What cracked your wife in the end?

[BD8280]

Hi everyone! What cracked your wife in the end an got her to start playing?
Its been 7 years since I first told my wife, we have lots of fun these days playing, teasing and joking about it, she’s completely comfortable with it and me. But i still get plenty of…. “Youre crazy, never in a million years, you must be mad”. Etc etc
Ive given up pushing myself which I think is better. I think the only possiblity is something organic. A builder who turns up at our house to do a few days work and actively takes n interest in her. A new guy at work who catches her eye and asks for her phone number. I feel sure this would crack her.

[luvwives999]

While we were engaged,I asked her, if I wasn't around which of my friends did she think she would be fucking. She did not hesitate to answer, which to me meant she had thought about it before. Then pillow talk while she was turned on became, if he walked in now would you cover up. That answer was yes, then a few times after, maybe, then eventually no. So, then I asked, what do you think will happen is you don't cover up and she said, he'll probably fuck me. Do you want that I asked, that went from maybe to yes to I want his cock in me. Didn't take long after we were married to have a threesome. Once she fucked him the first time, and she saw I had no problem with it, she would go to his apartment to fuck him alone. This went on for about 2 years till he got transferred out of town. I think I missed her having a side man more than she did, I missed how excited she got telling me what they did, how it felt etc. Took many years before she found more men to play with.

[SammySigns]

There was a coworker who really wanted her and would send her dick pics. Eventually we met up for at a bar to play pool, an then we went our separate ways. I was kind of drunk and started texting him to come over from her phone. And come over he did! And boy did she get cracked.

[bradisalpha]

As you are hearing in the reply posts.. she knows, or thinks, you are ok with it. It will take a spark from someone that sexually arouses her for her to go that next step. And once she feels that spark she will go that next step instantly.

You are right in not pushing her. She will only push back on letting if happen. Have fun, support her in your pillow talk and wait patiently. You might also take a couple of suggestions from these replies to move your pillow talk ahead.. just do not push. Just give her the opening and let her run with it. Timing is everything !!

Just sayin…

Brad

[parklife]

She reconnected with an old flame on LinkedIn… it was the guy we used in our bedroom fantasy talk (we called him coke can because of the size of his cock for years as we played with the fantasy of her fucking him). He reached out to connect on that site and they started chatting, eventually reminiscing about old times which led to her finally asking me if I was sure I wanted her to do this…

And the crack was cast….

[mattyg_2671]

It seems to be old flames generally! Same with us.

[masculinecuck]

My wife had never been with a "big" cock before I"m a thin 5" and her previous long term boyfriend was a teeny 3" according to her. She's 5' 4" 115 lbs with a flat stomach tiny ass with firm 36 c breasts a real head turner. I kept telling her she needed a big one, I dearly wanted to watch her, told her I wanted to be her cuckold and she started with a firm no to eventually a "maybe". That progressed to I get to pick him but she still was reluctant.
After a year of prodding we'd watch cuck porn with turned us both on especially when the cuck cleaned his freshly fucked wife.

Then one day she went to lunch with her best friend and told her everything, after she got over the shock she told my wife to do it (apparently her hubby is really hung). Told her nothing ventured nothing gained. She came home that night and declared honey "IM ready for a big cock".
She wanted a younger guy she was 43 at the time 8 years ago. She likes the All American type guy, lean build not hairy, a nice smile very important.

Long story short we put an ad on CL back when they had ads found David with a thick 9 incher (no kidding). Again long story short he fucked her twice that first night I cleaned her in front of them and we were all amazing how much we LOVED IT
I"ve been her cuck for over 8 years now cut off from fucking her for 5, a definately downside to lifestyle but I JO when I clean her which is often,.
She has 3 steadys' we usually have one of them here Thursday nite thru Monday am as she likes the physical aspect of sleeping with her guys.

NOW SHE WISHES SHE HAD DONE SOONER GO FIGURE !!

