My hopefully-hotwife-to-be and out journey towards hotwifing

[SmallTownGuy]

I was out of town yesterday and overnight and it seems they had made a video call again after the kids had gone to sleep. Excellent

[Tryn]

Do you and your wife talk about their video calls or do you know about them only because you check her phone? If she’s hiding video calls from you, there is a reason for that. Hot if she is, but also concerning.

[SmallTownGuy]

We had a good spirited discussion about the situation another day after I asked her how are things with the Brit and if she could give a bit of an update. She said they are texting each other quite a lot and I think she also mentioned they've called "couple of times", which is a bit of an understatement as they've called like ten times or more. I asked if they were video calls or phone calls and she said they're phone calls. She also commented I shouldn't think too much out of this unless I enjoy thinking too much out of this, and I admitted I kind of hope this is something a bit more exciting than just texting with a friend. She knows me so she kind of expected that already. I asked when was their last video call and she admitted it was the previous evening when I was away for the evening. I told her I'm glad they are keeping in contact. One interesting comment by her was that she doesn't give this much whatsapp time for anyone else, which is true. She doesn't spend time chatting with friends on whatsapp. She also said he is very proactive in the texting and I commented I'm sure she understands why he is so interested in her, and she admitted that most likely if he had met a nice guy he wouldn't be texting that much with him so she understands he is interested in her because of something more than just friendship.

One interesting question I asked was when after she had said once again she's mainly interested in him as a friend I asked how she would describe this if she was single. She admitted she might be a bit more open for something more than friendship in that case and also that she would allow herself to be more excited about it. She also thinks the fact they have kissed shouldn't define the relationship too much, but added that if I want to think it does there is no problem for me to think that way.

She also asked how close I want to be to this, and I said I'm very curious to know what is going on but don't want to get between them and don't want to make anyone feel awkward. I also asked how much they've discussed about what is actually going on here and she said they haven't much at all but the guy has ensured I am OK with this. Which I think is a good sign. I also suggested maybe she is also a bit uncertain about what is actually going on but she denied that and said she knows very well. However she also admitted there is a bit different base mood than when interacting with "just friends". I also admitted couple of times I have zero objections if they want to be more than friends.

[SmallTownGuy]

Oh, and she said that my comment before might be true when I said this entire situation may be quite interesting for him too, and she's not sure how much he would be interested in her if she was single. But the possibility to have fun (either just spend flirty time or perhaps something more) with someone else's wife may be tempting. Which I think is fully true.

She also told me it appears he is interested in her as more than a piece of meat, which we both find very positive. I don't believe in sex without chemistry, so I hope there is sincere chemistry between them.

[Tryn]

I’m sure your wife knows he’s trying to get her into something sexual. He’s a guy and no guy invests that much time with an attractive female to just be friends. Your wife likely knows that, though I think she is choosing not to disclose that. She’s taking her time to get to that decision and that’s definitely the right approach for her.

[SmallTownGuy]

I’m sure your wife knows he’s trying to get her into something sexual. He’s a guy and no guy invests that much time with an attractive female to just be friends. Your wife likely knows that, though I think she is choosing not to disclose that. She’s taking her time to get to that decision and that’s definitely the right approach for her.

Thanks for the comment, very well said. I think the best possible approach would be to ensure she knows she has my full support for being more than friends, and she keeps her mind open for the possibility that she will want to go further than just a hug. Then the rest will follow if the mood is right, chemistry is still there and they want to do it.

I understand very well why she isn't saying she will have sex. They've only spent little time together and there is always a possibility that things get awkward or she isn't attracted to him the next time they meet. Women are picky and she is especially picky I'd like her to be more open towards the possibility of more than friendship, but I also think she is still trying to figure it all out herself and I will let her take her time.

[Wantsomefunto]

Hopefully you can give her more opportunities to be alone with him and more kissing happens. Has she been dressing any different? Maybe buy her a sexy matching bra and thong to wear when she meet up with him

[Tryn]

I’m sure your wife knows he’s trying to get her into something sexual. He’s a guy and no guy invests that much time with an attractive female to just be friends. Your wife likely knows that, though I think she is choosing not to disclose that. She’s taking her time to get to that decision and that’s definitely the right approach for her.

Thanks for the comment, very well said. I think the best possible approach would be to ensure she knows she has my full support for being more than friends, and she keeps her mind open for the possibility that she will want to go further than just a hug. Then the rest will follow if the mood is right, chemistry is still there and they want to do it.

I understand very well why she isn't saying she will have sex. They've only spent little time together and there is always a possibility that things get awkward or she isn't attracted to him the next time they meet. Women are picky and she is especially picky I'd like her to be more open towards the possibility of more than friendship, but I also think she is still trying to figure it all out herself and I will let her take her time.

