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[iluvmyhw]

love your posts. you two are living a great life with each other sara is very sexy and thank you for sharing

[Saras_Stag]

Thanks again, you readers help motivate me to continue writing here for sure.

Sara definitely didn't stop at coffee last night. She's still got a writeup to write but she posted a couple of incredibly hot pics for you to enjoy in the Hotties thread, go take a look!

And yeah, I'm pretty damned lucky, aren't I?

[Saras_Stag]

It's been a few days and quite a bit to process for both of us.

Sara has just written her version of the events of Sunday evening in our Hotties thread, linked below. Illustrated!

As I mentioned before, this journey has been incredible, amazing, exciting, and surreal. It's also at times difficult, filled with angst, and self-doubt. I salute anyone that can jump into this lifestyle without those feelings - but I feel that's unlikely as love and sex and lust are so entwined and layered it's difficult to separate emotions from the physical. And really, the mixture of emotion and physical is what makes it so captivating, right dear readers?

Sara left us Sunday to head to her 6PM coffee date just as I was preparing dinner for myself and the kids. I ate light in case Sara came home right after coffee, and then the kids and I settled into our typical Sunday evening routine - showers, getting ready for the week, relaxing watching a bit of TV, a bit of gaming on the Xbox.

Meanwhile, I'm glancing at the clock every so often. I get a text of Sara and C (the sweet, adorable one) sitting together on a sofa in the café. C looked great, with a cute and sexy short dress on showing off her great legs. Sara looked incredible as always. My pulse quickened just seeing that picture. Little did I know, haha.

Around 8:30 Sara texts me that she's having fun and has decided to head over to R's place nearby. My mind starts racing - it wasn't sure she would, but I knew because C was there it was a real possibility. Sara has been realizing how much she enjoys the idea of women and was looking forward to the experience, and now it looked like it was going to happen. I went off to shower and cool off, and sent a few messages to LFA & Adventurer at the same time (both have been great to me and Sara during our first steps through this and we've become friends so it felt natural to confide in them in real-time).

You see, I still had a couple of worries - not reservations per se - I have full faith in Sara, but this would be her first time with two people (possibly); her first time with someone who identifies as a Dom with a capital D, and one of his Subs. LFA reminded me that we had met both him and C already back on Thursday which is a great sign - she was very happy to be with him. And I had a really good feeling about him - he freely admitted he wanted to make my reclaiming of Sara more difficult than ever before, as it would be that much sweeter - but he was also a total gentleman about it and was very open about everything and how he respected our marriage.

Then a little over an hour later came two pics and a short video. Sara kissing C's breasts. Then C kissing Sara's. Then Sara eating out C in the video.

This was incredible. Something I had pictured for almost 25 years happening on video for me alone to see (at least at that point). Mind blowing.

I kept myself busy playing games but kept going back to the video. Watched it a half-dozen times at least. I had doubted for years how much I knew Sara because I was sure she was bisexual when we first started going out from what she told me and how she looked at women, but she had pushed down that side of her for going on two decades now and it was so heartening seeing that I really did know my soulmate, that my suspicion she would LOVE to be with women was absolutely correct - once she stopped keeping that side of herself hidden away.

One detail I noticed on the 3rd or 4th watch was how R, who was filming it, was stroking Sara's hair as she licked C. It was so loving and perfect. It was exactly how I imagined stroking Sara's hair when she would be doing this for the first time.

But I wasn't. It was R. Not me.

This feeling came flooding in - I wasn't even there. This incredible, monumentous milestone - and I was sitting at home.

After another hour and a bit Sara texted me that she was heading out. It was another half hour before she called me as she always does from her car, heading back home. Normally she gives me the juicy details up front but R had the idea for her to wait until she got home so she could do it in person in bed, which many of you also do and I was up for. Up front she did say that she was now 100% sure she was fully bisexual, not just bicurious. We did talk around the main event and I did admit how hot the video was - but I admitted that I was very jealous of R because of how I had always pictured doing the same hair stroking while she was enjoying cunnilingus for the first time. I then realized (and she agreed) R would LOVE that. Not in a mean-spirited way - just that he did hope to make this experience more heightened and emotional for me, to make the sex even better when she got home.

