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[Saras_Stag]

One thing I should mention as it's been rattling around in my head and shows how awesome Sara is.

She asked me the other night if, during my work trip to Vegas coming up next week, if I wanted to play.

This was pretty damn surprising. For those of you who are newer to our story, so far we have a hotwife only agreement. When we first started talking about this I did say I might be curious to try (I've only ever been with one woman, as I was a virgin when I met Sara) but she wasn't comfortable with that right away and that's ok with me, as I've been very satisfied and don't really feel a pressing need. We have been talking about it a bit more recently but I've told her (and told her this time) I really want to be with her if I ever have the chance to be with another woman, and she was happy to hear that as that's what she really wants as well.

[sandy691196]

God (Or whatever/ whoever) bless you two!

[Saras_Stag]

So if you head over to the hotties pic thread, you’ll see how Sara had another experience, this time with a new guy named Alex. I’ll give you my side here.

So Sara gets back in touch with Alex while I’m on a work trip. She tells me while I’m flying back Friday that she’s chatting with him and he’s very interesting. When I walk in the door a bit past midnight Sara and my oldest were waiting for me. We said our hellos and then Sara dragged me to bed and told me how fucking hot Alex was. How he was able to make her moan just by the sound of his voice and what he was telling her to do. He knew I was coming home and he warmed her up and then told her to welcome me home properly. She jumped me like an animal and we had incredible welcome home sex.

As you’ll read in Sara’s account they made plans to get together Sunday but after more phone sex Saturday night she was having second thoughts. She admitted she had never lusted after anyone so much before, not even myself. She felt guilty and even ashamed. I told her it was ok, that it was lust and not the deep love that we share. To be honest, it was a little hard to hear. And I admitted that, because we’re being honest. But I was happy for her, and encouraged her to meet him anyway. She was so, so, so giddy.

But plans fell through anyway, and on came Monday. And suddenly, an opportunity to meet. Sara was so happy again, and got dressed in black lingerie and stockings, and a gorgeous dress. She told me that even if this was for coffee she was likely going to at minimum give him a BJ and probably fuck him.

So she heads off to the midway point to this guys house for coffee - around 35 minutes away. She gets there and texts me a bit until Alex shows up. She then texts me that they’re going for a drive. I keep an eye via Find My over the next hour or so as they drive around the town they’re in. Then they stop on a small cul-de-sac.

Sara then texts me that they’re stuck! She and I go text and forth while Alex tries to dig them out of the snow. She says he is not her type at all, but she is so turned on by him anyway - he has a piercing gaze on top of his incredible voice. She says the gaze makes her wet. I know they’re going to fuck. She then texts that they’re called a tow and goes silent.

Next text is the tow truck arrived and they had started fucking (!) but had to stop. Then she texted that she was going to fuck him, and I saw that their car stopped at a sugar shack near where they had left her car at the coffee shop. They were there around 30 minutes, so I knew they must have done the deed.

She calls me after another 30 minutes and tells me that she’s on her way home, and yes, she fucked him. She gave me the details (check out her account!!) and couldn’t believe she had fucked someone hanging out of a car.

She told me how she had never been so horny for someone, so incredibly taken by someone. And surprise! I got very quiet. The room started spinning. I breathed hard. Was this a panic attack? I’ve never had one. Curious. Sara kept asking if I was ok… I admitted what was happening. Tried to reassure her it was passing. Admitting hearing that was difficult. She reassured me while the animal passion was incredibly hot she also has a lot of big differences that came out while they were driving and talking - he’s a chauvinist for instance.

See, I was concerned - what if he wasn’t a chauvinist? Or what if he decided to try to steal Sara away? But then common sense started kicking in again - Sara loves me and I love her. Ours is a longstanding lifelong relationship and it has already withstood so many ups and downs. And Sara herself kept and always keeps reassuring me that I’m her King and that will never change. Ok, I felt better!

She got home and even though I had ordered food (neither of us had eaten and it was 11PM!) I dragged her to the bedroom, and started smelling her. I smelled Alex on her neck, and started kissing her deeply and grabbing her breast. I pushed her down to the bed and we got undressed. She was telling me what happened in detail as I fingered her until she quickly came - the first of many. Once she came a few times I moved down and licked her beautiful pussy. She told me Alex had used a condom so there was nothing to clean (she loves that I clean her) - I said it’s ok, I can smell him around your pussy. She loved that and came again, especially after I inserted my fingers while eating her out. Then I mounted her and fucked her better than I’ve ever fucked her before. It was fucking glorious. I asked her if she was having fun having a second amazing fucking in the last 3 hours and she came even harder.

