New marital developments

[sandy691196]

She loves you and she'll eventually understand your POV. I hope your relationship grows stronger and this thread/story good on for eternity.

I think I missed that part where it becomes evident that "she loves Tacoma".
Can you pl point out that part?

From what I could gather, she never "loved" Tacoma. I think she is a shallow human being with repressed desires which were brought out by this situation.

That Zaylee (?) friend of hers played a subversive role in breaking up this relationship for her own kinks in life. The OP's wife, in her mid 40s, doesn't have the alibi of getting "corrupted" by her friend.

The wife behaved with extreme cruelty towards her SO. Showing utter disregard for him as a human being, not just as a lover or husband.

So I feel this woman NEVER loved the OP in the first place.

I would have sent D papers across..

[Torquemada_uk]

After 6 months and not a peep from Tacoma, I think it’s not unreasonable to assume the ‘honeymoon period’ turned into an imploded marriage whose wreckage Tacoma understandably has no interest in discussing any further.

[afagehi7]

After 6 months and not a peep from Tacoma, I think it’s not unreasonable to assume the ‘honeymoon period’ turned into an imploded marriage whose wreckage Tacoma understandably has no interest in discussing any further.

It's called survivorship bias. It's a shame because hearing the other side would be so beneficial for so many to avoid implosions.

[sandy691196]

1 Putting one's foot down once things start significantly crossing one's comfort level and relationship aims.

2. Seeing through the myth of "living happily everafter" on the other side of the "angst" period.. involving the suppression of one's primal survival instincts..

3. Trashing the blackmail game of "you started it so grin and bear now"! That's the corniest of all slave labour camp deals!

[elina]

After 6 months and not a peep from Tacoma, I think it’s not unreasonable to assume the ‘honeymoon period’ turned into an imploded marriage whose wreckage Tacoma understandably has no interest in discussing any further.

Well,

Apparantly he was logged in earlier this year.
Maybe he has elected to narrow the communication to PMs to some people he feels he can confide in?

Please Tacoma, I for one would truly appreciate hearing from you, either here or through PM

Sincerely
elina

[edgedndenied]

Any Updates

[unclecuck]

Stories (incidents) like Tacoma happens alot more than people think. Not everyone built for such lifestyle, women or men.

Uncle

[Tacoma75]

Hello all. Sorry to stop updates for months and months but things got hectic between myself and my wife Betsy. Things were very tense for a while. I'm going to try to do an update and see how cluttered and long it is.

Basically Betsy started sleeping with her boyfriend Joe, at my initial behest, although when I started getting antsy about things getting too serious, she would get mad and we would fight. At one point we had a big blowout and she moved in with him, for close to 2 months, indicating we may be getting separated. During that time I found out she had made recordings with her phone of me basically admitting I wanted her to sleep with Joe and it was a fantasy kink for me. I was not pleased. Also I would find out eventually that she gave him a blowjob in the car on one of their first dates where she originally told me nothing happened, so there was a good bit of dishonesty involved.

I found out he had taken her on not one but two beach trips. The first one was for two nights and the second one for a week at a nice oceanfront hotel where they were an item and she came back with a sexy yellow bikini.

Anyway she stayed with him but we did speak on the phone regularly and eventually had lunch a few times. By this time we started to agree she was coming back and was going to stop seeing Joe altogether. Well, long story short after a few months I started getting suspicious that she was still seeing him. She would come home on Sundays and go straight to our bedroom and grab a shower, something she never did before. So I asked and she tearfully confessed that she had been seeing him "once in a blue moon". Soon after she confided that she had been very taken with him and their budding relationship was a great experience for her and she wanted it to continue, but would meet me halfway on the terms. I'll be clear. I am convinced she fell in love with him and was looking to become his full time woman, but I'm thinking that's not really what he was after. If it was we would have gotten divorced and I would have turned away from this kink forever.

More to come soon as we are actually out of town now, and I have to meet her for dinner soon.

[BallSpanking]

Interesting.
She seems very willing to be a HW now, reluctant to leave it behind ...
Or is she still secretly in love with Joe?
Are you OK with her seeing Joe occasionally?
Would you prefer she date other men?

[cpeater]

Thank you for updating.

[coastalkid]

The ubiquitous "I've developed a relationship with him" thing.

