Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Post by anondesires » Mon Aug 11, 2025 12:04 am

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Sun Aug 10, 2025 7:23 pm
Welcome back, Anon. I hope life is good in your orbit, aside from what you write about here. I'll be curious to hear what your feelings were after last Sunday, I suspect you had a lot to process. It seems you came down pretty hard after your premature orgasm, and it seems like your GF handled the reconnecting period with you pretty well. I sense that the dynamic has changed a little bit among the three of you based on what you've relayed here. How did you feel about your GF being more open / blatant about your friend with you? I also get the sense that even though an aspect of the humiliation turns you on, maybe the way it went down specifically, wasn't such a turn-on for you. My sense from reading your account, was that the whole cuckold thing went down kind of like a poorly written sex story and that's not what pushes your buttons. It's important for everyone involved to make sure everyone in this complex kind of relationship gets what they need out of it, or it doesn't work. Another thought, I have to wonder if your GF hasn't since pondered how to circumvent the premature post-nut clarity situation again... have the two you discussed anything along those lines since last Sunday? I get the sense that being cuckolded turns you on, but you're not necessarily wanting to be a 100% willing participant? Not sure how that works out exactly for you, but just my observation.
The dynamic is definitely changing, my reluctance is fading away which scares me a lot. Instead of teasing my limits, guiding me into it and protecting my feelings it feels like she is encouraging me to embrace it and accept the harsher realities of it that she was protecting me from before. Like with the getting ready stuff, she's much more upfront about it. She's also much more honest about her enjoyment of it, making me well aware how much she enjoys the sex and how I can't compare. I think she doesn't want the guilt of pretending that it's just scratching an itch, she wants me to know that it does more for her than that but it also allows her to share with me how grateful she is for being able to do this.

Accidently cumming mid-session complicated my thoughts and feelings a lot. That part was traumatic and I felt a bit vulnerable/sensitive about the things I had said/done so those feelings got a bit intertwined. I think if I hadn't cum, I'd just feel a bit of shame about those things. You're right that them trying to involve me felt a bit awkward but it was also hot and a bit of a thrill, I guess I'm on the fence about it, I don't know if they'll get bored of it or if I will get used to it. I have to admit that asking him to cuck me, watching him do it and openly jerking off as he did pushed me over the edge way more than I expected so I wouldn't say it wasn't a turn on but I guess it feels more natural for me to sit back and watch it unfold and it be out of my control.

We haven't discussed how to circumvent the premature post-nut clarity situation. I assume you're hinting at chastity but I wouldn't want to go without the pleasure of stroking my dick.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Post by mr_slapdash » Mon Aug 11, 2025 2:33 am

anondesires wrote:
Mon Aug 11, 2025 12:04 am
We haven't discussed how to circumvent the premature post-nut clarity situation. I assume you're hinting at chastity but I wouldn't want to go without the pleasure of stroking my dick.
It's an entirely different kind of pleasure. It's hard to explain. It kind of rewires your brain a little. When I am caged and going down on my wife, I get just as much pleasure as I do when I'm stroking and going down on her. The pleasure just changes from 50/50 mental/physical to 90/10. It might be worth trying once, even if you're not caged or anything, to find some way to keep from touching yourself.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Post by octavian » Mon Aug 11, 2025 3:07 am

What a thrill it must have been when your GF alternated between sucking your friend's dick and kissing you.

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Post by chastity_boi » Mon Aug 11, 2025 6:57 am

hi Anon, glad you are back and once again, despite your misgivings, it appears that all three of you are still traversing things pretty well and have a healthy approach to the dynamic and respect for each other. One thing you could consider to keep you in the mood during the actual session and to prevent over indulgence & post nut clarity spoiling things, may be to hand a bit more control to your girlfriend. You're already begging your friend to cuck you, why not beg your girlfriend to grant permission to masturbate to her cucking you? Your friend is fucking your girl, you're begging him to do it, he knows you two have some dom/sub dynamics going on so submitting to your girl in front of him is no big deal. I mean he's got a foot fetish. That way your girl can tease you a bit, you can stave off any premature accidents, and it may even make you feel more connected to your girl while she's getting fucked in front of you. Also it has the added bonus of allowing you to jerk off while you watch. I'm not saying dismiss the possibility of a chastity cage - they can certainly add a whole new dimension to play - but they're not for everyone. Just a thought but I'm sure you and your girl will discuss what is right for you and gets you to a good place that works for you both.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Post by Tryagain » Mon Aug 11, 2025 8:02 am

Things seem to be going great for you. It is so exciting when you are there with you GF and everything is out in the open. You guys are true partners in your cuckold experience.

