Strapon relationship

[namitha157]

My bf and I have not had any sex before.
I have had anal from other men, given some blowjobs and handjobs.
He doea not know about my other bfs and side fun.

I don't want to give anything up to my bf. Not even nudity, Ive been pretty strong with this position in our relationship and want to keep this.

I got an idea from someone to introduce sex into our relationship, but with me having the penis. The idea would be to make this a kind of long term way we have sex. Until we want to have kids or something.

Anyone done this before?
Or and ideas about it?

[elina]

Well,

If you want to truly take charge in your relationship, pegging your BF while not even allowing him to watch you in the nude clearly demonstrates the roles in the relationsship.

Dominant Females in the more intense FLR relationsships may elect to cuckold their husbands, keeping the husband chaste denied and pegging him will for sure ensure that the husband understands his place. If you elect to start pegging your boyfriend before you marry or commit, he will for user understand what he is gettin into.

Sincerely
elina

[Kycouple]

I agree lock up his cock. Then start using a strap on.

[surry]

What you need to do is train your BF on what type of relationship you want. Reads like he will submit to you. Read Female-Led Relationship articles or get a book. Both of you read it together. Have your BF jerk off to what you want to do. This will cement in his mind that he wants to be fucked by you.
If done correctly, he will beg you to watch you with another man, even if he has never had sex with you. Another benefit is that he will eat your pussy and not expect to cum. Lock him up too.

[namitha157]

Thanks for this.
He has never seen me nude before beyond panties.
And he is not allowed to touch me down there either.

Am I taking it to the extreme with this.
I was considering no sex unless it is to have babies.

I just have a feeling he will be ok with this as long as he doesn't find out about the other guys.

I've had anal before and enjoy it.
It must be good for guys to recieve anal too. That's why there are a lot of guys doing it right?

Well,

If you want to truly take charge in your relationship, pegging your BF while not even allowing him to watch you in the nude clearly demonstrates the roles in the relationsship.

Dominant Females in the more intense FLR relationsships may elect to cuckold their husbands, keeping the husband chaste denied and pegging him will for sure ensure that the husband understands his place. If you elect to start pegging your boyfriend before you marry or commit, he will for user understand what he is gettin into.

Sincerely
elina

[Kycouple]

The longer he is locked in a cage the more he will like being fucked in the ass. Sounds like to me he will make the perfect Chasity cuck for you.

[surry]

Once you control a man's orgasms, he is yours 100 percent. My wife used to complain that I was nice when I had blue balls. This is true. Once you release your cum, your body changes. Having blue balls will make a man want to please there wife. Empty balls not so much.

[newtonmenlo]

My bf and I have not had any sex before.
I have had anal from other men, given some blowjobs and handjobs.
He doea not know about my other bfs and side fun.

I don't want to give anything up to my bf. Not even nudity, Ive been pretty strong with this position in our relationship and want to keep this.

I got an idea from someone to introduce sex into our relationship, but with me having the penis. The idea would be to make this a kind of long term way we have sex. Until we want to have kids or something.

Anyone done this before?
Or and ideas about it?

You need to read up on FLR lifestyles and come to a decision on what you want. There are many ways you can continue but I strongly suggest that you get your bf on board by having some conversations about your desires and see if he's willing to live with your decisions. He could possibly be exactly what you need, or he may say no. It may take multiple discussions and many questions from him before you arrive at your desired conclusion.
If he's not the one to do this then I suggest you find another bf who would be willing to go along.
You are obviously a strong, dominant type. There will be men that would love to serve you and submit to your desires.

[submissivedanny]

Yes you need to take control. When I first got into the FLR I bought books and found articles on line and gave it to my GF. After some time she thought a FLR would be a good idea. The day I proposed to her she locked up my cock in a chastity cage and told me I will always be locked up. She also told my my cock would never see her pussy mainly because I have suck a little cock. She also told me when we get married I will follow her rules and I will be assigned chores that have to be done on a certain day. Breaking any of her rules would earn me a spanking.

It's been over 15 years now and we have a great relationship. She gets her sex from her boyfriend. I get to pleasure her with oral when ever she wants it. FLR has been good for us and I wouldn't have it any other way,

[namitha157]

What you need to do is train your BF on what type of relationship you want. Reads like he will submit to you. Read Female-Led Relationship articles or get a book. Both of you read it together. Have your BF jerk off to what you want to do. This will cement in his mind that he wants to be fucked by you.
If done correctly, he will beg you to watch you with another man, even if he has never had sex with you. Another benefit is that he will eat your pussy and not expect to cum. Lock him up too.

