Cool ideas for her next date?

[Randytaylor]

Hi guys how you all doing? Newbie here.

Recently I posted our story at the newcomers forum.

So, my beautiful wife is going to go on a date and possibly a full night of sex with a guy. Usually i ask her to take some photos and record some videos to me which she always do.

But i was thinking if she could do something new or different... So I wanted to ask you all, any cool ideas you want to give me so she can surprise me?

Thanks!

[Her number1]

Soooo, she needs to do something new or different to please you? You've only been doing this for two years, and you need something new?

Maybe try letting her be herself without having to be something extra for you. Good gosh, do know how you sound.

[54321]

Mmm. That came across a bit harsh, Her Number 1.

To the poster, is there anything that she would like?
Or:
Maybe she could do a striptease for him to drive him so crazy that he just has to ravish her.
They could go to a dance club with her wearing something daringly sexy. They could spend an hour or two dancing provocatively, knowing that everyone else there will know that they will be fucking later.
They could go to a swingers club and swap with another couple.
How about the three of you go out together where they are the loved up couple who can't keep their hands off each other and you are the 'friend'.

Hey! It's all fun!

54321

[Her number1]

Mmm. That came across a bit harsh, Her Number 1.

54321

Maybe, maybe not. Time will tell, my intention was to make him think.
He said she had been hotwifing for two years, so didn't seem to me that She Needed ideas.

Maybe I'm wrong.

[MarknSusan]

Mmm. That came across a bit harsh, Her Number 1.

54321

Maybe, maybe not. Time will tell, my intention was to make him think.
He said she had been hotwifing for two years, so didn't seem to me that She Needed ideas.

Maybe I'm wrong.

Her number1 we really respect your posts (and of course farmgirl posts too). You are both very well respected and appreciated here.

But like 54321 mentioned I too thought your response, while well intended was a bit harsh for a newbie. Nonetheless, we respect your opinion.

[Her number1]

Mmm. That came across a bit harsh, Her Number 1.

54321

Maybe, maybe not. Time will tell, my intention was to make him think.
He said she had been hotwifing for two years, so didn't seem to me that She Needed ideas.

Maybe I'm wrong.

Her number1 we really respect your posts (and of course farmgirl posts too). You are both very well respected and appreciated here.

But like 54321 mentioned I too thought your response, while well intended was a bit harsh for a newbie. Nonetheless, we respect your opinion.

Mark,
With two levelheaded folks saying I was harsh, it has to be so.
Thanks to the both of you for reminding me when my words convey the wrong thing.


To the OP, I should have been nicer and more aware of how I come across.
My appologies.

[Parsifal]

Ask her for an nightstand audio recording.

[Tank Turner]

Maybe try letting her be herself without having to be something extra for you. Good gosh, do know how you sound.

^^^^^^That right there is the essence of pure wisdom^^^^^^

Men don't have to tell women how to have sex. They have it wired. They know what they most enjoy and what will draw euphoric orgasms out of their clits.

At best, hotwifing should be equally enjoying, exciting and euphoric. In reality, wives should get the most euphoric pleasure out of it.

If wives were to believe that they were doing it for their husbands' pleasure, it would become a chore that they would eventually tire of.

[Tank Turner]

I never tell my wife what she should do unless I'm joking. She can pull off sex joking better than I can. She's a mature woman. She knows what to do. She knows what gives her most intensive euphoria.

I never interfere with anything my wife is doing. If she's giving a blowjob, I'll wait until after she swallows before I'll move in. If a dude is working on my wife's clit, I'll watch until after she orgasms. I have never interfered with her orgasms, and I never will. She's told me she's addicted to oral sex orgasms. So I know to not interfere when a dude has his face buried in her bush.

Hotwifing is fun, not a job.

[tn_cpl_4bull]

My wife and I went to the lingerie store and got some new items - things her Bull hadn't seen her in. Then we used an elegant, upscale bedroom, where she posed for me, doing a naughty photo and video shoot. The photos weren't for me, but to surprise her new man with.

[MarknSusan]

Mmm. That came across a bit harsh, Her Number 1.

54321

Maybe, maybe not. Time will tell, my intention was to make him think.
He said she had been hotwifing for two years, so didn't seem to me that She Needed ideas.

Maybe I'm wrong.

Her number1 we really respect your posts (and of course farmgirl posts too). You are both very well respected and appreciated here.

But like 54321 mentioned I too thought your response, while well intended was a bit harsh for a newbie. Nonetheless, we respect your opinion.

Mark,
With two levelheaded folks saying I was harsh, it has to be so.
Thanks to the both of you for reminding me when my words convey the wrong thing.


To the OP, I should have been nicer and more aware of how I come across.
My appologies.

You are a true gentleman. Thank you and Farmgirl for all your insight in this lifestyle over the years.

