Identifying a potential cuckold

[Teensy1]

Do hubbies send out signals, consciously or not, that they’re willing (or at least not unwilling) to be cuckolded)? If so, what might those be?

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

Signals?

Like my voice telling her, “I wanna watch you moan and cum on his cock”?

That kind of signal?

(Just kidding….but not really. I have said that to my wife often.)

I swear, though, there are some guys who can “smell” it on me. They just KNOW my wife controls the sexual scene…that she’s cucking me.

[MrPepeLePew]

Honestly as cuckolds we kind of have to and it has to be pretty obvious. Most guys (at least those you want on top of your wife) will probably be too decent to hit on a married lady, so he'll need to be told somehow that it's okay.

I've found the more I can buddy up with a guy the more comfortable he will be in pursuing my wife. Often if I'm the one giving him her text number he tends to text and more likely will meet after chatting. Save the hardcode cuckold stuff till much later (if ever), just help him get laid and see if he has any Dominant or bully tendencies and go from there.

[Cdncuck]

Do hubbies send out signals, consciously or not, that they’re willing (or at least not unwilling) to be cuckolded)? If so, what might those be?

I believe we do give some kind of clue but not certain what it is. What has become obvious to me over the years is that more women can pick up on it than men. Some men certainly can but not as many as the women.

This is only speculation on my part. Rather than giving off some kind of "it's ok if you fuck my wife" signal, it's possible we give off some sort of submissive signal which can be picked up by women and men.

[Teensy1]

That’s my sense as well. Before I became a cuck guys had no problem flirting with my wife in front of me and she enjoyed the attention. She made sure she showed plenty of cleavage anytime we were out together.

[Chuck_pgh]

I am a big guy and men do not approach my wife when I am near.

I am also not a cuck. I prefer the hotwife or stag/vixen scenarios.

From a previous message: Most guys (at least those you want on top of your wife) will probably be too decent to hit on a married lady, so he'll need to be told somehow that it's okay.

Good idea...told somehow: HOW do you do this?

[bradisalpha]

I am a big guy and men do not approach my wife when I am near.

I am also not a cuck. I prefer the hotwife or stag/vixen scenarios.

From a previous message: Most guys (at least those you want on top of your wife) will probably be too decent to hit on a married lady, so he'll need to be told somehow that it's okay.

Good idea...told somehow: HOW do you do this?

Chuck,

It isn’t really that hard. Your wife dressed nicely.. smiling.. looking happy and approachable to talk… draws attention. You can easily approach a man and say “my wife thinks you are cute.. would you like to join us for a drink” ?? When you sit down, sit across from your wife and motion him to sit next to her. You can have a normal conversation with him and if your wife begins talking, back off and let them talk. Get up and go to the men’s room.. leave them alone.

If your wife is flirty, she will seduce him into coming home with you for a nightcap. If she isn’t, then it will be up to you to invite him home with you for a nightcap.

It is very easy.. you only have to act normal and show him openings to stay with you and enjoy the company of your wife. The rest will take care of itself.

In more of a cuckold situation the wife will do the inviting while you stand off to the side and remain quiet.

For the other posters…

I will approach a woman that is dressed nicely.. even a little promiscuous.. that looks happy and talkative, with a husband that looks reserved.. even submissive. I will say hello and begin a conversation with her (not him). If I see the husband fading into the background.. not participating in our conversation.. I will begin complimenting and being flirty. If I see no push back from the husband at that point I continue and offer an invitation to “maybe go somewhere else more private”. So the only advice I can give to identify a hot wife/cuckold is to approach them the same way.

Often a hot wife will be outgoing while the husband will show the appearance of being quiet and shy.

Don’t overthink finding a cuckold couple. Act normal if you see what I described. Be easy going and talkative. Be fun. It will go from there.

