Where are all the cuckqueens?

[Angela Plays]

Maybe a slightly different perspective, and you can take a look at my story if your interested. We didn't enter the LS with any real intent, and although my husband was always intricately involved from the beginning, from joining to reclaiming, we did evolve into very much a HW type of thing. Now with that being said, almost a year ago my husband began seeing other women. I would be lying if I said I didn't suffer some angst over it, and a bit of initial jealousy, but I also thought a great deal about how much he loves me and all hes done to allow me my sexual exploration and growth, and I didn't feel it was right not to reciprocate to him. After getting over some of my initial insecurities, I've grown to the point that it really turns me on to see him with another woman, and I find it quite beautiful. Just growth and evolution of the relationship I suppose.

[Parsifal]

Maybe a slightly different perspective, and you can take a look at my story if your interested. We didn't enter the LS with any real intent, and although my husband was always intricately involved from the beginning, from joining to reclaiming, we did evolve into very much a HW type of thing. Now with that being said, almost a year ago my husband began seeing other women. I would be lying if I said I didn't suffer some angst over it, and a bit of initial jealousy, but I also thought a great deal about how much he loves me and all hes done to allow me my sexual exploration and growth, and I didn't feel it was right not to reciprocate to him. After getting over some of my initial insecurities, I've grown to the point that it really turns me on to see him with another woman, and I find it quite beautiful. Just growth and evolution of the relationship I suppose.

This is a good post to file away as an anomaly in my tentative theory that women aren't as predisposed to it as men. Most general rules have exceptions, and enough exceptions will always, without exception, cause me to rethink my general rule.

[coastalkid]

Maybe a slightly different perspective, and you can take a look at my story if your interested. We didn't enter the LS with any real intent, and although my husband was always intricately involved from the beginning, from joining to reclaiming, we did evolve into very much a HW type of thing. Now with that being said, almost a year ago my husband began seeing other women. I would be lying if I said I didn't suffer some angst over it, and a bit of initial jealousy, but I also thought a great deal about how much he loves me and all hes done to allow me my sexual exploration and growth, and I didn't feel it was right not to reciprocate to him. After getting over some of my initial insecurities, I've grown to the point that it really turns me on to see him with another woman, and I find it quite beautiful. Just growth and evolution of the relationship I suppose.

Thanks for sharing your perspective!

[bbarnsworth]

I think cuckqueens are quite a bit more rare than standard cucks. Certainly cuckqueens are out there though. My wife and I did run into one many years ago on a swinger site. The wife of the couple in question was the one doing the postings. We interacted with her over several emails back and forth. She had no interest in playing with me or any other guy, but she did want to find women whom her husband could fuck. We never did meet up with them but only because the husband smoked, and that was a deal breaker for my wife. She's very sensitive to that aroma.

[Angela Plays]

Maybe a slightly different perspective, and you can take a look at my story if your interested. We didn't enter the LS with any real intent, and although my husband was always intricately involved from the beginning, from joining to reclaiming, we did evolve into very much a HW type of thing. Now with that being said, almost a year ago my husband began seeing other women. I would be lying if I said I didn't suffer some angst over it, and a bit of initial jealousy, but I also thought a great deal about how much he loves me and all hes done to allow me my sexual exploration and growth, and I didn't feel it was right not to reciprocate to him. After getting over some of my initial insecurities, I've grown to the point that it really turns me on to see him with another woman, and I find it quite beautiful. Just growth and evolution of the relationship I suppose.

Thanks for sharing your perspective!

You’ve known how I feel on the subject. I have no issue putting it out there or being the exception to the rule.

[Parsifal]

Maybe a slightly different perspective, and you can take a look at my story if your interested. We didn't enter the LS with any real intent, and although my husband was always intricately involved from the beginning, from joining to reclaiming, we did evolve into very much a HW type of thing. Now with that being said, almost a year ago my husband began seeing other women. I would be lying if I said I didn't suffer some angst over it, and a bit of initial jealousy, but I also thought a great deal about how much he loves me and all hes done to allow me my sexual exploration and growth, and I didn't feel it was right not to reciprocate to him. After getting over some of my initial insecurities, I've grown to the point that it really turns me on to see him with another woman, and I find it quite beautiful. Just growth and evolution of the relationship I suppose.

