My girlfriend and her interest in other men

[Tolliver]

"Have you and Rie talked about it since?? what she thought of the experience with Andrew and of being shared by Mark?"

Good question since the answer also deals with some of the more negative and judgmental posts here lately, which I don't understand. Rie's meet with Andrew Sunday was the happiest I've seen her. Her nervous but happy energy was delightful to watch and there has already been talk that he wants to see her again, which excites her. Yes she has an inner naughty girl that is turned on by sex with people not her boyfriend, in some cases even strangers. I'm still having concerns about marriage but we're both 100% having a lot of fun here with this. The negativity here is really quite perplexing.

[Tolliver]

Thanks Brad. I'm definitely now enjoying the kink more than I did a few months ago. It's been a crazy journey but definitely not over yet!

[nutjob]

I'm still having concerns about marriage but we're both 100% having a lot of fun here with this. The negativity here is really quite perplexing.

I concur. I mean, this is the *cuckold* forum, where the word generally includes a degree of “girl does what she wants, guy has limited to no control over it”. If y’all want mutual respect, head on over to the hotwife board.

As long as you’re okay with things, Tolliver, you enjoy the hell out of it. Just make sure you’re checking with both Rie *and* your own feelings periodically to make sure you’re still okay with what’s happening and how it’s unfolding.

If you don’t mind me asking, what are your concerns about marriage? Have you talked about them with Rie?

When you picture marriage to her — your wedding day, your reception, your one year anniversary, your five year anniversary, your ten year anniversary, etc. — can you envision what it will be like if she’s still taking other men, still having other boyfriends in her life, still having sex with other people other than you? If so, how does that make you feel?

[ShyBiGuy954]

...... told her I want to get really good at eating her out and she told me not to worry, that I'm going to be doing a lot of that for her in the near future.

Have your pussy eating training lessons started yet?? Any details you'd like to share??

[walter2000uk]

Andrew gave her orders on what he wanted done and she happily did all of them. He ended up coming in her mouth and she swallowed. He then paid and left
REPEAT:- He then paid

Fantastic, Those last 3 words really ups the game and the excitement.
I love hearing about wives or girlfriend being PAID for sex!

[Tolliver]

And for an update for anyone interested, yesterday after work Rie and I went out to dinner at a nice restaurant and then a movie. Afterwards at the car she thanked me for letting her meet with Andrew and intimated Big Mark had texted her that Andrew wanted to see her again for sure but wasn't yet sure when, and asked me what I thought. I told her of course, that I knew she loved her initial meet with him Sunday and I didn't want to stand in the way of her seeing him again, which was a completely honest answer! She told me Big Mark would be over later in the evening but she wanted to thank me with a blowjob when we got home, which she did. When Mark arrived they went in the bedroom and she rode him on the bed, a quick tempo with her hands on his chest while he laid back with his hands behind his head. I recorded on her phone, which he asked me to do. Before cumming in her he told her that no matter what she and Andrew get into, her pussy still belongs to him, which she agreed to.

[Tolliver]

The marriage concerns are exactly what you stated in your next paragraph. I don't know if I want to be married to a woman who is most turned on by sex with other men. Having a blast with it right now but not sure if it's appropriate to take to the ultimate level.

[user322]

Hi, I don't want to influence you in the wrong way, but what you said about marriage seems strange to me.
It seems like you like the cuckold dynamic, so if you don't marry your current girlfriend and choose another woman, are you sure your cuckold desires won't return in this marriage with this new woman?

If your cuckold desires return while you're with another woman, are you sure she'll be as open to it?

If your cuckold desires are within you and won't leave you again, wouldn't it be better to gradually build a solid cuckold relationship with your current girlfriend, leading up to marriage?

These are just questions. Again, I'm not trying to influence you, and only you have the answers to these questions.

[realcucklife]

Thanks for the update.
Did she like the thrill of being paid?
Did he claim some money as her “pimp”

[Tolliver]

Good point, user. While I do like the thrill I'm not sure I want to do it at the level of marriage. Just enjoying the ride for now. Will have to come to a decision at some point obviously.

Real, Mark was talking to her last night and joked about how she was now officially a prostitute and he was her pimp (and yes he took half the money). She got this devilish smile on her face and said it was something she always knew she'd be good at. This was after a few drinks of course but still felt sincere.

