It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

[john1616]

Thank you. My wife is on her way back now. She’s ok and was properly fucked. She even let him fuck her in her arse. When she told me that on the phone, I was literally shaking. He didn’t manage to cum through a combination of having had a drink and having a wank prior to the meet. However, my wife still has the lube around her arsehole, and that will be heady enough for now.

He sent me pictures of my wife sucking his girthy cock, again shaking as each one took time to load.

Absolutely wild.

[bbarnsworth]

As patw3268 said, congratulations are absolutely in order I am so, SO happy for your both! A new chapter in your marriage! The two of you are going to be giddy for several days now probably, and want to be having sex as much as possible. If not, that doesn't mean this went badly! But that's what usually happens.

It's too bad he didn't cum inside her, but assuming everything went well, I'm sure there will be a next time. Him having wanked beforehand was probably precautionary; didn't want to pop too easily! That, plus the drink for liquid courage. If your wife enjoyed him, a second time with him will likely be even better. Nerves were probably a bit in the way for both of them to fully enjoy it.

So how are YOU doing? The adrenaline is probably backing off a bit now It was like this for the first time for me too. Pure adrenaline rush the whole time she was with him.

[john1616]

So it’s 01:36 and my wife still has about 30 mins left before she’s home. The adrenaline has subsided and I’m feeling pretty good. Yeah, it’s a shame I didn’t get to experience a clean up, but as you said in your previous post. This is the start line. The major line has been crossed and my wife is cool with it. She said that he was embarrassed that he didn’t cum, and she kept reassuring him that it was absolutely not a problem. I thought she might take that as a bit of a hit, but she seems ok with it.

So onward from the start line, I’m feeling excited for her to come home and I’m definitely going to give her some cum. That’s if she’s not too tired. The selfish side of me really just wants to bang the living fuck out of her and put my mouth where his cock went. She’s had a damn long day though, so I may have to save it for the morning!

[Midnight Joker]

So it’s 01:36 and my wife still has about 30 mins left before she’s home. The adrenaline has subsided and I’m feeling pretty good. Yeah, it’s a shame I didn’t get to experience a clean up, but as you said in your previous post. This is the start line. The major line has been crossed and my wife is cool with it. She said that he was embarrassed that he didn’t cum, and she kept reassuring him that it was absolutely not a problem. I thought she might take that as a bit of a hit, but she seems ok with it.

So onward from the start line, I’m feeling excited for her to come home and I’m definitely going to give her some cum. That’s if she’s not too tired. The selfish side of me really just wants to bang the living fuck out of her and put my mouth where his cock went. She’s had a damn long day though, so I may have to save it for the morning!

Kiss the lips and tongue that were wrapped around his cock.

[john1616]

So it’s 01:36 and my wife still has about 30 mins left before she’s home. The adrenaline has subsided and I’m feeling pretty good. Yeah, it’s a shame I didn’t get to experience a clean up, but as you said in your previous post. This is the start line. The major line has been crossed and my wife is cool with it. She said that he was embarrassed that he didn’t cum, and she kept reassuring him that it was absolutely not a problem. I thought she might take that as a bit of a hit, but she seems ok with it.

So onward from the start line, I’m feeling excited for her to come home and I’m definitely going to give her some cum. That’s if she’s not too tired. The selfish side of me really just wants to bang the living fuck out of her and put my mouth where his cock went. She’s had a damn long day though, so I may have to save it for the morning!

Kiss the lips and tongue that were wrapped around his cock.

In about 20 minutes !

[john1616]

My wife got home about 02:10 and thankfully came straight to bed. We talked, we checked in and we cuddled.
I think she was naturally concerned about how I felt about her. I reassured her that I was more than ok and felt incredibly closer and charged by the whole event.
She recounted how it got started at his by her sitting on the couch, him going to the toilet and when he came back, came up behind her and started kissing her neck.
This was the catalyser for her, it always has been. That or her shoulders. Preferably both.