I came so fucking hard, thrusting deeply and slowly with each spurt as deep as I could into Sara. I kept thrusting even after I came, making Sara cum again and again until, finally spent, I rolled off of her. Totally. Fucking. Spent.

Phew!

[iluvmyhw]

you two are hot and exciting love hearing about sara and i hope she keeps enjoying her freedom

[skoot1958]

Just found your postings, love them, read them all today, love the way you have shared and the way your life has developed, whatever happened to the couple, Sara are you still considering them, now you are a HW playing with a lady will be a small step for you, she will do all the work to start with and you know how to manage the man

Are you still working with the beginners plug set, take your time, it will add a new dimension to your experience

[Lookingforadventure]

Great post. Sara's too. I love that the adventures of this lifestyle are creating hot marital adventures too.

[Saras_Stag]

you two are hot and exciting love hearing about sara and i hope she keeps enjoying her freedom

Thanks

She definitely is enjoying it and it’s amazing how her sexuality is evolving. I’m enjoying it too!

[Saras_Stag]

Just found your postings, love them, read them all today, love the way you have shared and the way your life has developed, whatever happened to the couple, Sara are you still considering them, now you are a HW playing with a lady will be a small step for you, she will do all the work to start with and you know how to manage the man

Are you still working with the beginners plug set, take your time, it will add a new dimension to your experience

So the first couple fizzled out after Sara met the wife and there wasn’t much spark at all.

Since then I signed up on Feeld mostly to handle couples requests and to get me more involved - we’ve had a couples of couple matches there that are early days but one of them the wife is a smoke show like Sara. Sara admitted she finds her incredibly sexy and desirable but doesn’t think she’s in the same league which is nuts but that’s her self-confidence getting in the way. The smoke show has been very vocal on how hot she finds Sara, especially her smile (it is an amazing delicious smile my incredible wife has).

We’re heading out on vacation for March break next week so those possibilities will have to wait a bit.

As for the butt plugs she’s definitely used them a few times during sex, and I recently told her that even though I was willing to let someone else be her first anal experience (I’m pretty thick and thought it would be easier, and I at the time didn’t mind going second) - I’ve changed my mind. I want to claim her ass first and I will, soon. I am, after all, the King.

Who am I? Ha, I can’t believe how much I’ve evolved through this as well.

[Saras_Stag]

Great post. Sara's too. I love that the adventures of this lifestyle are creating hot marital adventures too.

Thanks LFA. I love that you loved the posts, I was hoping the heat came through and sounds like it did

[skoot1958]

Saras_stag
Thanks for the update, Sara has to have her head in the game to enjoy a woman, the one above may have been beautiful, maybe that’s was part of the problem maybe nice plain Jane would be better

Maybe trying to find just a woman rather than a couple, just like when she found her first lover might work better, kissing hot make out as a start with

As for anal, the work up is important, Sara has to be very turned on

I would recommend getting a small silicon soft dildo, have her inset the plug a good hour before sex, better if she can go out with it in, very hot, then use the dildo on her, and work up
over time, big dick is a challenge, first step lots of lub, 1,2,3 fingers, then just your head

You could join the process and start using plugs leading up to Sara pegging you or her BFs, at least that’s sharing


Thanks for the updates

[Saras_Stag]

Saras_stag
Thanks for the update, Sara has to have her head in the game to enjoy a woman, the one above may have been beautiful, maybe that’s was part of the problem maybe nice plain Jane would be better

Maybe trying to find just a woman rather than a couple, just like when she found her first lover might work better, kissing hot make out as a start with

Sorry for the confusion. The smoke show (let’s call her Melanie) is definitely tempting Sara. She admitted she thought about our first couples date and how she imagined Melanie and her heading to the bathroom and what they could do in there right on the first meeting (!)

Sara has been constantly amazing me with her courage and enjoyment of these adventures.