Just my input…

Brad

[slenderfish]

SW dresses sexy but in a "proper" way that shows off her body without unusually deep cleavage or unusually short dresses (generally). This of course attracts attention from both women and men. I am aware of SW and her energy toward people and can sense when her friendliness moves to flirtation. It is at that point, when she is talking with a guy, I make an excuse to walk away and leave them alone. After my "excuse" is exhausted, I wander back past them and if SW is deep in conversation and flirtation, and especially if her body language is turned more into him than when I left, and if it doesn't change as I walk up, I'll just walk past so that SW can either address me or let me pass without comment.

As she spends enough time for him to buy her a couple of drinks, and it gets closer to time to leave, I'll wander over and mention it's getting later/last call, etc. is this the end or is there some continuation somewhere? But we really never got past that, very close once, but in that case the guy kind of realized where it might be headed and ultimately wasn't into it.

As for Mr. B., we were all friends but I'd met his wife socially a year earlier and when SW said "you are friends of the wife, they are separating, so I'll take primary with Mr. B., I went with it. I even retained a separate business relationship with him and he was probing whether I was comfortable with her having a separate "texting" relationship with her. I told him she handles the social calendar for us and he should support that. Green light!

When we were in social groups with Mr. B and SW insisted on sitting next to him, with me across, and other times when stepping off the sidewalk or getting into the car, she positioned herself for his assist instead of mine. I never protested or made any scene, which I believe further encouraged him. When we had too many cars and were headed the direction of my house, SW insisted on driving with him directly to the destination while I took the other friends home, which burned up an extra half hour, etc.

Little things but those paying attention pick up on them.

So generally without fail SW finds a guy and plays the part but at the end of the night she has even given her phone number many times but then the next day when they reach out, she ghosts them.

Ultimately, she will not close a deal with a stranger, but only with someone she knows and likes and feels a level of trust. Tough to accomplish.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

Often a hot wife will be outgoing while the husband will show the appearance of being quiet and shy.

So true!

I know that women of all makes and types are desirable, but my wife happens to check the boxes for A LOT of fellows out there. (She won the DNA lottery and attracts the attention of countless men.) She’s southeast Asian, and has all those qualities that men see in women from that part of the world… youthful looks, long black hair (almost like a silk curtain), proportional and girlish (think college co-ed). I think you get the picture.

In her part of Asia, girls and young women like her are everywhere. She didn’t feel particularly special there.

She emigrated to America. Her father is a highly regarded scientist.

She finished high school and started attending college. That’s where we met.

When we met, she was sort of aware that she was highly desirable in her new, American environment, but she was reluctant to act on it. (In her culture, boys court girls very differently. Feminine modesty is prized. This was before the advent of the internet, when social mediaI had blown everything up.

I happened to live in her world for quite some time, so I knew how to court her in the way she expected to be courted. We became boyfriend/girlfriend. (From there it obviously progressed and we eventually got married.)

She took a job in retail. She was in contact with American shoppers hourly and daily. (She could sell ANYTHING simply because people liked her. Looks go a long way in the retail biz! It completely disarms people.)

But I saw the little thrills she got from the attention she was getting. Women and men would often (and sometimes laughably clumsily) remark on her pretty looks. (I don’t know if it was my inner-cuck, but I LOVED to watch her get a little thrill from some guy hitting on her. It was fun to watch her adapting from her modest, humble upbringing to the American style of courtship while she was making the sale!)

I encouraged her to have fun with it…flirt back…let them think they had a shot…keep ‘em coming back for more. (What dude doesn’t want his wife to feel desired?!?) She started having fun with it. Her confidence grew. She had fellows (and women!) tripping over themselves to get her phone number, and later on, her social media info. She may have been taken aback in those beginning days…incredibly humble, but she grew into it over time. Her confidence climbed. She was a flirting force to be reckoned with. She ALWAYS had the perfect comeback to literally ANYTHING a fellow would say to her. She had these guys (and gals) on the ropes, and they LOVED her spunky verbal sparring. She could DEFINITELY hold her own…..and she was cute as fuck while doing it.

Then, at some point, I realized she was getting so good at it that even I was feeling a little unsettled.

“He’s taking you to lunch?!?”