[ucaneffher]

Hi, I don't want to influence you in the wrong way, but what you said about marriage seems strange to me.
It seems like you like the cuckold dynamic, so if you don't marry your current girlfriend and choose another woman, are you sure your cuckold desires won't return in this marriage with this new woman?

If your cuckold desires return while you're with another woman, are you sure she'll be as open to it?

If your cuckold desires are within you and won't leave you again, wouldn't it be better to gradually build a solid cuckold relationship with your current girlfriend, leading up to marriage?

These are just questions. Again, I'm not trying to influence you, and only you have the answers to these questions.

Very good points. If you genuinely feel that you like the cuckold lifestyle and your boundaries pushed the way that she pushes them, then the best thing to do is workout all of the little details with her to ensure a solid relationship. It's true that it is very difficult as a cuckold to find a woman who will share the same interests and likes for the lifestyle as you.

So if you really don't want to be a cuckold in the future, then just enjoy what it is you're getting for the time being and realize that there will be a point where you will not want to continue this way with your current gf. But be warned that if you want to live your life as a cuckold later, it will take a lot of work and time getting back into it.

I was a cuckold girl my ex for for over 7 years, she pushed many boundaries and like your gf she made me get used to a lot of changes in our relationship such as accepting that she called the shots when it came to sex and accepting who her relationship/main partner was. I dearly miss having a cuckoldress like that and have spent the last 8 years trying to get several girlfriends to cuckold me but haven't had much success.

If the cuckold lifestyle is for you, then realize that you have the perfect woman by for your side for it and may simply need fine tuning.

[bradisalpha]

There is a certain sexual excitement you feel being a cuckold that cannot be experienced otherwise. Those desires will not go away afterwards and will continue to come to the surface as life goes on.

You may have doubts about carrying this lifestyle into marriage but odds are that you will be setting yourself up for a very unhappy marriage later if you walk away from what you already have now.

In my experience as a BF, I have never seen a cuckold lose interest or change this lifestyle once they have lived it. I have only seen a cuckold’s desires increase and grow into a craving for the sexual arousal that surrounds the hot wife/cuckold lifestyle.

I would think very long and hard before you commit to your path of marrying someone without hot wife thoughts ahead of time. Sometimes we underestimate what we already have !!

I am no expert.. Just food for thought ….

Brad

[ucaneffher]

There is a certain sexual excitement you feel being a cuckold that cannot be experienced otherwise. Those desires will not go away afterwards and will continue to come to the surface as life goes on.

You may have doubts about carrying this lifestyle into marriage but odds are that you will be setting yourself up for a very unhappy marriage later if you walk away from what you already have now.

In my experience as a BF, I have never seen a cuckold lose interest or change this lifestyle once they have lived it. I have only seen a cuckold’s desires increase and grow into a craving for the sexual arousal that surrounds the hot wife/cuckold lifestyle.

I would think very long and hard before you commit to your path of marrying someone without hot wife thoughts ahead of time. Sometimes we underestimate what we already have !!

I am no expert.. Just food for thought ….

Brad

Brad is absolutely right. After I broke it off with the ex hot gf I told myself that it was just too much action for me and that I was going to settle for a traditional vanilla relationship as 7 years of seeing my girlfriend going out night after night, sleeping over many weekends, getting cut off sex randomly and then back at it and then again, just felt like too much at the time

I thought I was okay going full vanilla and I did it for a few years before those dormant desires came back and I couldn't stop wanting it. Mt then gf was starting to go through a phase in her life where she was starting to dress sexy and wanting to go out. She was asking me if she could go dancing with friends and If she could dance with other men. It was music to my ears. I had decided to shortly have the cuckold talk with her and it sounded like it was going well but it turned out to be a catastrophic failure. I shortly after left her

The more time that passed without being a cuckold, the more I desired it, the more I posted on here, and the deeper I craved more extreme scenarios such as where I find myself now- having a GF who I completely surrender for another man to take over. For me, I don't just want to be a cuckold 1-3 nights per week when she goes out. I actually wish she would make it a point to get a full time boyfriend and kept me on cuckold mode 24/7/365- never allowing me to get away from that reality or giving me a chance turn it off longer than a few hours because he has literally become her primary and fully taken over my role with her in our home. Every day in my own home I'd see her being his and every day she would remind me to enjoy it like she is because this is what I wanted.

