Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

[anondesires]

She's ok, she's having fun, she's checked I'm still ok. They're at a different bar, she said one of the other guys is getting quite close with her, he seems like the alpha of the group but he's married and 36.

[anondesires]

Therein lies the dilemma! You're so horny because of all this and want to cum, but then it will ruin the "high" that you're on, being on the edge of your seat.... cuckold angst! Maybe your gf should get you a chastity cage to make sure you're well behaved while she's out, not behaving.

But then you can't even touch yourself, where's the pleasure in that?

[sucker00]

But then you can't even touch yourself, where's the pleasure in that?

The idea is to keep you pent up until your girl comes home and then you get your just desserts.

[Pecannut]

The pleasure is iin waiting and being a but anxious but turned on at the sane time. Don't cum...

Hope her night was amazing and hot - also a nice one for you as well of course.

[joel68]

Haven't heard from him in about three hours. I think this means that she hasn't contacted him. He must be going bat shit crazy and staring at his phone right now. Also, that she will be getting fucked as well.

Looking forward to what happened tonight.

[elina]

Don't jump to conclusions,

Maybe the Lady is just teasing Her Boyfriend,
Then She will come home horny, to find a very horny Boyfriend just aching to see Her....

Or, ... We don't know.
Let just wait for Anon to tell us.

(Either way it will have been a very hot experience for both of them...)

Sincerely
elina

[Wantsomefunto]

I think they all
Have plans for her and maybe at your house

[Jeremie11231]

But then you can't even touch yourself, where's the pleasure in that?

If you haven't cum in a long time, and especially if you can't even touch yourself, you might feel so turned on in your whole mind and body that it would be like having a mild electric current run through you, and you might even feel like you could actually cum just sitting there, just from thinking of something that might be happening. And then you might even be really glad that there is something preventing you from touching yourself and preventing even your pants from rubbing you because it could too easily send you over the edge and you know that if that were to happen you could be plunged into a less fun state of mind.

Of course, you might be thinking, 'but if the only way I want this is when I'm turned on and not if I've already cum, then why do it? why not just see it as a hot fantasy?' And I could tell you two answers to that:
1) You'll always eventually get turned on again and always come back to thinking about it. That's the answer you've already had to confront in yourself... but the second answer is probably not yet obvious but will probably emerge soon:
2) Once the gate has been opened, it's not quite up to you anymore -- it's not a fantasy of yours that she is fulfilling or not fulfilling, but rather something that she knows is up to her, because she wants it that way, it's amazing for her, and she knows you have the capacity to accept it. And she will never forget that's true. So then basically it will become a question of how you can make the adjustment easiest for yourself by staying in the right state of mind and also by letting go of old and unnecessary ideas about your masculinity and about what constitutes an amazing relationship with your girlfriend (because for sure you definitely have that : )

[anondesires]

Sorry, she doesn't know about me being on this forum, I usually post when she's gone to sleep. At about 9pm, a range rover pulled up outside our house, I watched as she clambered out and staggered to the door (in small heels). She was quite drunk but pleased to see me and very horny. We made out like drunken teenagers for a minute or so then she wanted to go to the bathroom and told me to wait for her in the bedroom.

She eventually came into the bedroom and we made out again on the bed. She told me that she knows that I say I don't want "this" but she thinks I actually do, "so here goes". I knew what she meant by that and I was equally scared and excited. She pushed me onto my back, lifted up her skirt, she had no underwear on, and straddled my face. I instinctively started to lick her pussy, I either forgot or didn't care what I could be licking, I was just horny for her pussy.

She asked how many guys I thought she'd fucked tonight. I had no idea, she just seemed really wet. I guessed that she hadn't fucked any, she said I was right but said that didn't mean I hadn't tasted another man's cum tonight. She took her pussy out of my face and made out with me again, grinning evilly, I didn't care, I was too horny.

She took my dick in her hand and started to tell me about all the advances each guy had made on her and how she had enjoyed flirting back. She said that initially she had tried to stay with the guy that originally invited her but this married guy had muscled in and the others seemed to back down. 3 of the guys went with her to another bar, it was noisier and mostly standing. The married guy was leaning in to her closely and holding her as he talked into her ear. They were all buying her drinks and enjoying her being drunk and flirty.

