What are the motivations for this?

[re556]

Hello. I will call myself Re. I am currently 27 years old.

I have recently been in a relationship that has lasting approximately 2 years. Our sex life is relatively active. For some time now, I have noticed that my boyfriend has started to introduce some questions about imagining me with more guys at the same time or asking me if I wanted something/someone different in sex.

I confess that I found it a little strange at first, but I started to think about the subject during our adventures, although we have not gone ahead with it so far.

I started to research this subject to learn more and what the possible "motivations" would be for him to start wanting this, and I found some interesting discussion places, such as this forum.

I notice that most of the participants here are men, which can bring interesting and different answers. I would like to know, what are your desires and motivations for seeing your girlfriends/wives with someone else?

Is it some fantasy, a desire to see her with someone superior or with a bigger member, or is it just a momentary diversion? Feel free to ask anything too.

[Her number1]

Hello. I will call myself Re. I am currently 27 years old.

I have recently been in a relationship that has lasting approximately 2 years. Our sex life is relatively active. For some time now, I have noticed that my boyfriend has started to introduce some questions about imagining me with more guys at the same time or asking me if I wanted something/someone different in sex.

I confess that I found it a little strange at first, but I started to think about the subject during our adventures, although we have not gone ahead with it so far.

I started to research this subject to learn more and what the possible "motivations" would be for him to start wanting this, and I found some interesting discussion places, such as this forum.

I notice that most of the participants here are men, which can bring interesting and different answers. I would like to know, what are your desires and motivations for seeing your girlfriends/wives with someone else?

Is it some fantasy, a desire to see her with someone superior or with a bigger member, or is it just a momentary diversion? Feel free to ask anything too.

Hi Re, nice to meet you.
My wife became an active hotwife in 1993, so it's not a "momentary diversion" for us. It's very much who we are.
You'll get all sorts of answers to your questions because though we are somewhat alike, we are yet different in what we like and what drives each of us and our wives.

Me, I don't see any man as superior to me and don't care what the size of her various lover's dicks are. She seeks out her own guys when she wants.
I like knowing she is sexually empowered by embracing her sexual creature. It is who she is and I love her for it!
Some men are afraid of a wife's sexuality. I and most men married to hotwives embrace it and adore our wives for it.

[tiedyeHotwife]

My husband describes as reliving the excitement of having sex with me the very first time.
"you know she's been fucking other men"
"women always dress sexiest for the first dates"
"giving you orgasms that first time, was the deepest expression of how much I desired you."

Getting home after a hotwife date - he experiences all of that again.

Sort of the ultimate way to keep our love life fresh and exiting - much like the very first time.

[Parsifal]

I like your starting assumption of a multiplicity or confluence of motives. Your questions asks of a plurality, of motive(s). A pallet of mixing colors. Families of motives like families of color. I'm fundamentally a compersionist who projects myself into her and into each of her lovers. I internalize both her lust for the other relationship and the his lust for her. Derivative energy. Mooight. I drink the white light of both of them because it warms my Spirit.

[parklife]

Me, I don't see any man as superior to me and don't care what the size of her various lover's dicks are. She seeks out her own guys when she wants.
I like knowing she is sexually empowered by embracing her sexual creature. It is who she is and I love her for it!

This! So much of this…. Add in a dose of, ‘she embraces her sexuality as she likes but chooses to truly share her intamicy with me’ makes me feel like I’m floating on cloud nine…

[trecital]

What are the motivations for this?

Well, are you sitting comfortably?
Good, then I'll begin......

But seriously, my point is that there are thousands of men reading and participating in these forums, and each of them might have a subtly different motivation.

Inevitably there are some popular themes that keep recurring.

But, you might be better trying to discuss this in more detail with your partner.

I know that partners aren't always good at telling the truth, or even find it difficult to explain their motivation.
But talking with him will get you further than 100 replies here.

Having said that, let the replies come. It doesn't hurt to hear others opinions and experiences.
Just don't rely on them to give you the answers to your partners motivations.

[Firesuite]

I notice that most of the participants here are men, which can bring interesting and different answers. I would like to know, what are your desires and motivations for seeing your girlfriends/wives with someone else?

1/ First and foremost; Its a massive turn on, a huge kink boost! That in a sense answers everything and nothing because the next question is what is it about it that really turns you on?