She then told me about his cock in detail, which was girthier than mine. So much so she said it was noticeably harder to get into her mouth. This really played into all the fantasies I’d had about the first guy she would play with.
Anyway, we started kissing and kept checking in with each other. She told me about her asking him to fuck her arse.
This really got me good, especially when she told me to get down and lick her. I tongued her arse so deep imagining the thick, heavy cock that had been there only a few hours ago. She described him going in super slowly to allow her to adjust to his size, and after about 10-15 minutes of loosening her up and relaxing, alternated between gentle strokes and full blown hard thrusts up to the hilt. I asked her how it felt and did she enjoy the harder deeper stuff. I’m pleased to report that she loved it and came while he fucked her due to playing with herself.
She said that she can see herself getting addicted to what she experienced and definitely wants more. I’m ridiculously happy, tired and horny as a dog on heat right now. And have definitely graduated on the 19/07/25 to a very happy hotwife husband. I really do see ourselves at the start line, and I’m really fucking happy to be here and ready to learn.

[leggysman]

Congratulations to both of you on a successful first time! Be proud of her she did it - she's a hotwife

[john1616]

Congratulations to both of you on a successful first time! Be proud of her she did it - she's a hotwife

Thank you, I’m immensely proud and feeling really close to her right now. So paradoxically weird to hear that another man that she hardly knows, fucked her anally, she asked for it and I feel closer to her! The mind is a weird and wonderful thing!

[leggysman]

Your PMs are closed but just wanted to remind you: the mods can move your thread from the Wannabe forum to somewhere more appropriate (Hotwife, Stag/Vixen, Cuckold), and even give it a new title, if you ask them nicely That way you can tell your whole (success!) story in one thread. The moderator chris moved ours to the Hotwife forum ... wow, coming up on 3 years ago now.

[john1616]

Thanks for that, do I request the category or do the mods assess it and then decide what it belongs in? I’m so new to this I’m not really sure what category we fit in. Probably a combo of hotwife/stag/vixen. Is there value in it being left on the wannabe section as a story of hope? I’m not bothered either way and will be led by the experienced mods.

[Midnight Joker]

My wife got home about 02:10 and thankfully came straight to bed. We talked, we checked in and we cuddled.
I think she was naturally concerned about how I felt about her. I reassured her that I was more than ok and felt incredibly closer and charged by the whole event.
She recounted how it got started at his by her sitting on the couch, him going to the toilet and when he came back, came up behind her and started kissing her neck.
This was the catalyser for her, it always has been. That or her shoulders. Preferably both.

She then told me about his cock in detail, which was girthier than mine. So much so she said it was noticeably harder to get into her mouth. This really played into all the fantasies I’d had about the first guy she would play with.
Anyway, we started kissing and kept checking in with each other. She told me about her asking him to fuck her arse.
This really got me good, especially when she told me to get down and lick her. I tongued her arse so deep imagining the thick, heavy cock that had been there only a few hours ago. She described him going in super slowly to allow her to adjust to his size, and after about 10-15 minutes of loosening her up and relaxing, alternated between gentle strokes and full blown hard thrusts up to the hilt. I asked her how it felt and did she enjoy the harder deeper stuff. I’m pleased to report that she loved it and came while he fucked her due to playing with herself.
She said that she can see herself getting addicted to what she experienced and definitely wants more. I’m ridiculously happy, tired and horny as a dog on heat right now. And have definitely graduated on the 19/07/25 to a very happy hotwife husband. I really do see ourselves at the start line, and I’m really fucking happy to be here and ready to learn.

Thanks for taking the time to update us! I'm amazed that they went straight to anal and he wasn't able to cum from a tight ass. Did you get to cum in her when she returned? Yes, once the bottle is opened most wives want more of it. Hopefully she'll see him again very soon and return to you full of cum next time.

[bbarnsworth]

She said that she can see herself getting addicted to what she experienced and definitely wants more. I’m ridiculously happy, tired and horny as a dog on heat right now. And have definitely graduated on the 19/07/25 to a very happy hotwife husband. I really do see ourselves at the start line, and I’m really fucking happy to be here and ready to learn.

