It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Sat Jul 05, 2025 11:53 am

bbarnsworth wrote:
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Has anyone else experienced this absolute paradigm shift? It’s absolutely astounding me, given that I was so close to complete defeat.
Yes, with our own twists.

When my wife and I were early on in our dating, we talked about our past sexual experiences. I told her about my having been involved with a married woman with her husband's complete permission. My (now) wife balked at the idea, said it was wrong morally and ethically, and it would never happen with us if we got married. I explained that it was all consensual, there was no cheating going on, and everyone was happy about it. She still balked, not that I was trying to talk her into it; just giving her a perspective. This was all in the sense of sharing our past, not suggesting she and I should ever do something like that. Time passes, we get married, and having an open marriage or hotwife scenario wasn't even on my mind...at all!

Then one evening, 6 years into our marriage, we're in bed not really fooling around, but I'm giving her massage (which she absolutely loves). She says having four hands would be even better. I was in total shock. Never in a million years would I have ever expected that to come from her. <presses fast forward button>

It's 8 months later, and we're talking about scenarios while cuddling in bed. It's an afternoon. I head out to the living room, put on a movie for our (young) kids, and then head back to the bedroom. I come in to see her masturbating and having an intense sexual look on her face. She's actively fantasizing about having another man, and is in a sexual state I'd rarely seen before. <presses fast forward button>

It's the first sexual encounter with a gentleman who would become my wife's long term boyfriend. We're in a hotel room. After about half an hour of playing, my wife is having sex with him and is getting into a heightened sexual state. I'm actively involved, and the other gentleman and I are actively working her up. She gets into a sexual state that is beyond anything I've ever seen her in. Orgasms are just flowing from her, and it's almost like she's out of her mind in the sexual intensity of it. I can still picture and hear in my mind her on her back at one point, arching herself up to give him her pussy, with him thrusting hard in her and she's absolutely begging him to cum.

She had had lovers before this, but this was an unleashing. I felt like we'd tapped into a sexual beast within her, and it was like a pandora's box. There was no way it was ever going back in.

Now, she's never been a fan of anal (though we've done it in the past), and this sexual transformation didn't change her desire for that. Also, while she's absolutely amazing at giving head (best I've ever had), she doesn't like having men cum in her mouth. It causes a strong gag reflex for her, no matter who it is, and just can't handle it. That hasn't changed either.
Incredible story and is very much what I’m imagining for our first scenario. I had a long drive home from seeing my family and on the way back she was messaging me and telling me how she feels like she wants to experience everything. She is actively going to tell the guy that she wants him to cum in her mouth. After so long with this not being on the menu between us and now she is going to actually ask a stranger to cum so she can swallow it is a dream come true for me. She told me that she wants to let go and be truly free much your wife actually experienced.
I’m desperately hoping that our schedules tie up and we can arrange the meeting for the week after next.
I don’t think I can stand the suspense!!!

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by bbarnsworth » Sat Jul 05, 2025 1:33 pm

Well, I think you're about to bust the door down of being a wannabe looking inside! I certainly fully expect to hear about how this guy came in your wife's mouth, had sex with her, and drover her to a sexual peak like no other! I'm very, very, very happy for you! I think you will enjoy this very much! But, not as much as she will :lol:

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Thu Jul 10, 2025 12:05 pm

Things have escalated even further! When my wife met the guy for a drink, he told her that he wished he had asked her to put her hand on his visible hard on in his shorts. So, whilst discussing this at home I asked her whether she would have. She wanted me to be ok with it and asked if I would have been ok with it. It was a resounding yes from me.
But this brewed an idea and fixation. So now my wife is going to visit her family and on the way is going to meet up with the guy again and film her mouth engulfing his cock and possibly until he cums. Part of me wants to be present, but the absolute evolution of abandonment my wife is going through is upending everything we thought was possible. So her sitting in a car with the guy and filming her blowing him, is too good an opportunity to turn down. Again, I’d be interested in the opinions of the more experienced among you on wether this is something I should grab with both hands or wait until we are all together?