I knew she hadn't eaten yet so I offered to make her a light meal even though I couldn't wait to get her into bed, and so when she got back (looking sooooo happy and elated) just before midnight she ate and we chatted some more. She revealed her phone had a LOT of pics (!) to show me in bed while she gave me the sexy details. We did talk about my feelings and how even though we've been through this quite a few times by now it's still somewhat difficult when it's actually happening. Then we headed to bed.

She showed me the pics as she talked through the evening's events - her version will have these details - suffice to say this is when I found out (though I was already sure) she did fuck R as well as C. It was very hot hearing her step through each part of the evening as she went from curious questioner to voyeur to active participant, and how much she LOVED being with C and enjoying and being enjoyed by another woman - so soft, so sweet, so delicious. It was incredible, and it led to our having incredibly hot sex. And then she had another surprise.

Sara has really enjoyed how good my fingering game has gotten over the past few months. Well, she loves it so much she told C and R about it and they were intrigued, so Sara demonstrated some of my techniques on C while R watched. They loved it so much they took a video of Sara doing that to C (who seemed to be enjoying it!) and R thanking me for teaching them something and how I was part of the evening even if I wasn't there in person. It was just incredibly thoughtful and made me feel so happy.

The next couple of days were difficult at times - I was having a tough time processing that I wasn't there for it. Not that I regretted it at all - just that I realized I was so focused on R being a Dom that I didn't realize how missing out on so many of my love's firsts would be difficult. First kiss with another woman. First making out with one. First breast play, cunnilingus, fingering, woman-on-woman 69, first three-way.

It felt like one of my kids finally accomplished something huge, like graduating College, and I could see the pics and video of the ceremony but I missed being there in person. I wouldn't regret my kid getting their diploma (of course not!) but I would regret not being there to witness it first hand. Once I realized that, it became easier to talk about with Sara and to process. It definitely took longer than usual!

Yesterday was a good day - I confronted my feelings, and realized something important. Sara had, considering all of the possibilities, an amazing, magical evening with two really great people. C was absolutely perfect for Sara - just her type (now that she realizes she has one) - incredibly beautiful on top of her amazing personality, so sweet and cute and demure, with such a high libido... and of course, R who made it all happen. He was really good, too.

If we had tried a threesome years ago who knows what would have happened? It could have been a disaster. Maybe it would have turned Sara off from this forever - maybe it would have been something she never tried to unwrap again. She would have never realized she's actually bisexual and her true self would have been hidden away. What an absolute tragedy that would have been? What's a couple of days of temporary angst for me versus a lifetime of feeling grounded for my Queen because she is finally embracing her true self? I would do that trade a million times out of a million, friends.

Last night's sex was incredible once again. Hours long. Indulgent. Wet. VERY wet. We also had a first of our own when we both started masturbating after what had felt like the ultimate climax during aftercare and eventually we both came again... me all over her body, I came a LOT considering it was just 30 minutes after I had filled her the first time. And afterward - I felt I had finally completed reclaiming my delicious, erotic, insatiable wife fully and completely. She is my Queen, and I am her King.

[venus-can99]

Thank you for this wonderfully honest update showing the emotional roller coaster you were in watching Sara with C and missing out on her firsts. The two if you are such an inspiring and down to earth couple

[Someone2love]

Wow! This is an amazingly erotic journey you two are on. Incredibly exciting in both an emotional and physical sense.

[Saras_Stag]

Thank you for this wonderfully honest update showing the emotional roller coaster you were in watching Sara with C and missing out on her firsts. The two if you are such an inspiring and down to earth couple

Wow! This is an amazingly erotic journey you two are on. Incredibly exciting in both an emotional and physical sense.

Thank you so much for reading! It definitely helps getting my thoughts down in terms of processing my emotions through this. I didn’t even realize that benefit when we started posting here but it’s huge and I highly recommend it to anyone reading this that are thinking of starting out in this lifestyle.