[wordlover2000]

Lol...no cracking involved. I blame it all on her (largely a joke, though not totally). She had a habit of riding my cock and fantasizing out loud for both of us. The fantasies involved other people...sometimes a woman, usually a man...joining us in bed. She would get very graphic. Finally I said, "OK, I want to try this for real." She looked at me and said you're joking. I assured her I was not. Then she said, "Let me think about it for a little bit." It took all of 48 hours to agree. The rest was heaven. Seriously...we had amazing luck and great experiences finding other people and playing with them.

So, "cracking"? Not in our case.

[BT2]

My wife became a hotwife strictly by accident. It was four decades ago, and we had never even heard the word "hotwife", and if we had we probably would have rejected the whole idea.

We had both been married before so weren't exactly virgins. We used to turn each other on sharing sexual stories about our past, shared fantasies, read sex stories to each other, etc.. We'd also do "turn on things" like going to an adult movie, renting a porn video, going to a stripper show, going to a remote hotsprings and soak naked, and my favorite (suggested by her) going to an event, her wearing a skirt and no panties.

One time we thought her having a bodyrub would be fun. None of the local bodyrub parlous would take a female client, but one suggested looking in an adult classified for a guy who gave sensuous massages to women. We looked, found such a guy, made a date, told him we were first timers, and he turned out to be really nice, not pushy, respected limits, and put us at ease.

I was there. We chatted for awhile, then he showed us the massage room, and suggested she get ready and cover herself with a towel. He came in later, still dressed. The massage started "legitimately" enough, massaged her back from head to toe, but by the time she was asked to turn over, the towel had gone. There she was, full frontal naked, hard nipples, black bush, up close to another guy. I thought I would have a heart attack. He started rubbing her front, neck, tummy, breasts, and I remember by the time he got close to her pussy I didn't want to wait any longer. I reached over and put his hand on her pussy. She gave no sign of demurring. He rubbed her clit', penetrated her with his finger, and I guess it really turned her on because before too long she was tugging at his pants to remove them. Soon he was naked too. She had a happy ending.

It was a real turn on for the both of us. We went back a couple of weeks later for another session. This time they didn't bother with a towel or modesty. They started out naked and ended with her sucking his cock and him licking her slit and clit'.

We tried to see him a third time, but he had moved in with his girlfriend and no longer gave massages. Neither of us wanted to wait, so we found another guy, and met him at our place the next evening. He was nice enough. They both started out naked. I remember seeing his cock and it was much larger than mine. The massage was pretty fast and it looked like it would be a rushed affair and over pretty quickly. But no. Soon after he had her turn over she fully cooperated when he started to crawl between her legs. She glanced at me with a "is this o.k. look. I nodded yes, and soon he had penetrated her deep and they were fucking, her being a willing participant.

And that's how she became a full-fledged hotwife.

[Parsifal]

The question about what cracked her is, as I understand it, a final straw question. Immediate direct cause.

My wife had already made the decision to make a date on line with sex prospects, but had not yet begun the process. So she was already predisposed when a mutual male friend of ours, a neighbor, told us his wife of 12 years was divorcing him. A few months later it came up during sex that she was sexually attracted to him and open to the idea of having sex with him. I set it up for her and the rest is history.

[ncnj1]

An old college flame is what it took for my wife.

I first brought it up over 25 years ago, she said it would never happen. We played with the idea as fantasy but she would never name a guy she would actually do it with. Whenever I pushed she just got more adamant that it would never hapoen.

All her resistance went away the minute she had a chance to reconnect with an old college boyfriend. The meeting was supposed to be innocent but she had plans to seduce him and did. After that she’s been off to the races to find an affair partner.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

I was a wannabe for about a decade before it actually happened.

One evening very early in our relationship, a friend fucked his wife in front of us.

Something inside of me was awakened that evening. For some reason, I felt an incredible desire to watch my friend fuck my own wife in front of me and his own wife.

I could imagine nothing hotter than watching her cum on my friend’s cock.

It never happened, though. He fucked only his own wife. That was it.

But my wife and I talked about it afterward, and I told her that I was practically delirious with the idea of being able to watch her cum on our friend’s cock…….on another man’s cock. (Once it took hold of me, I was all in.)

