Figuring it out

[Lookingforadventure]

THE most important thing is you're having fun together, being together. It seems clear that your husband was not having fun with the way you are most comfortable, having a friendship with your sex partner. That creates a situation that is impossible for either of you until one of you has a change of heart or come to a better understanding.

I've been following another thread with AnonymousRob and his wife Anonymous Rachel. It seems like your situation and theirs is not so dissimilar. He wants his wife to use chastity and mild humiliation and his wife isn't really into it. Meanwhile, while they used to include her husband and he would get to watch or participate in some way that has progressed to the wife meeting her lover/FWB/bf on her own. Her husband is feeling left out. He knows she's just not into the stuff he would like to do (or at least give it a solid try). She's been seeing her guy one on one for nearly two years. The husband is shutting down.

He's caught up in the fact that if he completely shuts things down that he knows there's NO possibility of him ever getting his chance of getting what he wants. At the same time he's convinced that his wife will not change her mind. He says that his wife admits that the situation is obviously one-sided and she's aware that he's unsatisfied, yet she hasn't stopped seeing her lover/FWB/bf . His posts sound hopeless. He's at the point where he doesn't see the point going on.

I just don't see how his wife can really being having fun knowing her husband is waiting at home feeling left out and unsatisfied. It seems like it would be difficult to put that out of your mind and fully enjoy yourself. It has to be constantly in the back of her mind.

It's only my opinion and nothing more than my observation but I think it takes a unique pairing of people to really make this work over time. Everybody has to get something out of the activity that thrills them and makes them crave more. I think this puts a lot of pressure and responsibility on the wife. She should be completely confident and instantly capable of saying what her husband gets out of the deal. If she can't do that then there will be conflict eventually.

You sound like you are doing exactly what you know you need to do to preserve your relationship with Adventurer. I have the utmost respect for you and you restore my faith that women can be aware and sensitive.

Thank you. I appreciate your kind words and respect for where Adventurer and I are. I'm also glad that I can help to deem womankind in your opinion

I am familiar with Anonymous Rob and Rachel and their story. I've sent them some private messages of support as well. I'm a bit hesitant to publicly "take sides" though. I think it is hard to truly know what is going on in someone's marriage. I wish them all the best and am hoping that they've found a middle ground that works for them.

[JeffBingham]

Thank you, LFA. I appreciate you taking the time to answer my questions. I was kind of hoping that was your situation (not really, but you know what I mean). It’s unfortunate, but I get it. Your honesty with each other and your devotion to your marriage has always come through in both of your and husband’s posts. You have always come across as a very kind, loving, and genuine person. I appreciate your candor and vulnerability here.

[Lookingforadventure]

I may have given G a blowjob in a car yesterday (with Adventurer's blessing of course). More details in a future post, but this hot wife may be putting her toes back in the nonmonogamy pool.

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

Well I'm not surprised. It was only a matter of time. Looking forward to the details.

[leggysman]

Great news! 🥳

Glad to hear you and Adventurer are trying to find an arrangement that works for both of you

[venus-can99]

I may have given G a blowjob in a car yesterday (with Adventurer's blessing of course). More details in a future post, but this hot wife may be putting her toes back in the nonmonogamy pool.

Good to hear you are back on the saddle
Hope you and Adventurer find a wonderful way to play in the LS.
Happy summer to all 3 of you and may your Summer 2025 be wonderful

[snoogaloo82]

THE most important thing is you're having fun together, being together. It seems clear that your husband was not having fun with the way you are most comfortable, having a friendship with your sex partner. That creates a situation that is impossible for either of you until one of you has a change of heart or come to a better understanding.

I've been following another thread with AnonymousRob and his wife Anonymous Rachel. It seems like your situation and theirs is not so dissimilar. He wants his wife to use chastity and mild humiliation and his wife isn't really into it. Meanwhile, while they used to include her husband and he would get to watch or participate in some way that has progressed to the wife meeting her lover/FWB/bf on her own. Her husband is feeling left out. He knows she's just not into the stuff he would like to do (or at least give it a solid try). She's been seeing her guy one on one for nearly two years. The husband is shutting down.