Thanks for sharing your perspective!

You’ve known how I feel on the subject. I have no issue putting it out there or being the exception to the rule.

I'm glad you put it out there because a lot can be learned from your experience. I find so interesting how your feeling about it evolved, from begrudgingly allowing it out of a sense of fairness, tinged with jealousy, to embracing the beauty of it, as you describe it, tinged with eroticism - limerence certainly and even compersion. (Hopefully I'm not misunderstanding your description of it) The point is that it's been a growth process for you and not a priori eroticism.

[Angela Plays]

Maybe a slightly different perspective, and you can take a look at my story if your interested. We didn't enter the LS with any real intent, and although my husband was always intricately involved from the beginning, from joining to reclaiming, we did evolve into very much a HW type of thing. Now with that being said, almost a year ago my husband began seeing other women. I would be lying if I said I didn't suffer some angst over it, and a bit of initial jealousy, but I also thought a great deal about how much he loves me and all hes done to allow me my sexual exploration and growth, and I didn't feel it was right not to reciprocate to him. After getting over some of my initial insecurities, I've grown to the point that it really turns me on to see him with another woman, and I find it quite beautiful. Just growth and evolution of the relationship I suppose.

Thanks for sharing your perspective!

You’ve known how I feel on the subject. I have no issue putting it out there or being the exception to the rule.

I'm glad you put it out there because a lot can be learned from your experience. I find so interesting how your feeling about it evolved, from begrudgingly allowing it out of a sense of fairness, tinged with jealousy, to embracing the beauty of it, as you describe it, tinged with eroticism - limerence certainly and even compersion. (Hopefully I'm not misunderstanding your description of it) The point is that it's been a growth process for you and not a priori eroticism.

Thank you….I would take exception, and only a minor one at that, to one part in your comment. I did not “begrudgingly” allow it. I would phase it differently….”acquiesced with some trepidation” is a more accurate description. Everything else you stated is on point.

[Parsifal]

Thanks for sharing your perspective!

You’ve known how I feel on the subject. I have no issue putting it out there or being the exception to the rule.

I'm glad you put it out there because a lot can be learned from your experience. I find so interesting how your feeling about it evolved, from begrudgingly allowing it out of a sense of fairness, tinged with jealousy, to embracing the beauty of it, as you describe it, tinged with eroticism - limerence certainly and even compersion. (Hopefully I'm not misunderstanding your description of it) The point is that it's been a growth process for you and not a priori eroticism.

Thank you….I would take exception, and only a minor one at that, to one part in your comment. I did not “begrudgingly” allow it. I would phase it differently….”acquiesced with some trepidation” is a more accurate description. Everything else you stated is on point.

Thank you back. I find of interest how compersion for you was an acquired feeling through personal growth. (For me, it was something felt for years even in relation to women I was with before my current wife, but only with her was I able to develop it as a shared lifestyle). For you I take it, there was a source of trepidation you needed to clear out before you even noticed compersive feelings over your husband's extramaritality. Can you share the source of that trepidation? You call it jealousy. Was the trepidation that he would find other women preferable or love you less?

[Angela Plays]

You’ve known how I feel on the subject. I have no issue putting it out there or being the exception to the rule.

I'm glad you put it out there because a lot can be learned from your experience. I find so interesting how your feeling about it evolved, from begrudgingly allowing it out of a sense of fairness, tinged with jealousy, to embracing the beauty of it, as you describe it, tinged with eroticism - limerence certainly and even compersion. (Hopefully I'm not misunderstanding your description of it) The point is that it's been a growth process for you and not a priori eroticism.

Thank you….I would take exception, and only a minor one at that, to one part in your comment. I did not “begrudgingly” allow it. I would phase it differently….”acquiesced with some trepidation” is a more accurate description. Everything else you stated is on point.

Thank you back. I find of interest how compersion for you was an acquired feeling through personal growth. (For me, it was something felt for years even in relation to women I was with before my current wife, but only with her was I able to develop it as a shared lifestyle). For you I take it, there was a source of trepidation you needed to clear out before you even noticed compersive feelings over your husband's extramaritality. Can you share the source of that trepidation? You call it jealousy. Was the trepidation that he would find other women preferable or love you less?