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by Fearlesspain » Thu Jul 10, 2025 1:11 pm

I think if she is wanting to try it alone and you're not in objection to it, then you should allow her to do it.

If she enjoys herself, then she'll be open to do more in the future and if you've discussed you being in the mix, then she's sure to include you.

I'm worried if you make it about YOU being there, it may be off-putting to her and you may lose not only this opportunity, but future opportunities as well.

The big thing I'm seeing here is that she has a plan to video it. That means she wants to share the moment with you later. You'll be able to re-live it again and again with her if she records it. You'll also have a starting point to document her journey. She'll also be able to tell you all about it as you watch it. She may even be open to the idea of doing the same thing to you as you watch her do it to another man. That would be blissful in my opinion.

Personally, I'd be so turned on that my wife sucked another guy off and then went to spend time with her family knowing the naughty thing she just did.

All that being said, if it would be to much for you to handle and you're not up for it, then don't offer up something you'll live to regret.

Only you know how this will effect you and only you two have to live with the consequences if it wasn't what you truly wanted.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Sat Jul 12, 2025 12:26 am

Even as I write this it sounds like I’m making it up, but I’m not!
Yesterday, my wife went from planning to meeting with the guy on the way back from her seeing her family, to she is now going to meet up with him and then go to his place rather than a pub. The original plan was to send me a video of her blowing him, but after both of us chatting with him last night, it’s been agreed that she’s going to go to his place and fuck him. This means that I get to clean her up when she comes home that night.

A day has been decided and it’s next Saturday. I think I’m going to explode with fucking excitement. She may even Kik video me when she’s there.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by bbarnsworth » Sat Jul 12, 2025 3:54 am

Time to graduate from the "Wannabe" forum :) Congratulations!!! Woooooohooooooo!!!! Really excited for you!

We expect full details of course! :lol:

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Sat Jul 12, 2025 4:34 am

Thanks @bbarnsworth. Tantalisingly close! but we’ve been let down before this close to the meet. However, this guy has had the non sex meet for a drink, so I’m thinking 99.99% it’s going to happen. The beauty of her meeting for sex first without me, is that I get a much more relaxed version of my wife when I finally get to experience my bi side in front of her for the first time. I genuinely think this may be pivotal in our future success in the lifestyle.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Wed Jul 16, 2025 9:14 am

Tomorrow my wife is heading off for her family trip and I am about to be initiated into something I’d given up on. I’ve already mentioned this so it’s nothing new. What is new is that any ambiguity of what is about to happen has been cleared up.

My wife was skirting around the issue in messages and had only really got as far as discussing a BJ and only hinted at going further. I was worried that as both the guy and my wife are new at this that they may both skirt around the issue to the point of nothing actually happening.
So with my wife’s permission, I messaged the guy and cleared up any ambiguity by telling him that she was being shy and nervous, but basically wanted to not only give him a BJ but to fuck him.
I reassured him that if this was too forward then it was all cool and we can slow down.
However, unsurprisingly the guy is up for anything my wife wants and will film every part of it for me. This means that sometime on Saturday after a day of gut churning anticipation I should slowly start getting video messages come through showing my wife in all of her sexual glory fuck and suck another man for the first time in nearly 30 years. The cherry on top- I’m getting a creampie clip too.

Then she is going to come home after a 3 1/2 hr drive for me to reclaim and clean her up. 25 years in the making and my mind is now heightening to fever pitch in anticipation of late Saturday evening’s activities.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by QuietHope » Wed Jul 16, 2025 9:31 am

Wow, just wow. Excited for you!

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Wed Jul 16, 2025 9:43 am

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Wed Jul 16, 2025 9:31 am
Wow, just wow. Excited for you!
Thank you. This forum has been a source of hope for me for quite a while. I’ve not commented much at all since now as I had little to say. I think I’ll have a fair bit to say after Saturday!