2/ Novelty factor... Speaking personally, I notice with my sexual partners that the Hotwife fantasy is more or less absent early on in the relationship... its once we are an established settled couple say 6 months in that I get these fantasies about her being with another guy. It feeds into to Esther Perel's "Mating In Captivity" theory. i.e. that settle relationships come at the expense of passion and sexual excitement you get at the start of the relationship.

3/ Its a shared secret taboo which bonds you in itself. Polite society has an issue with women seeking partners outside of her marriage or committed sexual relationship (or men for that matter). Once you transgress those societal sexual taboos as couple then you become 'partners in crime' so to speak... both transgressors bonded together.

4/ Compersion - feeling happy for your partners fulfilment - let's be honest most of us would probably be more fulfilled with more than one sexual/romantic partner the rest of our lives. There is something generous here then in the male spirt that says to his wife or female partner 'Go ahead, enjoy! I'm happy when you are happy.'

5/ I find my partner much more sexually appealing if I know she has been having sex with other men... or believe there is a real possibility she might. This ties in both with 'reclaim sex' (typically much hotter for those with the kink) and with sperm competition theory... i.e, male ejaculation is much stronger in order to boost his evolutionary chances if there is competition.

6/ We men can get a little complacent and take our women for granted. Again, having some "friendly competition" from other men who might be fucking your woman helps me not take my partner for granted and to value her even more than before... the woman in turn might be taking greater care of her appearance, second flush of youth etc.

7/ For some people (though by no means all) hotwifing can come with an exploration of ones sub/dom psycho-emotional traits... at least in my understanding a cuckold takes a submissive role than the hotwifer (stag) would. For the cuckold there is a certain pleasure in 'playing second fiddle' or being told to wait.

So those are the main key factors in my mind... I dare say there are others but these are the stand-out ones to me.

[money_for_nothin23]

First, thank you so much for "asking" and not immediately "judging". That is so critical to a healthy relationship, and asking about it, researching, is best for all involved.....regardless of your ultimate decision.

I am in my early 60s/married, and at 27, I can say I NEVER could have imagined myself getting into this sort of thing. In fact, it could have been quite challenging with kids, post-graduate degree, and all sorts of stuff going on. And, I am reasonably confident that in hindsight, I lacked a level of maturity and trust, and I was not good at communication with my spouse or understanding my feelings. That may or may not be your case. Today, I am in a much different place, and it is only over the last 8 years or so that I find myself very turned on by the entire hotwife thing.

What turns me on?
I love my wife with all my heart. She means everything to me. This is a second marriage for both of us, and its not like either of us hasn't been with other people before. Our kids are grown and out of the house.

As I have aged, the very best part of sex with my wife is that moment where she starts getting fired up and literally loses all control engulfed in orgasmic ecstasy. I LOVE to see her in that kind of pleasure, and will literally give her anything and everything to have her experience that over and over again. It is not something I can ever get bored with, as it is the most beautiful thing imaginable.....and gets me as a hard as rock!

I completely trust the relationship with my wife. Neither she, nor I, are going anywhere, and are completely married to each other and committed to each other. The truth is all of us can and do get turned on by someone else from time to time, and want to enjoy their sexual attention. If I completely trust my relationship, why wouldn't I want my wife to enjoy a different experience? There are things I cannot give her..... a different sized/shaped penis, multiple holes filled, the feeling of being the center of attention in a room of five horny guys who respect her, treat her well, and are attracted to her....and want to see her pleasured like I do.

The worst thing to a relationship is the hiding from each other, and subsequent lies. I love that we have the openness and truthfulness to share who we are with each other who we really are and what we really want....while staying completely committed to each other, making each other's life more enjoyable and fun.

[BT2]

What's the motivation? To us it is recreational sex. We do it, in moderation, because we like it. It's fun, it's enjoyable, and we've met some really nice people along the way. There is always informed consent prior to any sexual activity, hers or mine, and there is never any cheating. We trust each other to use good sense, so there is not the need for a long list of rules. We deeply care for each other - we don't believe this activity (being a hotwife or the male equivalent) would work for a marriage or relationship which is not strong, or already is in trouble.

We don't try to use any fabricated emotions like "I like to build her confidence", nor "my only motive is that I like to see her enjoy herself", nor comparisons to other men's penis size compared to my own, etc. We do it, in moderation, only because it is enjoyable.

Because it is acceptable to us, we have fallen into the trap a few times of believing that everybody else would be into it if given the opportunity. We found out we were wrong in that assumption, and it cost us a couple of friends. Also, keep in mind that this Forum will be frequented by people for whom the activity has worked out, or by people who want to try it. Those couples for which this activity did not work out are no longer on this forum, so you will get few negative comments nor negative advice.