As you noted earlier, the major line has been crossed, and it's a fantastic line to be across Now, it's not just a fantasy, it's reality, and moving into the future it's not just a possibility some day, but a now!

There is more to learn, to be sure. Too many people think once you get married, the relationship doesn't change much. Reality, once you get married you're at the beginning of learning a deeper level of each other, and need to continue that the rest of your lives. The learning is in each other, understanding each other more, and embracing the beauty within each other and expressed together as a couple. So it is with this as well; you're a few meters past the start line, and there's much to explore.

Our society gets soooo wrapped up in the idea that you absolutely must be monogamous for a relationship to work. While this lifestyle isn't for everybody, monogamy isn't the only way. Now the two of you have learned a new way. What people fail to see with consensual non-monogamy is that the closeness you have with your wife and she with you is far, far above what she might share with a lover.

There's reason to be cautious though. Not in the sense that you have an external threat to be concerned about; you don't. I'm also not suggesting putting on the brakes. Not at all! Now that you've crossed the bridge, learning how it works within your relationship is important. You both need to learn how that works with you, how it feels, where it goes. You don't have to plan things, but understanding your emotions as they evolve with this is part of the learning journey. Keep making communication a critical part of your journey, and keep exploring.

She notes she can see herself getting addicted to this. That's absolutely wonderful!!! Just be sure to keep your relationship front and center. For some, it can be too much, and you can lose yourself in all of it. I've seen couples where once the wife gets into this, she goes into the deep end and is fucking men left and right. When the husband is overwhelmed, and asks her to slow down, she says "You asked for this!" and disregards him. My wife and I met with one couple with whom we were considering playing. They played with another couple in the meantime, and boom...his wife left him right after it. Your wife does not sound like either of those types. Nevertheless, there's a lesson in that. Do this together, whether she's playing solo or in a threesome, the together aspect is important. This is a 'both-of-you' journey, not a 'her' journey.

There's a fair chance your wife is and will be having an awakening of the sexual creature within her. The endorphin rush off of this and future encounters will be powerful. Helping build that creature and giving it life will see her evolve into a woman you could not have imagined when you said 'I do'

Something to consider; emotions she may have for him or he for her. Right now, and for the next while, there's going to be new relationship euphoria. She'll want to fuck him again, probably as soon and as often as possible. There's nothing wrong with that, and it will feed that sexual creature awakening. This can be misinterpreted as love, as young people so often do. If she continues playing with him beyond the next few months, love could start playing into this. She could fall in love with him, or him with her, or both.

When my wife first started doing this, I told her I was perfectly fine with her fucking someone as much as she wanted, so long as our relationship was central and unharmed. We also recognized that the more she had sex with a particular guy, the more likely it would be that emotions would develop. So, we had a lot discussions about that. The answers you and your wife have for this may be different than ours. There's no right or wrong answer.

For us, the answer was this; if she found a guy whom she really enjoyed having sex with, why make him go away? In many ways this is dating like any other dating. You're going to find a fair number of duds before finding a good one. When she finds a good one, who really satisfies her in bed, why make him go away because you're worried about emotions? If you do that, you end up playing with a lot of duds with an occasional good one whom you send away. This just didn't make sense to us. We felt our relationship was plenty strong enough to handle this, given the agreement that either one of us could stop it if we felt things were going awry. It worked; over the years she found two lovers whom she fell in love with, and the sex just got better and better.

Your mileage may vary; some couples don't want to risk the love aspect, and also want to embrace having lots and lots of new partners, to explore different men. After all, that's kind of the point, isn't it? Getting to explore new men? You can have both as well; be in love with another lover and still exploring other men. Lots of different ways to play this out. Just keep those lines of communication open!

... and I feel closer to her! The mind is a weird and wonderful thing!

Isn't it? It's an absolutely bizarre effect that a husband can feel so much closer to his wife after she's fucked another man. There's been times where I've held my wife while another man has been fucking her, and watching him move in and out of her makes me feel incredibly close to her. It's quite bizarre, but it's true. I tried to explain this to myself many years ago and just gave up. I just love it I eventually learned the term 'compersion', and found myself thinking I could get addicted to that You may too!