She assured me I had nothing to worry about. She would just enjoy a little lunch on his dime….and that would be the end of it.

And I’m not talking just about the customers, here. Her coworkers were starting to line up. She was having a blast with it. She was the fun person to be around.

She had become “the most popular girl in the building” (and we’re not even talking about sex….just good, clean, friendly popularity), and she was reveling in it. Beautiful and charming and funny and so delightfully witty and social! Who WOULDN'T want to hang out with her?

And this is about the time that I started feeling the pangs of being “her cuckold husband.” (One of her coworkers even made some kind of jealous comment about me being her cuck. That’s when I started questioning myself. “Am I a cuck???”)

Make no mistake. By this time, I was NOT a cuckold husband, but I felt like people were starting to see me that way.

Her confidence had FAR outpaced my ability to keep up with her. She was making friend after friend after friend every day. I felt like people were just looking at me like I was her roommate……hardly a husband. (I tried to join her in social situations, but she was clearly the better attraction.)

So…..Getting back to the point of this thread:
When we’re together, she is a magnet for attraction…and I’m the guy who happens to be walking next to her.

I’ve watched guys openly flirt with her while I’m standing right there…..right next to her.

REGARDLESS of the fact that we decided to open things up many years ago, I feel like there are men who can look at our CLEARLY mismatched social personalities and who can just “smell” the cuckoldry on me. In retrospect, I kind of feel I was destined for this life. I wanted the hot-looking Asian wife, like she just stepped out of some anime series. I am certainly not anything near-equivalent in the looks department. Not just socially mismatched, but physically/aesthetically mismatched. She’s hot; I’m not!

Eventually:
She officially took a boyfriend MANY years ago, and they finally made a true cuck of me. They cucked me well and often. She has always enjoyed BOTH of us being present with her in those intimate and ecstatic moments of sexual bliss, hence my username. She wanted me to kiss her while she was impaled on his cock…tell her how much I love her while her boyfriend fucked her lights out. She’s now on her second boyfriend, and this time she wants to keep me at home while she sees him. She spends weekends with him and returns to give me every sordid detail while I reclaim her. She’s loving life! Two dicks; one pussy! (Her boyfriend feels like he hit the fucking lottery.) She knows she could have more if she wanted, but she’s happy where she is.

Given what you now know, do y’all think men can sense my cuck vibes?

[windymiller]

Its is dam near impossible i would suggest to identify a cuckold in normal life, the only thing that may indicate we are into this lifestyle is that i wear tighter jeans than a "normal" bloke, because they are female ones and as a consequence i have a bulge in the front where my cage is.

That probably would be read as i am gay, which obviously i am not.

I am permanently collared but its often quite obscured by my clothing.

For my cuckoldress the real padlock keys on a neckless on show may give the best clue.

However i doubt anyone we know would even consider we could be active in this LS.

I do think that as we are both tall, im 6ft 3 and she is 6ft that the chances of anyone we dont know asking is remote.

[elina]

Dear all,

Interesting subject.

Not directly cuckolding, or at least necesarily cuckolding, but here is a link to a Dominant Lady explaining to Her followers how to spot a submissive male.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L7WAStaIly0

Sincerely
elina

[Aussiem]

We are more stag vixen, swingers. It doesn't take long in a social setting to work out who are players and if the guy like to watch video or help his wife get fucked. From my side if a guy is chatting to my wife and obviously looking to go further, I will mention I am not the jealous type and she will take it as far as she wants. Sometimes if he is cool with that I will give him a few tips on what she likes etc.

[Lovemywifesbf]

Often a hot wife will be outgoing while the husband will show the appearance of being quiet and shy.

So true!

I know that women of all makes and types are desirable, but my wife happens to check the boxes for A LOT of fellows out there. (She won the DNA lottery and attracts the attention of countless men.) She’s southeast Asian, and has all those qualities that men see in women from that part of the world… youthful looks, long black hair (almost like a silk curtain), proportional and girlish (think college co-ed). I think you get the picture.