As for the ups and downs, those journals here that include that element are so much more interesting and were so much more informative so I knew I wanted to share that aspect as well for our own journey. It’s too easy to focus on the good and especially as others may read this and be inspired to try its important to stress its not all sunshine and lollipops - but when it’s good, it’s GOOD, you know? And it can be so good.

[Lookingforadventure]

Great post. I'm excited for Sara that she tapped into this new (or maybe newly discovered) part of her sexual identity. I hope it is something that she will get to explore more.

I'm also glad that you were able to process and then express your feelings about not being there. I had wondered about that. This relationship can be challenging for a variety of reasons and I think it only works when partners are honest with each other about how it impacts them. You can like something and be happy for your wife, and also feel left out or like you wish you had been there.

Do you think C would be open to a threesome with you and Sara? If not C, might you try to find another woman so that you can experience it first-hand?

[Saras_Stag]

Great post. I'm excited for Sara that she tapped into this new (or maybe newly discovered) part of her sexual identity. I hope it is something that she will get to explore more.

I'm also glad that you were able to process and then express your feelings about not being there. I had wondered about that. This relationship can be challenging for a variety of reasons and I think it only works when partners are honest with each other about how it impacts them. You can like something and be happy for your wife, and also feel left out or like you wish you had been there.

Do you think C would be open to a threesome with you and Sara? If not C, might you try to find another woman so that you can experience it first-hand?

Thanks so much and thanks again for being there, given how emotional it turned out it really helped me through what is often the toughest part -when it’s not clear something will happen and all of a sudden it’s real and happening. It’s a rush but it’s also fraught with emotion.

Good question about C. I (and Sara) believe it would be dependent on R given their relationship; Sara would love it I think. Sara has decided to enthusiastically honour my wish to be part of a threesome and as you know once she focuses on a goal nothing stops her haha

She really is an awesome, incredible woman.

[sandy691196]

Thank you for this wonderfully honest update showing the emotional roller coaster you were in watching Sara with C and missing out on her firsts. The two if you are such an inspiring and down to earth couple

Wow! This is an amazingly erotic journey you two are on. Incredibly exciting in both an emotional and physical sense.

Thank you so much for reading! It definitely helps getting my thoughts down in terms of processing my emotions through this. I didn’t even realize that benefit when we started posting here but it’s huge and I highly recommend it to anyone reading this that are thinking of starting out in this lifestyle.

As for the ups and downs, those journals here that include that element are so much more interesting and were so much more informative so I knew I wanted to share that aspect as well for our own journey. It’s too easy to focus on the good and especially as others may read this and be inspired to try its important to stress its not all sunshine and lollipops - but when it’s good, it’s GOOD, you know? And it can be so good.

I hear you, I feel you.

I usually flag a lot of negatives vis a vis the impact of the LS on the core, marital relationship.. in several of the threads on OHW.
But I get a very "safe" feeling from the way you describe things. Your loving possessiveness towards Sara.. your personal passion and physical involvement in things..
Sara's focus on your marital health and the primacy of your relationship.. Her passion in the narrating and reconnecting part..
And above all, Sara never going overboard with anyone or anything.

Sara's first 3 some with a bi content.. her full on sex with another woman happened with R and not you. BECAUSE it couldn't have happened with you .. you didn't have such a woman in your stable to bring to the table (or bed)!
That's it .. that's all there is to it!

It's like saying.. a bull had a particular exotic toy in the bedside cupboard.. something the wife always wanted to try. The hubby couldn't lay his hands on it. The wife got to experience it with the bull at his place.

Nothing more to it. Chill mate!

[Saras_Stag]

I hear you, I feel you.

I usually flag a lot of negatives vis a vis the impact of the LS on the core, marital relationship.. in several of the threads on OHW.
But I get a very "safe" feeling from the way you describe things. Your loving possessiveness towards Sara.. your personal passion and physical involvement in things..
Sara's focus on your marital health and the primacy of your relationship.. Her passion in the narrating and reconnecting part..
And above all, Sara never going overboard with anyone or anything.

Sara's first 3 some with a bi content.. her full on sex with another woman happened with R and not you. BECAUSE it couldn't have happened with you .. you didn't have such a woman in your stable to bring to the table (or bed)!
That's it .. that's all there is to it!

