Fun ways to Play in the Wannabe Phase?

[Curvy+CuriousWife]

Hi - wannabe wife here with an eager husband. Looking for ways to ease in. What are some “Gateway” activities that might advance the fantasy both with and without a third? We’ve come up with chatting online with a third without the expectation of getting together in person or husband using several different dildos while I’m tied to the bed. What else you got?

[Wickedwick]

Check out the book(Kindle only I think) called The Faithful Hotwife. It’s all about how to play out the fantasy without actually involving a third.

At a minimum gives ideas that you can build off.

[Jefft]

One fun thing I’ve done with my wife is send two pics of guys asking a or b? Go through a few rounds of this, trying to find her type. Gives me an idea of what she likes and I know it turned her on too. Role playing is a lot of fun with dirty talk. I know for the bedroom side of things she really enjoys using a toy while giving me a blow job. I think this also helped her really think about having a threesome.

[Justaregularguy]

I love it when my wife tells me about what she’s been upto with other guys while she blows me

[Bluetoed]

Check out the book(Kindle only I think) called The Faithful Hotwife. It’s all about how to play out the fantasy without actually involving a third.

At a minimum gives ideas that you can build off.

I second this recommendation!

My wife and I got it 18 months ago, and just this week we decided to open it back up again. We realized we had done a lot of them (or better put she had done a lot of them to me). So we counted the challenges she had done to me and it totaled 31.

The challenges range from slightly hot flirty tasks, to tasks that will literally blow your cuckolds mind and load! And a lot of in between. Was well worth the $10 to us,

[Curvy+CuriousWife]

Check out the book(Kindle only I think) called The Faithful Hotwife. It’s all about how to play out the fantasy without actually involving a third.

At a minimum gives ideas that you can build off.

I’ll check this out! Thanks.

[Curvy+CuriousWife]

Check out the book(Kindle only I think) called The Faithful Hotwife. It’s all about how to play out the fantasy without actually involving a third.

At a minimum gives ideas that you can build off.

I second this recommendation!

My wife and I got it 18 months ago, and just this week we decided to open it back up again. We realized we had done a lot of them (or better put she had done a lot of them to me). So we counted the challenges she had done to me and it totaled 31.

The challenges range from slightly hot flirty tasks, to tasks that will literally blow your cuckolds mind and load! And a lot of in between. Was well worth the $10 to us,

Check out the book(Kindle only I think) called The Faithful Hotwife. It’s all about how to play out the fantasy without actually involving a third.

At a minimum gives ideas that you can build off.

I second this recommendation!

My wife and I got it 18 months ago, and just this week we decided to open it back up again. We realized we had done a lot of them (or better put she had done a lot of them to me). So we counted the challenges she had done to me and it totaled 31.

The challenges range from slightly hot flirty tasks, to tasks that will literally blow your cuckolds mind and load! And a lot of in between. Was well worth the $10 to us,

Check out the book(Kindle only I think) called The Faithful Hotwife. It’s all about how to play out the fantasy without actually involving a third.

At a minimum gives ideas that you can build off.

What were some of your favorite activities?

[Curvy+CuriousWife]

Check out the book(Kindle only I think) called The Faithful Hotwife. It’s all about how to play out the fantasy without actually involving a third.

At a minimum gives ideas that you can build off.

I second this recommendation!

My wife and I got it 18 months ago, and just this week we decided to open it back up again. We realized we had done a lot of them (or better put she had done a lot of them to me). So we counted the challenges she had done to me and it totaled 31

What were some of your favorite activities?

[Bluetoed]

Check out the book(Kindle only I think) called The Faithful Hotwife. It’s all about how to play out the fantasy without actually involving a third.

At a minimum gives ideas that you can build off.

I second this recommendation!

My wife and I got it 18 months ago, and just this week we decided to open it back up again. We realized we had done a lot of them (or better put she had done a lot of them to me). So we counted the challenges she had done to me and it totaled 31

What were some of your favorite activities?

• Surprise your husband by dressing sexier when going out. Ditch the pants or shorts and always go with short skirts or sundresses.
• “Forget” your underwear and/or bra on your next outing with your husband or around the house when his friends are over. No one will know but him. Answers my above answer.
• Ask your husband to buy you an anklet and begin wearing it when you go out together. Very few people know that wearing an anklet is one symbol of a hotwife, but your husband presumably does, and that will drive his dopamine levels up whenever you wear it in public.
• Go Cyber: Video conference your husband where you are entertaining one or more of your lovers.
• Let your voyeur husband watch you have a satisfying time with two of your lovers being played by your realistic dildos.
• Make your husband masturbate while you describe in detail how another man pleasured you so much better that he can. Bonus points if you describe 2 or more men sharing you.
• Take on 2 lovers at the same time. Either use 2 dildos and make your husband sit nearby and watch, or let your husband take one end while your dildo “lover” fills the other.

