I can totally empathize with your plight; I love pics and video, although I've never made a big thing of it. When I felt like my hotwife wasn't sharing as much as I wanted, I just let her know that it's important to me, but that I wasn't going to ask any more. Since then the pics have been ... a bit infrequent, but she does make that extra effort sometimes, and I very much appreciate it, and let her know that.
Think about the alternative: you reach an impasse over pics/video, and maybe you give her an ultimatum that it's pics or else it doesn't work for you. So then, let's say she quits seeing other men. Are you happier?
My hotwife took a break for about a year, and I can tell you that missing hotwifing is nearly as tough as being a wannabe. When she started again, I felt much more relaxed about everything. As long as she's having fun dating guys, I'm pretty much happy. Everything else is icing.
10yrs and I Need advice
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Greg_N_Shelley
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Re: 10yrs and I Need advice
Everyone has their own dynamics. I guess for many posting here it's all about the wife's pleasure and the husband's needs are irrelevant. If that works for some, great. We had a different philosophy. It was always about the “two of us plus one for fun.” Even if I wasn’t a present participant, I was always included and Shelley was as attentive to my pleasure as I was to hers.
Thinking about the OP's situation, I know I would have felt very disappointed if Shelley played alone and all I got was a verbal summary of events. Maybe once or twice, no big deal. But if that was a persistent dynamic, I would have played the "stop card" and suggested she find a new playmate.
The few times Shelley played without me present, I sent her along with a video camera that she set up on a dresser when she arrived. By the time playtime began, they both had forgotten there was even a camera in the room. Her regular FB wasn’t camera shy so he had no performance issues. Quite the opposite, he was a bit of an exhibitionist and enjoyed being watched with her.
Maybe propose something similar. One or two GoPro type cameras is perfect for this type of thing. Very unobtrusive and no one needs to pause the fun to take pictures.
Thinking about the OP's situation, I know I would have felt very disappointed if Shelley played alone and all I got was a verbal summary of events. Maybe once or twice, no big deal. But if that was a persistent dynamic, I would have played the "stop card" and suggested she find a new playmate.
The few times Shelley played without me present, I sent her along with a video camera that she set up on a dresser when she arrived. By the time playtime began, they both had forgotten there was even a camera in the room. Her regular FB wasn’t camera shy so he had no performance issues. Quite the opposite, he was a bit of an exhibitionist and enjoyed being watched with her.
Maybe propose something similar. One or two GoPro type cameras is perfect for this type of thing. Very unobtrusive and no one needs to pause the fun to take pictures.
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Re: 10yrs and I Need advice
I have never understood how taking pictures and videos taken by the couple during the act were all that good anyway. And what a true bother it is for those taking them.
And BTW, her guys are all rock hard and would be able to do anything - like change a car tire :-) - while they were in the middle of fucking her.
Finds her another guy and lead her to him. And keep begging to be there during the act for once.
And BTW, her guys are all rock hard and would be able to do anything - like change a car tire :-) - while they were in the middle of fucking her.
Finds her another guy and lead her to him. And keep begging to be there during the act for once.