He's caught up in the fact that if he completely shuts things down that he knows there's NO possibility of him ever getting his chance of getting what he wants. At the same time he's convinced that his wife will not change her mind. He says that his wife admits that the situation is obviously one-sided and she's aware that he's unsatisfied, yet she hasn't stopped seeing her lover/FWB/bf . His posts sound hopeless. He's at the point where he doesn't see the point going on.

I just don't see how his wife can really being having fun knowing her husband is waiting at home feeling left out and unsatisfied. It seems like it would be difficult to put that out of your mind and fully enjoy yourself. It has to be constantly in the back of her mind.

It's only my opinion and nothing more than my observation but I think it takes a unique pairing of people to really make this work over time. Everybody has to get something out of the activity that thrills them and makes them crave more. I think this puts a lot of pressure and responsibility on the wife. She should be completely confident and instantly capable of saying what her husband gets out of the deal. If she can't do that then there will be conflict eventually.

You sound like you are doing exactly what you know you need to do to preserve your relationship with Adventurer. I have the utmost respect for you and you restore my faith that women can be aware and sensitive.

Thank you. I appreciate your kind words and respect for where Adventurer and I are. I'm also glad that I can help to deem womankind in your opinion

I am familiar with Anonymous Rob and Rachel and their story. I've sent them some private messages of support as well. I'm a bit hesitant to publicly "take sides" though. I think it is hard to truly know what is going on in someone's marriage. I wish them all the best and am hoping that they've found a middle ground that works for them.

You always have a way of saying just the right thing. Thank you for showing how understanding you are of others even if they have a different opinion.
Yours always,
Rik

[snoogaloo82]

Well I'm not surprised. It was only a matter of time. Looking forward to the details.

Ditto on my part. I really can't wait to hear what you two are up to in detail.

[Late]

I'm pretty sure you know with certainty that you did. We are trying to wait patiently to hear the details.

Late

[Seekingmore12]

Just wait….a new adventure awaits, that I am both grateful and humbled to be a part of.

G

[venus-can99]

Just wait….a new adventure awaits, that I am both grateful and humbled to be a part of.

G

Its so great to hear from you again G. As always you are such a gentleman. Good luck to all 3 of you in the new adventure

[Lookingforadventure]

Thanks everyone. It is good to be back in the saddle again

As a bit of background, some of you may recall that Adventurer and I took a break back in October. That one lasted about two months. At the time, I thought it was because we had both been really busy in the weeks and months before and were feeling a bit disconnected. A break allowed us to correct that and focus on each other. When Adventurer asked to restart, I asked if he was sure, and he was. We jumped back in. I was hesitant to let my heart trust it for awhile, but then embraced it to the full when he seemed totally on board.

In April, we decided to take another break. Since it was so soon after the last one, I thought that this one might be forever. However, I think what we discovered was that we hadn't adequately addressed the issue the first time around. It wasn't just that we were busy. There was a flaw in the lifestyle itself, at least for us. And as we talked over the past few months, that became more clear.

Adventurer never minded the sex. He's happy for me to fuck anyone I want at any time. And he never felt like his status as my number one was ever under threat. With that said, he didn't love how close G and I had become. It was the emotional intimacy that was the issue, rather than physical intimacy. If I had been willing to be a hot wife who has one night stands, we could have jumped right back in, but emotional connection is important to me. If I'm going to have sex with someone who isn't my husband, then I want there to be friendship and feelings involved.

It was an impasse, or seemed to be. At the same time, we enjoyed reliving memories and talking about what we enjoyed from the last five years. We talked about Sir and how much I enjoyed our BDSM play dates. Sir had sort of disappeared in January, but if he reached out again, Adventurer would be fine with us playing...and I'd be good with it too because we know each other well enough as friends that I trust him. In the same way, we said that if we reconnected with Charlie and Tess again, we'd be totally ok with it. I joked that I kind of owe poor Charlie a threesome since Tess and I had had one with Adventurer. Charlie was supposed to be next, but then our fun times got derailed by life events and we sort of drifted apart.