[MartasBoy]

Hi - wannabe wife here with an eager husband. Looking for ways to ease in. What are some “Gateway” activities that might advance the fantasy both with and without a third? We’ve come up with chatting online with a third without the expectation of getting together in person or husband using several different dildos while I’m tied to the bed. What else you got?

Dress cute and go out to bars. Sit alone at the bar and tell anyone who asks, that you're waiting to meet a girlfriend for drinks. Your husband can watch from a distant table. You can eventually look at your phone and say that your girlfriend has texted you to say he's not going to be able to make it. Let the guys flirt with you and try to hook up, while your husband watches.

Go to places where there is music and dancing, and accept invitations to dance with guys.

Tell your husband there is a new guy at work who has been flirting with you, and confess that you find him attractive. Tell your husband all about this new guy at work, and describe all the reasons why you find him attractive, and could be tempted to flirt back with him. If you're not currently working, make up a story about some other place where you have met this guy and spent time talking with him and enjoying the fact that he flirted with you. Tell your husband that the guy is new in town and you felt sorry for him that he doesn't know anyone there yet, so you agreed to be friends, and exchanged phone numbers.

Tell your husband that the guy has asked you to have lunch with him sometime. Ask your husband if he'd be okay with you having lunch with the new guy at work.

Ask your husband how far he would be comfortable with you flirting with this guy at work, or at lunch.
If your husband says that he is okay with it, one day, come home from work and tell him that you went for lunch with the new guy and really enjoyed his company.

You can begin to weave a story of how things are advancing and heating up with the flirtation with the new guy at work. Tell him that the new guy has expressed an interest in doing more than lunch with you. Tell your husband that you have made it very clear to this guy, that you are married, and only wish to be friends.

You can tell your husband that the new guy is very respectful of your feelings, and the fact that you are married, but that he keeps trying to interest you and get you to take things farther. You can tell your husband of subsequent lunch dates you have with the new guy, and how much he makes you laugh when he tries to get you to do things with him.

You can take the flirtation story as far as you want. You can tell your husband that the new guy tried to kiss you in a dark corner of a restaurant, where you had lunch. You can tell your husband that you pushed the guy away and told him no, or that you actually kissed him.

You can confess to your husband that you have fantasized about having sex with the new guy. While you are having sex with your husband, you can tell him what you have imagined your time with the new guy would be like. Tell your husband that you had a dream that you went to a hotel room with the guy and had sex with him. Describe the dream to your husband while you are playing with him in bed.

Buy a cute new dress one day, and tell your husband that the new guy insisted on buying it for you, just because he wanted to see what you would look like in it. You can carry this fantasy Otis far as you want. You can tell your husband that he has intensified his effort in getting you to sleep with him, and you can describe all of the things he has been doing to attempt to seduce you.

[MartasBoy]

Hi - wannabe wife here with an eager husband. Looking for ways to ease in. What are some “Gateway” activities that might advance the fantasy both with and without a third? We’ve come up with chatting online with a third without the expectation of getting together in person or husband using several different dildos while I’m tied to the bed. What else you got?

Regarding my suggestion to create a fantasy crush at work, my life had a real situation like this that we used to play with.

She told me of a guy at work who she had sort of become friends with. He was a little older than us, and married, with two kids. They usually ended up eating their lunch in the break room at the same time and would often sit together and chat. They worked on projects together, so they had a good reason to sit together at lunch and talk about their projects.

My wife suspected that he was bored with his marriage, and enjoyed their lunch time chats. My wife confessed that she found him attractive, and could easily fantasize about having an affair with him, if she was ever inclined to do such a thing.

She started weaving fantasies about how their work friendship might progress, if she encouraged his flirtations. When we would be in bed together, she would touch me and tell me fantasies of things she could do with her friend at work. He became amazed at how much this turned me on, and how quickly it made me come, when she gave me a handjob.

Their work team had to go away to professional conferences from time to time. My wife would weave fantasies of what it might be like, if she and the guy hooked up at one of their out of town work trips.

[rogerg]

We lived the Wannabe life for almost two years. In our case my wife was the one pushing us forward. She was eager for the real thing but I was the hesitant one.
We had all kinds of fantasies from mild to very wild. To add a touch of reality to our fantasies we found ways for my wife to flirt and expose herself to guys. She stopped wearing panties. She wore low cut tops and short skirts at work. She flirted with one of our close friends and with a coworker that she was attracted to. We fantasized that things went beyond flirting (eventually they did.)