In her part of Asia, girls and young women like her are everywhere. She didn’t feel particularly special there.

She emigrated to America. Her father is a highly regarded scientist.

She finished high school and started attending college. That’s where we met.

When we met, she was sort of aware that she was highly desirable in her new, American environment, but she was reluctant to act on it. (In her culture, boys court girls very differently. Feminine modesty is prized. This was before the advent of the internet, when social mediaI had blown everything up.

I happened to live in her world for quite some time, so I knew how to court her in the way she expected to be courted. We became boyfriend/girlfriend. (From there it obviously progressed and we eventually got married.)

She took a job in retail. She was in contact with American shoppers hourly and daily. (She could sell ANYTHING simply because people liked her. Looks go a long way in the retail biz! It completely disarms people.)

But I saw the little thrills she got from the attention she was getting. Women and men would often (and sometimes laughably clumsily) remark on her pretty looks. (I don’t know if it was my inner-cuck, but I LOVED to watch her get a little thrill from some guy hitting on her. It was fun to watch her adapting from her modest, humble upbringing to the American style of courtship while she was making the sale!)

I encouraged her to have fun with it…flirt back…let them think they had a shot…keep ‘em coming back for more. (What dude doesn’t want his wife to feel desired?!?) She started having fun with it. Her confidence grew. She had fellows (and women!) tripping over themselves to get her phone number, and later on, her social media info. She may have been taken aback in those beginning days…incredibly humble, but she grew into it over time. Her confidence climbed. She was a flirting force to be reckoned with. She ALWAYS had the perfect comeback to literally ANYTHING a fellow would say to her. She had these guys (and gals) on the ropes, and they LOVED her spunky verbal sparring. She could DEFINITELY hold her own…..and she was cute as fuck while doing it.

Then, at some point, I realized she was getting so good at it that even I was feeling a little unsettled.

“He’s taking you to lunch?!?”

She assured me I had nothing to worry about. She would just enjoy a little lunch on his dime….and that would be the end of it.

And I’m not talking just about the customers, here. Her coworkers were starting to line up. She was having a blast with it. She was the fun person to be around.

She had become “the most popular girl in the building” (and we’re not even talking about sex….just good, clean, friendly popularity), and she was reveling in it. Beautiful and charming and funny and so delightfully witty and social! Who WOULDN'T want to hang out with her?

And this is about the time that I started feeling the pangs of being “her cuckold husband.” (One of her coworkers even made some kind of jealous comment about me being her cuck. That’s when I started questioning myself. “Am I a cuck???”)

Make no mistake. By this time, I was NOT a cuckold husband, but I felt like people were starting to see me that way.

Her confidence had FAR outpaced my ability to keep up with her. She was making friend after friend after friend every day. I felt like people were just looking at me like I was her roommate……hardly a husband. (I tried to join her in social situations, but she was clearly the better attraction.)

So…..Getting back to the point of this thread:
When we’re together, she is a magnet for attraction…and I’m the guy who happens to be walking next to her.

I’ve watched guys openly flirt with her while I’m standing right there…..right next to her.

REGARDLESS of the fact that we decided to open things up many years ago, I feel like there are men who can look at our CLEARLY mismatched social personalities and who can just “smell” the cuckoldry on me. In retrospect, I kind of feel I was destined for this life. I wanted the hot-looking Asian wife, like she just stepped out of some anime series. I am certainly not anything near-equivalent in the looks department. Not just socially mismatched, but physically/aesthetically mismatched. She’s hot; I’m not!

Eventually:
She officially took a boyfriend MANY years ago, and they finally made a true cuck of me. They cucked me well and often. She has always enjoyed BOTH of us being present with her in those intimate and ecstatic moments of sexual bliss, hence my username. She wanted me to kiss her while she was impaled on his cock…tell her how much I love her while her boyfriend fucked her lights out. She’s now on her second boyfriend, and this time she wants to keep me at home while she sees him. She spends weekends with him and returns to give me every sordid detail while I reclaim her. She’s loving life! Two dicks; one pussy! (Her boyfriend feels like he hit the fucking lottery.) She knows she could have more if she wanted, but she’s happy where she is.