Think about how great it would be if you sucked their juices as he pulls his cock out from her pussy and you suck them off of his cock. She should tell him to grab your head and face fuck you! Right in front of her...phew.

The finale can be that he pulls out of her and cums all over your face! Wow!

But please…and this is my bias…don’t get caged. Enjoy the hard cock you have now - with them. If you ever get addicted to caging ,your cock will shrink. Do you really need to go that far in that direction? You have so much more to explore.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Post by elina » Mon Aug 11, 2025 8:53 am

Tryagain wrote:
Mon Aug 11, 2025 8:02 am

...... If you ever get addicted to caging ,your cock will shrink....
I am not going to argue with your opinions, you are free to have those just as the rest of us.

However I firmly believe that the statement quoted avove is wrong.
Both from personal experience and from input from others at this site shows that this is wrong.
After months and more in a cage, the dick will seem smaller when it is let out. However that change will quickly reverese itself once it is allowed to get stiff a few times.....

Besides, I don't think anybody here has argued for long term chastity for Anon, and if someone was I haven't seen anything in Anon's posts indicating that this is something he would contemplate agreeing to. What some has argued for is for him to experience what it is like to be locked up while watching.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Post by Cuckcuckgoose1 » Mon Aug 11, 2025 9:04 am

Tryagain wrote:
Mon Aug 11, 2025 8:02 am

Think about how great it would be if you sucked their juices as he pulls his cock out from her pussy and you suck them off of his cock. She should tell him to grab your head and face fuck you! Right in front of her...phew.

The finale can be that he pulls out of her and cums all over your face! Wow!
Dude...what a dick move. Have you not read the entire thread? If you had you would realize that Anon has struggled with this very scenario. And when he finally thinks it's in the past....you make your senseless comment. What a classless statement on your part.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Post by vicg » Mon Aug 11, 2025 11:38 am

anondesires wrote:
Sun Aug 10, 2025 4:01 pm
Annoyingly, I'm over a week behind again and can't remember too many specifics, I guess it is what it is, I can't change that now.
Don't worry about that, at least not for our sake. I'm sure I'm not alone in wanting to hear more, but the main point here is you having a place to work out how you're feeling and how to cope with it.

When you begged your friend to cuck you again, he pushed for you to make clear that he could fuck your girlfriend anytime he wants, within reason. Did they meet again sometime during the week? And did he come over yesterday?

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Post by venus-can99 » Mon Aug 11, 2025 11:44 am

Cuckcuckgoose1 wrote:
Mon Aug 11, 2025 9:04 am

Dude...what a dick move. Have you not read the entire thread? If you had you would realize that Anon has struggled with this very scenario. And when he finally thinks it's in the past....you make your senseless comment. What a classless statement on your part.
IIRC Annon indicated that his friend is NOT up for that either - it is just a fantasy of his (friend's)

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Post by anondesires » Mon Aug 11, 2025 3:33 pm

Wednesday lunch time he messaged me:

Him: Any ideas where I might find some good pussy tonight?😉
Me: You already have her number if that's what you're getting at?
Him: Ah c'mon, play along...
Me: So you want first dibs on the pussy I'm getting tonight?
Him: You mean you want second dibs...🤣
Me: You don't need to remind me of it every other day...😒
Him: It's too much fun...
Him: Ask her if she wants to be my whore for the night, see what she says, you can tell her I put you up to it after if you want
Me: Can't you ask her yourself?
Him: It's more fun this way
Me: If you say so
Him: If this had happened the other way around, I would be so grateful to you for giving my girlfriend the dick she needs, the dick I couldn't give her. I would offer her to you to use as you pleased and I would wait for her at home, stroking my little dick knowing she'd be getting fucked like she deserves.
Me: Good one... how long have you been thinking that up?🙄
Him: Just now, straight from the heart😬

--- (Parallel conversation)

Me: Would you like to go to [my friend's] and be his whore for the night?
Her: Is this a trick question?🤔
Me: No, genuine offer
Her: As in stay the night?