I don't think I will ever stop being a cuckold or stop wanting it. I think about being one every day and wishing that I could go back to the crazy hectic lifestyle that I had with my ex where she was just constantly connected with other men in one way or another every day. I hated but loved the continuous reminder she gave me of showing me that she was never fully mine. She was always texting back and forth with men, on the phone, getting ready, hanging out or on a date, sleeping over, away on vacation with other men, or the absolute ultimate, she was gone and living with another man. Regardless of which of those, one of them were happening at every instance and it served me as a reminder that I was a cuckold, that I put up with it and accepted it. As hectic as it was back then, I realize that I greatly miss it and want that type of arrangement again.

Give it serious thought as a women open to the lifestyle is hard to come by. My current gf is open to it, talks about it, has done things here and there but she's not actively trying to be a hot GF like she was a couple of years ago and I wish that she was still trying. So in many ways, a lot of us envy your situation.

[user322]

Hi Tolliver,
I have some other questions, but I want to make it clear that I don't want to lecture anyone and I don't judge anyone for what they do with their lives:

If you decide to just have fun with your current partner, and then look for another one for marriage, are you sure your current girlfriend isn't truly in love with you?
If you leave her like that for no reason, are you sure she won't suffer?
If she really loves you now, and she thinks you're the right person for marriage, wouldn't it be a shame to make her suffer?

Does just because your current girlfriend likes this lifestyle mean she doesn't really love you?

Will a woman who doesn't practice this lifestyle necessarily love you more than your current girlfriend?

...These are just a few questions that I think are important for your relationship.

Good luck

[4incheslong]

The advice you are getting is excellent. Cuck desires will not go away. I had a college GF who turned me on to this. It carried on to my marriage. I had a marriage therapist tell me, "if you fixate on certain sexual scenarios for too long, that will be the only way you will have an orgasam." I was too far gone by that point but she was right.

[bradisalpha]

The advice you are getting is excellent. Cuck desires will not go away. I had a college GF who turned me on to this. It carried on to my marriage. I had a marriage therapist tell me, "if you fixate on certain sexual scenarios for too long, that will be the only way you will have an orgasam." I was too far gone by that point but she was right.

TRUE !! Not only as a cuckold not being able to have a normal sex life once being cuckolded, but to a BF like myself also. My complete sexual demeanor and excitement depends on seducing couples.. fucking a wife and cuckolding her husband. To meet and date a woman in the vanilla sense is not exciting to me any longer.. no matter hot hot she might be. I need the hot wife/cuckold dynamic to sexually excite me. It has been my sexual scenario way too long !!

So it works both ways !!!

Brad

[4incheslong]

The advice you are getting is excellent. Cuck desires will not go away. I had a college GF who turned me on to this. It carried on to my marriage. I had a marriage therapist tell me, "if you fixate on certain sexual scenarios for too long, that will be the only way you will have an orgasam." I was too far gone by that point but she was right.

TRUE !! Not only as a cuckold not being able to have a normal sex life once being cuckolded, but to a BF like myself also. My complete sexual demeanor and excitement depends on seducing couples.. fucking a wife and cuckolding her husband. To meet and date a woman in the vanilla sense is not exciting to me any longer.. no matter hot hot she might be. I need the hot wife/cuckold dynamic to sexually excite me. It has been my sexual scenario way too long !!

So it works both ways !!!

Brad

Wow, I had never thought of it from a bull standpoint. I mean I have screwed other men's wives but mostly got off on them cheating and thoughts of my wife cheating also. But you really limit your pool of fuckable women if you have to seduce a cuck/hotwife couple.

[Tolliver]

Interesting questions, user. I hadn't thought about that perspective and not really sure how to answer those. But I will say relationships are mutually agreed on. If one side doesn't think it's working or won't work at a future level, that in itself is enough to start asking yourself serious questions. I'm not planning on ending the relationship anytime soon, but I'm also leaving the door open, if things get or feel too out of control, to take a second look at what I'm doing and not continue going full steam with no additional thought.

[Tolliver]

Interesting pov from brad also. I don't know that I'd go full vanilla, as maybe I would miss the cuckolding stuff. Now that I've experienced it in full force, I am used to it and enjoying it more in person. Not sure how it would be to back to a normal relationship without it, but I probably could given the right circumstances. But even then might miss it. Maybe the real solution is to get a hold on things eventually, if needed, and work things out with Rie.