At first, she was freaked out and felt “dirty” that I would want to watch her with another man. She cried and thought our marriage was coming to an end.

Over time, though, the idea settled. She began to wonder, herself, if she would like to try a little something new, on the side, knowing that I’d be okay (even elated) with it.

We spent about ten years fantasizing about it together. It became our “default” fantasy, and she started to imagine herself having sex with family members, with relatives, with neighbors, with friends, with coworkers. (Strangers were just too much for her. They were a “no go.” She wanted fantasies in which we knew the man who was putting his cock inside of her. She wanted to cuck me with people who I would routinely see and interact with. Every time we’d hang out with family, the fantasy went, my brother might gladly slap me on the back, us both knowing the glorious feel of my wife’s loving cunt wrapped around our cocks.)

Fantasy finally gave way in March, 2007, when she decided to fuck a coworker.

He became her boyfriend. She was loving life…..the freedom she was now feeling.

Once she got a taste, she was hooked.

That was 18 years ago. She’s on her second boyfriend, now, and she LOVES having two cocks to play with at her leisure.

I love that she’s as happy as a girl can be.

Her first boyfriend was really good at showing me how happy she was on his cock. I’ve watched her cum on it countless times (as well as him filling her up). Her current (second) boyfriend is not as eager….a bit gun shy. We’re working on it!

[Teensy1]

My wife never was interested in having sex with another man. I brought it up hypothetically early in our marriage and was rebuffed. But once we were in our seventies and medication made me permanently soft that changed everything. My bride declared that she wouldn’t live without a hard cock so we agreed that she should become a hotwife. She immediately offered herself to our Black neighbor , who has been fucking her frequently for five years now. Her only regret, she says, is that she didn’t start cucking me from the start.

[Treat yourself girl]

Alcohol.

It makes her very playful and flirtatious. Then the real Amy comes out.

[MrPepeLePew]

We had a lot of friction when this topic came up. Mostly it was because I wasn't good about making it seem serious to her, and by the time I wanted her to try it so much time had passed that I was desperate, which is probably the worst place to be, mentally. She was pretty mad in the beginning and gradually warmed up to it over time (so... much ... time).

In retrospect I agree, if I'd have been able to find an old crush or previous boyfriend it could've much more likely happened. But I didn't know any of them so eventually she let me shop for someone she would agree to and we finally found her first. We were exceptionally lucky with him (he's pictured in my avatar) as he was a repeat customer for ... 2 years I think? She loves sex in the early afternoon and he was in a position to come over for nooners which worked out perfectly. She loved his cock and couldn't wait for him to give it to her again. He eventually found a girlfriend and they went looking for another female which my wife is not at all interested in (unfortunately).

Most women won't want to hop in bed with someone they just met, even if they are attracted. So if that is how your wife feels, you'll have to arrange a situation where she can have multiple visits with a guy so she can consider if she wants things to go farther. This can mean finding her someone online. Unfortunately, if you can even get a guy to show up to the first no-sex date, it's extremely likely he will flake and ghost you before you can have a second one. If she can't acclimate to being more of an opportunist and fucking a guy she just met and you can't find someone she's comfortable with to come around often enough for the opportunity to present itself, it's not going to happen much, honestly. It's one of the things that makes this lifestyle so hard. Men aren't really approaching women much anymore anyway, and that goes double for married women.

If she needs time to warm up to someone before she considers playing with them, it will probably have to be a buddy situation. Maybe you're in a club and you see someone on a fairly regular basis, maybe it's someone you live close to or work out with. Maybe you work with him (probably bad idea) or maybe someone you see on vacation every once in a while and became online friends, etc.

Us guys are pretty stupid about this aspect of women too. We WILL hop into bed with a woman we find attractive on the first date, if possible, so the notion that she won't baffles us. As a cuckold husband, it takes some solid education and mental rehab to wrap our heads around how to turn an acquaintance into a candidate within a reasonable amount of time.

[BBCfan]

Hot thread!

[Tank Turner]

Her off the charts libido.