The source…well, we had played with our friends in the beginning, and I didn’t feel threatened by that. However, the idea of my husband being intimate with a beautiful, and fit woman, 20+ years my junior was a different story. There was never any fear of him leaving me for someone like that, and I never felt like he wasn’t attracted to me anymore. It was just a situation that brought to the surface all the insecurities a woman my age has. I was somewhat envious of what she had…the attributes I once had but no longer possessed. It took me a bit to get past those thoughts and feelings. To his credit, Brent never made me feel “less.” and I also continued to enjoy my HW activities. If he had made me feel “less” or had wanted me to be sidelined, I probably wouldn’t have adapted to the new dynamic in our relationship in a positive manner.

[Parsifal]

Thanks, Angie. Such good and valuable insights!

[King_Mr]

I dated a girl a few years back who was desperate to watch me fuck and get sucked off by other women…god, it’s a shame things didn’t work out with her.

[dinoo]

In our fantasies, my wife is often a cuckquean.
Yes, they are fantasies, but they stayed fantasies that we want to experience.

I can recount one real happened FFM encounter.
On our third visit to 'our' club, my wife had sex with a man she had met on our previous visit.
They had some sex and kissed a lot, as foreplay.

There was an orgy within a meter of us and her lover seemed interested in it.
One of the women noticed this, crawled over to him and started giving him a serious blowjob.
I saw my wife, who had her lover in her arms, begin to caress him, eventually tongue-kissing him while he clearly enjoyed the blowjob. She alternately watched this woman too.

After completing our diary of the evening, including this experience, I said that I would have liked to be her lover.
'You can forget that,' she said. 'You are my husband, he was my lover.' Because of this, I liked being the woman he wanted me to be. Oh yes, it excited me to watch this woman give him a blowjob.”

In our fantasy story, her lover loved her being his cuckquean.
My wife loved it too, "for the same reason I mentioned before. I’m also aroused by watching other women please my lover. I like it too when he watches me with his friends, men and women. Actually, when you may only be present to take pictures and videos. I want to show you what it's like to be married to a woman who has sex with other men and women while you aren't allowed by my lover to participate. As you know very well, I wouldn't allow you neither. That is the base of our fantasy story I like so much, isn't it?”

[Husband7]

I have another (likely less popular) theory on this. This is a very male dominated space and most women probably wouldn't feel very welcome here. While I have come across many good men here, I've also come across users who I know would make women uncomfortable and unwelcome. Unfortunately, some hotwife content tends to delve into the territory of racism, misogyny, and some other really icky themes. If it bugs me and makes me question what I'm doing here, I can guarantee it bothers the women here as well.

Ultimately, this a kink community, so I think a lot gets overlooked by the members. My point is that I don't think this is a welcome space for women, so don't be surprised when women who like to share don't show up or stay here. They've probably found other spaces to talk with other women about it, or they don't talk about it with anyone.

[coastalkid]

I have another (likely less popular) theory on this. This is a very male dominated space and most women probably wouldn't feel very welcome here. While I have come across many good men here, I've also come across users who I know would make women uncomfortable and unwelcome. Unfortunately, some hotwife content tends to delve into the territory of racism, misogyny, and some other really icky themes. If it bugs me and makes me question what I'm doing here, I can guarantee it bothers the women here as well.

Ultimately, this a kink community, so I think a lot gets overlooked by the members. My point is that I don't think this is a welcome space for women, so don't be surprised when women who like to share don't show up or stay here. They've probably found other spaces to talk with other women about it, or they don't talk about it with anyone.

I agree! This place is a home for the fringe/extremists and it doesn't often dwell on the realism. You have to do a hell of a lot of sifting if you're looking for honest answers to honest questions. There are a handful of honest, well grounded, sincere people here and they aren't always easy to find. You can tell who they are by their posts and how they temper their responses with reality and open mindedness.

Some people's candles burn really bright but not for long! That doesn't do much for the people looking for ways to learn about having fun without destroying everything. When people instantly answer with absolute cheerleading, and complete disregard for long term implications it loses practical application. Worse still, it as you suggest runs off people that don't fit the fringe.