So, whether you and your significant other want to try this is up to you. We on this form can't answer you. But we can give you our motivation(s).

[little sissy Benita]

Hello Re,

nice to meet you here:-)

We wanted to spice up sexlife after birth of second son - i think that i was also boring for her - i am not a sex god and i asleep always after i was finish. Well, and my willie was also small or tiny. 1,6insh.

A women need a real man in her bed and not a sissy baby like me - later she fall in love with her afican bf and started living as married couple - she said that her vagina was never streched like by him.

I accept that they a now husband and wife - and i know that it is normal for a wife to get pregnant by her husband - i am back into babyage though his family and that is best for me - i deserve to be treat as baby and that i must act as a baby

little Benita

[MartasBoy]

........ I would like to know, what are your desires and motivations for seeing your girlfriends/wives with someone else?

Re, our motivation can have many components that seem complex, but at the basis of it, it can also be quite simple.
I think that it is partly rooted in that ego trip that we all have when we receive validation that our partner is desirable.

In its simplest form, it is related to those times when we introduce a girlfriend to our group of buddies, and they privately tell us that she is beautiful, interesting, and sexy.

Women experience some form of this too, when a woman introduces a new guy to her girlfriend's, and they tell her that he's handsome and funny.

The next level, is when we catch random guys checking out our partner, or catch a guy flirting with her when we come back from the bathroom. Then, there is another level when one of our buddies hints that he could easily fantasize about her sexually.

So that's all the male ego validation that we receive, when we know that other men desire her. So first there is looking, then there is flirting, then there are verbal expressions of desire for her, and then the ultimate, would be if some guy actually has sex with her. That is the ultimate validation that others find her sexy and desirable. It's the validation that we have found a high status female partner.

Then, there are other facets of the motivation. Most of us men have sought out women that were not available to us. If we get any level of flirtation or attention from women we aren't likely to to ever be with, the fantasy is exciting. The feeling that maybe we came close.

So this creates a fantasy of denial that some of us find exciting. It occurs if our partner says, "I'm sorry Honey I can't have sex with you tonight. I'm still sore from last night with my boyfriend." Now you have become that unattainable woman, that we are denied sex with, at least for that one night.

Many of us have experienced a time where we dated a woman who was not going steady with us yet, and was dating another guy or guys. The jealousy can be exciting, knowing that this woman you desire, is currently with her other boyfriend. It creates jealousy that can run our emotions up and down from painful jealous desire, and the excitement of the unattainable woman. And, if that woman comes back to us, after being with the other guy, it's very exciting, and can be a bit of an ego trip. So, part of this motivation can be the element of jealousy and jealous desire.

Some of us have experienced rejection by beautiful women we desire, and we develop fantasies and arousal around being rejected. So if our wife or girlfriend says, "I'm sorry Honey. I'm not yours tonight. I have a date with HIM." That can be torturous, but exciting jealousy.

We have all experienced rejection by someone we desire. So some of us have fantasies around being rejected.

Most of us have, at times, felt some humiliation at being rejected. Many of us have had that experience where a woman tells us that she is busy with her job or school, and doesn't have time to date right now, then we see her out on a date with some guy.

Most of us have experienced the humiliation of having a woman break up with us, and end up with a guy who is perceived to be more desirable than us in some way, taller, stronger, better looking, or we imagine him possibly being better at sex. For some of us, this has become a fantasy or fetish for us. So, we may find it exciting if you tease us and tell us that your outside lover has a bigger penis, and it brings you pleasure in a way that we never have.

I think most of the guys on here, who have fantasies of their wife being with other men, fit into one or more of these fantasies. Some of us have all of these fantasies.

I hope this information is helpful for you. There are probably other types of motivation, that other guys will add to this.

[re556]

........ I would like to know, what are your desires and motivations for seeing your girlfriends/wives with someone else?

Re, our motivation can have many components that seem complex, but at the basis of it, it can also be quite simple.
I think that it is partly rooted in that ego trip that we all have when we receive validation that our partner is desirable.

In its simplest form, it is related to those times when we introduce a girlfriend to our group of buddies, and they privately tell us that she is beautiful, interesting, and sexy.

Women experience some form of this too, when a woman introduces a new guy to her girlfriend's, and they tell her that he's handsome and funny.

The next level, is when we catch random guys checking out our partner, or catch a guy flirting with her when we come back from the bathroom. Then, there is another level when one of our buddies hints that he could easily fantasize about her sexually.

