Wanted to share my thoughts not sure if anyone else can attest …..
I’m very proud and feel great as person past few years navigating this lifestyle has been wild and conflicting and some mental health burden of our dynamics and identity.
As bi/gay I feel soo good that I have urges and get hard to sexy hot chick as well to a hot and sexy hunk….although I have had more mm then FM ..I feel my sexual needs and being able have fun with both sexes is amazing …,,
As we celebrate pride, i can appreciate ppl who are navigating this.
Pride & Proud - mental health
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Re: Pride & Proud - mental health
What a lovely positive message, thanks for posting.
My story as a kinda-cuck: viewtopic.php?f=8&t=75684
Re: Pride & Proud - mental health
I really like your post! I had my first experience with another guy when I was 15 — a week after my first time having sex with a girl. For a very long time after that I struggled with my bi identity: straight friends thought it was a disorder of some kind and gays, of course, treated it as me being in “denial" over my “gayness." 
Largely as a result of my seeing a couple of very good therapists I was able to get to the point where I am now: bi and proud. I’m comfortable that I’ll always be turned on by the sight of a wet pussy and that my mouth will always water when I think about sucking cock.
All I know is that, at 68, my being bi this isn’t a “phase” — it’s part of who I am.
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Within the LGBTQIA community, I identify mostly as an ally, although I have engaged in activities at times, that would place me in the B category. I feel so discouraged, by the climate today, and how many people are antagonistic toward pride month and pride parades.
I'm old enough to remember when Pride parades became active. It was a very sad time. I remember the time of people having to be very closeted.
The people critical of Pride events, often are people who are too young to remember. Some of the most clueless, are the people who claim to be otherwise supportive and say, "I don't have anything against gay people. I know a few. I work with some at work, I don't care about what they do. I am fine with them being who they are. I just don't know why they have to have a special month and parades, and throw it up in our faces."
Many of these people are too young to remember, or they were too isolated to be aware, of what things were like before. They didn't know how many gay people were beat up by cops, or other people, and couldn't even file complaints, because it would come out that they were in a gay bar, and could lose their job.
I remember when most of the out gay people, were people who were in already marginalized jobs, where few would care if they were gay or not. Gay people in professional jobs had to go through painful lengths to conceal their homosexuality. The gay people who did come out, tried telling us that there were gay doctors, gay attorneys, the teachers, college professors, engineers, military officers, pilots, that they were in every walk of life. But people didn't believe them and said, "We don't believe you. I don't see any gay professionals. If it is like you say, where are they, why don't we know of them?"
It was back in the day when the American Psychiatric Association listed homosexuality as a mental illness. It was easy to claim that, because you only saw the gay bartenders, sex workers, club entertainers, and people who couldn't get a job and were unemployed often because they were gay.
Highly successful gay professionals, people who were highly educated, were hidden. So it was easy for people to conclude that the only people who were gay, were people who had failed lives.
In the first Pride parades, they started the chant, "Out of the closet and into the streets, out of the closet and into the streets." The out gay people who were marginalized from mainstream society, we're begging all of the highly successful and professional gay people, to come out and reveal themselves, so the world could see how prevalent they were, and that they ran across all demographics in our society.
It was during that time, when the leading gay magazine, The Advocate did something very controversial. It started forcibly outing prominent gay people by mentioning them in magazine articles, to make people aware that gay people were in all aspects of our society.
It was a brutal time. Many people who were outed by the Advocate lost careers. There were lawsuits, and a lot of pain. Slowly, more and more gay professionals did come out. And they joined the parades and the chants of "out of the closet and into the streets." Many still lost careers and had to make major career changes.
A few gay characters started turning up in TV shows, partly because of how many gay people are involved in the creative aspects of movies and TV. It helped a whole generation think of homosexuality as, not that big of a deal. But there have always been the complainers, asking, "Why do they have to have it on so many TV shows? why do they always have to have it up in our face?"
They don't realize that this came about, because there was a day that gay people had to hide who they were, and that hiding made their lives even more dangerous.