As for anal, the work up is important, Sara has to be very turned on

I would recommend getting a small silicon soft dildo, have her inset the plug a good hour before sex, better if she can go out with it in, very hot, then use the dildo on her, and work up
over time, big dick is a challenge, first step lots of lub, 1,2,3 fingers, then just your head

You could join the process and start using plugs leading up to Sara pegging you or her BFs, at least that’s sharing


Thanks for the updates

Thanks for the advice! We’ve already progressed through two of the three starter kit butt plugs and having sex with it in has been very interesting!! Until it pops out haha. Done fingering as well. Definitely will take your advice for day of to prep using the biggest plug.

[Saras_Stag]

Oh and as for pegging - I’m definitely open minded, as I’ve realized I have zero interest in men normally but enjoy cleaning Sara when she gets home. I’ve admitted in the throws of passion that if she wanted me to clean the guy in a threesome after they have sex I’d be curious to try, especially if she guides me and we do it together. A big appeal is how turned on Sara gets when that comes out - at this point it’s usually while I’m fingering her that I ask her if she would want me to and she moans and gushes so I take that as a yes.

But pegging so far has little interest for me. Maybe that changes but I’d be surprised honestly.

[skoot1958]

My wife does the same,the big pegs pop out as she gets turned on and relaxed, that’s good as she has moved to the next level and is more relaxed, next time try a giving her you head only, also small thing nowadays I use a condoms, if you get a bit of pop because your been in deep you can quickly clean up

First few times go for natural, remember after PIA you can not got to PIV only PIV then PIA

When you can DP PIA and a vibrator works well

I have no interests in the real think, but if she is going to learn to take PIA you should learn to take a PEG, we all have the same Bits back there and having her peg you is fun

[skoot1958]

Could Sara arrange a 1:1 date with Melanie just to see what develops

[sandy691196]

Just found your postings, love them, read them all today, love the way you have shared and the way your life has developed, whatever happened to the couple, Sara are you still considering them, now you are a HW playing with a lady will be a small step for you, she will do all the work to start with and you know how to manage the man

Are you still working with the beginners plug set, take your time, it will add a new dimension to your experience

So the first couple fizzled out after Sara met the wife and there wasn’t much spark at all.

Since then I signed up on Feeld mostly to handle couples requests and to get me more involved - we’ve had a couples of couple matches there that are early days but one of them the wife is a smoke show like Sara. Sara admitted she finds her incredibly sexy and desirable but doesn’t think she’s in the same league which is nuts but that’s her self-confidence getting in the way. The smoke show has been very vocal on how hot she finds Sara, especially her smile (it is an amazing delicious smile my incredible wife has).

We’re heading out on vacation for March break next week so those possibilities will have to wait a bit.

As for the butt plugs she’s definitely used them a few times during sex, and I recently told her that even though I was willing to let someone else be her first anal experience (I’m pretty thick and thought it would be easier, and I at the time didn’t mind going second) - I’ve changed my mind. I want to claim her ass first and I will, soon. I am, after all, the King.

Who am I? Ha, I can’t believe how much I’ve evolved through this as well.

I like this "king" self image of yours. This keeps the marriage and your personal equation with the beautiful Sara safe through all this..

[Saras_Stag]

I like this "king" self image of yours. This keeps the marriage and your personal equation with the beautiful Sara safe through all this..

I’ve had a good opportunity to see the appeal of being a cuck - the excitement of being denied as well as the wrongness of it. But it wasn’t appealing to me; so while I can better understand those of us hotwife husbands that choose that path it isn’t for me.

I enjoy sex with Sara far too much to ever want to deprive myself. And the reclamation sex is literally incredible. Our fantasies (which now become reality because I’m living my best life apparently) are starting to involve me being a very active participant, and she’s even starting to get used to/accepting of the idea I’m going to be with other women which two months ago was still totally off the table.

She also told me if I was poor in bed she could totally see becoming disinterested in sex with me after having been given the freedom to enjoy other men; but I’m so good she has zero interest in cucking me and any guy that asked her to would immediately break her out of his spell. Hearing her say that was a huge ego boost haha, but it’s true. I’m better than ever and working out is giving me some pretty great stamina.

Just wish I had started sooner, but better late than never. I need to be the best I can be for my Queen.

[sandy691196]

I like this "king" self image of yours. This keeps the marriage and your personal equation with the beautiful Sara safe through all this..