---

Me: When you asked if she wants to be your whore for the night, did you mean stay the night?
Him: No, but we can do that too if you both want to?
Me: Ok good, no, just checking what you meant because she asked

---

Me: Would you do that?
Her: I don't know, surely you wouldn't want me to?
Me: No, I meant just sex
Her: Yeah, I'm up for it
Me: He asked me to ask you, apparently it's fun for him that way🙄
Her: He asked if I'd stay the night?
Me: No, only you thought it meant that😂

---

Me: She said she's up for it
Him: Looking forward to it, she going home first to get changed? (To dress like a whore for me?)
Me: Is that what you want? (You're really milking this now)
Him: Hell yeah
Me: I'm sure she won't mind
Him: What I was saying before... I know you get your urges and stuff, I'm just saying that I understand, I'm here for you and happy to help you out😉
Him: When you're eating creamy pussy later, I want you to know that I did it for you🤣
Me: Thanks, that's very considerate of you (you're sick!🤣)


This is the kind of shit he's been pedalling for years except now there's truth to it and it turns me on :|

The staying the night thing caught me off guard. I knew she would pick up on the fact that I asked if she would but I suddenly needed to know. When I asked, my heart was thumping, hoping she would say no but part of me hoping she would say yes. The answer she gave seemed like a cautious yes and turned me on but I don't understand why. It's not surprising that he'd be up for it but she and I have no interest in that happening.

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Post by monraccoon » Mon Aug 11, 2025 3:49 pm

i have a good friend, like a brother, whose main way of communicating with me has always been to creatively call me gay or feminine… that sort of thing. it’s been our running gag for as long as i can remember. funny thing is, i’m trans and have always been trans. i always figured he was picking up on that, like gaydar. when i came out to him i figured his reaction would be that he’d always known. he was shocked. i was shocked that he was shocked.
just seems similar to how your friendship is playing out.
like with you both, i think it has altered the flavor of his gibes.

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Post by KevKevKev » Mon Aug 11, 2025 8:02 pm

How are you feeling about her spending the night? Do you have any concerns about them catching feelings for each other?

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Post by parheliam » Tue Aug 12, 2025 12:42 am

anondesires wrote:
Mon Aug 11, 2025 3:33 pm


The staying the night thing caught me off guard. I knew she would pick up on the fact that I asked if she would but I suddenly needed to know. When I asked, my heart was thumping, hoping she would say no but part of me hoping she would say yes. The answer she gave seemed like a cautious yes and turned me on but I don't understand why. It's not surprising that he'd be up for it but she and I have no interest in that happening.
Remember a few weeks ago when i said yo you things will develop in a matter you will not like? Spent the night, go away on weekends without you etc. Well... you're getting there.

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Post by anondesires » Wed Aug 13, 2025 3:05 pm

When I got home, my girlfriend was in the shower. She came out having shaved and then paraded around naked except for her hair towel. She presented herself to me, told me she would've been mine for the night if I hadn't offered her to my friend. I always feel torn when she does this because on one hand I feel like I've missed out on sex but on the other hand I know that realistically her cucking me will be more erotic.

She had laid a selection of dresses on the bed for me to choose from while she dried her hair. I debated between a couple that I really liked on her versus one that just oozed slut. The thought of sending her out in something slutty to get fucked felt wrong but turned me on. I knew he had specifically asked for slutty and so I went with that one. She had her tallest heels out ready and she went overboard on the sparkly makeup.

Every other time she had gone to his, she had gone straight from work or somewhere else, I had never seen her off. Seeing her looking so sexy and knowing it was all for him was difficult but a turn on. It didn't feel right for her to be going out alone looking like that, it felt like I should drive her there or something but I didn't. We kissed and embraced, it felt a bit sad but once she left I had visions of what was going to happen. I sat on the sofa, took my dick out and stroked to the thoughts of her getting fucked. Every so often I would realise what a cuck I had become and that would just turn me on more. I thought about the conversation I had with him earlier, I took out my phone and read it back, it turned me on how much he enjoys cucking me. I fixated on where he said "If this had happened the other way around, I would be so grateful to you for giving my girlfriend the dick she needs, the dick I couldn't give her. I would offer her to you to use as you pleased and I would wait for her at home, stroking my little dick knowing she'd be getting fucked like she deserves." and stroked my dick thinking about how accurate it was, how I was the cuck he had always joked about.