[Barti]

Strange for me.
I WILL marry my hotwife. She will keep fucking other men. She will fuck bulls during our wedding day. I will be in permanent chastity still. After she got pregnant she will find a way to castrate me and only will fuck others.
It is how we want it. Our love and trust in each other is 100%

[Hima]

Hot thread. Has Rie kissed you soon after finishing off Mark in her mouth or have you pleasured her pussy after hes filled her and before a shower?
Im sure this would be another level of "Hot" for her.
Im sure all here would love to see pix of Rie's sexy curves and of course her in a hot position with Mark. As long as identity blocked, even Rie would probably find it hot with members here complementing her sexy body and talented mouth.

[bradisalpha]

The advice you are getting is excellent. Cuck desires will not go away. I had a college GF who turned me on to this. It carried on to my marriage. I had a marriage therapist tell me, "if you fixate on certain sexual scenarios for too long, that will be the only way you will have an orgasam." I was too far gone by that point but she was right.

TRUE !! Not only as a cuckold not being able to have a normal sex life once being cuckolded, but to a BF like myself also. My complete sexual demeanor and excitement depends on seducing couples.. fucking a wife and cuckolding her husband. To meet and date a woman in the vanilla sense is not exciting to me any longer.. no matter hot hot she might be. I need the hot wife/cuckold dynamic to sexually excite me. It has been my sexual scenario way too long !!

So it works both ways !!!

Brad

Wow, I had never thought of it from a bull standpoint. I mean I have screwed other men's wives but mostly got off on them cheating and thoughts of my wife cheating also. But you really limit your pool of fuckable women if you have to seduce a cuck/hotwife couple.

4incheslong,

My pool is actually unlimited.. I play in a band so the supply of “interesting/interested” wives is plentiful. Many are easily interested in cheating, which I have no interest in. However, many are interested in cuckolding their husbands once I direct the conversation by asking “what would your husband think ??”. The replies are often “it would probably turn him on !!”. In discussion, once she realizes my Alpha persona, it gives me the opening to begin seduction and leading the husband down a very exciting path !!

I suppose I am fortunate to be in that position, but this excitement and opportunity has lasted me a lifetime.

Just sayin…

Brad

[ShyBiGuy954]

My pool is actually unlimited.. I play in a band so the supply of “interesting/interested” wives is plentiful....

Brad

Standing on a tower
World at my command
You just keep a turning
While I'm playing in the band

If a man among you
Got no sin upon his hand
Let him cast a stone at me
For playing in the band.. Grateful Dead

[Tolliver]

Andrew stopped by yesterday around dinner time. Rie again gave him a blowjob, this time with him recording everything with his phone on a little tripod, all prearranged. He asked her some cute/sexy questions at the beginning of the shoot and then commenced sucking him off. He gave orders again and she did as she was told. When he was done he paid and left, thanking her and indicating he wanted to see her again soon.

[Tolliver]

Sorry for the overly brief post. Was in a hurry but wanted to put up an update.

Mark has only a month left before he goes home for the summer, so Rie and I decided he would stay with us, with those two sleeping in the master and me in the fold out couch in the living room. He still spends time in his own place, doesn't always eat with us, but by 9 he's usually over here. This has been going on for close to a week, and they are both having a good time with it. They've had sex in some form or fashion at least once a day, sometimes out in the living room where I am present, sometimes in the room that used to be mine but now belongs to the two of them. The bedroom door is always open so I can sometimes hear them at night past bedtime. I am quite sure that's her policy to never close the door.

A few have asked on here if I go down on her after she has sex. Happened for the first time yesterday. She rode him on the couch in the living room around dinner time and when they were done, he had to leave to meet a friend for dinner out. She invited me into the room, telling me she bet I missed being in there with her. She took off her robe that had went on after she and Mark were finished and explained that her coworker Renee had told her she loved getting oral after piv sex and that Rie should try it. She then told me Big Mark refused but she thought I might like to give it a try.

We hadn't done anything in close to a week and I was turned on by her naked body so I jumped at the chance. I crawled into position and began servicing her with my mouth. I wasn't able to make her cum but she told me it was great anyway, thanked me with a handjob, and we went back out to the living room to watch a movie.