I think these conversations (and others) made us realize that maybe there is a path forward for playing again. It wouldn't involve anything close to being poly. There wouldn't be a boyfriend/girlfriend status or "I love yous". But friends with benefits could be the right fit. We talked about it quite extensively and went over what that could look like. We also talked about asking G if he was interested in making that transition. We slept on this for a couple of days to make sure we were sure, and then reached out.

G was understandably a bit hesitant at first. He really respects our marriage and didn't want us doing anything that would put it in jeopardy. He wanted to make sure that we were sure. But I also think he was happy to hear from us Its just a feeling I have, but I think he may have missed my pussy.

G said he was in if we were. I was away for work for a week, so we made our first forays into the "friend zone" just with the occassional text and getting caught up. On Thursday, I was going to be driving home from my work event. My trip would take me near G's town. G joked that we could meet. Me, ever the cautious one, said that I was eager to get home. Then Adventurer texted to say that he'd be fine with it. I asked if he was sure, because we had discussed him being present for our sexcapades more often, and I thought he'd want to be there for the reunion. He said that he wholeheartedly supported it.

So I texted G and we made a plan. We ended up meeting in a grocery store parking lot just off the highway. He was looking handsome and charming. I couldn't help smiling from ear to ear. We kissed a bit in the parking lot and then went to sit in his car. His hand found its way under my skirt, but dang grocery shoppers kept walking by!!! He suggested we go for a drive.

We found a secluded spot along a highway service road, and I got to take that delicious cock back in my mouth once again. Oh how I've missed it! We limited our interaction to kissing, fingering , and a blow job. I joked about wanting to pace ourselves. G agreed. He drove me back to my car and I headed home.

Adventurer was waiting to kiss me. He asked how it was, and I said "amazing." We went upstairs to our bedroom and I filled him in on all the details. I also teased him about how his was the second cock that I had stroked that day, the second one to be in my mouth. It was a great first "toe dip" back in the hot wife pool and I think it went well for everyone.

We then made a plan to meet up with G again today. This time Adventurer would be there, and we wouldn't stop at a blow job. More details next time.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

Incredibly exciting news!
Congratulations to all of you.

[coastalkid]

Storybook happy ending (and not the massage type)! It's actually more of a reboot. Kudos to you LFA, Adventurer and G your patience and sensitivity! All of you were brave to face the situation before you. This time around all of you will be more aware. I hope you'll be much more aware of the warning signs and Adventurer won't be as reluctant to say something. Sounds like you guys are off to great new start with "adventures" on the horizon!

[venus-can99]

Thanks for the update LFA. Just surprised that you and G didn’t end up in a cemetery rather than a grocery store

[regular3]

Awesome to have you all back in the saddle.
I'm now really hoping you can bring the photos back.
We're all in love with your mischievous smile and sexy body....please.

[Late]

LFA:
I am so glad you guys are back at it. I think I understand what is going on; please correct me or clarify if I'm on the right track. Since "G" is still in the picture I am assuming the difference bow is more emphasis on the physical aspects of sex and less emphasis on the emotional aspects. So planning get togethers would be more about how you play and "interact" rather than why you play. If that is the case we can help you with that because you can spend more time sharing with us the physical "interactions" of your encounters and less time sharing with us all that "touchy-feely" crap us guys are supposed to care about. The more I think about it, the more I hope I am correct in my assumptions. I am still a wanna=be, but I think what you guys are doing would definitely take me one step closer to changing that if you guys are successful in your journey.

Again, correction or clarification would be appreciated. It would not be the first time my bubble has been burst if I am incorrect.

Good luck in your journey. As I have been following your journey, I have really been trying to see it through Adventurer's eyes. Through his eyes I could understand the pause that occurred. I struggled a little bit with the first restart (what corrections were made?). At least in my mind I see the corrections that have been made now and am more comfortable with the idea that your journey is just going to get even more awesome.