Given what you now know, do y’all think men can sense my cuck vibes?

You got a great thing going! If I may ask, what does your wife find appealing about you? She is still with you and you get to reclaim her after all. What’s your secret?! Lol. Great stuff

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

You got a great thing going! If I may ask, what does your wife find appealing about you? She is still with you and you get to reclaim her after all. What’s your secret?! Lol. Great stuff

Good question!

I think it’s a mixture of things.

I believe (and feel) that she genuinely sees me as her primary partner….soulmate….lover…..man…..whatever.

We’ve had long talks about what we mean to each other…why it’s different than the relationship she shares with her boyfriend. (Side note: She says she has to “feel” something for the man who’s putting his penis inside of her. As much as I’ve wanted and encouraged her over the years to let loose and swing or enjoy some one-nighters, she says it’s just not something she can do. She HAS to feel emotionally connected with a man before she’d feel comfortable opening her legs for him. That’s why there have been only two boyfriends over the last 18 years.)

She sees us both as integral to her life, but I have been lucky enough to be her primary.

I was her first boyfriend. I was her first sexual experience. I married her. Two children. I’m a professional who’s financially solid (houses, cars, vacations, etc.). (She works, as I’ve pointed out, but we could probably get by without her income if we had to.) We’ve been through a lot of key experiences together that neither of her boyfriends know about.

Personality-wise, she’s got a penchant for never giving up on ANYTHING. She’s very competitive with herself, always trying to outdo her previous performance. She has a natural knack for sticking with something.

She has stuck with me, anyways.

So, when she realized that my desire to watch her get railed was real and not some ruse to fuck other women, I think she thought of the possibilities and realized how supremely positioned she was to explore parts of herself she never got to know as a teenager, a 20-, or a 30-something while also knowing that she has an excellent safety net.

It’s been good for both of us. I’ve had the opportunity to watch her develop a sexual identity outside of one that involves me. She found herself a boyfriend…her second, now. He rails her once or twice a week. I get to enjoy a VERY happy wife. (And I do so enjoy when she comes home wet and full and used and wants to tell me every detail. Like I said, she’s having a blast with her boyfriend’s dick….and I’m enjoying the sloppy seconds.)

Sometimes, though, I feel like guys can look at us…so mismatched….her so hot, me so not…and just smell the fact that she’s a shared wife. Like, they’d be more than happy to fuck her brains out right there in front of me…..and hand her back to me full and with a smile!

[BT2]

We used to at times each go on solo dates. We also had a number of MFM and FMF threesomes over the years. And sometimes I would enjoy just being there and watching her in action. We ALWAYS told the third party what we had in mind before date was set for a get together. We never had anybody object.

The secret was never to surprise a third party at the very last minute with what we wanted.

[truesub]

A few years ago a woman approached me. After a casual conversation, she asked quite directly if I was a cuck. I was kind of stunned and asked how she guessed, so she said 'all the signs are there'. Turned out she was looking for a potential hubby at the time. She never explained me about those 'signs' specifically, but I'm a regular white-collar looking guy, masculine, nothing like tattoos, lifestyle pendants or whatnot.

So yes, those signals are real, I believe.

[isinlarsa]

I don't know what signals I might put out, but I've been cuckolded by four different woman. Or perhaps it's just the type of woman I''m drawn to.

[Colliercuck]

That’s my sense as well. Before I became a cuck guys had no problem flirting with my wife in front of me and she enjoyed the attention. She made sure she showed plenty of cleavage anytime we were out together.

I agree with this 1000 percent!!! I’ve been out alone with my wife, and in group settings, even just her and I out to dinner, when another man has just walked up and started a conversation with her.
And it’s always been men we have never met before, but one thing they all have is a confidence about them, not an arrogance.