Trust your instincts! You're probably not far from being right about the discrepancy in your wife wanting to be his full time and his wanting a no strings sex partner. No doubt your wife has come to realize this too. That's why you're back in the picture. It would make sense that she would want to have the stability and loyalty that YOU offer while still enjoying the benefits of HIS "part time" cock. She has admitted she wants to continue.

This is just my opinion, with no intention of judgement. It feels like if your wife had her first choice it would having him her way and second (if the first was out), is to have him as often as she could while living with you. I could be way off though, you know better than I do!

[Cuckcuckgoose1]

Glad to hear from you again Tacoma. It's not everyday we get a follow-up to a long dead thread. So thanks for coming back. Glad you and Betsy are back together and working on your relationship. Looking forward to your next chapter.

[patw3268]

People need to consider this when playing out a fantasy. Not all women are into hotwifing.

[avid fan]

During that time I found out she had made recordings with her phone of me basically admitting I wanted her to sleep with Joe and it was a fantasy kink for me. I was not pleased

This is very bad... basically leading discussions with what seems like an eye on divorce so she can screw you!?

[Regit]

Thank you for the update. It is sad to hear your plan backfired and you’ve become a consolation prize, no offense intended, as she wanted more from Joe then just sex. However you’re now in a situation where she is back with you and still fucks him. Not the way you planned, but that never seems to be the case when you unleash your wife.

[thinman]

Hi, Tacoma, it is good to have you back on the forum. I was very worried about your situation when you stopped posting months ago. It seemed to me that she pretty much let her libido completely swamp her judgement, and she made some really bad decisions. The thing about surreptitiously recording you was really shocking. i was not surprised, sadly, to find out that she had been lying to you from the beginning. I’m looking forward to your next update.

[thinman]

Hi, Tacoma, it is good to have you back on the forum. I was very worried about your situation when you stopped posting months ago. It seemed to me that she pretty much let her libido completely swamp her judgement, and she made some really bad decisions. The thing about surreptitiously recording you was really shocking. i was not surprised, sadly, to find out that she had been lying to you from the beginning. I’m looking forward to your next update.

[Tacoma75]

Hi all. Thx for the responses!

Ball, she is definitely a hot wife through and through now. I don't know if I'd prefer her dating other guys. Joe is actually a good guy for her. He rocks her world but doesn't get too attached. She is still infatuated with him tho.

Coastal, as much as it pains me to agree, I think you're right.

Reg, true, but I guess it is kind of the way I planned, with her having a guy on the side. Kind of being the key phrase there.

So the rest of the story from above, there were other ins and outs (no pun intended) but the big event was about a month ago she was out with him and called me to ask if she could bring him home. I asked if they were going to do anything in front of me, more nervous about it than turned on, and she said she didn't know with a cute giggle. Long story short I consented, she brought him home. He was nice and respectful to me. Betsy sat with me on the sofa at first then got up and went to him on the loveseat. They started kissing not long after and he took her to our room and made love to her. My heart was racing, hard to fully explain what I was going through. She orgasmed hard several times, it was kind of amazing to hear.

Anyway we are now at the beach. She has been a good girl, not really looking around or flirting with any of the guys, and we're near a military base so there are plenty of guys around. She did have phone sex with him two nights ago with me in the room, which somehow felt almost similar to when they did it in our bedroom with me downstairs.

Then yesterday she asked me in the cold light of day how I would feel about the three of us taking a beach trip together. I was speechless and hands trembling, then somehow was able to mumble out that I was willing to try. She was very happy, kissed me, and bubbly for the next few hours. We will see soon where all this is headed.

[elina]

Dear Tacoma

I am very happy that you and Betsy are now reconsiled and that She is cucking you in ways still pushing your boundaries but now involving you and not hiding things.

I realize this has been a sometimes terrible rocky road but as they say; When the end is good, all is good.

For your Wonderful Wife this now is obviously a wonderful experience. I am sure that if you continue to support Her She will keep you in Her life the way both of you wants to. So cute to see how you overcame your fears and accepted taking a beach trip all three of you together, and how much this response pleased Her. Keep enjoying life and love your Hotwife.

Sincerely
elina

[sydfloyd97]

Thanks for the update Tacoma. I loved reading your posts and to see how Betsy slowly got into the lifestyle.
I'm sorry for how things went in the past, and I'm glad it's coming together now. I am not an expert like the others here, but I know that communication and trust is key in any relationship.

What's up with Zaylee now?
Btw, will we ever see any pictures of Betsy?