[john1616]

She said that she can see herself getting addicted to what she experienced and definitely wants more. I’m ridiculously happy, tired and horny as a dog on heat right now. And have definitely graduated on the 19/07/25 to a very happy hotwife husband. I really do see ourselves at the start line, and I’m really fucking happy to be here and ready to learn.

As you noted earlier, the major line has been crossed, and it's a fantastic line to be across Now, it's not just a fantasy, it's reality, and moving into the future it's not just a possibility some day, but a now!

There is more to learn, to be sure. Too many people think once you get married, the relationship doesn't change much. Reality, once you get married you're at the beginning of learning a deeper level of each other, and need to continue that the rest of your lives. The learning is in each other, understanding each other more, and embracing the beauty within each other and expressed together as a couple. So it is with this as well; you're a few meters past the start line, and there's much to explore.

Our society gets soooo wrapped up in the idea that you absolutely must be monogamous for a relationship to work. While this lifestyle isn't for everybody, monogamy isn't the only way. Now the two of you have learned a new way. What people fail to see with consensual non-monogamy is that the closeness you have with your wife and she with you is far, far above what she might share with a lover.

There's reason to be cautious though. Not in the sense that you have an external threat to be concerned about; you don't. I'm also not suggesting putting on the brakes. Not at all! Now that you've crossed the bridge, learning how it works within your relationship is important. You both need to learn how that works with you, how it feels, where it goes. You don't have to plan things, but understanding your emotions as they evolve with this is part of the learning journey. Keep making communication a critical part of your journey, and keep exploring.

She notes she can see herself getting addicted to this. That's absolutely wonderful!!! Just be sure to keep your relationship front and center. For some, it can be too much, and you can lose yourself in all of it. I've seen couples where once the wife gets into this, she goes into the deep end and is fucking men left and right. When the husband is overwhelmed, and asks her to slow down, she says "You asked for this!" and disregards him. My wife and I met with one couple with whom we were considering playing. They played with another couple in the meantime, and boom...his wife left him right after it. Your wife does not sound like either of those types. Nevertheless, there's a lesson in that. Do this together, whether she's playing solo or in a threesome, the together aspect is important. This is a 'both-of-you' journey, not a 'her' journey.

There's a fair chance your wife is and will be having an awakening of the sexual creature within her. The endorphin rush off of this and future encounters will be powerful. Helping build that creature and giving it life will see her evolve into a woman you could not have imagined when you said 'I do'

Something to consider; emotions she may have for him or he for her. Right now, and for the next while, there's going to be new relationship euphoria. She'll want to fuck him again, probably as soon and as often as possible. There's nothing wrong with that, and it will feed that sexual creature awakening. This can be misinterpreted as love, as young people so often do. If she continues playing with him beyond the next few months, love could start playing into this. She could fall in love with him, or him with her, or both.

When my wife first started doing this, I told her I was perfectly fine with her fucking someone as much as she wanted, so long as our relationship was central and unharmed. We also recognized that the more she had sex with a particular guy, the more likely it would be that emotions would develop. So, we had a lot discussions about that. The answers you and your wife have for this may be different than ours. There's no right or wrong answer.

For us, the answer was this; if she found a guy whom she really enjoyed having sex with, why make him go away? In many ways this is dating like any other dating. You're going to find a fair number of duds before finding a good one. When she finds a good one, who really satisfies her in bed, why make him go away because you're worried about emotions? If you do that, you end up playing with a lot of duds with an occasional good one whom you send away. This just didn't make sense to us. We felt our relationship was plenty strong enough to handle this, given the agreement that either one of us could stop it if we felt things were going awry. It worked; over the years she found two lovers whom she fell in love with, and the sex just got better and better.

Your mileage may vary; some couples don't want to risk the love aspect, and also want to embrace having lots and lots of new partners, to explore different men. After all, that's kind of the point, isn't it? Getting to explore new men? You can have both as well; be in love with another lover and still exploring other men. Lots of different ways to play this out. Just keep those lines of communication open!