I’ve had a good opportunity to see the appeal of being a cuck - the excitement of being denied as well as the wrongness of it. But it wasn’t appealing to me; so while I can better understand those of us hotwife husbands that choose that path it isn’t for me.

I enjoy sex with Sara far too much to ever want to deprive myself. And the reclamation sex is literally incredible. Our fantasies (which now become reality because I’m living my best life apparently) are starting to involve me being a very active participant, and she’s even starting to get used to/accepting of the idea I’m going to be with other women which two months ago was still totally off the table.

She also told me if I was poor in bed she could totally see becoming disinterested in sex with me after having been given the freedom to enjoy other men; but I’m so good she has zero interest in cucking me and any guy that asked her to would immediately break her out of his spell. Hearing her say that was a huge ego boost haha, but it’s true. I’m better than ever and working out is giving me some pretty great stamina.

Just wish I had started sooner, but better late than never. I need to be the best I can be for my Queen.

Great!

This mind virus of seeing oneself as beta (and the consequent self hypnosis which destroys one's manhood) is a totally needless corollary of this lifestyle.

One can enthusiastically embrace wife sharing, can push the envelope to more and more kinky adventures.. all can be done without self emasculation.

What stories you tell yourself relentlessly become the reality.

Have fun!

[venus-can99]

Great attitude Sara_Stag. I love that both of you support and complement each other so well

[typerope77]

I enjoy sex with Sara far too much to ever want to deprive myself. And the reclamation sex is literally incredible. Our fantasies (which now become reality because I’m living my best life apparently) are starting to involve me being a very active participant, and she’s even starting to get used to/accepting of the idea I’m going to be with other women which two months ago was still totally off the table.

I am in the exact same boat as you. At first the sharing lifestyle didn't make sense to me because I got no arousal from the idea of denial, humiliation, eating creampies, etc. Then I found others on this site who were like me and learned I was a Stag, not a Cuck. I find that plenty of us Stags can be defined as "swingers who especially enjoy watching their wives get fucked".

Congrats on living the life you want and sharing it with us!!

[Saras_Stag]

Thanks everyone for all the great comments. Always means a lot seeing your responses and reactions!

It’s been a very interesting week (again!) and I have a lot to say and will very soon, but as always I let my lady go first in the Hotties pic thread. Head over there to see the latest developments from her side!

[friskyous]

Love this thread! Keep the stories coming.

[Saras_Stag]

As I mentioned it was a big week for us.

Like Sara mentioned in her hotties thread, we met a couple Tuesday that we had met through Feeld - Mr and Mrs. They’re a very good looking couple - Mrs having a great figure with curves in all the right places. We met at a great bar with live jazz on Tuesday night and it was a great experience. They’re easy to chat with and a lot of fun so the evening went by in a blur.

Mrs is definitely a bit on the wild side which was fun to see - she was hitting on our waitress as well as enjoying sitting next to Sara and often grabbing her or hugging her. She even felt up Sara’s gorgeous legs and grabbed her butt. Remember Sara up to this point had never done anything with a woman, and she really enjoyed the experience. Mr is very kind and funny and is obviously the light of Mrs’ eyes - she often asked Sara if she wanted Mr, asked her to kiss Mr (Sara kissed his cheek), etc. They’re also (of course) more experienced, but more in the swinger lifestyle (they host parties too). Before we knew it hours had passed and we had to head home.

We walked a block in the same direction and they each held on to Sara between them, and Mrs kept saying Sara should go home with them lol. Our weekend was occupied so we said we should get together soon and just now we’re texting to figure out when we can get together next.

It’s pretty obvious they’d love to play with Sara; my role is a bit fuzzier as Mrs focuses on her but she did text at one point she loves being eaten out while playing with others and I said I’d love to and she hearted that, so we’ll see. I’m fine if I’m there mostly as a voyeur and playing only with Sara if that’s what happens, for me it’s what Sara wants that is most important.

So that was a successful meet! Next post I’ll talk about Thursday, which was even more interesting.

[regular3]

Awesome update. Looking forward to it.

[Saras_Stag]

On to Thursday! I'm going to use the same initials Sara used on her Hotties thread to keep it consistent.