I think you’re approaching it with correct thinking. It will be challenging to not over state he’s trying to get her out of the friend zone, yet occasionally point out that he’s obviously sexually attracted to her. It will interesting to see how this unfolds!

[SmallTownGuy]

Hopefully you can give her more opportunities to be alone with him and more kissing happens. Has she been dressing any different? Maybe buy her a sexy matching bra and thong to wear when she meet up with him

The challenge here is that he lives in another country so they cannot meet too often. That might, on the other hand, also be a positive thing. We won't be bumping into him in the nearby grocery store and they will be building tension and lust, hopefully, before they meet, and when they are together it is "special time" for both of them.

She actually bought some new panties lately. For the first time ever, she asked for my opinion, and I suggested a small black brazilian type which she got couple of pairs of. Something like this, though not the exactly same model. I will at some point let her know I'd love her to wear those for the trip with him.

[SmallTownGuy]

She was out with her coworkers yesterday, they had couple of beers at the bar and she cycled home. It's about an half an hour trip so they had called with the Brit and he kept her company while she was bicycling. She told me about this when I woke up as she was getting into bed and I asked where they had been and if she had a good time.

I'm happy she told me about it and told her it's cute they are making a call every now and then and thanked her for keeping me updated.

[Wantsomefunto]

Does she have any interest doing anything with the coworker?

[SmallTownGuy]

Does she have any interest doing anything with the coworker?

You mean Andy the coworker who she goes sometimes out with? Not 100% sure...? I haven't asked her directly but they seem to get along real well and like to go out together. There may be some attraction but not sure if it is bidirectional. I would be surprised if he isn't attracted to her, but I don't know if she's attracted to him.

She has once mentioned there is another coworker who she finds very attractive, but as far as I know they don't really spend any time together and I don't know if he's interested in her. Then again I guess most guys would be interested in her if they knew she is available and willing

[SmallTownGuy]

No major updates but for the records:

She is still texting daily with the Brit and when there is a suitable time slot, they make long video calls. She has said to me and to him that she spends more time texting with him than anyone else. She still doesn't admit she is sexually interested in him, and I don't want to push her. Just try to ensure she knows I don't mind if she is.

I've again read their messaging, which there is a lot of. He is significantly more flirty than her, often mentioning her beautiful smile and eyes and giving a lot of compliments. They still don't discuss sex or other naughtier stuff.

One day when she was alone at home she had dogged her clothes to figure out what she'll wear for the gig they will be visiting. She had found a nice mini dress and platform heel shoes and tried them out and had sent him a mirror picture of herself dressed in those, smiling for the camera, other leg bent at knee which I think is a bit "flirty" pose. He had commented the picture with "Wow! You look amazing in that dress! Wear that!" and an emoji with heart as eyes.

She one day mentioned something that is common for me and the Brit and I replied at least she has a coherent taste in men, to which she somewhat amused said she didn't like how I phrased that. So still my current understanding is that she doesn't admit to herself she is interested in him as more than a friend.

Oh, this was already several weeks ago, but she also mentioned she finds it funny that something like 15 years agi her mother (who was diverced and single) had a British guy she went to meet in London. Their relationship was openly more than friends, so I think her thinking this as something similar is a good sign

[SmallTownGuy]

She's on a night bus to home from meeting a friend and has been active on the whatsapp for pretty much the entire one hour trip. I have a feeling I know who is she chatting with, interesting to see if she mentions anything and what they've been discussing:)

[SmallTownGuy]

Interesting plot twist, she told me couple of days ago he's coming to our home country in couple of weeks. I had no idea and apparently it came as a surprise for her too but I'm really happy about it. He'll be staying for couple of days in a bigger city nearby and asked if I'm okay if she goes to see him. Of course I told her to go for it and said I can take care of the kids for the entire weekend.

Apparently this wasn't something they would have agreed together and he had just relatively surprisingly told he'll be coming and asked if she is able and willing to meet him. She said she'll go meet him for a day or so and is not interested in staying there for the night but we'll see I also managed to read their texts and he had told she is very welcome to stay over too, to which she hadn't replied anything. I told her it most likely isn't pure coincidence he's coming here and she agreed.

I also asked her how is she feeling and she smiled and said "we'll see" so I think she's a bit excited and also nervous as this means that instead of months there will be real face-to-face interaction in just weeks.

Other than this, no major updates. They are still texting daily but there hasn't been a call for about two weeks, most likely due to vacation period which means she hasn't been alone much. She also sends him pics and receives very positive feedback about them.