... and I feel closer to her! The mind is a weird and wonderful thing!

Isn't it? It's an absolutely bizarre effect that a husband can feel so much closer to his wife after she's fucked another man. There's been times where I've held my wife while another man has been fucking her, and watching him move in and out of her makes me feel incredibly close to her. It's quite bizarre, but it's true. I tried to explain this to myself many years ago and just gave up. I just love it I eventually learned the term 'compersion', and found myself thinking I could get addicted to that You may too!

Thank you for such a thoughtful post. You’ve mentioned a lot of what I’ve been experiencing with more clarity than I could currently express in the day after.

While I’ve imagined it countless times, the reality of it hit me profoundly on an emotional level. Not just because it happened, but because we made it happen working together. That’s the part I keep going back to—it’s not just the sex, not even the turn-on (though that’s been overwhelming), but the fact that she trusted in us enough to make it happen.

I think the part that surprised me most is how intimate this has been for us.

Your point about emotional awareness really resonates. I feel excitement, but also caution. We’ve spoken a lot. I’m aware that feelings can grow, and while I’m not scared of that, I also know it needs constant recalibration. When the first picture came through last night of them in a selfie sat in the pub, I wasn’t expecting the ferocity of unexpected fear I felt wrapped in insane excitement. They looked like a well suited couple. It took me a couple of hours to process them looking like that. We’ve spoken about that today with honesty and reassurance. We also acknowledge that the situation is dynamic and she could develop feelings. However, her communication has ramped up in asking me how I’m feeling which is great and reassuring.
The part about some men getting lost or feeling disregarded hit a chord. I don’t feel that with her—not at all. If anything, she’s been pretty attuned to my feelings. But I can see how that might happen if communication slows down. And that’s not what either of us want.

I’ve definitely felt compersion. The moment she told me about her encounter, I shook. My body couldn’t make sense of the mix of arousal, awe, and emotion. It felt both animalistic and tender at the same time. And when she got home, when I touched her and kissed her, it was like I was seeing her with new eyes: she seems more alive through the act of having been with someone else.

Even though she went alone for her first meeting, we’re still treating it as a shared exploration, not just her adventure. And if she wants to see the same guy again (which she does) I’ll support it, as long as we stay centred in it being about us.

Your closing comment about compersion being addictive, is spot on. I can feel it already. But for now, I’m just trying to stay grateful and take things slowly and carefully

Thanks again for sharing your perspective—it helped more than you know.

[Swe_male]

Congratulations to both of you on a successful first time! Be proud of her she did it - she's a hotwife

Thank you, I’m immensely proud and feeling really close to her right now. So paradoxically weird to hear that another man that she hardly knows, fucked her anally, she asked for it and I feel closer to her! The mind is a weird and wonderful thing!

First of all, congratulations!

That's one of my big questions too! An other man fucks her, sha ask him to do that and I feel closer to her. How is our brain built?

[john1616]

Congratulations to both of you on a successful first time! Be proud of her she did it - she's a hotwife

Thank you, I’m immensely proud and feeling really close to her right now. So paradoxically weird to hear that another man that she hardly knows, fucked her anally, she asked for it and I feel closer to her! The mind is a weird and wonderful thing!

First of all, congratulations!

That's one of my big questions too! An other man fucks her, sha ask him to do that and I feel closer to her. How is our brain built?

Thank you. As this story unfolds, I’m getting slow drips of ridiculously erotic details from my wife.
Last night while we were fucking, we were naturally still discussing her feelings and mine about what she enjoyed the most. She then told me that not only did she ask him to fuck her anally, she asked him to cum up her arse.
As you can imagine, this drove me wild with the sheer erotic, taboo, animalistic intensity of hearing my wife who only a few months ago was not even considering fucking another man. Although, she has said that she had been considering as much more of reality for about a year, but didn’t have the confidence.
Speaking of the paradox, the only way that I can make sense of this is that I have witnessed her at her most abandoned, free and confident and yet she has returned to me. That is a trust and a feeling that I can’t adequately verbalise what it means to me other than it’s brought a completely new level of closeness that I feel, paradoxically by letting her fuck another man.