So I got connected on Feeld with R, a 28 year-old Pleasure-oriented Dom with several subs and other FWBs. I connected him with Sara and we all started chatting. Sara is discovering as we go through this a couple of things. One, she started realizing she was maybe more than simply bi-curious, and that she was really enjoying the idea of being a Domme, and she was curious about BDSM - not so much the sadism part, but lighter, more fun stuff. So she started asking R a lot of questions and they quickly decided to meet. R is leaving on a trip soon so time was tight but he was attending a local BDSM Munch at Club L on Thursday (a swingers' club, though Thursday's munch was a non-sexual event for newcomers to see the venue and get to know others in the community). He mentioned he'd be there with his babygirl C, a super cute and attractive 30 year old. We had already seen her profile on Feeld and we both remembered her well - she has such an innocent look to her, in an erotic way. Meantime he got us to join FetLife, and Sara was VERY intrigued by the pics and stories R and C had posted.

So we decided to attend, and got there around 8PM. People were still filtering in so we got a table and a couple of drinks and people watched. Soon R arrived with C and we moved over to their table where they were already chatting with a couple - Mr.A and Mrs.A. Turns out Rudy had already acted as a bull for them. While we were getting to know Mr.A and Mrs.A better (at this point I'm chatting with Mr.A) I see in the corner of my eye R and Mrs.A making out. If looks could kill, Mr.A would have been heading to prison. He mentioned to me that he was totally fine with Mrs.A exploring her sexuality, but he wasn't OK with any feelings of love or even tenderness. I found that difficult to understand - but then again from my POV Sara's sexuality and love are so entwined I doubt she could ever truly separate them. I also know others do follow this rule, so whatever works for people, right? Later on R explained that it was actually Mr.A that put out the feelers for Mrs.A and it was he that arranged everything at first - and that he viewed himself as a Dom as well, but he was all over the place - he was turned on, he was jealous, he was angry, he was happy - it was very difficult to deal with. The biggest issue seemed to be Mrs.A's incredible appetite and enjoyment, which I guess caught Mr.A by surprise.

Did I mention C and Mrs.A had already found time to make out as well? Incredibly hot. Mrs.A, I haven't mentioned, is also very pretty and sexy. R is definitely successful in finding gorgeous playmates and subs. Sara mentioned to R at this point that she hasn't had the opportunity to even kiss a woman let alone make out with one, and R correctly pointed out that I would probably love to witness that. I agreed, of course. Bucket list item for me!

So I'm listening to Mr.A for too long while Sara is chatting with C, with R, with their friends, and having a lot of fun. Little did I realize it put me on edge a bit, and was kind of killing my vibe. Luckily they had to leave early and I got comfortable again. R is telling me (as he has for a while now) that he really likes our vibe, and his goal would be to make me work harder to reclaim Sara. That he wants to find out what taps into my jealousy to make it hotter, basically.

As you all know by now, while I've dealt with jealousy through this it hasn't been nearly as difficult as I had feared. I truly get pleasure out of Sara's happiness and the eroticism of what she's doing is far higher in my mind than any doubts or jealously. And hell, a little jealousy is good! It shows how much I care about her. So I told him that unless there was a red line crossed (basically no denigration or insulting of me or Sara (unless she explicitly wants that for herself - I don't want for me at all); and as long as she isn't harmed (again within her acceptable limits is fine of course)... he said he's heard that a lot (like from Mr.A) but often the reality is different. He had mentioned kissing Sara in front of me once he found out I haven't seen her do anything live yet - and she hasn't recorded herself kissing anyone else either.

Sara wasn't sure, even though I said I was fine with it... at least until R had the idea that maybe she should never kiss anyone else in front of me, I guess as kind of a gesture of respect? She didn't like him trying to dictate our own internal relationship so she gave me a look and I simply nodded, since I could read her - and she said OK and leaned in. It was quite hot watching Sara make out with the obviously talented R. Once they finished I placed my hand behind Sara's neck and drew her in to kiss her deeply. Then they made out again this time with her looking at me while she did so (SO HOT), then I made out with Sara again. R seemed impressed by my composure.

This is the part seared in my memory, so let me ask Sara to describe it in her own words (from her post in the Hotties thread):

We all chatted and laughed a little more, when we started to talk about me kissing C. I was so shy because I hadn’t kissed a woman. R told me C would probably want to as well. I was shocked! R called over C and told her what we were talking about. This of course set me off in a series of uncontrollable giggles and blushing. Hubby then chimed: “oh Sara really loved that idea of kissing C. Look how happy Sara is right now.”