So that's all the male ego validation that we receive, when we know that other men desire her. So first there is looking, then there is flirting, then there are verbal expressions of desire for her, and then the ultimate, would be if some guy actually has sex with her. That is the ultimate validation that others find her sexy and desirable. It's the validation that we have found a high status female partner.

Then, there are other facets of the motivation. Most of us men have sought out women that were not available to us. If we get any level of flirtation or attention from women we aren't likely to to ever be with, the fantasy is exciting. The feeling that maybe we came close.

So this creates a fantasy of denial that some of us find exciting. It occurs if our partner says, "I'm sorry Honey I can't have sex with you tonight. I'm still sore from last night with my boyfriend." Now you have become that unattainable woman, that we are denied sex with, at least for that one night.

Many of us have experienced a time where we dated a woman who was not going steady with us yet, and was dating another guy or guys. The jealousy can be exciting, knowing that this woman you desire, is currently with her other boyfriend. It creates jealousy that can run our emotions up and down from painful jealous desire, and the excitement of the unattainable woman. And, if that woman comes back to us, after being with the other guy, it's very exciting, and can be a bit of an ego trip. So, part of this motivation can be the element of jealousy and jealous desire.

Some of us have experienced rejection by beautiful women we desire, and we develop fantasies and arousal around being rejected. So if our wife or girlfriend says, "I'm sorry Honey. I'm not yours tonight. I have a date with HIM." That can be torturous, but exciting jealousy.

We have all experienced rejection by someone we desire. So some of us have fantasies around being rejected.

Most of us have, at times, felt some humiliation at being rejected. Many of us have had that experience where a woman tells us that she is busy with her job or school, and doesn't have time to date right now, then we see her out on a date with some guy.

Most of us have experienced the humiliation of having a woman break up with us, and end up with a guy who is perceived to be more desirable than us in some way, taller, stronger, better looking, or we imagine him possibly being better at sex. For some of us, this has become a fantasy or fetish for us. So, we may find it exciting if you tease us and tell us that your outside lover has a bigger penis, and it brings you pleasure in a way that we never have.

I think most of the guys on here, who have fantasies of their wife being with other men, fit into one or more of these fantasies. Some of us have all of these fantasies.

I hope this information is helpful for you. There are probably other types of motivation, that other guys will add to this.

Hmm, excellent answer.

Since I asked this question here, I've been reading some other topics and decided to open up to my boyfriend.

I asked him if he had any desires he wanted to tell me about and he told me that he wanted to see me with another guy, with a bigger dick. He said that sometimes he catches himself imagining me having sex with someone else and doing more banal things. We've been talking about this more and more when we can.

I believe it's a desire to feel something he loves being used by someone else.

[MartasBoy]

........ I would like to know, what are your desires and motivations for seeing your girlfriends/wives with someone else?

Re, our motivation can have many components that seem complex, but at the basis of it, it can also be quite simple.
I think that it is partly rooted in that ego trip that we all have when we receive validation that our partner is desirable.....

Hmm, excellent answer.

Since I asked this question here, I've been reading some other topics and decided to open up to my boyfriend.

I believe it's a desire to feel something he loves being used by someone else.

I think that is a very likely explanation. There may also be some element of humiliation fantasy. From the time we are adolescents, we guys focus on penis size as a perceived measure of manhood. Some of us have humiliation fantasies, of being shown up by some guy who is superior to us in that way.

I don't know how I developed that fantasy, but I know I have it. It may stem from times when I have had a highly desirable woman break up with me for some other guy, and and I continued to sexually fantasize about her, after I lost her.

My wife and I started with a bedroom role play, to play with this fantasy. I would ask her to tell me about an imaginary lover. I would ask to know why she was seeing this imaginary lover "Andre." She would tell me that he had a cock that was much larger than mine, and it pleasured her in ways that I have never been able to do. She initially had trouble doing this, and felt guilty about it. But one night, while she was telling me about her lover, she was fondling me, and felt me get more erect, as she got deeper into the story. At one point she exclaimed, "Oh my god! This really does turn you on. I can feel you getting more erect in my hand, as I tell you this."

You can test this by asking your boyfriend if he would like to roleplay hearing about you with another man. You can start the story by saying, "Well, I met him recently at________. His name is ___________. It was that day when you were busy doing __________. I hadn't told you about this previously, because I didn't want to hurt your feelings. There was this immediate attraction between us, and we flirted. I was wearing that one outfit that always seems to draw a lot of attention from guys. It's that one you really like.