We watched strapon porn together last night.
I've been having him jerk off wearing a condom lately.

He said it really turned him on.

[elina]

What you need to do is train your BF on what type of relationship you want. Reads like he will submit to you. Read Female-Led Relationship articles or get a book. Both of you read it together. Have your BF jerk off to what you want to do. This will cement in his mind that he wants to be fucked by you.
If done correctly, he will beg you to watch you with another man, even if he has never had sex with you. Another benefit is that he will eat your pussy and not expect to cum. Lock him up too.

We watched strapon porn together last night.
I've been having him jerk off wearing a condom lately.

He said it really turned him on.

Dear Namitha,

I would suggest you buy the two first books by Elise Sutton; "Female Supremacy" and the "Femdom Experience".
I believe these are still available on Amazon.
Read them chapter by chapter with your boyfriend and discuss with him what the two of you can learn from these topics.

From what you are describing, I am sure he will come out as a submissive who only wants to live to please you,
And You will understand how you can turn him into your loving willing servant...

Sincerely
elina

[namitha157]

Thank you so much for this.
I will definitely look into it.

What you need to do is train your BF on what type of relationship you want. Reads like he will submit to you. Read Female-Led Relationship articles or get a book. Both of you read it together. Have your BF jerk off to what you want to do. This will cement in his mind that he wants to be fucked by you.
If done correctly, he will beg you to watch you with another man, even if he has never had sex with you. Another benefit is that he will eat your pussy and not expect to cum. Lock him up too.

We watched strapon porn together last night.
I've been having him jerk off wearing a condom lately.

He said it really turned him on.

Dear Namitha,

I would suggest you buy the two first books by Elise Sutton; "Female Supremacy" and the "Femdom Experience".
I believe these are still available on Amazon.
Read them chapter by chapter with your boyfriend and discuss with him what the two of you can learn from these topics.

From what you are describing, I am sure he will come out as a submissive who only wants to live to please you,
And You will understand how you can turn him into your loving willing servant...

Sincerely
elina

[SubSnuggler]

Living in a femdom marriage is hard, but it is rewarding. Like all relationships, you get what you put into it. But if you are a truly submissive male, and open to living in a wife led marriage, it's totally worth it. Finding that one woman who loves you but still dominates the fuck out of you is like finding a precious diamond. A sub needs to be loved in order to let go totally without fear of being abused.

It's not about you anymore. And your sex life is controlled and may not be what you choose for yourself. But your sex life as a couple... could be epic.

[namitha157]

Reading more into FLR.
It sounds so good.
Just need to work out how to start it.
I dont think my bf will mind this.

[ShyBiGuy954]

It must be good for guys to recieve anal too. That's why there are a lot of guys doing it right?

Damn, I wish you were in SoFla, I'd love to try Strap-on, it's on my bucket list, lol.

[namitha157]

This is so exciting... I watched some shemale porn with my bf and asked him how he'd feel about getting a penis in his ass.
He said it sounded exciting. I could see he was pulling his little penis faster. I told him, maybe instead of him putting his penis inside me (we have not had sex), I should be the one to be putting a penis in him. He cum in the condom straight away. I told him we should do it soon. He just smiled and said ok. Best part. I got him to take the condom off and swallow the cum. (I only gave him a kiss on the cheek goodbye.
I can't wait to get started with this.

[elina]

Dear Namitha

Sounds like your boyfriend is truly submissive and just waiting for you to take control of him....
Have you asked him straight out if he thinks and FLR is the best solution for the two of you?

Sincerely
elina

[MartasBoy]

This is so exciting... I watched some shemale porn with my bf and asked him how he'd feel about getting a penis in his ass.
He said it sounded exciting. I could see he was pulling his little penis faster. I told him, maybe instead of him putting his penis inside me (we have not had sex), I should be the one to be putting a penis in him. He cum in the condom straight away. I told him we should do it soon. He just smiled and said ok. Best part. I got him to take the condom off and swallow the cum. (I only gave him a kiss on the cheek goodbye.
I can't wait to get started with this.

You are off to a perfect start. I see people on here recommending that you read books and research things on the internet. You can do that, if you like, but you have started off with the perfect basic female led relationship. You can continue just as you have been doing. You are doing things the way that feels most natural and comfortable to you. That is really all you need to do.

When you set limits to your relationship and sex life, you were already establishing a female led relationship. Your boyfriend seems to be accepting all expectations that you set for your relationship. It sounds like he has been cooperative, and hasn't tried to convince you to go against the boundaries you have set. He sounds like he is very accepting of a female dominant relationship.