[Dream Weaver]

Hi all. Thx for the responses!

Ball, she is definitely a hot wife through and through now. I don't know if I'd prefer her dating other guys. Joe is actually a good guy for her. He rocks her world but doesn't get too attached. She is still infatuated with him tho.

Coastal, as much as it pains me to agree, I think you're right.

Reg, true, but I guess it is kind of the way I planned, with her having a guy on the side. Kind of being the key phrase there.

So the rest of the story from above, there were other ins and outs (no pun intended) but the big event was about a month ago she was out with him and called me to ask if she could bring him home. I asked if they were going to do anything in front of me, more nervous about it than turned on, and she said she didn't know with a cute giggle. Long story short I consented, she brought him home. He was nice and respectful to me. Betsy sat with me on the sofa at first then got up and went to him on the loveseat. They started kissing not long after and he took her to our room and made love to her. My heart was racing, hard to fully explain what I was going through. She orgasmed hard several times, it was kind of amazing to hear.

Anyway we are now at the beach. She has been a good girl, not really looking around or flirting with any of the guys, and we're near a military base so there are plenty of guys around. She did have phone sex with him two nights ago with me in the room, which somehow felt almost similar to when they did it in our bedroom with me downstairs.

Then yesterday she asked me in the cold light of day how I would feel about the three of us taking a beach trip together. I was speechless and hands trembling, then somehow was able to mumble out that I was willing to try. She was very happy, kissed me, and bubbly for the next few hours. We will see soon where all this is headed.

It's funny how half the time when you get that horrible anxiety, when you think it's going wrong ("rules" broken, or she starts doing things without your direct input), is so confusing as to if this is a "her" problem or a "me" problem. It's like, "this is what I asked for, right? This is what I fantasized about, right?" And the answer is yes and no, but the truth is you know you set things in motion and you can't really control it all. You have to figure out what you can live with.

[Tacoma75]

Thx Elina. I'm getting to the point where things are much more comfortable than they used to be. Joe is good for her in a lot of ways but honestly I'd prefer if she found a guy she isn't and has never been in love with, and can just bend over for once in a while. The beach trip is not planned at the moment but scares me. Betsy has asked several times if I want to see her with him in person. She has sent me a vid or two and I've seen some things I've enjoyed watching but to see that in person might be too much. We shall see.

Syd, Zaylee and Betsy are still friends. She is still very pro Joe, and they have even gone on a few double dates with her boyfriend, who she has hinted she does sleep around on.

Dream, I think I can live with Joe although as mentioned might prefer someone better she's not as close with. Not sure if that's possible tho.

So Betsy got a cute little anklet yesterday and lo and behold told me over dinner that it is a status symbol for a hot wife who may have interest in other guys. I had not heard that before but looking it up confirms it. She was on her best behavior for the whole trip though with Joe not around. Talked to a few guys, including the bartender for an extended period of time at Texas Roadhouse where we ate last night, but it was all just normal chit chat, and other than her speaking confidently and openly with him there was nothing to write home about.

We got home a short while ago and Betsy is already saying she misses Joe and wouldn't mind seeing him this weekend. No word on if she's interested in here or going out with him.

[elina]

Thanks Tacoma.

I think that life sometimes requires some compromises.
When there are two people in a marriage, both cannot have their way all the time.

I think the good news is that Betsy at some time moved in with Joe for a while, now She is back with you.
Yes She still wants to fuck him frequently, but maybe a bit of this thing they cal NRE is already fizzling out and more will if you allow this to happen naturally.

As for watching them in the act. There is always a risk. But ask yourself this question, 5 years down the road, what do you think you are most likely to regret;
A) that you said no the time you had the opportunity to watch them?
B) That you said yes and actually did?

If you can answer that, then I think you will know what to do.

Take care and enjoy life while you are living it.

Sincerely
elina

[Xmatty1]

I would like to hear any details you would be willing to share from the first time Betsy slept with Joe until now. Details about the fight that cause Betsy to move out.

Also anything about interactions between you and Zaylee during this time.

It seems Betsy has always been interested in showing off Joes skills in front of you, I’m curious as to why you think she is interested in that and why you are reluctant to see it.

[jeffx]

Are you sure Betsy met Joe in the way she did/time period she said?

Zaylee was so pro-Joe and still is, do you know for sure that Betsy wasn't cheating on you with Joe the first time she mentioned him?