I never imagined that I would do something like this, but after talking for a while, he told me his house was nearby, and he asked me if I wanted to go home with him. For some reason, I found myself incredibly attracted to him so I agreed to go to his place with him."

Then describe what this imaginary lover looks like, and describe the things you did with him at his place. You can be stroking your boyfriend while you're telling him this story. Our penis is a phenomenal barometer of what arouses us. You will likely feel him get more erect in your hand, as you tell him the story. You will be able to tell which elements of the story are most arousing for him.

Another element of this fantasy, that many of us experience, is the fantasy of reclamation sex. It is the desire to have sex with our woman, after she has been with her other lover, to reclaim her as our woman. It is the fantasy of knowing that some other man has laid his seed in our woman, and left his scent on her, and we must now lay our seed, and leave our scent on her, as well.

You can test this by adding more to the story saying, "I want to be completely honest with you. I just came from his place. We just had sex. I should probably take a shower to clean his scent off of me, before we make love." Your boyfriend will likely get very excited and want to make love to you right then. You may experience some of the most intense sex you have had with him.

There can also be elements of risk-taking and danger, in these fantasies. I know that I have always been turned on when I come back from the men's room, and find some guy hitting on my girlfriend, and now my wife. It's the risk, of knowing I could lose her to another guy, and wanting to win her back.

My wife particularly likes the way I go down on her. She will tease me by telling me that one of the reasons she is obsessed with her other lover, is that he gives her the best oral sex she has ever had with anybody. This triggers desires on my part, to compete with this guy. This triggers an intense desire in me, to see how many times I can bring her to orgasm with my mouth. My wife has come to really enjoy teasing me in this way.

This all may seem weird. Most of us guys have only a little bit of insight into how we came to have these fantasies, but we do, and they are very common.

If you try this role play with your boyfriend, I know there are many of us here who would love to hear how it plays out for you both.

[discreetlys husband]

I copied Hernumber1’s answer. It is my answer too. I’m enthralled with her sexuality and being the husband that gives her emotional, loving support and safety for her to flex her feminine sexuality is the best feeling ever.

“Me, I don't see any man as superior to me and don't care what the size of her various lover's dicks are. She seeks out her own guys when she wants.
I like knowing she is sexually empowered by embracing her sexual creature. It is who she is and I love her for it!
Some men are afraid of a wife's sexuality. I and most men married to hotwives embrace it and adore our wives for it.”

[layer5]

I haven't done any of this, but I do like to read this forum. I have dated a lot of women and I can tell you that I think its about wanting to know what she really thinks about.

An example I have is - I've been at the beach with a GF and caught her checking men out. It does make me jealous - so it may be about facing a fear.

Keep in mind also that society is pretty voyeuristic and that goes back to wanting to know your girls most base desires. In most cases, we know what it is here. The aesthetics of a larger member, and power and muscle is going to excite women.

I think men are also catching on that they may have unfaithful partners and they want to control that by opening things up.

Many women if they are honest prefer to date multiple men and they are so much better at doing it. They also seem to have different men for different things.

I also think there is a lot of pleasure after a massive build up and the mind fucking that these women are giving their husbands.

[friskyous]

Great question...great answers.

[oregoncpl]

Our motivation has to do with strengthening our relationship. My wife was very promiscuous before we met. She chose me in part, because she was ready to settle down and have a family. I was not chosen for my sexual prowess, quite the opposite I'd say. While not rich, I was stable. Our sex life was never great, mainly because she had already experienced so much variety and men far better endowed and talented than I. Once we got older and our family was set, she began expressing her frustration more and more. While we are massively in love, she needs more than I am able to provide sexually and denying her that would be terrible of me. Once we reached our 50's, due to age and medication, I can't get it up at all. She is an amazing woman and has enough affection in her heart for more than one man. Having this need satisfied has allowed us to grow closer and focus on what makes us love each other, which was never the sex. Their relationship doesn't come up in conversation much, unless she and her lover are having problems or want to make out of town plans. I consider him her "Therapy" and it is simply a vital part of our lives.

[Angela Plays]

For us…..it’s recreational. Pretty simple.

[DCaftermath]

I find my wife extremely attractive. We’re married now 24 years. I swear my attraction hasn’t lowered at all , I find her even more irresistible today than day one and believe me she was over the top then too. I don’t know what to give more credit to, the lifestyle or her being like fine wine.