You taking control of sex with him is perfect. He will like it. Anal for us men, stimulates the prostate gland that is inside that area. It is one of our most important sex organs. He has already shown that he is turned on by the idea. He will most certainly like you doing that to him.

You don't have to read a lot of books and things. You don't have to listen to all the things that we are saying on here. You have already started off on a very natural path to take control of your relationship. You already have a female dominant relationship started. All you need to do now, is just continue following your instincts, and your own desires.

There are things you can do to more fully get your needs met, and he will like it as well. You can use the strap-on on him, as a reward for him completing whatever chore you assign him to do.

Or, you can use your strap-on sessions to gain greater compliance and obedience from him. It is a very vulnerable and pleasurable position for us, when we are bent over the edge of the bed with our wife or girlfriend taking us from behind. It is the perfect time for you to tell him of your list of expectations for him. When he is face down with you penetrating him from behind, he will agree to just about anything you demand of him.

Teasing is a very effective motivator for us. You can start one of your sessions while you tell him of some chores you want him to do. Do it just long enough to explain your expectations, and get him aroused. Then pull out suddenly and tell him that this is enough for now, and that you will do some more later, when he finishes the chores you have assigned him. He will most likely run with great excitement, to do whatever it is that you have asked of him, in anticipation for your next session with him.

Cirrila sex and novelty stores are located all around the country, and have an excellent selection of strap-on devices. That is where we found a very nice one, that is regularly used on me.

I know most of us on here will look forward to hearing about how your experience with how your plan progresses.

And here is a side note to consider, when it comes time to have children. If you want to maintain your restriction on him having intercourse with you, there are many women who have successfully inseminated themselves artificially. There are women who have had the man ejaculate his sperm into a cup, drawn it up with a turkey baster, inserted it inside of them, propped their legs and hips up on a pillow, and emptied the contents of the turkey baster in their vaginal canal, directly onto their cervix.
If you are young and fertile, this could be a very successful way for you to become pregnant without ever having to allow him to put his penis inside of you.
I'd be curious to know what your decision is about something like this.

[namitha157]

The injection idea is interesting.
I don't particularly want to have sex with him as it would give him access to me.
By that stage I should be having sex with other men hopefully, and wouldn't really need his sperm- but the option to do this to 'show' is good as well.
(I kind of have a fantasy of getting pregnant by another man)

This is so exciting... I watched some shemale porn with my bf and asked him how he'd feel about getting a penis in his ass.
He said it sounded exciting. I could see he was pulling his little penis faster. I told him, maybe instead of him putting his penis inside me (we have not had sex), I should be the one to be putting a penis in him. He cum in the condom straight away. I told him we should do it soon. He just smiled and said ok. Best part. I got him to take the condom off and swallow the cum. (I only gave him a kiss on the cheek goodbye.
I can't wait to get started with this.

You are off to a perfect start. I see people on here recommending that you read books and research things on the internet. You can do that, if you like, but you have started off with the perfect basic female led relationship. You can continue just as you have been doing. You are doing things the way that feels most natural and comfortable to you. That is really all you need to do.

When you set limits to your relationship and sex life, you were already establishing a female led relationship. Your husband seems to be accepting all expectations that you set for your relationship. It sounds like he has been cooperative, and hasn't tried to convince you to go against the boundary you have set. He sounds like he is very accepting of a female dominant relationship.

You taking control of sex with him is perfect. He will like it. Anal for us men, stimulates the prostate gland that is inside that area. It is one of our most important sex organs. He has already shown that he is turned on by the idea. He will most certainly like you doing that to him.

You don't have to read a lot of books and things. You don't have to listen to all the things that we are saying on here. You have already started off on a very natural path to take in control of your relationship. You already have a female dominant relationship started. All you need to do now, is just continue following your instincts, and your own desires.

There are things you can do two more fully get your needs met, and he will like it as well. You can use the strap-on on him, as a reward for him completing whatever chore if you assign him to do.

Or, you can use your strap-on sessions to gain greater compliance and obedience from him. It is a very vulnerable and pleasurable position for us, when we are bent over the edge of the bed with our wife taking us from behind. It is the perfect time for you to tell him of your list of expectations for him. When he is face down with you penetrating him from behind, he will agree to just about anything you demand of him.