[Parsifal]

Ditto MarknSusan

[Randytaylor]

Heyy guys! Thanks for all the replies.

I expressed myself badly when I wrote the post, English is not my native language and I have a little grammatical difficulty, but I don't like to use a translator but in this case I'm using it to make my message clear. I agree with the feedback that was passed, our hotwifing is fun and it's not just about me, my only intention here was to exchange ideas and know what you usually do both my wife and I use this account. The very idea of the post was to have references and ideas of what we could both decide as a couple it's never just about me.

Anyways i really loved everything that was discussed here and it's okay to be harsh i wasn't sad or anything it's fine

[Angela Plays]

A woman’s perspective….

All of the “really special,” “really hot,” and “really memorable” moments we’ve experienced have been unplanned and “in the moment” occurrences. The nice surprises have come about organically. If she’s in a good place, and you’re in a good place, don’t stress over it and don’t try to engineer something. Be open to being truly surprised and revel in those moments when they happen on their own.

xoxo
Ang

[bltn1966]

Ask her for an nightstand audio recording.

Was coming here to say the same thing Parsifal. Marie and her BF intended to make a video for me. Unfortunately they knocked over the camera and all I got was a video of the hotel ceiling. However, I got a great audio though. Marie tried to make up for the video mishap. She sat beside me and narrate what was happening as we listen to the audio.

She said things like “this sounds like when he was fucking me from behind”, “I think this is when I was on top” “this is when he had me in some weird scissor position”. Honestly the audio was almost better than a video.

[Tank Turner]

A woman’s perspective….

All of the “really special,” “really hot,” and “really memorable” moments we’ve experienced have been unplanned and “in the moment” occurrences. The nice surprises have come about organically. If she’s in a good place, and you’re in a good place, don’t stress over it and don’t try to engineer something. Be open to being truly surprised and revel in those moments when they happen on their own.xoxo
Ang

I completely agree. We've always allowed ambiance and environment dictate natural flow of events.

Planning activities would create unnecessary stress.

The caveat is husband and wife should have a code or cue that indicates she is not comfortable and wants to terminate contact.

[Parsifal]

Sometimes the topic morphs into a debate on an altogether different subject, which in this case is the notion that it's somehow an invasion of a wife's fundamental freedom for her husband to plan her activities or set too rigid an agenda. Before I weigh in and stake out the counter-pole to that argument, let me qualify it be saying I respect all of you who feel that way, particularly if that works for you and your marriage. Indeed, my own view of the issue is more of a middle ground. For me and Gala, the symbiosis and collaboration we have in creating our games and agenda is a big part of what we share through her, and hence our, adventures The directions we together choose and then plan for her is in large part an elaboration on experiences she wants to have and with lovers she wants to be with. I don't view our planning as patriarchal or one-sidedly dictatorial. That said, let me now make the case for the antithesis of the laissez-faire, free-for-all hotwifing arrangements which some here advocate as categorically imperative. There are, it seems, some wives who are actually aroused by structure. They want to be bound, blindfolded, gagged, and, yes, even [forced] - I've bracketed the word to signal it's non-literal meaning in context. Games and play within agreed upon frameworks can and does work for some women and couples. We see that all the time in the cuckhold postings when it's the husband being caged or subservient, and it's obvious too how BDSM and role-playing in that genre can be so pleasurable. So to conclude - the topic here of "cool ideas for the next date" shouldn't be challenged as inherently patronizing, since it's often as much a wife's preference for playing as a team with her husband as it is for her to choose her own path independently.

[Bryce 69]

Ask your wife to call you when she and her date go to the bedroom and place the phone on the table next to the bed so you can listen to them

[Bryce 69]

other ways to make it sexy and fun for you both
take her shopping and have her pick out a bra and pantie set for him to see and remove
go to her favorite nail salon and pay for a mani peti - try hot pink of fuck me red
if her pussy is bald before her date after she showers oil her and shave her smooth for him make sure you don't nick his pussy lots of moisturizer when your done
She will love the pampering feel supported and be extra slutty for her date

[funfortwo]

My wife has been trying to "change things up" for a date with her current BF of 2.5 years. They usually meet at the same hotel, about every 4-5 weeks, with lunch/drinks and catch up before heading up to the room. In the past, weather permitting, they've met at the pool and swam with some snacks and sunshine. She is looking for other ideas to get out of the same routine, while keeping some level of discretion. I've offered up a few ideas, but ultimately, it's her decision and what she is comfortable with. She loves to wine taste, and I suggested she meet him at a "somewhat" local winery, hit a few wineries, have some lunch and head to the room for fun. She suggested this to her BF, but he is somewhat non-committal which frustrates her. If she/we had our way, she would spend the night rather than having him showering and leaving after a few hours. For us, we're in this together and we make decisions collectively. But again, it's what's comfortable for her, excites her and will have a better time on her/their date.