Late

[Lookingforadventure]

Incredibly exciting news!
Congratulations to all of you.

Thank you. And hopefully your road trip adventures are exciting too.

[Lookingforadventure]

Storybook happy ending (and not the massage type)! It's actually more of a reboot. Kudos to you LFA, Adventurer and G your patience and sensitivity! All of you were brave to face the situation before you. This time around all of you will be more aware. I hope you'll be much more aware of the warning signs and Adventurer won't be as reluctant to say something. Sounds like you guys are off to great new start with "adventures" on the horizon!

Thank you

[Lookingforadventure]

Thanks for the update LFA. Just surprised that you and G didn’t end up in a cemetery rather than a grocery store

Ha ha ha. The funny thing is that we brainstormed two potential locations and one of them WAS a cemetery! We decided that this hiking trail would be more private and therefore more conducive to what we had in mind. The cemetery is still on my summer bucket list though

[Lookingforadventure]

Awesome to have you all back in the saddle.
I'm now really hoping you can bring the photos back.
We're all in love with your mischievous smile and sexy body....please.

Because you asked so nicely ....go check out the hotties section

[Lookingforadventure]

LFA:
I am so glad you guys are back at it. I think I understand what is going on; please correct me or clarify if I'm on the right track. Since "G" is still in the picture I am assuming the difference bow is more emphasis on the physical aspects of sex and less emphasis on the emotional aspects. So planning get togethers would be more about how you play and "interact" rather than why you play. If that is the case we can help you with that because you can spend more time sharing with us the physical "interactions" of your encounters and less time sharing with us all that "touchy-feely" crap us guys are supposed to care about. The more I think about it, the more I hope I am correct in my assumptions. I am still a wanna=be, but I think what you guys are doing would definitely take me one step closer to changing that if you guys are successful in your journey.

Again, correction or clarification would be appreciated. It would not be the first time my bubble has been burst if I am incorrect.

Good luck in your journey. As I have been following your journey, I have really been trying to see it through Adventurer's eyes. Through his eyes I could understand the pause that occurred. I struggled a little bit with the first restart (what corrections were made?). At least in my mind I see the corrections that have been made now and am more comfortable with the idea that your journey is just going to get even more awesome.

Late

Yes. That is sort of it. The difference is in the level of emotional connection. In the past, G and I talked daily. We'd have sexy exchanges but also talk about work, life, what our evening plans were, what chores we were up to, etc. It was a friendship that meant we got to know a lot about each other after 5 years of chatting and playing. We also had decided to be "boyfriend/girlfriend" a couple years in, and we spent Valentine's day together, and went on overnight dates around our birthdays. In the new iteration, there will still be a friendship but not that daily kind of intimacy, and we will probable avoid terms and activities that seem too "couple-y", if that makes sense.

It is funny because Adventure is allowed to play with other women, and has (although he says he prefers sex with me). I have told him that I am not jealous if he has sex with other women, but I wouldn't want him to have the type of boyfriend/girlfriend relationship that G and I had. I knew that would cross a line for me. When he explained that it now crossed a line for him too, I totally understood.

The challenge will be to see if we can all stay in the friend zone appropriately in a way that feels good to everyone involved. I think we can.

[Lookingforadventure]

Here is part two of my update on this week.

Adventurer wanted to see me in action. I wanted to have more than a quick blow job in a car with G. And G was eager to help us out (what a giver!), so we made a plan to see each other yesterday. Adventurer and I put a picnic blanket in the car, and G suggested a place to meet. We then drove to meet up.

I was a bit nervous about how it would go. I wanted everyone to have a good time. I didn't want to cross any lines or hurt any feelings. At the same time, I was REALLY excited about what was in store. I've tried to explain to Adventurer what it is about G that thrills me so much. It is partly the friendship and connection, that is important, but it is also the sex. His penis isn't bigger or thicker than Adventurer's, but it does get harder. And there is something about its rigidity, and the way that it hits my g-spot just right, that I can't get enough of. Plus, G is very good at using it.