Teasing is a very effective motivator for us. You can start one of your sessions while you tell him of some chores you want him to do. Do it just long enough to explain your expectations, and get him aroused. Then pull out suddenly and tell him that this is enough for now, and that you will do some more later, when he finishes the chores you have assigned him. He will most likely run with great excitement, to do whatever it is that you have asked of him, in anticipation for your next session with him.

Cirrila sex and novelty stores are located all around the country, and have an excellent selection of strap-on devices. That is where we found a very nice one, that is regularly used on me.

I know most of us on here will look forward to hearing about how your experience with your plan progresses.

And here is a side note to consider. If you want to maintain your restriction on him having intercourse with you, there are many women who have successfully inseminated themselves artificially. There are women who have had the man ejaculate his sperm into a cup, drawn it up with a turkey baster, inserted it inside of them, propped their legs and hips up on a pillow, and emptied the contents of the turkey baster in there vaginal canal, directly on to their cervix.
If you are young and fertile, this could be a very successful way for you to become pregnant without ever having to allow him to put his penis inside of you.
I'd be curious to know what your decision is about something like this.

[namitha157]

Dear Namitha

Sounds like your boyfriend is truly submissive and just waiting for you to take control of him....
Have you asked him straight out if he thinks and FLR is the best solution for the two of you?

Sincerely
elina

So far he has been pretty good with the abstinence and respecting my wishes not to be touched.
But still gives me the love and attention I need.

Would it be cruel of me to deny him touching me or seeing me indefinitely like this, while allowing others to access me?
I'm in two minds about this part- but I kind of like how it is at the moment.

We had a fairly long chat about the strapon stuff.
He said he wants to share some form of sexuality with me and is ok with this if I am comfortable with it.

He has also been curious of what it would feel like to have sex with a penis inside him- but isn't gay to do it with a real penis.
This kind of satisfies that curiosity.

[sconesy73]

Would it be cruel of me to deny him touching me or seeing me indefinitely like this, while allowing others to access me?
I'm in two minds about this part- but I kind of like how it is at the moment.

[/quote]

That's how my relationship is and it works for us. We have separate bedrooms so I don't get to see her naked, her pussy is now exclusive for her bull, I'd get punished if I touched her inappropriately. On rare occasions she allows me to lick her ass and even more rarely, her pussy.

Maybe that's cruel but it's how I like it

[namitha157]

Would it be cruel of me to deny him touching me or seeing me indefinitely like this, while allowing others to access me?
I'm in two minds about this part- but I kind of like how it is at the moment.

That's how my relationship is and it works for us. We have separate bedrooms so I don't get to see her naked, her pussy is now exclusive for her bull, I'd get punished if I touched her inappropriately. On rare occasions she allows me to lick her ass and even more rarely, her pussy.

Maybe that's cruel but it's how I like it
[/quote]

He has never been allowed to touch or see past my panties.
I want to maintain that indefinitely. Its for other men. Not for him.

[namitha157]

Would it be cruel of me to deny him touching me or seeing me indefinitely like this, while allowing others to access me?
I'm in two minds about this part- but I kind of like how it is at the moment.

That's how my relationship is and it works for us. We have separate bedrooms so I don't get to see her naked, her pussy is now exclusive for her bull, I'd get punished if I touched her inappropriately. On rare occasions she allows me to lick her ass and even more rarely, her pussy.

Maybe that's cruel but it's how I like it
[/quote]

He has never been allowed to touch or see past my panties.
I want to maintain that indefinitely. Its for other men. Not for him.

[sconesy73]

He has never been allowed to touch or see past my panties.
I want to maintain that indefinitely. Its for other men. Not for him.

I completely understand that, and you can both make work then I think you should. Everyone's relationship is completely different, the way everyone participates in this lifestyle is completely different. There's no right or wrong way, there's your way.

And it isn't gay if he interacts with another cock. Not the way I see it anyway

[MartasBoy]

Would it be cruel of me to deny him touching me or seeing me indefinitely like this, while allowing others to access me?
I'm in two minds about this part- but I kind of like how it is at the moment.

That's how my relationship is and it works for us. We have separate bedrooms so I don't get to see her naked, her pussy is now exclusive for her bull, I'd get punished if I touched her inappropriately. On rare occasions she allows me to lick her ass and even more rarely, her pussy.

Maybe that's cruel but it's how I like it

He has never been allowed to touch or see past my panties.
I want to maintain that indefinitely. Its for other men. Not for him.
[/quote]
That seems like something good that works for you both. That is wonderful that you found a way to work things out. I imagine it drives him wild with frustration, the way you and I am, and seek your pleasure with other men.