[JaBe]

I think it was the right guy making the right moves at the right time. Otherwise I think she'd have remained with a body count of one (me).

[steve_x]

I met my SO as her college student. (I was an older student, closer to 25.) She's 20 years older, extremely stacked, high libido. We started going out after and had sex a few times, assumed it'd just be casual and temporary, but stuck together, became travel buddies, eventually moved in together. Men would constantly hassle her, we came home once to a strange voicemail from a friend's ex-husband wanting to bang her (implicitly for money) and asking her not to tell his ex-wife. At our peak, we were often screwing 4x a day if work didn't get in the way.

I did confide my fantasies during sex but she thought I was kidding, wouldn't really like it, would hate her after, was just using it as a pretext to have sex with other women, etc. A few years of sexting and dirty talk but it never went anywhere.

We also had some terrible fights about her fear of being cast aside due to the age gap, which sometimes turned into thinking I wanted her to fuck another man so she'd leave me or I could leave her. Unfounded anxiety stuff.

This finally climaxed the winter before the pandemic, early 2019. We had a trip to Italy coming up together, the argument got way too intense and I went to sleep in a hotel, told her we couldn't do this anymore. It took time to make plans to separate our things and all that, and we decided to still take the trip as we traveled together better than we lived together.

By the time we went on the trip, she'd been open - and kind of catty - about having a couple dating site profiles up, but we were ourselves quickly. After a very nice dinner and a couple of cocktails, we got into personal topics and I mentioned a woman I'd been visiting with (without graphic detail), which prompted her to explain that she had slept with a man she met while out on a trivia night. She was surprised that I wanted detail, surprised that I wasn't angry with her, and showed me where to find the doorbell cam clips of him coming in with her and leaving as I still had access.

We had incredible sex. I asked her if she intended to see him again, she swore she wouldn't, I stressed I wanted her to try it again. We talked about what to do and agreed that we're aware from home, I wanted her to think like a single woman and enjoy herself. She didn't sleep with anyone on the trip, but laughed, flirted, danced, got felt up. By the end of the trip, she made a wine date with the man from trivia night. She saw him twice more and let that one go. We settled back into living together, and, oddly, with the new openness, the anxious bickering stopped. She is much more confident and on some level she clearly gets validation out of more men (and maybe confidence that she's giving me everything I want?). She has never, not once, implied that I will leave her since this started.

The pandemic put a real kink in our cogs, as travel largely stopped for a while, but in six and a half years, she's had sex with more men than she did before we met, and I've gotten to watch or join nearly twenty of those, as well as take her to two clubs. She's also become much more body-positive and become a strenous gym enthusiast and changed the way she dresses considerably.

[safado]

It was me getting a job outside the country and being away from her for months at a time. It ramped up the phone sex, chatting and streaming video between us. Masturbation to fantasies, nudes and hard dick pics exchanged. Before that, we'd done things like stand apart from each other in singles' bars, dance clubs, where I would watch as men tried to pick her up.

There was also a dominance aspect to it, as she learned from another man she was chatting with how she could control me by cucking me. She agreed in principle to fuck another man to please me, and she plunged into looking for one. At first she tried to seduce her boss. I was getting daily reports of how she dressed sexy and approached him for conversations. That didn't happen, the boss was too cautious.

It happened when a coworker told her he was moving to another city for a job. He had been complimenting and propositioning her for years, even though he was 20 years younger than her. She invited him out for a farewell dinner, and after drinking a lot in the restaurant he took her to his apartment and they 69nd and fucked. It was not optimal experience as she said she was too drunk, but it opened the door and two months later while out with a girlfriend at a singles bar she met a guy who was a long-term lover while I was working overseas.

[steve_x]

There was also a dominance aspect to it, as she learned from another man she was chatting with how she could control me by cucking me. She agreed in principle to fuck another man to please me, and she plunged into looking for one. At first she tried to seduce her boss. I was getting daily reports of how she dressed sexy and approached him for conversations. That didn't happen, the boss was too cautious.

One of the things we did was talk to a couples' therapist after we reconciled. I wouldn't say he was lifestyle-positive, but he understood the dynamics.