To “help” me R starts to kiss me and then C came in and I started to kiss her. C was so sweet and gentle, but also very firm. She smells so sweet and her milky white skin was so nice to the touch. Her long strawberry blonde hair was so soft to the touch. I hugged her more tightly and started to caress her back. We ended the kiss and I looked directly at hubby, which made me smile even more. I went over to hubby and started to make out with him as well.

It was so obvious they had instant chemistry. It was such an easy back and forth between them as they kissed - and it kept going and going. Neither seemed to want it to end - and Sara admitted if it hadn't she was very tempted to go further. C seemed to really enjoy it, as much as Sara did.

Not long after the event was winding down and it was time to pay our tab and head home - already midnight! We left the R group at the front door and headed to our car after saying our goodbyes. Then C yelled "Sara, wait!" and ran over to give her a few goodnight kisses that were also incredibly hot, and then she gave me a great hug and pecked me on the cheek.

That's basically where Sara's story ended on her post, but I have a few more details to share about what happened Friday night.

So the next night we're at home, Sara's Mom was staying overnight and had headed to her room, it's just me and Sara in the living room and we're both pretty baked (we use edibles) and just chilling, talking about R and C and how excited she was by C. How she was realizing she was more bi than she realized. That she so wanted C. She wanted to not only make out with her - she had so many dirty thoughts. She wanted to eat her out. She wanted C to grind on her face while R was fucking Sara and R and C were making out. That she so wanted to fuck C with a strap-on, and wanted C to do the same to her. She was soooooooooo cute and sweet and intoxicating to her. Sara then said she thought she might want a girlfriend - and that the way she felt about C was very similar to the way she felt about Wade. It wasn't just lust - there was more depth to her feelings for C.

Remember - I'm baked and listening to this. I've had a lifelong obsession with lesbians as well - by far my preferred porn for most of my life. I also thought Sara was at least somewhat bi based on stuff she had said and little snippets of conversation here and there over the years. Recently Sara admitted she kept that from me as much as she could, that she didn't want to share that with me - this was from back when she was unhappy and felt trapped, and it upset her that I was turned on by something she considered secret and not to be used for my spanking material, basically. At least we've been great for a long time now, but now that she's exploring her sexuality in terms of women she felt some of that coming back up, especially when I used it in bed while we were having fun. But this was changing - she was open to sharing with me this new side of her. It was incredibly exciting.

So I'm listening to all of this and I'm getting incredibly turned on. I'm stroking myself. I tell her I need to stop - I'm going to cum if I keep going. I stop JUST in time.

I thought I did.

I did.

What the fuck

Why am I hyperventilating

Why does it feel like I'm cumming but I'm not

Why am I laughing

Why am I crying happy tears

Sara sees this and comes over to sit on me to calm me down. This does not calm me down. She's sitting on my hard cock. I feel EUPHORIA

but I'm not cumming.

It's even MORE intense. WAVES of it. Is this what it's like for women? I wonder. I have NEVER felt anything like this. It just keeps rolling and rolling and rolling, this incredible feeling.

Finally, after about FIVE MINUTES of this.... it subsides, which makes me sad - I wonder if I will ever experience anything quite like that again, but also so so so grateful for having experienced it at all.

I realize later this must be something like a tantric experience. It was incredible. I know for some of you this sounds crazy or insane or made up. I don't know if I would have believed it myself if I hadn't experienced it.

We had incredible sex that night, and last night even better. Sara's taken to calling me a naughty boy and a good boy and I love it. Our sex is wonderful and emotional and just mind blowing.

And right this minute Sara is having a coffee date with R and C. She doesn't think anything more will happen tonight, but it's definitely possible especially since C is there. They sent me a pic 20 minutes ago of C and Sara sitting together, with C's hand on Sara's shoulder and both of them with huge smiles on their face in the coffee shop, taken by R.

I've said this entire adventure has been surreal and sure enough, it is. It's also been incredible. Sara is so much more confident and happy and we've never ever been closer. She told me last night after we had sex that she is SO in love with me - I'm her best friend and she's so happy we're doing this together. I love her with every fiber of my being.

[venus-can99]

Thanks for the update S_S - love Sara’s evolution and desire to explore her sexuality. As Sara points out thank you for putting Sara’s needs first and supporting her as her interests evolve