Some evenings when she was in the mood we’d go for a drive with her completely naked or we’d walk around Home Depot with her wearing only one of my dress shirts and tennis shoes. In the summer we spent many hours at the beach with her in a tiny bikini. She would pull the top down until the tops of her nipples were exposed (her tan lines cut right across her nipples and I loved the sight. We had lots of other exposure type games and when we’d get home we’d fantasize and fuck.

We’re no longer Wannabes but those first couple of years were still pretty exciting and I am glad we took our time because it helped me get comfortable with what was to come.

[ferrisandrews]

I think just hanging out together where you can both see prospects passing by can be pretty hot. You can both get an idea of what kind of guy may be fun for her to play with. Once you're to the point where you're shopping for her, you'll have a better idea of what she likes.

Mine likes tall, usually dark but she's picked out some blond guys before, usually swimmer type bodies and a cute face is usually required depending on the body type. Friendly / extroverted works with her since she tends to be more introverted and a smile goes a long way (serious guys feel dangerous and that short-circuits her desire).

One piece of advice, if you go to bars to see if she can pick up, try a hotel that caters to businessmen (one close to a convention or other events where businessmen tend to travel to). Also, go during the week, since they will typically fly back on Friday. Tues-Thur is probably ideal, maybe Mondays. On Mondays the guys have typically just arrived and may not be in a mood yet to go exploring or hitting the town, so they may more likely be at the hotel bar (if there is one).

Side note: locals don't tend to go to hotel bars, so the chances of seeing someone you know is pretty low. Even if they do, you're with your spouse anyway.

Regardless, if she's shy, then having her sit down the bar from you might help. Then she can mention something or talk in your direction and if nobody seems receptive, you can answer or sit by her or do something to make things less awkward. If she doesn't want to say anything, say hi to her like you don't know her and bring up a general topic or two (weather, sports, etc.), something another guy can jump in and weigh in on.

Even if she strikes out, you will both have spent a stimulating night together doing something that is sexy and exciting. This strengthens your bond and helps reinforce that notion that you are partners working towards a common goal.

[vrmtr]

Check out the book(Kindle only I think) called The Faithful Hotwife. It’s all about how to play out the fantasy without actually involving a third.

At a minimum gives ideas that you can build off.

I second this recommendation!

My wife and I got it 18 months ago, and just this week we decided to open it back up again. We realized we had done a lot of them (or better put she had done a lot of them to me). So we counted the challenges she had done to me and it totaled 31.

The challenges range from slightly hot flirty tasks, to tasks that will literally blow your cuckolds mind and load! And a lot of in between. Was well worth the $10 to us,

We have the Faithful hotwife book. Do wifes respond to the challenges that have the wives describing past lovers or fantasies while husband masterbates? My wife has admitted she does not like to role-playing so I don't know how to get her interested in trying these?? Ideas? how did other's work through these challenges?

[Curvy+CuriousWife]

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• Surprise your husband by dressing sexier when going out. Ditch the pants or shorts and always go with short skirts or sundresses.
• “Forget” your underwear and/or bra on your next outing with your husband or around the house when his friends are over. No one will know but him. Answers my above answer.
• Ask your husband to buy you an anklet and begin wearing it when you go out together. Very few people know that wearing an anklet is one symbol of a hotwife, but your husband presumably does, and that will drive his dopamine levels up whenever you wear it in public.
• Go Cyber: Video conference your husband where you are entertaining one or more of your lovers.
• Let your voyeur husband watch you have a satisfying time with two of your lovers being played by your realistic dildos.
• Make your husband masturbate while you describe in detail how another man pleasured you so much better that he can. Bonus points if you describe 2 or more men sharing you.
• Take on 2 lovers at the same time. Either use 2 dildos and make your husband sit nearby and watch, or let your husband take one end while your dildo “lover” fills the other.
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Wow, thank you for such a detailed response. Seems like we are in the right track, we’ve tried a few of these. Will give some of the other a try. Building the fantasy using toys is fun.

[Curvy+CuriousWife]

I think just hanging out together where you can both see prospects passing by can be pretty hot. You can both get an idea of what kind of guy may be fun for her to play with. Once you're to the point where you're shopping for her, you'll have a better idea of what she likes.

Mine likes tall, usually dark but she's picked out some blond guys before, usually swimmer type bodies and a cute face is usually required depending on the body type. Friendly / extroverted works with her since she tends to be more introverted and a smile goes a long way (serious guys feel dangerous and that short-circuits her desire).

