How many people are having problems finding lovers

[2inUPMichigan]

I have had 5 new men contact me within the last few weeks and I live in a rural area.

Finding willing men is easy. Finding compatible men who respect your marriage and your husband and are interested in long term situations are not as easy to find.

[H2100309]

I have had 5 new men contact me within the last few weeks and I live in a rural area.

Finding willing men is easy. Finding compatible men who respect your marriage and your husband and are interested in long term situations are not as easy to find.

I agree with this so much. I can find men easily, cousins, strangers in supermarkets, father in law, sister's husband, husbands' friends, they all stare at me with lustful eyes and they are not at my eye level. Finding an attractive partner that can get my heart rate up happen a few times a year, but timing gets in the way so most encounters end up as lost opportunities.

[DedicatedHubby2013]

Maybe the pandemic is making everyone lonely, but my wife had no trouble finding guys recently.
She cast a wide net on a few dating sites, but it didn't take her long to find some promising prospects, line up some meet and greet dates, then proceed to meet in private for fun.
She was up front about being married in an open relationship, and seeking a guy for a casual friends with benefits style relationship.

[4herpleasure89]

The process of vetting guys can be daunting but no problem finding guys she finds interesting. I think after a few years you develop good partners and searching becomes less of a necessity.

While many were taking a break for Covid my wife was more active than ever before with two exclusive partners.

[10ur]

It's very difficult to find someone who is trustworthy, healthy, and someone my wife would find sexually attractive. These three key elements must come together.

[Husband7]

I think we had issues with her finding guys at the beginning, but as she's learned "the game" better over the years, she finds that the guys are now finding her. Must be some sort of hotwife energy or aura she's sending out. Last time she went to a bar by herself, she said she had a group for men just hanging on her every word and vying for her attention. Obviously not all of those men are perfect, so some of them get ignored, but there are usually some gems in the crowd.

[Bodenn78]

I have normally been the one to set things up. Of I find someone I think she might like I let her see his picture. If that passes we will go from there.
In the beginning the men only get to talk to me. It will weed out the guys just trying to jack off if you keep it that way.
Nothing happens same day. As in our first email or text never ends with a meet-up that day. Always later in the week and always in a public place.
I prefer to meet the man one on one in public to make sure they say who they say they are. At that point the vetting on my end is done and I introduce the wife. Either right then or at another meeting. It is good to be able to go play right away but we have done both to set up a time later after the first meet-up.
One of you has to weed out the bullshitters. My wife chose that person to be me.

[Englishcouple]

My wife absolutely doesn't have a 'type' and for her, attraction is based on a connection, circumstances and spontaneity.

With these variables, opportunity is a key factor in actually making it happen. I realised a long time ago that I would have had to create opportunities if I wanted anything to actually happen.

[MillStMan]

Surprised at the number of men that are so very involved in the selection process of finding lovers for their Hotwife.
In the beginning, when we both acknowledged her step into this lifestyle, I was a bit selfish in that I thought that I'd get to live vicariously thru my wife's sexual romps. When I suggested a lover for her, and I will never forget her comment, "if you think he's so good, go fuck him yourself". What I learned was her tastes were hers and that they changed depending on her moods.
So, I do not interfere with her searching, confiding in me a few years ago that she doesn't go looking per sec. The best meetings she said, are just sort of spontaneous.

[Wifesharing]

When we first start and most our contact were from online She hated the screening part every guy we decided to meet showed up and were great but like others have said the amount of screening and time was just not her thing she said it felt like work. So now we still do some meeting that way but I do all screening and pass them off to her once I am sure.

She meets 95% of her other men out in the "Wild" when we are out at a concert or a Bar after a date, she also meets them at the carwash Grocery store and just about anywhere else she is a very outgoing friendly person.

[chard]

No problem for us. However, my wife Hannah never needed my help back in her active years. Long before we married she went out one night every week with her girlfriends. Thursday nights were girly nights and because one of the local social clubs had live music and dancing every Thursday night, the girls, because they loved dancing, would go there. Eventually, because they were regular attendee's, they took out membership of the club. They continued to meet up at the club every Thursday night for years, even after they were all married.