The married guy offered to take her to a hotel but she wasn't feeling it, she told him she needed to get home. He offered to drive her home. When they were in the car she asked if he could find somewhere quiet to pull over, she would thank him for the lift home. After he pulled over, she reached over and undid his belt, took out his cock and stroked it. She said he was probably slightly larger than average. She took his hard cock in her mouth and sucked it until he came in her mouth which apparently didn't take too long. She showed him his cum as she played with it with her tongue and her mouth half open and then swallowed. She showed him her mouth now empty. She said he had been trying to get with her all evening and it felt good to give him what he wanted. He then drove her home.

She asked how it had been for me, I explained, I told her I really was ok with it. I get the impression she didn't go to a hotel because she was worried about me. I went down on her again and licked her to an orgasm, then we made love for probably a couple of minutes until I unloaded into her. The shame hit hard, I knew it would but I also knew it would pass.

She said she'd never met him before. She obviously knew the guy that invited her and vaguely knew one of the others but everyone else was new to her.

[anondesires]

If you haven't cum in a long time, and especially if you can't even touch yourself, you might feel so turned on in your whole mind and body that it would be like having a mild electric current run through you, and you might even feel like you could actually cum just sitting there, just from thinking of something that might be happening. And then you might even be really glad that there is something preventing you from touching yourself and preventing even your pants from rubbing you because it could too easily send you over the edge and you know that if that were to happen you could be plunged into a less fun state of mind.

Of course, you might be thinking, 'but if the only way I want this is when I'm turned on and not if I've already cum, then why do it? why not just see it as a hot fantasy?' And I could tell you two answers to that:
1) You'll always eventually get turned on again and always come back to thinking about it. That's the answer you've already had to confront in yourself... but the second answer is probably not yet obvious but will probably emerge soon:
2) Once the gate has been opened, it's not quite up to you anymore -- it's not a fantasy of yours that she is fulfilling or not fulfilling, but rather something that she knows is up to her, because she wants it that way, it's amazing for her, and she knows you have the capacity to accept it. And she will never forget that's true. So then basically it will become a question of how you can make the adjustment easiest for yourself by staying in the right state of mind and also by letting go of old and unnecessary ideas about your masculinity and about what constitutes an amazing relationship with your girlfriend (because for sure you definitely have that : )

I can remember some of the things I was thinking and fantasizing about while she was gone, it seems crazy and fucked up now. Being locked up must take your mind to some crazy places? I still can't see the appeal but I guess I also don't want to.

[elina]

Dear Anon,

Thank you for updating us, really appreciate it.
I think that what happened last night very much confirms that your beloved Wonder Woman is actively searching for how She can cuckold you in a way that will ensure that She will be able to keep you as Her Boyfriend.

Sorry, she doesn't know about me being on this forum, I usually post when she's gone to sleep. At about 9pm, a range rover pulled up outside our house, I watched as she clambered out and staggered to the door (in small heels). She was quite drunk but pleased to see me and very horny. We made out like drunken teenagers for a minute or so then she wanted to go to the bathroom and told me to wait for her in the bedroom.

I believe you said in an earlier post that you thought your Wonderwoman looked like Ryan Ryans, I did not know about Her but looked Her up at freeones.com yesterday. Wow, that is a supersexy Lady.. I can only imagine your Wonderwoman stumbling half-drunk out of the Range Rove yesterday. Then the feelings as you are allowed to kiss this drunk version of Her, not knowing what She had been up to that night, and you: basically drunk from the cuckold-hormones running in your veins....

But given where you are now, maybe you should consider allowing Her to read this thread? It might help both of you to build a better understanding of how you can grow together?

She eventually came into the bedroom and we made out again on the bed. She told me that she knows that I say I don't want "this" but she thinks I actually do, "so here goes". I knew what she meant by that and I was equally scared and excited. She pushed me onto my back, lifted up her skirt, she had no underwear on, and straddled my face. I instinctively started to lick her pussy, I either forgot or didn't care what I could be licking, I was just horny for her pussy.

