dry as I realized she was asking me to let her fuck him. She would create a scenario and describe it in great detail as her mouth moved down to engulf me. I was lost in her fantasy that would soon enough become our reality.

[BT2]

Several decades ago, an author who went by the name of Clarke Kent wrote an article on how to have a good hotwife experience. Among his writing he emphasized "never involve friends, coworkers, nor relatives". On this forum you read from time to time that a good hotwife experience involved openness, honesty and respect. Still others have written that being a hotwife is not a license to commit adultery.

Seems to me your wife (and maybe you) fails on all counts.

[Her number1]

Mike B. Wait. What am I missing here? Do you visit here often? How did you find OHW? Did you know what a hotwife is?

If you're not comfortable with her taking a lover , but knew right where to go to ask the question to the group, sounds fishy to me. Maybe some background about why you're here would help?

[leggysman]

My wife Shirley is the same way. Once she cucked me no more for me!

[BrunetteLover]

This is not a hotwife situation. This is a marriage that is in trouble. That's all it is.

[Mike_B]

Mike B. Wait. What am I missing here? Do you visit here often? How did you find OHW? Did you know what a hotwife is?

If you're not comfortable with her taking a lover , but knew right where to go to ask the question to the group, sounds fishy to me. Maybe some background about why you're here would help?

I am here because my wife pointed to this website as a resource if I had any questions.

[leggysman]

I am here because my wife pointed to this website as a resource if I had any questions.

But you've had your account for nearly a dozen years, you've posted about your wife being a prostitute and cucking you for years (sometimes with multiple guys at once), that your boss is her boyfriend, and also that you are a 'bull'.

My wife, Shirley has been spreading her legs for my boss, Vince, for the last 6months. She says his cock is the perfect size, as compared to me being to small and has the stamina to get her off 3-4 times a night! He is her bf now.

My wife started in this game while she was In college to make ends meet. Used ads in a local rag at first. Then she discovered a lounge at a hotel in Mission Vally where “amateurs” hooked up for money. They had a large clientele of business travelers. She only needed to work 2-3 nights a week but sometimes do 2-3 guys a night.

Even though our wives started at different times of their lives. It sounds like they had one thing in common. Beyond the money they both seemed to enjoy the game. I am not sure why but I think Shirley enjoys the taboo of hooking. She has evolved into the Call Girl type. As I mentioned she basically only sees 3 of her original customers once a month or so. Every once in awhile one of those 3 will contact her and ask if they can refer a colleague to her; usually younger. She always says yes because her old customers know her hard stops. In fact she has been known to service both the old and new at the same time.

As a bull I have found that many couples find this the ultimate cuckold fantasy. However I only know of two that now have a child fathered by someone other than hubby. I happen to be all in on this one.

[xxxRyno]

Mike B, you’ve been a member since 2013… your fantasy is finally coming true!

[Her number1]

I am here because my wife pointed to this website as a resource if I had any questions.

But you've had your account for nearly a dozen years, you've posted about your wife being a prostitute and cucking you for years (sometimes with multiple guys at once), that your boss is her boyfriend, and also that you are a 'bull'.

My wife, Shirley has been spreading her legs for my boss, Vince, for the last 6months. She says his cock is the perfect size, as compared to me being to small and has the stamina to get her off 3-4 times a night! He is her bf now.

My wife started in this game while she was In college to make ends meet. Used ads in a local rag at first. Then she discovered a lounge at a hotel in Mission Vally where “amateurs” hooked up for money. They had a large clientele of business travelers. She only needed to work 2-3 nights a week but sometimes do 2-3 guys a night.

Even though our wives started at different times of their lives. It sounds like they had one thing in common. Beyond the money they both seemed to enjoy the game. I am not sure why but I think Shirley enjoys the taboo of hooking. She has evolved into the Call Girl type. As I mentioned she basically only sees 3 of her original customers once a month or so. Every once in awhile one of those 3 will contact her and ask if they can refer a colleague to her; usually younger. She always says yes because her old customers know her hard stops. In fact she has been known to service both the old and new at the same time.

As a bull I have found that many couples find this the ultimate cuckold fantasy. However I only know of two that now have a child fathered by someone other than hubby. I happen to be all in on this one.

leggysman, my friend. I applaud you for uncovering the nonsense that gets passed around here!

[Tank Turner]

I am here because my wife pointed to this website as a resource if I had any questions.

But you've had your account for nearly a dozen years, you've posted about your wife being a prostitute and cucking you for years (sometimes with multiple guys at once), that your boss is her boyfriend, and also that you are a 'bull'.

My wife, Shirley has been spreading her legs for my boss, Vince, for the last 6months. She says his cock is the perfect size, as compared to me being to small and has the stamina to get her off 3-4 times a night! He is her bf now.

My wife started in this game while she was In college to make ends meet. Used ads in a local rag at first. Then she discovered a lounge at a hotel in Mission Vally where “amateurs” hooked up for money. They had a large clientele of business travelers. She only needed to work 2-3 nights a week but sometimes do 2-3 guys a night.

Even though our wives started at different times of their lives. It sounds like they had one thing in common. Beyond the money they both seemed to enjoy the game. I am not sure why but I think Shirley enjoys the taboo of hooking. She has evolved into the Call Girl type. As I mentioned she basically only sees 3 of her original customers once a month or so. Every once in awhile one of those 3 will contact her and ask if they can refer a colleague to her; usually younger. She always says yes because her old customers know her hard stops. In fact she has been known to service both the old and new at the same time.

As a bull I have found that many couples find this the ultimate cuckold fantasy. However I only know of two that now have a child fathered by someone other than hubby. I happen to be all in on this one.

leggysman, my friend. I applaud you for uncovering the nonsense that gets passed around here!

I completely agree with #1 and leggysman. People who've experienced what we have know what's within the broad realm of expanded sexuality.

There are only two things that I can think of that my wife and I will not tolerate: lack of respect and degrading sex acts. Thankfully, we've never encountered either. Another man calling himself my wife's bull would almost surely piss her off. My wife is a woman, not a bovine. She doesn't fuck animals.

[Gearup]

Thanks Leggyman. Lies are lies. Nuff said

[Carrienlarry]

We never do someone we know. Hubby let a friend twice. It made things awkward. He let me fuck a married ex once. But we always find someone we don’t know. Sex with coworkers can go wrong big time

[bjgirl]

We started this lifestyle like this. We were young (20s), inexperienced, second sexual partner for each of us. We began sharing sexual fantasies and we both liked the idea of her having sex with another guy. Soon, she began talking about a guy at work who she thought might be interested in her. I encouraged her to flirt with him and she would come home excited and wet and we would roleplay her fucking him as we had sex.
Months later she had a work party / event and he offered to drive them. I encouraged her to accept the ride (this was a work event, no spouses / significant others). She had a bit to drink, flirted a LOT (her words) and wound up sucking him off.
We had not set up any rules or boundaries and I was shocked at first when she confessed (looking back, what did I expect to happen?) but we worked it out, got married a year later and then proceeded into the lifestyle with rules in place.