[bbarnsworth]

Thanks again for sharing your perspective—it helped more than you know.

I like helping people. It's not that I think I have the answers. I do have experience to share. My wife and I have been doing this for 17 years. She's less active now, and I'm more active, but 17 years in and we've lots of stories to share and wisdom to pass on. If it helps someone, great! You two seemed to be on the right path, and I was really hoping things went well. I remember the first time my wife played solo I was an absolute adrenaline wreck. I thought I could offer some insight.

[john1616]

So, as a follow up, my wife returned from her second visit and a few interesting things have arisen.Before she got back the videos came through and they were outstanding. I was viewing them and desperately trying not to play with myself so that the sexual tension would be maximised for when she got home. She looked absolutely beautiful sucking his cock, rimming him and being fucked from behind. Something that I wasn’t expecting was how insanely turned on I was by watching the guy do something to her that isn’t in our repertoire. She was going down on him and he moved her hair out of the way to get a better camera shot but did it in a dominant way by gathering her hair back and visibly tugging her head back. As long as I have known her she has gone mad if someone or something has pulled her hair, due to a previous abusive boyfriend when she was younger.

However, she didn’t bat an eyelid when this guy did it and said that she enjoyed it. For some reason, (perhaps having a slight cuckold leaning) this drove me wild.
Anyway, whilst fucking in doggy they both came together. This was the first time he’d cum inside her and now I was seriously looking forward to the creampie. She had a few hours drive home and unfortunately the cum didn’t survive the journey. I couldn’t even smell a whiff of it, however the oral I gave her was certainly heightened by knowing he had actually cum inside her. She did tell me that she had tried her best to retain it, but she felt some drop out on her hand when she came and there was some on the bed. So, I’m still waiting for that moment to cum where we play together and I can get straight in there.

The other aspect that was unexpected was that she said that he has difficulty maintaining an erection and seemed to go soft at random times and only got hard again when she started blowing him again. A little boost to my ego came when she said he’s not like you- you never go soft at all, like ever. I did wonder if he’s got a bit of medical erectile dysfunction, as she said he pissed a crazy amount of times while they were together, potentially diabetic I thought.
Anyway, as luck would have it a much younger guy has popped up as a potential and seems super keen to meet, so I’m hoping to update if that meet happens and I can finally say that I’ve entered the lifestyle myself and not just vicariously through my wife!

[Drakebelg]

This is a fantastic example of working together and communicating well and making her confident to let go. Well done. It seems like her health scare made a click to really take all pleasure that she can. My wife 55 is getting so close and say she really wants to do it but of course has doubts, guilt, nerves, confidence etc. She is very physically sexual so she knows she will love it.

It's also good i believe for her that you are letting her go solo until she is comfortable for you to join in.

For the creampie, maybe wait somewhere nearby and have her sit on your face in the car or another hotel?


When I brought up a hotwife/stag scenario my wife put it to me hard. No way will i be there. She will be in charge, going solo, picking the men (preferably Alpha). It was all a bit shocking, bringing up my bad PE since day 1, saying i'm not at all an alpha, calling me subby. Since then weve played with chastity, flr, prejac speed training and i'm never allowed to initiate sex.

[leander99]

Any news?

[Midnight Joker]

Anyway, as luck would have it a much younger guy has popped up as a potential and seems super keen to meet, so I’m hoping to update if that meet happens and I can finally say that I’ve entered the lifestyle myself and not just vicariously through my wife!

Hope all is well with you and your wife.

[john1616]

Unfortunately not, still waiting for schedules to allow. As the summer season has passed our daughter will be able to babysit our other children and hopefully set up a meet. We’ve been close, even set a date and yet again the guy flunked out on us, despite appearing super keen on messages.
Our new rule is that the guy has to book the hotel as a sign of good faith and then we would pay half if the meeting actually takes place. I think we are learning that this is not an easy process to find bi guys!

[curious42too]

Congratulations, John!

What a beautiful and hot wife you have.
I think you handled yourself like a really decent husband and partner.

Tom