Wonderful, you licking Her pusst not knowing if one or more males had already fucker Her show Hers how much you love Her and will of course tell Her that the next time when She does return home after having fucked someone else, your will lick Her pussy. To me, that is the ultimate acception by the Cuck that he supports Her sexual adventures and loves Her.

She asked how many guys I thought she'd fucked tonight. I had no idea, she just seemed really wet. I guessed that she hadn't fucked any, she said I was right but said that didn't mean I hadn't tasted another man's cum tonight. She took her pussy out of my face and made out with me again, grinning evilly, I didn't care, I was too horny.

She took my dick in her hand and started to tell me about all the advances each guy had made on her and how she had enjoyed flirting back. She said that initially she had tried to stay with the guy that originally invited her but this married guy had muscled in and the others seemed to back down. 3 of the guys went with her to another bar, it was noisier and mostly standing. The married guy was leaning in to her closely and holding her as he talked into her ear. They were all buying her drinks and enjoying her being drunk and flirty.

The married guy offered to take her to a hotel but she wasn't feeling it, she told him she needed to get home. He offered to drive her home. When they were in the car she asked if he could find somewhere quiet to pull over, she would thank him for the lift home. After he pulled over, she reached over and undid his belt, took out his cock and stroked it. She said he was probably slightly larger than average. She took his hard cock in her mouth and sucked it until he came in her mouth which apparently didn't take too long. She showed him his cum as she played with it with her tongue and her mouth half open and then swallowed. She showed him her mouth now empty. She said he had been trying to get with her all evening and it felt good to give him what he wanted. He then drove her home.

She asked how it had been for me, I explained, I told her I really was ok with it. I get the impression she didn't go to a hotel because she was worried about me.

That impression to me is consistent with everything you have told us so far. Whatever cuckolding book She is reading, I guess it emphasizes doing this in a way that will strengthen the relationship between the Hotwife/Cuckoldress and Her cuck. Your Wonderwoman clearly takes Her time to understand what makes you become even more addicted and in love with Her. Wonderful.

I went down on her again and licked her to an orgasm, then we made love for probably a couple of minutes until I unloaded into her. The shame hit hard, I knew it would but I also knew it would pass.

Yes, wonderful that you makes sure She has an orgasm from you licking Her wonderful pussy, especially important when you are not able to hold back for long before cuming when you are allowed to put your dick in Her pussy.

Take good care of your Wonderful girlfriend and show Her how much you love Her over the next couple of days.

Question, how long does it take before the sense of shame that you experience once you came yesterday evening untill your desires for your Girlfriend cuckolding you returns? Is this dependent on how your Girlfriend interacts with you in these situations?

Sincerely
elina

[anondesires]

Dear Anon,

Thank you for updating us, really appreciate it.
I think that what happened last night very much confirms that your beloved Wonder Woman is actively searching for how She can cuckold you in a way that will ensure that She will be able to keep you as Her Boyfriend.

She still seems surprised and happy each time she realises that I'm ok with it.

But given where you are now, maybe you should consider allowing Her to read this thread? It might help both of you to build a better understanding of how you can grow together?

This has been a helpful place for me, not being able to talk to anyone about it originally and now only her. I'd prefer to keep that option available to me.

Wonderful, you licking Her pusst not knowing if one or more males had already fucker Her show Hers how much you love Her and will of course tell Her that the next time when She does return home after having fucked someone else, your will lick Her pussy. To me, that is the ultimate acception by the Cuck that he supports Her sexual adventures and loves Her.

It scares me that I not only did that, I wanted it and couldn't resist it. Sometimes (when I'm not horny) my mind tries to rationalise that I'm not a proper cuckold, that I'm just allowing her some freedom to get what I can't give her. I agree that it seems like the ultimate acception, I feel like I narrowly escaped.

Question, how long does it take before the sense of shame that you experience once you came yesterday evening untill your desires for your Girlfriend cuckolding you returns? Is this dependent on how your Girlfriend interacts with you in these situations?

It depends. It's usually a few minutes of shame and then I usually don't think about it either way for a few hours. When the thought eventually enters my head, it'll usually start a spiral into me being horny and wanting it again. She has had me wanting it less than an hour after I've cum before though.