It's like saying.. a bull had a particular exotic toy in the bedside cupboard.. something the wife always wanted to try. The hubby couldn't lay his hands on it. The wife got to experience it with the bull at his place.

Nothing more to it. Chill mate!

Definitely! C was the key to Sara enjoying her first threesome for sure.

I like the angst, honestly. I fear ever not feeling it to be honest - it's part and parcel of being so in love with my lovely Sara. It definitely took a bit longer this time (hey, this was a big deal!) but I am definitely chill now. I've chatted with R and C a bit as well since and any negative feelings are nonexistent. They even saw our writeups (we shared them directly) and really loved them.

And thanks for the compliments, I've said it before that without a rock solid foundation doing something like this is like trying to do barrel rolls while learning to fly.

[sandy691196]

I hear you, I feel you.

I usually flag a lot of negatives vis a vis the impact of the LS on the core, marital relationship.. in several of the threads on OHW.
But I get a very "safe" feeling from the way you describe things. Your loving possessiveness towards Sara.. your personal passion and physical involvement in things..
Sara's focus on your marital health and the primacy of your relationship.. Her passion in the narrating and reconnecting part..
And above all, Sara never going overboard with anyone or anything.

Sara's first 3 some with a bi content.. her full on sex with another woman happened with R and not you. BECAUSE it couldn't have happened with you .. you didn't have such a woman in your stable to bring to the table (or bed)!
That's it .. that's all there is to it!

It's like saying.. a bull had a particular exotic toy in the bedside cupboard.. something the wife always wanted to try. The hubby couldn't lay his hands on it. The wife got to experience it with the bull at his place.

Nothing more to it. Chill mate!

Definitely! C was the key to Sara enjoying her first threesome for sure.

I like the angst, honestly. I fear ever not feeling it to be honest - it's part and parcel of being so in love with my lovely Sara. It definitely took a bit longer this time (hey, this was a big deal!) but I am definitely chill now. I've chatted with R and C a bit as well since and any negative feelings are nonexistent. They even saw our writeups (we shared them directly) and really loved them.

And thanks for the compliments, I've said it before that without a rock solid foundation doing something like this is like trying to do barrel rolls while learning to fly.

Am so glad that you are back on the chill side of things now.
My confusion is about - "hey, this was a big deal!" - part.

This was a big deal in terms of sheer novelty and her 1st time fucking a woman part.. But the R thing appears totally cool. He ain't no threat. He is a Dom to several ladies. He already had your consent on pushing the envelope in terms of delayed reclaiming (and all that it implied).. He didn't try any maudlin stuff or exclusive romance stuff with Sara.

That other couple-the one with the bi wife- made a play for Sara as a unicorn. She didn't agree since she wanted you to be there. Perhaps her NO to that and YES to this could be confusing for you?

I see that as essentially different from this one. There the couple was a team and they were excluding you and making a play for Sara in some kinda power play.
Here R is the ring master and both the ladies are eager subs.. Sara had the option of just watching. She chose to play with C, in the moment.
R joined the melee later. Somehow there was no deliberate exclusion of you.. It was situational.

You can very well square up someday by getting C and Sara in bed together with you initially watching and later.. que sera sera!

[Saras_Stag]

Right. That’s my read as well and I actually really like R and how he handled everything, and I’m glad he also happened to be very good at what he does

The big deal was really all about Sara and me more than anyone else, and now that I’m fully content with how everything worked out (honestly we couldn’t have asked for a better firsts evening for Sara) I’m more than happy to know my turn will come soon enough.

[Sara_MTL]

Hello all,
Just to let you all know that I meet up with Alex last night. It was our second meet up. First one was the coffee and quick car fuck, anyways…I’m still processing what happened and the fun night after with hubby. We will keep you all posted. Side note: I only took a pic of me waiting in anticipation for him I didn’t take any pics because we only fucked once and it was like 30 minutes…..stay tuned for more information..