Also worth mentioning he let her know she had met another younger married lady and had exchanged numbers and agreed to meet again but at least I have no idea if it was just chatting or something else had happened.

[wemightjust]

Hi very sexy journey you are both on, what anticipation you must be feeling.

Would you refrain from sex or at least her not cumming until after their meet up.

That will make her very horny while she is with him,.... Just a thought

[SmallTownGuy]

I won't fuck her in couple of days or at least will not cum in her to keep her fresh and clean for him, but on the other hand I think she is if the kind that gets more sexual the more sex there is. So perhaps i'll lick her or finger her but not fuck her then... We'll see. But an interesting idea, thanks for bringing this up

We had sex yesterday. I cane almost immediately after entering her and lost my erection, but I grabbed the dildo and told her to sit on my face and ride the dildo until she came. This was the first time I licked a creampied pussy. She cleaned a bit before she sat on my face, but at least after she cane I could see my cum dripping off of her labia.

[BallSpanking]

Even a two night stay in the city would be in order ...

[SmallTownGuy]

I would love them to spend every available minute together but I think she is trying to play it cool. She had told him she'll be available on friday night after work and the entire saturday. My current understanding is that she is planning to come home for the night, but we'll see

He had told her that since they met he feels he has had a good and calm feeling inside and she replied that it is great to hear and let's keep your calm also in the future so it seems like she wants this to last too.

She had also been googling the best restaurants so they'll most likely be fine dining on their date and she was planning to take him to a spa, which I like

[AZguy425]

Exciting update!! Even though your wife seems to be trying to stay distant from the possibility, I doubt I'm alone in hoping to hear she gets seduced!

[SmallTownGuy]

I think at least me and her "friend" are hoping she'll be staying with him for the night and there will be more than sleeping

I asked her about their plans a bit. He had, with some hesitation, allowed her to create a plan for what they will do and she will not tell him beforehand. It will most likely include at least going to a spa, fine dining and some sightseeing. I asked her if she has scheduled the weekend and when will they be meeting and she thought we had agreed they will be seeing on Saturday as I have something scheduled for the Sunday. I told her she is free to go as she pleases as long as it won't affect my Sunday afternoon schedule. She said it sounds like anything is OK for me as long as she is back home on Sunday noon, and I said that's pretty much what I mean. I asked if he's coming on Friday and leaving on Monday, which she confirmed and said she could go see him on Friday right after the work but she's not willing to stay there all night. I asked her what does that mean and she said she's not willing to pay for a hotel room so she'll get home. I told her I think he can offer her a place to sleep and she said she's not sure if she wants to do that. I told her there is no need to know if she wants to do that beforehand but if she wants to spend the night with him, she can.

[sandy691196]

I think at least me and her "friend" are hoping she'll be staying with him for the night and there will be more than sleeping

I asked her about their plans a bit. He had, with some hesitation, allowed her to create a plan for what they will do and she will not tell him beforehand. It will most likely include at least going to a spa, fine dining and some sightseeing. I asked her if she has scheduled the weekend and when will they be meeting and she thought we had agreed they will be seeing on Saturday as I have something scheduled for the Sunday. I told her she is free to go as she pleases as long as it won't affect my Sunday afternoon schedule. She said it sounds like anything is OK for me as long as she is back home on Sunday noon, and I said that's pretty much what I mean. I asked if he's coming on Friday and leaving on Monday, which she confirmed and said she could go see him on Friday right after the work but she's not willing to stay there all night. I asked her what does that mean and she said she's not willing to pay for a hotel room so she'll get home. I told her I think he can offer her a place to sleep and she said she's not sure if she wants to do that. I told her there is no need to know if she wants to do that beforehand but if she wants to spend the night with him, she can.

Since you obviously wanna make this happen very much but don't wanna push directly, here are some tips:

The indirect power of suggestion works better with women like your wife, rather than imploring or pushing.

Narrate examples and tales of benefits to old stable marriages, when the wife discretely takes a lover with the husband's agreement. Quote a story where the wife is of her age group and of her restrained, cautious nature.
Show her direct evidence of what the thought does to you.. when you 2 are in bed.. like show him your erection.

Pack her new panties for her overnight stay. Suggest she stays over and shares his room and bed. Pack a short see through nightie. Buy a new one for her and surprise her.

Say you are in a constant state of arousal and euphoria the whole day, imagining her staying over.

She may ask "why"?

Your answer is of course how you are convinced that this will spike up your own conjugal life..

[Midnight Joker]

I hope it works out this weekend and the limited time he can spend in the USA spurs her into action.

[BallSpanking]

Did she come home last night?

[SmallTownGuy]

I wonder if I expressed myself unclear but they are not meeting this weekend. It's still couple of weeks until they meet.