[elina]

Question, how long does it take before the sense of shame that you experience once you came yesterday evening untill your desires for your Girlfriend cuckolding you returns? Is this dependent on how your Girlfriend interacts with you in these situations?

It depends. It's usually a few minutes of shame and then I usually don't think about it either way for a few hours. When the thought eventually enters my head, it'll usually start a spiral into me being horny and wanting it again. She has had me wanting it less than an hour after I've cum before though.

Makes sense, I think it is related to your level of arousal.
I guess being with such a sexy sweet girl who can probably make you horny just by looking at you the right way will probably have you want to please Her in any way She craves quite soon; and now you know that She wants to be able to fuck other males, and She knows that this will make Her beloved boyfriend so hot for Her.....

I also thinks it is so wonderful that you got that craving to just lick Her pussy yesterday. To me it indicates that you really are so eager to please your beloved Wonderwoman.

The two of you were really meant for each other and the fact that your Girlfriend makes all these efforts to ensure She will do this in a way which also pleases you is simply adoring to me.

Sincerely
elina

[sucker00]

"It scares me that I not only did that, I wanted it and couldn't resist it. Sometimes (when I'm not horny) my mind tries to rationalise that I'm not a proper cuckold, that I'm just allowing her some freedom to get what I can't give her. I agree that it seems like the ultimate acception, I feel like I narrowly escaped."

I think there's two dynamics at play here which you've captured the essence of. The first is the sexual aspect which drives your lust and desire and in turn makes you so horny that you dive into the moment, such as you did when giving your GF oral sex last night as well as being turned on by her stepping out. The second is the more rational and logical, and a different kind of emotional aspect to this dynamic. This is where compersion is borne out of and your desire to see your GF happy and satisfied by whatever she might get out of doing this. This is also an expression of love by you, and not necessarily you just getting your rocks off. You could have acted like a jealous BF through all of this and stomped your feet and made demands, and your GF may have possibly complied with your demands, but that could have had its own negative consequences to the relationship.

[wannabecUKold]

She clearly had great fun at the office drinks. Her men-friends saw she was flirty. They may have seen her depart with the married guy. She ought to just be a bit careful about her reputation. Word goes round. This would be true of any girl in an office, not just one in your gf's situation.

[Wantsomefunto]

Hope
You encourage her to go out again tonight or invite your friend over to continue her path

[zorro]

It is common in hotwifing that there can be asymmetry in the sexual adventures one member of a couple pursues. The perhaps "pure" type of hotwifing mentioned from time to time here involves the wife having sex with others (usually men but sometimes women) and the male remaining exclusive. This may be because of intense jealous reactions on the part of the wife combined with the HW hubby fantasy the husband has. Or it can take the form of "cuckold" variant discussed here in the cuckold forum. And there are couples where both play with other people. It all depends.

Every couple has the freedom to design the sexual rules and play that works for them and leaves them happy. If the husband is unwilling to share her without a quid pro quo, that kind of asymmetrical relationship won't work. If he can, both members of the couple can be very happy and fulfilled. Communication and consensuality are the key words.

[Jeremie11231]

I can remember some of the things I was thinking and fantasizing about while she was gone, it seems crazy and fucked up now. Being locked up must take your mind to some crazy places? I still can't see the appeal but I guess I also don't want to.

Would you be willing to share an example of a some of the things you were thinking and fantasizing about that seemed crazy and fucked up later on? Would be awesome if you would. That's the edge space where some real truth can pop up. Or it can be just fantasy that never happens in real life, but that still reveals some deep truth or desire undercurrent going on.

[anondesires]

Would you be willing to share an example of a some of the things you were thinking and fantasizing about that seemed crazy and fucked up later on? Would be awesome if you would. That's the edge space where some real truth can pop up. Or it can be just fantasy that never happens in real life, but that still reveals some deep truth or desire undercurrent going on.

All sorts of things, not particularly things that I wanted to happen but ideas came into my head and I wasn't against them like I normally would be. Things such as if she were to get gangbanged, if she were to stay the night at another guy's house, if she were to snowball cum into my mouth, if she were to tell those guys that I was her cuckold, if she were to tell them that I don't satisfy her, if she were to bring them all back to our place and make me watch.