One piece of advice, if you go to bars to see if she can pick up, try a hotel that caters to businessmen (one close to a convention or other events where businessmen tend to travel to). Also, go during the week, since they will typically fly back on Friday. Tues-Thur is probably ideal, maybe Mondays. On Mondays the guys have typically just arrived and may not be in a mood yet to go exploring or hitting the town, so they may more likely be at the hotel bar (if there is one).

Side note: locals don't tend to go to hotel bars, so the chances of seeing someone you know is pretty low. Even if they do, you're with your spouse anyway.

Regardless, if she's shy, then having her sit down the bar from you might help. Then she can mention something or talk in your direction and if nobody seems receptive, you can answer or sit by her or do something to make things less awkward. If she doesn't want to say anything, say hi to her like you don't know her and bring up a general topic or two (weather, sports, etc.), something another guy can jump in and weigh in on.

Even if she strikes out, you will both have spent a stimulating night together doing something that is sexy and exciting. This strengthens your bond and helps reinforce that notion that you are partners working towards a common goal.

Great ideas for getting offline and exploring in the “real world”. I’m really more of a privately sexual person so I’m intimidated by the idea of dressing overtly sexual and even flirting. We will see how it goes.

[justincassel]

We are still in wannabe phase so some nice ideas from people in this thread. Me and my wife has started this phase with senior men as we think it's a bit safer and she likes their cute reactions.
We got lot of chances when we went on a road trip across 3 different states. Gas station stores were very easy locations to try out new things as they are usually manned by old dudes bored and pretty much expecting nothing. First couple of times we started with some loose clothing like side boob revealing tops without bra or bikini tops. I used to particularly concentrate on the guy's face when she used to go to the desk to pay. Their eyes would fixate on exactly the things she wanted them to haha. One time she went inside to pee and texted me from inside that the restroom did not have toilet paper and asked me to get some from the manager. I was just resting in the car and thought of an idea. I told her to play the manager and use some creativity. She thought for a while and did the unthinkable. She had her underwear in her hands and came outside with just her shorts pulled up, still unbuckled and unzipped and slightly lower than usual and came outside. She told the manager that the toilet paper seems to be exhausted and can he give her a new roll, all while her shorts were open and underwear in her hands Infront of him. She said he looked at the underwear and felt embarrassed. She told him that she can't wear her underwear unless she wipes after pee. He smiled and went inside to get the roll. He handed her the roll and instead did going back to the bathroom she tore a small section of the paper put her hands inside the shorts from the front and wiped , all of this Infront of him. She finally pulled up her shorts and buckled and zipped it. She said thank you and handed the roll back to him. He smiled in a cute way lol. She started walking out of the shop and while leaving left her underwear on the door handle. Ran back to the car and narrated the entire thing to me.
This was the first time in the road trip where she was so direct and communicated with the manager. This was a turning point and every gas station stop after that made me excited for what she will do. Fun times!

[justincassel]

We are still in wannabe phase so some nice ideas from people in this thread. Me and my wife has started this phase with senior men as we think it's a bit safer and she likes their cute reactions.
We got lot of chances when we went on a road trip across 3 different states. Gas station stores were very easy locations to try out new things as they are usually manned by old dudes bored and pretty much expecting nothing. First couple of times we started with some loose clothing like side boob revealing tops without bra or bikini tops. I used to particularly concentrate on the guy's face when she used to go to the desk to pay. Their eyes would fixate on exactly the things she wanted them to haha. One time she went inside to pee and texted me from inside that the restroom did not have toilet paper and asked me to get some from the manager. I was just resting in the car and thought of an idea. I told her to play the manager and use some creativity. She thought for a while and did the unthinkable. She had her underwear in her hands and came outside with just her shorts pulled up, still unbuckled and unzipped and slightly lower than usual and came outside. She told the manager that the toilet paper seems to be exhausted and can he give her a new roll, all while her shorts were open and underwear in her hands Infront of him. She said he looked at the underwear and felt embarrassed. She told him that she can't wear her underwear unless she wipes after pee. He smiled and went inside to get the roll. He handed her the roll and instead did going back to the bathroom she tore a small section of the paper put her hands inside the shorts from the front and wiped , all of this Infront of him. She finally pulled up her shorts and buckled and zipped it. She said thank you and handed the roll back to him. He smiled in a cute way lol. She started walking out of the shop and while leaving left her underwear on the door handle. Ran back to the car and narrated the entire thing to me.
This was the first time in the road trip where she was so direct and communicated with the manager. This was a turning point and every gas station stop after that made me excited for what she will do. Fun times!