Because Hannah spent most of the night on the dance floor, she danced with a lot of guys and inevitably she was often hit on and propositioned. Hannah of course was flattered by the attention but rejected all their advances and told me everything, I trusted her completely.

[chard]

No problem for us. However, my wife Hannah never needed my help during the years she was active. Long before we married she went out one night every week with her girlfriends. Thursday nights were girly nights and because one of the local social clubs had live music and dancing every Thursday night, the girls, because they loved dancing, would go there. Eventually, because they were regular attendee's, they took out membership of the club. They continued to meet up at the club every Thursday night for years, even after they were all married.

Because Hannah spent most of the night on the dance floor, she danced with a lot of guys and inevitably she was often hit on and propositioned. Hannah of course was flattered by the attention but rejected all their advances, she told me everything and I trusted her completely.

Because of problems Hannah experienced with her pregnancies, after the successful birth of our second child she decided not to go through it again and decided to get her tubes tied. We both benefitted from this because neither of us liked using condoms, we could enjoy unprotected sex.

When we had the discussion where we decided to open up our marriage, Hannah was easily convinced. She knew that there were plenty of available men at the club who were desperate to win her affections. Even more so at this time, because there were hundreds of construction workers who lodging in our area. Many of these guys found their way to the club where Hannah and her friends were, looking to hook up with ladies.

Hannah obviously had this in mind when she agreed to our arrangement because she wanted to experience sex with another man, she was beyond excited at the prospect, because she knew it was finally going to happen. and it did. The following Thursday night she hooked up with a guy. At the end of the night he took her back to the apartment he shared with another guy with the result that she was fucked by both of them.

That's how it started for us and over the coming years Hannah revelled in her new found freedom. Week after week she was hooking up with someone she met at her club, not necessarily a different guy every week, she had a few regulars, but she was certainly getting fucked every Thursday night. Because her tubes were tied, all her lovers were able to enjoy taking her bareback.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

Reading this thread is humbling.

I say that because Maria had ZERO problems finding her two boyfriends. Coworkers.

Sure, they wanted desperately to fuck her…maybe to get her to cheat on me. But as soon as we told them that I’m FULLY on board, that I know about her extramarital desires and that I have always encouraged her to play, she dropped it on them that she wasn’t looking for a fling. She told them that she wanted something more permanent and regular, a *real* boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with full benefits every week, sometimes twice a week.

The fellows, for their part, were blown away by the opportunity. (Both of them wanted to confirm it all with me face-to-face over a beer and burger.) Being Asian (Japanese-Filipino), Maria has an exotic look to many men here in America. Girlish. Petite. Eternally youthful looking. These fellows couldn’t believe their luck.

There was NEVER a problem attracting her boyfriends…with several waiting in the wings for their shot.

She’s been happy with the two, though. “No need to get too greedy,” she says. She’s thoroughly enjoying herself…..and so is her boyfriend. And they both know I couldn’t be happier for her. (And I guess I’m happy for them, too. It’s a real privilege, and she’s a lot of fun in the sack.)

So, it’s humbling to read the frustration that’s evident from this entire thread. If I could make a wish, I’d want all of you to have the easy time that we’ve had.

[triciawest1970]

Ive been told I am being too picky

[Bucky_Gilbert]

I have a profile on 3 online dating sites since I started HW 6 weeks ago. It seems that I am having about a 50% success rate on finding a fb. I have met 6 men - had sex with 4 of them (1 great, 1 good, 1 bad, 1 couldn't get it up), 2 said they would like to be regulars, 2 I just wasn't attracted to. I have 2 more that I am talking to and hope to meet within the next week. I think it's not so much the meeting a fb but to have one that can satisfy me so I would like to see him again. I don't just want to have sex, I was to have GREAT sex! It's not quanity but quality

What are the sites or apps that you use and how do the ones you use compare to one another? I’m looking for a FWB when I travel for work(I go back to the same areas often), so I look to look for women (or couples) in the area, but I’m not having any luck. Maybe it’s me, and that’s always a possibility, but maybe I’m not searching in the right places either.