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by bbarnsworth » Wed Jul 16, 2025 2:11 pm

I am super excited for you both!

Yes, the gut wrenching anticipation...been there, and it's exquisitely terrifying and painfully delicious. Lots of oxymorons apply :)

I want to throw in some thoughts here... Make sure you and your wife are on the same page about expectations. What I mean isn't just that she intends to fuck him, give him a blowjob, etc. You want to see the video, but if your wife gets caught up in the moment and the video doesn't get seen until she gets home, don't be upset. If she has to spend her time thinking about you at home, and making sure she's sending you video, it can make the moment awkward for her. Let her enjoy getting a great fucking, and don't be upset if the video doesn't come until later. I know, I know, it'll be very difficult to not get the video while it's happening. You'll perhaps feel left out, ignored, etc. and think "this wasn't part of the deal!"

You've been wanting this for 25 years. You're in the last few meters of this journey to the START line. Don't mess it up now :) Let her enjoy the freedom of fucking another man with your blessing, let her enjoy the moment, the sheer delight in sharing herself with another man and he with her. Wrapping expectations up in that can ruin it.

Remember; no matter what happens, she's coming home to you, and you're going to get to make love with your wife knowing another man has just cum inside her. It will be a dream come true for you. Let her dream come true in fucking him. Hopefully this is the START line and there's many more play times to come!

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Thu Jul 17, 2025 3:40 am

Thank you for those words. They ring of a great deal of wisdom and experience. I’ve just sat in the car with my wife and the conversation went along the lines of:
Me - How are you feeling about Saturday?
Her- Nervous as hell
Me- Don’t feel pressured, only do it if you’re 100 % wanting it. There’s no pressure to go through with it if you change your mind at the last minute.
Her - No, I want it and it’ll happen

We kissed, both said I love you to each other and I waved her off with a “have fun”

Yes I’d love perfect quality porn level filming to be able to savour every detail and moment forever, but I acknowledge that I’ll get some grainy poorly lit phone filming! And not when I really am aching for it. It’ll happen at their timescale. It will be absolute gut turning anticipation waiting for her to get home, and whatever time it is, I imagine we’ll be fucking wildly as she recounts what happened. Even though I knew not to have any concrete expectations, your words were perfectly timed and extremely valuable in as you say, arriving at the start line.

Thank you again to you and everyone on this forum that shares their hard earned experience to help/guide others.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by patw3268 » Fri Jul 18, 2025 1:45 pm

24 hours

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Fri Jul 18, 2025 2:12 pm

patw3268 wrote:
Fri Jul 18, 2025 1:45 pm
24 hours
Don’t I know about it! Just had a phone call from my wife and the guy has been messaging on and off throughout the day.
Tomorrow the plan is to meet him at a pub near his place for a drink. Then as she’s driving, she’ll take him back to his, as he’s invited her back for a coffee. Apparently to break the ice and jump in at the deep end, when she’s gets inside his and the front door closes, she’s going to say”fuck the coffee, fuck me instead” and then start kissing him! Well that’s the plan anyway.

I’ll be updating on as much detail as I can when the dust has settled.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by bbarnsworth » Sat Jul 19, 2025 4:36 am

Well John, today's the day! Today you go from being a wannabe hotwife husband to being one! Sooo happy for you and your wife!!!!

You probably didn't sleep last night, or if so only fitfully! :) You're probably going to be a bag of nerves all day. No relief until your wife gets home, after being freshly fucked by another man! It may seem hard to imagine when you're a bag of nerves, but all of it is a moment to cherish. You will remember this day for the rest of your life!