[skoot1958]

Sara ad you last man was a let down, and as R is on his trip have you been darting C 1on1 getting some more of that quite little girly action

[Sara_MTL]

Sara ad you last man was a let down, and as R is on his trip have you been darting C 1on1 getting some more of that quite little girly action

I have not had the chance. It has been a quiet week, but hopefully, I’ll get to play with them again. **fingers crossed

[skoot1958]

Good for you enjoy the new opportunities

[Saras_Stag]

It's been a while since I posted!

Sara wrote about her experience with Alex and how it was a let-down a couple of weeks ago. It was a bit of a tough week afterward for her as she dealt with processing what had happened and her disappointment in someone that could so easily turn her on. It was also a bit of a slow week for us as she wasn't really in the mood while she was so focused on processing her feelings, and I was a bit slow to realize how she needed that time because she had never felt such a depth of lust for someone so easily.

It did work itself out and we were back to our old selves by the end of the week. Actually, it's getting even better - our pillow talk has evolved to where we talk about how incredible and exciting it would be for her to find a long-term girlfriend, and then she suggested she'd love to end up in a throuple with me and another girl. And we've been having a lot of interesting discussions with couples and it looks like my first time participating is coming very soon now.

RIght now Sara is meeting C for dinner, from those of you who remember her first girl-girl experience with C and C's dom R. This time they're together alone, though it might only be dinner it's still a milestone as it's Sara's first girl-girl date. She was so excited and nervous, and so was C when they spoke on the phone. I'm so happy for my gorgeous Queen.

Last note for those of you who only follow this thread and not the pics thread: You can see my wife's glorious breasts in all their glory if you head over there.

[venus-can99]

Hope the dinner with C went well and led to more action

[Saras_Stag]

Hope the dinner with C went well and led to more action

I'll let my lovely Queen fill all of you in on the details but they did end up at C's place...

[iluvmyhw]

you two are such a great story i love the way bouth of you have embraced the lifestyle plus sara is hot

[Saras_Stag]

you two are such a great story i love the way bouth of you have embraced the lifestyle plus sara is hot

Thanks so much!!! And yes, she is so damn hot.

[Saras_Stag]

So Sara posted about her first FF experience in her pics thread; this one was a lot of fun - no angst other than wondering what they were up to once she let me know she was headed to C's place. Turns out Sara really LOVES women - which is honestly a fantasy I've held since we first got together. Being able to share my love for women with my wife is an incredible thing - the stuff we talk about doing when we're having sex is getting incredibly raunchy and hot.

I'm patiently waiting for my lovely wife to write up about what happened Wednesday last week... because I have a LOT to say about my first first-hand experience in this lifestyle. It went amazingly, no worries there. And it feels like the end of the first chapter and the beginning of a new chapter. Can't wait to tell you all.

[venus-can99]

Looking forward to reading them Sara and S_S

[Lookingforadventure]

So Sara posted about her first FF experience in her pics thread; this one was a lot of fun - no angst other than wondering what they were up to once she let me know she was headed to C's place. Turns out Sara really LOVES women - which is honestly a fantasy I've held since we first got together. Being able to share my love for women with my wife is an incredible thing - the stuff we talk about doing when we're having sex is getting incredibly raunchy and hot.

I'm patiently waiting for my lovely wife to write up about what happened Wednesday last week... because I have a LOT to say about my first first-hand experience in this lifestyle. It went amazingly, no worries there. And it feels like the end of the first chapter and the beginning of a new chapter. Can't wait to tell you all.

What about if YOU write it up from your point of view? It was a first for you as well, and I'd love to know more about your perspective. But if you want to wait for Sara to go first, that's ok too. Know that I'm happy for both of you.

[Saras_Stag]

What about if YOU write it up from your point of view? It was a first for you as well, and I'd love to know more about your perspective. But if you want to wait for Sara to go first, that's ok too. Know that I'm happy for both of you.

Hello LFA!

You’re too sweet!

I’m definitely a ladies first kind of guy, even in the bedroom so I don’t mind waiting for my Queen to go first, plus I find it’s interesting to see both points of view around the same time. I’ve got a lot of it “written” in my head and I’ll start writing tonight so it’s ready to go.

I will say it was very enjoyable, especially for Sara but for all three of us! A great first time of what will hopefully be many fun experiences.