I'm old enough to remember when Pride parades became active. It was a very sad time. I remember the time of people having to be very closeted.
The people critical of Pride events, often are people who are too young to remember. Some of the most clueless, are the people who claim to be otherwise supportive and say, "I don't have anything against gay people. I know a few. I work with some at work, I don't care about what they do. I am fine with them being who they are. I just don't know why they have to have a special month and parades, and throw it up in our faces."
Many of these people are too young to remember, or they were too isolated to be aware, of what things were like before. They didn't know how many gay people were beat up by cops, or other people, and couldn't even file complaints, because it would come out that they were in a gay bar, and could lose their job.
I remember when most of the out gay people, were people who were in already marginalized jobs, where few would care if they were gay or not. Gay people in professional jobs had to go through painful lengths to conceal their homosexuality. The gay people who did come out, tried telling us that there were gay doctors, gay attorneys, the teachers, college professors, engineers, military officers, pilots, that they were in every walk of life. But people didn't believe them and said, "We don't believe you. I don't see any gay professionals. If it is like you say, where are they, why don't we know of them?"
It was back in the day when the American Psychiatric Association listed homosexuality as a mental illness. It was easy to claim that, because you only saw the gay bartenders, sex workers, club entertainers, and people who couldn't get a job and were unemployed often because they were gay.
Highly successful gay professionals, people who were highly educated, were hidden. So it was easy for people to conclude that the only people who were gay, were people who had failed lives.
In the first Pride parades, they started the chant, "Out of the closet and into the streets, out of the closet and into the streets." The out gay people who were marginalized from mainstream society, we're begging all of the highly successful and professional gay people, to come out and reveal themselves, so the world could see how prevalent they were, and that they ran across all demographics in our society.
It was during that time, when the leading gay magazine, The Advocate did something very controversial. It started forcibly outing prominent gay people by mentioning them in magazine articles, to make people aware that gay people were in all aspects of our society.
It was a brutal time. Many people who were outed by the Advocate lost careers. There were lawsuits, and a lot of pain. Slowly, more and more gay professionals did come out. And they joined the parades and the chants of "out of the closet and into the streets." Many still lost careers and had to make major career changes.
A few gay characters started turning up in TV shows, partly because of how many gay people are involved in the creative aspects of movies and TV. It helped a whole generation think of homosexuality as, not that big of a deal. But there have always been the complainers, asking, "Why do they have to have it on so many TV shows? why do they always have to have it up in our face?"
They don't realize that this came about, because there was a day that gay people had to hide who they were, and that hiding made their lives even more dangerous.
Re: Pride & Proud - mental health
MartasBoy,
So well said, thank you. I certainly remember those dark days and it's disspiriting how soon so many forget, or worse yet, want to go back to them.
So well said, thank you. I certainly remember those dark days and it's disspiriting how soon so many forget, or worse yet, want to go back to them.
Re: Pride & Proud - mental health
Few people remember the 1969 Stonewall riots, in New York, by the gay community there. Few people will remember that they came about after the gay community there became fed up with how often police brutality was perpetrated against them, because they couldn't speak up against it.
Many of the New York police officers seemed to love the power and control they had, at being able to give vicious beatings to gay people, out in clubs, knowing that nothing would be done about it.
That was just little over 30 years ago, and gay people are still being tormented and discriminated against. And people wonder why they feel the need to have marches.
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And all of the rights we won can be taken from us.MartasBoy wrote: ↑Tue Jul 08, 2025 10:58 amFew people remember the 1969 Stonewall riots, in New York, by the gay community there. Few people will remember that they came about after the gay community there became fed up with how often police brutality was perpetrated against them, because they couldn't speak up against it.
Many of the New York police officers seemed to love the power and control they had, at being able to give vicious beatings to gay people, out in clubs, knowing that nothing would be done about it.
That was just little over 30 years ago, and gay people are still being tormented and discriminated against. And people wonder why they feel the need to have marches.