This passage stood out to me because one of the things he called out about my SO was that she very likely exhibited something like OCD, and actually would be happier alone than in a traditional relationship.

This is not the same as saying she wanted to be single. She struggled with trusting relationships, and stopped flailing against it once she could fuck other men because my enjoyment of it gave her "power chips", metaphorical bargaining tokens in the relationship. It wasn't just the validation of being wanted but the confidence that she was doing something that was powerfully controlling of me, rather than feeling like I was the only one bringing something to the table and would inevitably run. (Which was never true, but how she felt because of the anxiousness.) Realizing how intensely I wanted her when she did it made her want to do it and also feel secure in the relationship.

[BD8280]

My wife became a hotwife strictly by accident. It was four decades ago, and we had never even heard the word "hotwife", and if we had we probably would have rejected the whole idea.

We had both been married before so weren't exactly virgins. We used to turn each other on sharing sexual stories about our past, shared fantasies, read sex stories to each other, etc.. We'd also do "turn on things" like going to an adult movie, renting a porn video, going to a stripper show, going to a remote hotsprings and soak naked, and my favorite (suggested by her) going to an event, her wearing a skirt and no panties.

One time we thought her having a bodyrub would be fun. None of the local bodyrub parlous would take a female client, but one suggested looking in an adult classified for a guy who gave sensuous massages to women. We looked, found such a guy, made a date, told him we were first timers, and he turned out to be really nice, not pushy, respected limits, and put us at ease.

I was there. We chatted for awhile, then he showed us the massage room, and suggested she get ready and cover herself with a towel. He came in later, still dressed. The massage started "legitimately" enough, massaged her back from head to toe, but by the time she was asked to turn over, the towel had gone. There she was, full frontal naked, hard nipples, black bush, up close to another guy. I thought I would have a heart attack. He started rubbing her front, neck, tummy, breasts, and I remember by the time he got close to her pussy I didn't want to wait any longer. I reached over and put his hand on her pussy. She gave no sign of demurring. He rubbed her clit', penetrated her with his finger, and I guess it really turned her on because before too long she was tugging at his pants to remove them. Soon he was naked too. She had a happy ending.

It was a real turn on for the both of us. We went back a couple of weeks later for another session. This time they didn't bother with a towel or modesty. They started out naked and ended with her sucking his cock and him licking her slit and clit'.

We tried to see him a third time, but he had moved in with his girlfriend and no longer gave massages. Neither of us wanted to wait, so we found another guy, and met him at our place the next evening. He was nice enough. They both started out naked. I remember seeing his cock and it was much larger than mine. The massage was pretty fast and it looked like it would be a rushed affair and over pretty quickly. But no. Soon after he had her turn over she fully cooperated when he started to crawl between her legs. She glanced at me with a "is this o.k. look. I nodded yes, and soon he had penetrated her deep and they were fucking, her being a willing participant.

And that's how she became a full-fledged hotwife.

I love this! Such a great way in!

[Bryce 69]

Hannah and I started 25 years ago. We wanted some new experiences and found a group of swingers on AFF when the site first started, we had lots of fun ….but couples and the drama ….and scheduling is a real pain in the ass.
Hannah is very submissive and I am very Dominant…I transitioned us into more most MfM play dates……no I don’t cleanup uugggh….became very normalized for Hannah to get fucked and Hannah started dating and h overnights

[Harleyriders99]

Casino, Alcohol, Smooth talkin Fireman. Lol

[Aussiem]

My wife fucked quite a lot of guys before we married. I was well aware of it and liked it. We fucked on our first date. When we got married our best man was a mutual friend who had been out with her and fucked her before we met. We joked at the wedding about what the best man's job was.
We continued to socialise with him and a few years later he fucked her. He then fucked her regularly for many years. His wife was fine with it and l fucked his wife many times. We were very relaxed with sharing. Mfmf and mfm as well as him dropping over for a fuck when I wasn't home or the other way around. It was always bare sex and I loved the sloppy cum filled pussy of either my wife or his