I quoted/replied to that 1 message and wrote "that's basically how it is... use her as you please...". I hovered over the send button for a good while, debating whether to send it, stroking to how cucked it made me feel to say it to him. I sent it and then edged myself. He marked it as 🔥. A few minutes later he sent a photo of her sucking his dick with the caption "she wasted no time". He sent 3 video clips of him fucking her in different positions about 10-20 minutes apart. He then sent a photo of her creampied pussy with the caption "enjoy!". It seemed like an eternity waiting for her to come home.

She walked in looking messier than when she left but still hot. She told me he had given her a present to give to me. I still struggle with the idea of it being his cum. As she walked towards me, I thought about how I didn't want to do it but when she presents her perfect pussy to me and confidently insists that I should go down on her, I can't help myself. She climbed onto the sofa, pussy in front of my face, tilted my head back and pushed herself onto my mouth. I stop thinking about his cum and think about her pussy instead. I feel so horny and submissive that it feels natural. She loves it too, she cums quicker than if I was just going down on her normally. She then squatted down on my dick which after a couple of hours of edging didn't take much persuading to release my load into her in another demon exorcising orgasmic experience. I always wish I could've enjoyed it for longer but it's also nice to be able to unload like that without feeling like she went unsatisfied.

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Post by mfmfantasy50 » Wed Aug 13, 2025 6:53 pm

Whew!!! Is it HOT in HERE???

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Post by venus-can99 » Wed Aug 13, 2025 8:27 pm

Wow Annon what a hot update 🔥! Next time you may want to drive her there and wait in nearby pub to go pick her up when summoned

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Post by elina » Wed Aug 13, 2025 11:10 pm

Thanks for the update Anon,

So good to see how you are more and more accepting your role as a cuck to your wonderful Girlfriend and gradually starting to enjoy it fully and accept that you enjoy it.

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Post by parheliam » Thu Aug 14, 2025 1:03 am

So Anon, when are you going to tell your girl about this thread?

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Post by anondesires » Thu Aug 14, 2025 3:45 am

venus-can99 wrote:
Wed Aug 13, 2025 8:27 pm
what a hot update 🔥!
mfmfantasy50 wrote:
Wed Aug 13, 2025 6:53 pm
Whew!!! Is it HOT in HERE???
To write about, it doesn't seem dissimilar to previous times, we've settled into a bit of a routine with it. I'm just describing the differences and where my head is at, I know it's interesting for me to look back on at least.
elina wrote:
Wed Aug 13, 2025 11:10 pm
So good to see how you are more and more accepting your role as a cuck
I hate that I like these things and do this to myself. I felt such shame afterwards for sending that message, the problem is I knew I would but it turned me on in the moment. I said above that each time doesn't feel dissimilar from the last but these little steps are steps that I didn't think I'd do, didn't think I'd want. When I agreed to let her fuck other guys, I figured I could maybe watch or hear about it and get a turn on out of it. I figured the interaction would be just between me and her, before and after. I thought I would maybe learn to accept and tolerate it, not be the one pushing for it or humiliating myself.

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Post by elina » Thu Aug 14, 2025 4:06 am

anondesires wrote:
Thu Aug 14, 2025 3:45 am
elina wrote:
Wed Aug 13, 2025 11:10 pm
So good to see how you are more and more accepting your role as a cuck
I hate that I like these things and do this to myself. I felt such shame afterwards for sending that message, the problem is I knew I would but it turned me on in the moment. I said above that each time doesn't feel dissimilar from the last but these little steps are steps that I didn't think I'd do, didn't think I'd want. When I agreed to let her fuck other guys, I figured I could maybe watch or hear about it and get a turn on out of it. I figured the interaction would be just between me and her, before and after. I thought I would maybe learn to accept and tolerate it, not be the one pushing for it or humiliating myself.
Thanks for your response Anon.

Those of us who have followed this thread from the beginning recognize how you have struggled with this. I think it is quite natural for someone who tried to suppress these feelings, tried to convince himself that "This is not what I am".

It took me 25 years from I started to fantasize about being dominated and cucked by the Lady I love untill I had the courage to confess to my Wife. Her reaction when I told Her I wanted Her to dominate me was "This is not who I am".