So, as we drove, I was already getting aroused about the idea of getting fucked. We pulled up to the trailhead and saw G's car parked ahead of us. I was wearing a short denim skirt and black t-shirt. I lifted my butt off the car seat, reached under my skirt and pulled my black thong panties off. I handed them to Adventurer and said that I wouldn't be needing those on the hike. He smiled and put them in his pocket. He kissed me and said that he loved me. Then we went to meet G.

I would say that it was a teeny bit awkward for a few minutes. Nothing bad, just trying to figure out the new dynamics. The men shook hands and made small talk about hockey. I kissed G, but not for too long. Then we headed out.

We took the main trail but soon saw a side one that we thought would work well. G suggested that I lead the way so that they could all admire the view. I rolled my eyes, but agreed. We walked along for a few more minutes and I found a good clearing. It was protected from view on most sides and we thought that we would hear if anyone else was coming along the trail.

I lay the blanket on the ground, a G got on it. He lay on his back and said he was hoping for a ride. I said that could be arranged.

We started with kissing. Me straddling him. His hand found its way under my skirt and he realized that I was panty-free. His fingers began to play with my clit and it wasn't long before I was cumming. Adventurer was keeping watch for us, but also filming with his camera. He commented on how that didn't take long. I just smiled. Reunions can be like that.

I got off of G and went to undo his shorts. He helped. Soon his amazing cock was free. As expected, it was rock hard and standing straight up. I licked my lips, smiled at my husband and then took him in my mouth. He tasted so good. I could have lingered there for a long time, but my pussy was greedy. She told me that my mouth had already had a turn a couple days before and that now it was her time. I listened to her.

I pulled my skirt up a bit more around my waist. I straddled G's cock and slid him inside me. I rode him on my own for a bit, but he must have liked how it felt because soon he was responding by bucking up into me from below. It hit me just right. I think I came twice from him fucking me like that, before he asked if he could cum inside me. I smiled at him and said I would love that. So he did

I stayed on top of him for a few more minutes, milking out every last drop. I also leaned forward to kiss him more. I have missed his cute, smiling face. Then I smiled up at my husband who was filming this whole time. I asked how his cock was doing. He said it was good. I noticed the obvious bulge in his shorts, and asked him to show me. He pulled it out.

I got off of G and knelt before Adventurer. I asked him if he wanted to cum on the trail, or be patient and wait until we got home. As he thought about his answer, I gave him a little lick. At first he said that he might wait, but then I said, "Are you sure? I might look really pretty with a load of cum on my face as we walk back to the car." I'm so naughty.

The next thing I knew, his hand was on my head and he was fucking my mouth harder. He said that he had decided now was the perfect time. After a few minutes of face fucking, he pulled out and told me to get ready. I smiled up at him as he shot a HUGE load of cum all over me. It was in my hair, on my cheeks, and down my chin. I left it there for a bit so that he could take a picture of my cum-filled face smiling at him. Then I used my fingers to push most of it back into my mouth.

I stood up and Adventurer handed me my panties so that I could prevent G's cum from dripping down my thighs as we walked back to the car. I think it was the perfect hot wife date for our return.

[venus-can99]

Thanks for the update LFA. Looks like y'all started off the right note!

[Long Lurker 34]

LFA
- Well I have to say seeing you posting that you have reentered HWing, somewhat modified, with A's approval is an unexpected pleasure to learn of. Bonus for the three of you and huge one for all your followers here!
- Your hiking adventure was easily visualized with all the trails around the GTA. If it hadn't been too busy, the thought of you heading back to the car park with G dripping would have been a sight. You, with a huge smile on your face and two guys! Oh would that have played with minds of any who happened across you. Messy I know, ah but the thought of it.
- A cemetery. At night, once the sun is down!? To find a nice secluded spot, just far enough away from passers by that you can be out of sight, yet on the edge of earshot so you can be quite vocal enough to almost be heard indistinctly. Teasing people with semi-screams cumming from a dark graveyard.