[Colliercuck]

A few years ago a woman approached me. After a casual conversation, she asked quite directly if I was a cuck. I was kind of stunned and asked how she guessed, so she said 'all the signs are there'. Turned out she was looking for a potential hubby at the time. She never explained me about those 'signs' specifically, but I'm a regular white-collar looking guy, masculine, nothing like tattoos, lifestyle pendants or whatnot.

So yes, those signals are real, I believe.

This is awesome!!!!! Love to hear more about the experience

[Lovemywifesbf]

You got a great thing going! If I may ask, what does your wife find appealing about you? She is still with you and you get to reclaim her after all. What’s your secret?! Lol. Great stuff

Good question!

I think it’s a mixture of things.

I believe (and feel) that she genuinely sees me as her primary partner….soulmate….lover…..man…..whatever.

We’ve had long talks about what we mean to each other…why it’s different than the relationship she shares with her boyfriend. (Side note: She says she has to “feel” something for the man who’s putting his penis inside of her. As much as I’ve wanted and encouraged her over the years to let loose and swing or enjoy some one-nighters, she says it’s just not something she can do. She HAS to feel emotionally connected with a man before she’d feel comfortable opening her legs for him. That’s why there have been only two boyfriends over the last 18 years.)

She sees us both as integral to her life, but I have been lucky enough to be her primary.

I was her first boyfriend. I was her first sexual experience. I married her. Two children. I’m a professional who’s financially solid (houses, cars, vacations, etc.). (She works, as I’ve pointed out, but we could probably get by without her income if we had to.) We’ve been through a lot of key experiences together that neither of her boyfriends know about.

Personality-wise, she’s got a penchant for never giving up on ANYTHING. She’s very competitive with herself, always trying to outdo her previous performance. She has a natural knack for sticking with something.

She has stuck with me, anyways.

So, when she realized that my desire to watch her get railed was real and not some ruse to fuck other women, I think she thought of the possibilities and realized how supremely positioned she was to explore parts of herself she never got to know as a teenager, a 20-, or a 30-something while also knowing that she has an excellent safety net.

It’s been good for both of us. I’ve had the opportunity to watch her develop a sexual identity outside of one that involves me. She found herself a boyfriend…her second, now. He rails her once or twice a week. I get to enjoy a VERY happy wife. (And I do so enjoy when she comes home wet and full and used and wants to tell me every detail. Like I said, she’s having a blast with her boyfriend’s dick….and I’m enjoying the sloppy seconds.)

Sometimes, though, I feel like guys can look at us…so mismatched….her so hot, me so not…and just smell the fact that she’s a shared wife. Like, they’d be more than happy to fuck her brains out right there in front of me…..and hand her back to me full and with a smile!

As long as you’re still #1, it’s ok if you’re not the only one lol. You have a great situation!

[truesub]

This is awesome!!!!! Love to hear more about the experience

That's pretty much it. We were in touch (network) for several years, but I'm married so nothing further. Nice lady tho, sane, kinky, and caring.

[MartasBoy]

I don't know if it's some vibe that I put off. It might be signals my wife puts off. She gets hit on pretty frequently, whenever I leave her alone for a few minutes in a bar, to go to the bathroom.
She will often send me to the bar to get our drinks directly from the bartender. She always instructs me to tip our table server well, even though she sends me to the bar to get our drinks. Often, by the time I get back to the table, with our drinks, there is a guy sitting at our table talking to her. Sometimes, the guy will say hello, once I return to the table, and will politely excuse himself and go away. But many times they stay and visit.

If she is really interested in the guy, while I am standing at the bar waiting to get drinks, she will tell him, "Oh no, that's not my boyfriend. That's my brother." When I get back to the table with our drinks, she will introduce me as her brother Will. That's when I know that she is really interested in the guy. She will usually send me back to the bar to get whatever he wants to drink. Usually, by the time I get back with his drink, they have exchanged information and made a date, if not for that night.

When we are out together, I know that she likes me to sit across the table from her, not adjacent to her, and never in the booth next to her. I also know that she doesn't like me to touch her in any familiar way, like holding her hand or putting my arm around her. She puts out some kind of signals.