Keep in mind that as over-the-top excited as you will be to see your wife, she's going to be tired when she gets home. Lots of driving, and then all the action in bed. Don't take it as any negative at all! Be supportive and loving, and show her how happy you are she's done this. It's a day to cherish for her to, and will be all the better knowing she's coming home to a husband who loves her even more than before. Tomorrow morning, make breakfast for her, pamper her, take her to something she loves to do. She's the queen; treat her like it! You might consider getting some flowers for her today, to be there when she comes home.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Sat Jul 19, 2025 4:43 am

bbarnsworth wrote:
Sat Jul 19, 2025 4:36 am
Well John, today's the day! Today you go from being a wannabe hotwife husband to being one! Sooo happy for you and your wife!!!!

You probably didn't sleep last night, or if so only fitfully! :) You're probably going to be a bag of nerves all day. No relief until your wife gets home, after being freshly fucked by another man! It may seem hard to imagine when you're a bag of nerves, but all of it is a moment to cherish. You will remember this day for the rest of your life!

Keep in mind that as over-the-top excited as you will be to see your wife, she's going to be tired when she gets home. Lots of driving, and then all the action in bed. Don't take it as any negative at all! Be supportive and loving, and show her how happy you are she's done this. It's a day to cherish for her to, and will be all the better knowing she's coming home to a husband who loves her even more than before. Tomorrow morning, make breakfast for her, pamper her, take her to something she loves to do. She's the queen; treat her like it! You might consider getting some flowers for her today, to be there when she comes home.
All sound advice and will definitely be acted on. First I’ll be pampering her body tonight and she’ll be pampered tomorrow. A truly life changing, momentous day!

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Sat Jul 19, 2025 8:04 am

Flowers and and an I love you card bought. Texted to say she’s with him in the pub now. Now I’m shaking with adrenaline and excitement as I write this. Didn’t expect that!
Now, to wait for the message or call when she’s finished.

This is exquisite agony.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Sat Jul 19, 2025 10:10 am

Fucking hell. She’s just got back to his and texted me that nothing has happened yet. However, she did text me saying that she’s going to be sitting on my face when she gets home. After she’s been fucked bareback.
I’m feel like I’m going to burst with adrenaline at the moment. This is bloody intense.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:02 am

He’s just sent me a picture of him sucking her tits on his couch. 🥵🥵🥵

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by Swe_male » Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:17 am

Wow, I'm sitting in Sweden right now and can feel with you! I hope you're eating her out when she's at home again and that she gives you information what's going on between them.
I'll hope to get the same feeling one day!

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by QuietHope » Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:25 am

john1616 wrote:
Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:02 am
He’s just sent me a picture of him sucking her tits on his couch. 🥵🥵🥵
Holy shit YES

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:40 am

Swe_male wrote:
Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:17 am
Wow, I'm sitting in Sweden right now and can feel with you! I hope you're eating her out when she's at home again and that she gives you information what's going on between them.
I'll hope to get the same feeling one day!
I wish you the very best of luck. Don’t ever give up.
Yes I’ll be cleaning every single drop of what she has to give me.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by john1616 » Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:43 am

QuietHope wrote:
Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:25 am
john1616 wrote:
Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:02 am
He’s just sent me a picture of him sucking her tits on his couch. 🥵🥵🥵
Holy shit YES
Fuck me YES! It’s all gone quiet now. So I think we all know what that means. I’m now waiting for the call that she’s on her way back, the videos, all of it.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by Big Red » Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:59 am

john1616 wrote:
Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:43 am
QuietHope wrote:
Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:25 am
john1616 wrote:
Sat Jul 19, 2025 11:02 am
He’s just sent me a picture of him sucking her tits on his couch. 🥵🥵🥵
Holy shit YES
Fuck me YES! It’s all gone quiet now. So I think we all know what that means. I’m now waiting for the call that she’s on her way back, the videos, all of it.
Enjoy the moment, best of luck. Breathe.

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Re: It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

Unread post by patw3268 » Sat Jul 19, 2025 2:19 pm

Safe to say congratulations are in order.

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