[Dutchpride7]

From A Bull's perspective:
I've read a lot of what everyone has wrote. Regardless of what many may think of write,I myself am very picky & choosy as far as whom I choose to be with & associated with. Just because I have a penis & maybe a dime a dozen according too some of you here. Does not mean I myself have standards & criteria that I prefer & demand. Just because some hotwife of hubbie might think that his hotwifes twat is so fucking hot! Doesn't mean that ANY guy,lover,bf,bull,Stallione might think so? So before you get your panties all in a wad thinking your this or that,Back -off and think about it!
I myself go through a rigorous screening especially upon just meeting someone & definitely not in a big hurry until I decide through communication,meeting several times and really getting to know the couple in a genuine & real way of friendship, before ANYTHING goes down. I do take a lot of pride in that myself.

[dreamer72]

From A Bull's perspective:
I've read a lot of what everyone has wrote. Regardless of what many may think of write,I myself am very picky & choosy as far as whom I choose to be with & associated with. Just because I have a penis & maybe a dime a dozen according too some of you here. Does not mean I myself have standards & criteria that I prefer & demand. Just because some hotwife of hubbie might think that his hotwifes twat is so fucking hot! Doesn't mean that ANY guy,lover,bf,bull,Stallione might think so? So before you get your panties all in a wad thinking your this or that,Back -off and think about it!
I myself go through a rigorous screening especially upon just meeting someone & definitely not in a big hurry until I decide through communication,meeting several times and really getting to know the couple in a genuine & real way of friendship, before ANYTHING goes down. I do take a lot of pride in that myself.

Yep, totally agree. Back in my days of consorting with wives and couple I was quite fortunate to have met some great people, but it took ALOT of effort. Most people, on adult oriented dating sites at the time were quite rude and unrealistic in their demands. Problem is that the same small demographic of desirable men the HW community is seeking are also highly desirable in the regular dating world. So those men don't have any trouble getting laid, so treating them like you're doing them a favor and excessive "hoop jumping" drives the good ones away. The most important thing I would pass along to HWs and couples is treat your potential "playmates" with some dignity and respect, they are still human after all, and he is bringing something valuable to the table as well.

If you want a quality man remember that he is a real person with a real life and responsibilities also. Is it a "rare treat" to be welcomed into a married pussy with her husbands full support and encouragement? Absolutely, and for a quality man that understands and values that I think he would be willing to put in a little extra effort to make sure everyone is comfortable and a good time is had by all. But if you push it too far and F around to much he will just move on because getting pussy isn't that difficult. In my experience at the time (it may be different now that HW/Cucking is more common) is the husbands were way to controlling and intrusive and it really ruined the vibe alot of times. So hubbies......just chill out and enjoy the show if you're allowed to watch, don't act like you're a porn film director. Let your wife relax and enjoy being fucked and let it play out naturally.

So that's my take.......Happy Hunting Y'all

[Dutchpride7]

Very well spoken & said Dreamer72.
I find taking the time that it does take to really meet a couple & become friends & feel comfortable with each other is huge & a big aspect for me. Also respect those who also don't care to have a real& genuine friendship,but rather something is quick & efficient . Either way has a lot to do with personal choices. All good. Opinions are the samething,everyone has one.
The process has always worked great & impeccable for me as far as the process I adhere too. And to each their own . I would want & hope everyone would enjoy & live the lifestyle the desire & choose.All the IBest...

[Tryagain]

For us the problem is not getting lovers. It is KEEPING the lovers. Tjanks god we have recently found a keeper.

[triciawest1970]

My husband says I am "too picky"

[HotwifeBabs]

Holy necro thread Batman. Wow, it's strange seeing the names of some of the old-timers on the first two pages.

[hornedhubby]

Yes. Many voices that I miss a lot. Some that were very kind and welcoming to me when I began posting here.

Most of their stories and their wise commentary are now long gone, too. Kind of bittersweet.

Traces remain on some of the oldest on-going threads.

Good to hear from you, HotwifeBabs.