As opposed to your Girlfriend who quickly saw the benefits to Herself from cucking you, my Wife has still not gotten to the point of actually doing it (I believe ;) ); even if there has been times when She has kept me worshipping Her pussy and laugh and tease me when I told Her She was entitled to find a Lover whereas I would forever stay faithfull to Her. (In our case partly because we had two small children at the time and She did not want to dominate and cuck me while they were small. I still hope for it.

What I truly appreciate in your posts is how you are honestly describing your fantasies and your reluctance to try these out. As I have said in many earlier posts, there is nothing wrong with (wanting to be or) being a cuckold. To me, the essence of accepting a life as a cuckold is a true desire to see your beloved GF /Wife letting Herself go and be fully sexually satisfied by another male. The desire to ensure that your GF is now sexually satisfied is clearly something She truly appreciates and loves your for. The fact that She is now not only cucking you, but making you ask for it as well, and demonstrating how She expects you to clean Her pussy afterwards shows how the two of you have grown.

I also think that what you are experiencing now is that what was some months ago insurmountable obstacles, is now humiliating but not just acceptable actions, but something you crave. Then gradually, there are new insurmountable actions which you fantasize about but cannot get yourself to do. I think this is a natural process for many of us and as we experience these once fantasize-but-never-to-be-done activities, we gradually accept them and start fantasizing about other actions. Yes, I understand that this is scary for you, maybe because deep down you know that there are still other fantsies you have had which you have not experienced and which are still not something you can see yourself doing?

Please keep posting and progress at your own pace. I reiterate that I believe you are incredibly lucky to have found a wonderful Girlfriend who will help you navigate this in what is an acceptable way for you.

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Post by venus-can99 » Thu Aug 14, 2025 6:17 am

As elina said, the readers appreciate descriptions of your feelings before, during and after her interactions with your friend. A true insight into cuckold mindset and the struggle of acceptance of deviation from "traditional/normal" behaviour expected by society

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Post by wannabecUKold » Thu Aug 14, 2025 6:24 am

Elina’s remarks are well made.

I had worried that your girl was gone for the night. I think that should be resisted since it will almost certainly lead to deeper feelings between them. Keep the arrangement purely sexual. Your friend seems to understand that, and he sent her back.

The image of you and her kneeling in front of the friend’s cock that she was sucking and then she was kissing you sits in my head. I hope you liked that closeness to it.

Your friend clearly likes you and would probably like more interaction with you. Maybe you can make a point of showing him, close up to his gaze, how erect he makes you. He would enjoy looking at your pretty cock. Let him do what he wants.

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Post by anondesires » Thu Aug 14, 2025 7:34 am

wannabecUKold wrote:
Thu Aug 14, 2025 6:24 am
Keep the arrangement purely sexual. Your friend seems to understand that, and he sent her back.
We all seem in agreement about that
wannabecUKold wrote:
Thu Aug 14, 2025 6:24 am
The image of you and her kneeling in front of the friend’s cock that she was sucking and then she was kissing you sits in my head. I hope you liked that closeness to it.
It obviously wasn't the first time I've been up close and doing that, it's just that the other times I had a blindfold on. Actually watching up close was something else. His cock is heavy duty, it looks out of proportion to his body, watching her suck it is strangely satisfying. I have to kind of pinch myself and realise that she's my girlfriend and she's sucking my friend's cock like a pornstar. My thoughts sort of oscillate between "oh shit, this is hot" and "oh shit, this is wrong, I shouldn't like this".

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Re: Recently started getting fantasies. How to cope with it?

Post by King_Mr » Thu Aug 14, 2025 10:53 am

Wow, you’ve really matured into the role! (If that’s an Ok way of putting it). How are you finding things with your friend? Are you still able to be friends outwith the cuckold dynamic?

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Post by anondesires » Fri Aug 15, 2025 2:39 am

King_Mr wrote:
Thu Aug 14, 2025 10:53 am
How are you finding things with your friend? Are you still able to be friends outwith the cuckold dynamic?
I think so. It's hard to say because most of the time I see or speak to him, it's for this reason. After sex on Sundays things seem to go back to normal. To me it feels similar to a fwb I once had. We would be friends as normal but if either of us were horny, we'd have a moment of madness and then act like it didn't happen after. With that fwb, I guess the roles were a reverse of this. She would never initiate, I would just sense she was up for it and then test the water.

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