Longtime lurker and first time poster

[Redacted]

Hey everyone! First off, I’m a long time lurker and finally just signed up. This a cool community with a lot of cool members.

I’m 39, my wife is 36, and we’re from Buffalo NY. We’ve been in and out the “swinging” lifestyle for 5-6 years. We started out with other couples before I realized the real enjoyment I (we) got was from watching and sharing her. After that we moved on to strictly mfm threesomes but she has yet to play alone.

As I said we’ve been in and out of the lifestyle… currently out as we had a pretty bad experience with a guy last summer and have barely even talked about playing since aside from dirty talk during sex. So I guess I’m an experienced wannabe idk.

Anyway I suppose I’m just hoping to find some advice on how to bring it back up/get her back into it and also to maybe just find some others to chat with about the lifestyle or anything really. I’m sure you all know this isn’t the type of thing you can talk about with your friends/coworkers haha.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Redacted.

[Swanilla]

Been in and out of the LS for almost 9 years (wow - time flies!). Sorry for your bad experience with a SM. We have a saying, "Single guys are single for a reason" ... which is very true.

A few ways to re-introduce the LS...

First, try mojoupgrade.com. It's a free site to help discover kinks and desires. A great site for any couple!
Second, try some sexy shows... Sex/Life, The Couple Next Door, Outlander, etc.
If you have the resources, perhaps a sexy vacation to Desire or Hedo if you two are comfortable.

[Dutchpride7]

Welcome to the site you & yours. You will enjoy the site and sorry to hear about your bad experience..I myself happen to be a single guy and have for many years. I come from a big Dutch family & I had 3 sisters & mom growing up so very well trained & astute around ladies. Then All kinds of Aunts & cousins the majority of them ladies. I know how boys,I dong dare say men because I've seen with my own eyes anc experience how guys can be real dickheads,anc they had girlfriends & wives . At nightclubs,places to eat,amusement parks & so on ... The things I seen we're appalling & disgusting that jerk offfs,dickheads ,and only idiots would do! Would never ever call it Manly..More Boyish & ignorant . Enjoy the site,lot of grrrrrrreat people,understanding people ,and knowledgeable people,wise people,caring people,good people,loving people,People that just get down with there kinks & sexual desires & pleasures & when they share - Hmmm... GOODIE,Good Experiences & exciting ,interesting to hear all of em..Yup! E N J O Y... I'm Dutchpride7