It felt like a long night, lots of thoughts were being conjured up.

[Wantsomefunto]

Well I hope she goes out for drinks with them all again soon

[elina]

Dear Anondesires

Thanks for your reply to Jeremy's post.

I do not think that it is strange that the kind of thoughts you shared are coming up at this stage. And I fully understand that some of these thoughts may be something you don't desire to experience.

But given what you have gone through recently, learning that your Girlfriend was pretty wild in Her past with lots of sexual experiences, which is not strange for such an incredibly pretty and attractive young Lady who can probable seduce anyone She desires.Then experiencing Her tieing you down and fucking your ass with a strap-on while making you admit to some of your cuckolding fantasies. Then watching Her enjoy Herself with one of Her exes with a big cock while making you a cuckold for the first time.

The Lady clearly enjoys experimenting with both Her own and your sexuality, but in such a way that She also demonstrates Her love and compassion for you. I am guessing you are even moreinfatuated with Her now than any time in the past. So now She goes out drinking as the sole girl with a group of male colleagues, of course you can't longing for Her to get back, hoping that She will not be forced to do something She did not want to......

But I guess after the two of you reconnected, you had some (hopefully very good) conversations the next day? Or did your Girlfriend take you on another roller-coaster ride pushing your limits again?

Sincerely
elina

[anondesires]

But I guess after the two of you reconnected, you had some (hopefully very good) conversations the next day? Or did your Girlfriend take you on another roller-coaster ride pushing your limits again?

A bit of both. I admitted that my mind went to places while she was gone and I had no release, she wanted to know what thoughts I had, I told her some of them. She thought it was hot that I was edging myself, hoping she was being a slut while waiting for her to get home. She likened it to how she felt like she was being edged for months by me, fucking her until she was close to cumming but not giving her a proper release. She said for the first couple of years, she thought her slutty urges were behind her but in the last few months they've come back with interest.

We had a few impromptu sessions throughout the weekend with her edging me, trying to get me to say or do things then stopping and having me lick her pussy in frustration. On Saturday they were mostly thoughts about the night before, yesterday they were about my friend who came over yesterday afternoon/evening. She eventually let me cum last night after he'd gone.

Nothing of interest happened while he was here. We bought a hidden camera the other day, one of those that looks like a power bank so we were testing that out. I left the room for a few minutes, she stroked his crotch with her feet but he wasn't wearing shorts and wasn't really reacting to her. The camera worked quite well though and there wasn't really any awkwardness between us with this being the first time I've seen him since knowing about what they've been doing.

[joel68]

Interesting. You guys are heading in the direction of having your friend fuck her.

That will likely happen at some point. As to when will up to you guys.

[anondesires]

I realise I made some deliberate omissions there, I'm still feeling a bit shameful and confused. I realised after I posted that this is where I'm supposed to be able to say these things without judgement.

After he left, we were looking at the camera recording together and that led to another edging session. She had me confess that I wished more had happened. She grabbed her big dildo and teased me with it. I confessed I wished she had sucked his dick, so she sucked the dildo. I confessed I wished she had fucked him, she used the dildo on herself. She said now it was my turn to do something for her pleasure. She told me she wished I had sucked his dick and she offered the dildo covered in her pussy juices to me. I refused. She edged me and stopped. I was frustrated. She made me take the dildo from her so she could touch herself too. She urged me to suck it so we could both cum. She slowly ramped up to edging me again, telling me how hot it would be for her, that it doesn't mean anything. She got close to the edge, told me I wasn't cumming unless I did it. In desperation I did it, she was elated but slowed down her strokes. She said I had to suck it properly, like I wanted him to cum, she was matching my pace. In desperation, I picked up the pace and came hard, she came a few seconds after, telling me how hot it was but I was deep in shame by then.

A few minutes later she apologised but still insisted it was really hot for her and thanked me for doing it for her.

[joel68]

Sounds like she is in control for the most part. I wonder what will happen with your friend regarding the cameras and the latest development.