Having seen her with other men has 100% dropped the scales from my eyes. It’s allowed me to see her in a different light. She just looks amazing doing the deed and because I don’t feel less than other men, I just don’t feel threatened.

I think she’s one in something, not sure if it one in a hundred, thousand or a million but it’s up there. It probably sounds crazy, because the assets we’re given we have little to do with, but I feel she is deserving of male attention and she’s deserving to take what she wants.

As her husband it feels just great to know that she walks through our lives knowing she can have anything that comes her way that she is sexually interested in. I hope it’s as liberating to her as it is to me. Sure there are some risks involved regarding emotions, but I feel there are not any more risks than within a relationship that casual sex is off the table. That only forces paths to be separated and secrets kept.

My motivations are that I think she rocks, I want her to live a full life with my support. I am motivated to keep her libido to the max or at least not cause it to lower prematurely. I am motivated by sexual scenarios playing out about her and satisfied by any visual musings that I can happen by. And I am motivated by just being in her front row. And lastly, but not last in importance, I am motivated by being fortunate enough to have amazing sex with her myself.

If you’ve ever seen the movie with Al Pacino, Scent of a Woman, there’s a scene where he got with an upscale prostitute. He comes back to his limo and sits in the back seat. He is totally satiated and in awe with just having been with such a magnificent woman. I feel that way after every time being with my wife. I immediately start looking forward to the next wonderful opportunity to be with her again in that way.

[MartasBoy]

Hello. I will call myself Re. I am currently 27 years old.....

...I confess that I found it a little strange at first, but I started to think about the subject during our adventures, although we have not gone ahead with it so far.....

..... Feel free to ask anything too.

Well Re, now that you have received a lot of insights from different people, I'm curious to know what you think about it all, at this point.
How do you feel about all of this, and what personal interests have been piqued for you, if any?

If you are comfortable sharing, what ways would you be interested in proceeding with all of this, if any.

[StockingHubby]

Such an amazing thread. Saw some new ideas I hadn’t considered before. Thanks

[luvwives999]

Re, in my case the motivation was 2 fold. First there was the visual aspect of seeing my wife naked with another man there, looking at her with fresh eyes, like seeing her naked for the first time, and of course men are very visual and like watching porn so what could be better than having your own porn star. However, as a disclaimer, we have been married for 49 years, yet I only watched her once. We did go to swing clubs for a while, so I did get to see her interact with other men, just no intercourse. The second motivation was her self-esteem, and her sexual confidence. She had 5 lovers over the years without me there, but it made our sex life better. What I would say is, do what you feel comfortable doing. Looking back, we have no regrets over anything we did, our regrets are for opportunities we didn't take advantage of.

[10ur]

I want this because I love my wife more than anything else on earth.There are a few men that my wife finds sexually attractive and she is dying to get fucked by them.
She has been doing everything to make me happy since the day we met.
Life is too short and my wife definitely deserves to experience these wonderful feelings.

[bewareoflizzy]

I sensed her restlessness as we moved into our mid 30's and approached our 10th anniversary after having 2 children. Her sex drive was off the charts and I started having fantasies of her with a guy...a younger guy...hung...who could give her everything I couldn't. She did fulfill every fantasy I could dream of, and more.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

Initial motivation:
I met my wife when she was a 19-year-old virgin. I am four years older than her, and I had been with around a dozen different sexual partners by the time we met.

We married after eight months of dating.

I felt guilty, a bit, that I had “robbed” her of the inevitable sexual experiences she would have had if I hadn’t come along when I did. Nothing could have punctuated this point better than watching her get lit up with sexual excitement when a progressive friend and his wife visited from out of state and fucked in front of us. We were all about your age, in our 20s. We didn’t swap, but she was definitely liked what she saw when my friend (and his VERY nice-sized dick) made his wife cum for us. Never got to swap as they left the next morning. But that started a whole chain of events that eventually led to her wanting to try sex with someone different than me. My wife, Asian and petite, has never had a shortage of admiring men, so when she landed on a handsome coworker’s cock, she was absolutely thrilled to discover a confidence she had never known before. I was elated to see her get some sexual experience beyond me.

Current motivation:
She loves living more freely, now, giving herself to a sort of second husband. Of course, I have been thrilled to watch her cumming with another man. (It’s an unforgettable experience…EVERY TIME.) She has been thrilled to have some variety. And her boyfriend is certainly thrilled to experience sex…and now a full-blown relationship…with such a beautiful woman without the guilt of getting her to cheat on her husband. Win-win-win.